This week, we're on Week 4 in the rotation which means we are on our Self Esteem Mini-Challenge! ;) Some of you might need to rest your behinds a bit, so this one will come in handy!
SO, let's get on with it, shall we?
How many of us fill our lives with so many things that sometimes we feel utterly overwhelmed? I am guilty of that, certainly...sometimes worse than others!
I'm sure many of you have read this one before but it's such a good example in my life, I'm afraid I'm going to repeat it again for the new folks: I used to take on SO much without realizing it or I offer for new tasks all the while wondering, then worrying, about how I was going to fit anything more into my already bulging schedule and life.
I'm an artist. Several years ago I thought I would make a little extra money doing pet portraiture. Fortunately, it seemed, I immediately began getting commission after commission that I kept saying "yes" to. I was thrilled! Until I realized that they had started to pile up. It got to the point where the act of painting for me was no longer the stress-relieving fun time I had come to look forward to. Instead, it had quickly become a 'chore' to complete the commissions fast fast fast and it actually began to cause more stress than it alleviated.
Unable to manage the commissions left me harried and depressed. I eventually returned several of the commissions with apologies that I simply could not get them done. What a relief! I was able to breathe again. The pressure was off. But, I felt somewhat of a failure.
I learned from that experience that I can NOT agree to do things I cannot fit into my schedule or projects that will provide more stress than they relieve. It took a while to figure out how to spot those stress inducing tasks though and to learn that saying "No" from the start is SO MUCH better for me than saying "No" after the fact and feeling like a big failure. Of course, that part takes practice!
The point was driven home sometime later when I saw an ad in the local newsletter asking for a typist for a short project that required someone to type with speed, and ironically, it turned out to be for a friend. Hey, I thought, *I* can type 80 wpm! I could do that AND help out my friend!! I almost picked up the phone and offered for the project. Almost. And then, like a thunderbolt it hit me:
Just because I CAN do something, doesn't mean I HAVE to do it!
Wow! What a revelation!
I let it go. In my mind I said, "No thank you" and I never made that call to accept yet another candle burning project that was surely fraught with stress. Since then I've made similar changes in my life in order to simplify and let go of stress. For instance, I stopped the daily newspaper & stopped all my subscription magazines. I never had time to read the newspaper or the magazines and they would pile up in the corner waiting for me; each time I walked by I could feel them calling to me, asking for my time. Then, to top it off, I felt guilty that I was paying for subscriptions that I wasn't reading. All that has stopped. I said, "No thank you" to all the requests for renewals and simplified. Update: I started my newspaper subscription again for the SOLE purpose of getting the coupons. In order to relieve the stress associated with not reading the paper, I open it, immediately throw away everything that isn't a coupon and I feel just fine about it. I am sticking to my purpose of getting the paper.
I stopped volunteering for the national crochet raffle that is part of the dog rescue group I volunteered for. In fact, 3 years ago, I stopped heading up the area coordinator position altogether. I said, "No thank you" and guess what? The world did not fall apart because I wasn't a part of it or running it, or controlling it. Someone else stepped up and filled my shoes. Yeah, I simplified!
I crochet...I've been playing with putting up some of my cutier than cute crocheted hats for sale but I'm not sure I'm ready for that kind of stress yet. Still thinking....I have gotten so far as to open an Etsy store but I haven't put anything in it yet. I have a few things I've made and I'm almooooooost ready!
Those are some examples in my life that have really helped me simplify. Now, it's time for next weeks MC:
It's for you to say "YES!" to some stress management tips. From the articles below, pick at least ONE stress management tip per day for 4 of the 7 days the MC is in effect (more than that might be stressful!! :) And, of course, report the ones you choose (and their affects) here.www.rd.com/living-healthy/37-stress-manage
(SP article - don't forget to get your 3 points for reading it!)
Let's hear how you do, how you feel, how you manage your time and if you learn anything new! I'm still open to simplifying in every aspect of my life & I have no better teachers than this team!
Golden Crown Award for picking a tip to simplify your life and make it more stress free for 6 out of 7 days the MC is in effect!
"Brick walls are there for a reason. They let us prove how badly we want things." -Randy Pausch, Carnegie Mellon Univ. Professor
"Do or do not. There is not try." - Yoda, Jedi Master
"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has a genius in it!" - Goethe
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