I've been very successful at losing weight (dropped 80 lbs.) but never made it to maintenance. The hardest mindset for to "give up" is imagining maintenance and reincorporating some trigger foods. This time I am trying to reincorporate some of those choices as I continue to lose to give myself the chance to learn how to handle them. Recently, we were out to eat at a Greek restaurant. The chicken kabob meal came with a salad and pita bread. The pita bread was plain old white pita. The restaurant also had soft serve ice cream. I made the choice to not eat the pita and to have the ice cream because I felt the minimal nutrition in the pita wasn't worth the cost and I wanted the ice cream. It was a really tough choice where I questioned myself repeatedly about my "real" motives. I handled it just fine and felt victorious. I have also had those unfortunate times when I tried to have a "reasonable" portion of cheese and found it was still a major trigger. The learning is challenging but I still think it is worth the effort to push my limits and not just live within the safety of restriction.
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I too struggle with that perfectionism thing. I struggle with the all or nothing mentality. Which brings up those old unhealthy practices of eating less, eating no carbs, working out excessively, and that whole obsessive compulsive side of me!
I've never struggled with dogmatic ideas related to eating, but as a younger woman I struggled mightily with body image... eight years of therapy healed that wound, LOL.
(...though, I can still clearly remember the first time I dared to wear shorts in public and a teenager loudly made fun of my thighs... he did live to see adulthood, and I learned that the world would not come to an end if I dressed for hot weather in public.... funny thing, I was 70 pounds lighter than I was now, thought I was fat, and now I wear shorts with ease, and think I'm pretty cute.)
I still struggle with perfectionism, in that if I can't do something exactly as I envision it should go, I have to work at applying 'balance and moderation' principles. My vulnerability no longer gets in the way of my moving forward, but I still can't just do something new/hard/out of my comfort zone without having the conversation in my head. I am also very susceptible to a critical 'tone' in the comments of others... it can easily derail me if I let it.
The hardest thing (as per my blog last night) was giving up on the ideas of clean eating and why it is harmful. I really struggled with the idea that eating the things that were "bad" were really okay when done so with the right mindset and approach (ahem -- balance and moderation).
I can't say that I really struggle with any one thing, I guess if I were to it would be body image and getting over the notion that my body needs to fit in the stereotypical societal blueprint. That I am really okay as I am now, I will be okay smaller as well.
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