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6/2/09 11:02 P

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Very, Very True I never thought of it that way. Thank you for sharing.

Gerri

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When I said, “My foot is slipping,” your love, O Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul. The Lord has become my fortress, and my God the rock in whom I take refuge. Psalms 94:18-19, 22
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6/2/09 9:06 P

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Someone shared an acronym for FEAR
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real

Remember, the devil is a conterfeit and a liar!

~Tracy~

Our body is like armor, our soul like the warrior. Take care of both, and you will be ready for what comes. ~Amma St. Syncletice


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6/1/09 6:59 P

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It's almost exactly what was discuss last Saturday night. You brought out a good point. "FEAR" The seen to be a commom problem... being afraid to move ahead to make the effort.

Gerri

The Lord Is My Strength

When I said, “My foot is slipping,” your love, O Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul. The Lord has become my fortress, and my God the rock in whom I take refuge. Psalms 94:18-19, 22
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6/1/09 6:23 P

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Geri, I love and look forward to reading your threads. Thank you for sharing. I thought about the three things, the person, effect, and my part. I wrote them down. Since I moved to Ohio I have had such a hard time making friends. I have always had so many friends throughout my life. I really struggled with this for the past 11 years. I have been hurt by women in ways that I didn't think were possible. I have been rejected and hurt by women more than when I dated, although I can't really say I experienced much rejection from men. (I feel bad saying that but it is true) Many times, like at least 20 times, I told my husband that I wasn't going to try to make friends, 'cause I kept getting hurt really badly. I got to the point where I started to say, God doesn't want me to have friends. But, I realised that satan has a way of using our hurt from people to try to stop God's blessings in our lives. Thank God I realised this. I have made one of the best friends in my life, Griff. We have become very close and talk on the phone. She writes Jesus first in the strength through Jesus forum, for this team. Anyway, I am getting away from my point, I think. I know this is getting long but I would like to share, maybe it will help someone someday. If what I share is meant to help someone one day, God will lead them to my words.

- the person - 30, maybe slightly more women
throughout the past 11 years
- the effect- distrust, pain, confusion, bitterness,
- damage- giving up on having a friend of any type. I know this sounds weird. It really doesn't make any sense which made it even harder. People weren't mean to me 'cause I was over weight,or because I was being mean, or doing, or saying things. No no could figure it out. I wasn't over weight when these things happened. It was so hard not having friends, 'cause I moved away from my friends and family after my engagement, and I did not work. In many ways I was isolated.
my part- I started to think there was something wrong with me. I tried protecting myself. I began thinking that people were going to hurt me before they did. To sum it up, from all the experiences of the different kinds of pain, i became insecure. I was hard to realise that I had become that way, 'cause I have always had a high self-esteem. But, as the years pasted, like two years ago I realised I had become insecure.

It was really hard to ask Griff if she wanted to talk on the phone. In e-mails I typed the question five different times, in five different e-mails. I would erase it each time. There was some kind of strong bond we developed over a very short time, like three months through e-mails. The closeness I felt toward her did not make sense, but never the less it just kept getting stronger. I became afraid that I would one day NOT erase the question, would you like to talk on the phone some day,that for awhile I completely stopped writing her. I really started to miss her. I was afraid that if I asked her that she would react in one or more different ways. Like, think I was a crazy person, or just weird, or that she would become scared, and never e-mail me again. Or e-mail me, but things would change. I asked God to stop letting me want to be friends with her, but instead he lead me to e-mailing her and then asking her if she wanted to talk on the phone. Little did I realise that she had at some point, prayed for a friend. So, many wonderful things have happened between us that we both know God surely put us together. We have talked about what I am sharing with you. We both know now why we felt so close to one another. It is very plain and easy to understand- it was all God's plan. We has done something spiritual through us, many people have been effected. However this would NOT HAVE HAPPENED if I didn't let go of my fear, and trust God. I know this is long. I felt the need to share it through.

Edited by: GLITTERGIRL69 at: 6/1/2009 (18:32)
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5/31/09 10:09 P

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Thank you for sharing but there are many, many men and women going though recover not only in our church but other churches. So come from hard backgrounds. What may have be right thinking,for you doesn't mean it's right for everyone.

Gerri

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When I said, “My foot is slipping,” your love, O Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul. The Lord has become my fortress, and my God the rock in whom I take refuge. Psalms 94:18-19, 22
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Thank you Geri for sharing

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5/31/09 9:26 P

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Interesting interpretation.

I think maybe the 'my part' could be looked at differently. The 3 c's, I believe, may apply here. I did not C)ause,I cannot C)ontrol, & I cannot C)ure. "being somewhat to blame" sounds to me like I am being the martyr. I did not Cause, nor can I Control, and I cannot Cure the addicted. I am responsible now for my choices and behaviours. I reacted as best I could to situations that were presented to me that I could not see my way out of at the time. I did the best I could with what I had. And the only forgiveness i require is mine; and once recognized for what it is, the forgiveness is there waiting for me.

Don't know if that makes any sense and I don't mean to attack; I just wanted to present another perspective.


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5/31/09 6:26 P

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Thanks Gerri I printed this to keep for my records. Thanks for sharing.

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5/31/09 4:13 P

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Philippians 2

1 So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy,

2 complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.

3 Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.

4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,

6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped,

7 but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.

8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.

9 Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name,

10 so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth,

11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

Twice a month on Saturday evening, I attend a Recovery Group at our church. The men and women that attend are recovery from various addictions. The leader last night spoke about doing an inventory of our lives.

The inventory consists of four categories.

The Person
The Effect
The Damage
My Part

The first 3 was not difficult to list. The people that hurt me over the years, the results of the hurt, and the damage down in my life.

My Part was difficult. Having to go over my life and think if maybe I might have been somewhat to blame.

The speaker said that hurting people hurt people. That we want to lass out when being attacked.
And it never fails that Satan is their adding lots of coals to the hurt. Reminding us of things that happened in the past.

Many times I lost a true friend by not taking their kind and loving advice. I went into attach mode and was hurtful.

Many times we turn away from the only one that cares… We need to go back to Him and humbly ask for forgiveness and for Him to search are hearts….

Lamentations 3:40
Young's Literal Translation
We search our ways, and investigate, And turn back unto Jehovah.

Gerri





The Lord Is My Strength

When I said, “My foot is slipping,” your love, O Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul. The Lord has become my fortress, and my God the rock in whom I take refuge. Psalms 94:18-19, 22
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