Hi colormethin, (loved the nick) Honestly reading what u wrote felt to me like I am reading my own journal. It seems like we have lots in common (I am also a teacher by the way). I am also an expert on excuses and beating myself up and finding reasons why I am alone and putting it all on my weight. It is liek the weight is everything but u know it really isn't right? I have gone through a long process with myself starting to take all kinds of workshops (postivie thinkin, meditation) and really working on myself. Honestly I am the happiest I have ever been even though I am the heavist I've ever been. I found out that all the cliches r true. For example if u come to a date feeling sexy, confident and happy your date wouldn't mind your extra x pounds. (It's true) My love life is blooming I have gone on many dates all of them wanted to meet me on a second date and start a relationship with me. Is that a coincidence? Don't think so. I really believe in the power of thought. U r a teacher. u know that when your student fails what do u do? Do u tell him " Oh well, that was obvious, u'll never get it right, u r the kind of excuses etc?" Or will you give him a hug, love and kind words? Don't u deserve the same treatment? Be your own best friend. Would love to email with u more since I feel we have a lot in common. as to exercise u really have to find something u enjoy I just stopped my membership at the gym since I felt like I dont really enjoy it and I am looking for something new maybe dancing which I love. be happy to be in touch xoxo from Tel Aviv
I think you need to find a way to eat healthy and get exercise that is excuse-proof. You also need to start thinking positively...especially about yourself. As you make exercise and healthy eating a natural routine part of life, you'll build your self-confidence and self-esteem. Along the way, you'll lose weight, get fit feel better and most likely attract someone who you like and who wants to stay with you. You can do it. Just start off with baby steps.
If you do what you always do, you will get what you always get. To get something different you have to do what you never did.
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Stay positive! Beating yourself up, calling yourself names and even saying "I should" do this or that does not help you to succeed. Learn how to eat healthfully a little less than you need to stay the same weight, and find exercise or activity that you enjoy. I think it is like 75% food and 25% exercise. I find that to stay full enough that I don't freak out I have to fill up on healthy food... lots of protein and vegetables. I think setting the right nutrition goals and tracking what you eat is the most important thing. Best wishes.
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I am the queen of excuses and have a long to do list that I'm not motivated to do. When I'm not in the loop/on the band wagon/in an exercise routine, I add exercise to my to do list. That is always the first to get skipped.
When I was cleaning, I found a journal from when I was in college. The first entry was from April 2000 - "I'm fat, I'm making bad choices, I'm worthless, etc." The second entry was from Feb 2001 - "I've started exercising, watching what I eat and I've lose 30 lbs. I am seeing Mike, although, I don't know if that will work out but I have a date with Dave on Saturday. I feel good but I have a long way to go." I know that thin is not measured by love life but I also truly believe for me, that is the reason I am alone. I date people but it never lasts with the people I want it to last with.
Here's where the confusion comes in - I want to lose weight for myself, I do believe it will make me happy. I need to lose weight for my health. What I've got going on here is a hot mess. I like to exercise, I love the release of endorphins and the all around feeling of fantastic it gives me.
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