I'm happier when I havea lot of alone time too! My apartment is nothing special, but I cherish being home in my jammies with a cuppa tea.
My work assignment was changed a few weeks ago, not by my choice, and I thought I'd be unhappy with the new tasks, but I actually see a lot of benefits in it and I'm happier at work even though I wasn't unhappy before.
If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one!
current weight: 139.6
Fitness Minutes: (88,452) Posts: 7,887 5/26/14 11:44 A
Yes, I'm aware that I have an abiding deep joy, but there are, of course, many moments when I could be happier. I'm learning to stay present with those more negative times, then lean back and just let them pass...then I can more easily return to being happy.
I have noticed that I'm happier when I'm busy (less time to think), interacting with other people (staying present with them...less time to think), and doing something that I want to do FOR other people.
Edited by: JAZZEJR at: 5/26/2014 (11:48)
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If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right. ~Henry Ford
Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels. ~Kate Moss
current weight: 139.0
Fitness Minutes: (20) Posts: 510 5/17/14 12:47 P
YES It has worked for us I can really tell a difference. So can others around us Was hard to define my what makes me happy Defining my Happiness Project Trying NOT to make other peeps the source of my happiness [as in my sons or my DH or my grands make me happy] #1. I am happy to KNOW He is always with me. [ so many folks believe and have faith, KNOWING is a blessing] #2. It makes me happy to help others, #3. I am happy to be living free, [ 2 a. Thanks to all that served] #4. I am happy to read and speak English [2 b. Thanks to teachers] #5 It makes me happy to finish things. #6. It makes me happy to be busy. #7. It makes me happy to be doing something worth doing. [In fact all 3 of my jobs were/are joyful.] #8. It makes me happy to read a good book[2 b.] # 9.I am happy to have a great cup of coffee every day.
"Success is not the result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire." --Reggie Leach
Yes... but.... I think too often we think we ought to be happy most of the time. And I think that is a lie that we have to be careful not to get caught up in. Happiness is fleeting like other emotions. It is okay to feel mad, sad, happy, uncertain, embarrassed, angry, regretful, silly, shy, elated, and more. Instead of focusing so much on being happy I look at two other questions: 1) Am I engaged enough in life that I am feeling all kinds of emotions throughout my day and expressing them appropriately? (This is often actually hard for me.) 2) Do I feel a deeper sense of joy about my life and the world, and am I connecting to that joy each day?
Yes, we can increase our sense of happiness, but I would never want to feel that way all the time. I believe in embracing the 'holy imbalances' of life. Through the veil of grief I learn compassion for those who grieve. Through the experiences of injustice in this world I learn to fight for justice for others. Through the physical pain of this body I learn to care for the physical wounds of others. Through the emotional pain of dealing with a chronic disease I learn to be sensitive to the pain and needs of others. I could go on...but you know what I mean. Underneath it all is an underlying joy and gratitude that comes from knowing that no matter what I go through, I am not alone. And because of that, I can be there for others so they will not feel so alone. That is joy.
Yes - I believe you can do things to make yourself happier. I agree with MeddyPeddy's post, but also have additional items to add. I believe nutrition and health play a role in happiness as well - getting enough sleep, eating whole foods, staying away from alcohol and caffeine all make us feel better - which makes us happier. This is an area that I am focusing on for January.
Yes - and there is scientific proof also. It is written in the "getting started" chapter, but I know that I have read it somewhere else studies tell that when a peron is "Hit" by either luck or disaster - he och she gets very happy, unhappy for a while and then returns to about the same level as befor the event. BUT it is also shown that working the toools tha has shown to create mor happiness makes the indiviual more happy from the position that one started from. Yes, you DO have a level of happiness from genes, family, childhood and more - but that level can be altered thoguh work to a higher level - just as you are genetically "doomed" to a certain physical talent, you can improve through eercise. And maybe you canīt be the winner of the olympics, but you can become a lot better than if you stay on the sofa!
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