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11/14/12 11:20 A

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Very true. I have a history of eating disorders (and thus being very negative toward my body). Health IS more than weight and you can be healthy without being thin. Part of being healthy too is not beating yourself up for what hasn't happened or what some part of you thinks isn't happening fast enough. I echo that even if you never lose another pound that establishing some good exercise and eating habits is so very good for you in other ways. I don't struggle with nearly the amount of depressive episodes I used to for instance.


~Kelly~

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Time to stop trying to solve things with food (lack of included) that food won't solve. Food solves one thing: bodily hunger.



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11/14/12 1:54 A

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I believe that eating a whole package of cookies because I didn't lose weight is not moderation nor is it rationalization. For me that kind of act is purely fear, frustration, pain and self punishment.

I know that I can eat a sensible amount of cookies every single day and it will fit in my plan. I know I can be active every single day. Eating a whole package of cookies or giving up on exercise entirely in reaction to lack of progress is me trying to hurt myself. It is not a good way to process my emotions. It is an unmoderate reaction.

I think some of us who are trying to be more moderate now have had a history of extreme and sometimes hurtful behaviors that may resurface while we are trying to form more moderate habits. I consider myself as someone trying to heal and finding new ways to react and deal with my emotions more positively is part of it. The little negative monster that lives in my head lies to me. Emotions aren't facts.

Are you calling yourself a moderate because you want to sit on the sofa and not change anything? Have you truthfully made no effort at all? Is this something the negative monster in your head is saying to you- "you're just being lazy"..."you didn't lose as much as you should. you might as well give up"... "it doesn't matter what you do"?

I think focusing on your motivation is good.
Being truthful and realistic is good.
Being kind to yourself even if you never lose another pound is good.
Continuing to look for positive changes and work on developing healthy habits is good.






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11/13/12 5:48 P

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I don't count things but I DO look at my motivation for eating them. If I've had a bad day I make sure I'm not trying to eat it away (having only frozen cookies that take about 20 minutes to prep once I've heated the oven helps). I talk to a friend, or go for a walk, or take a bath. I do something non-food related for myself. If I'm bored I'm making sure I'm not eating to entertain myself. I have puzzle books and puzzles on my phone, I have books I've yet to read, I have blogs I read, I knit and draw, I play games on my video game systems or my computer, I text or IM friends.

I try to eat for one reason and one reason alone, my body needs food, and that works for me! I start when I'm hungry, I stop when I'm satisfied. I pay attention to how things taste and eat what I'm really wanting most of the time!

I find myself CRAVING vegetables as often as cookies that way.


I also watch my motivation for not exercising. If I'm honestly sick or injured I'm willing to rest. If I'm just feeling like I'd rather sit on my butt I sit up straight, give myself a pep talk, and pop in an active game or put on my shoes and go outside.


~Kelly~

"Food is not love, comfort, or an anxiety pill."

Time to stop trying to solve things with food (lack of included) that food won't solve. Food solves one thing: bodily hunger.



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11/13/12 5:10 P

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Good question!

When I say I eat in moderation, I'm still eating within my calorie limits. The only time I don't pay too close of attention is when I'm eating out at a restaurant, which normally isn't too often (although this week it's 3 nights!) When I first started losing weight (before I joined SP), I was sticking to 1200 a day max. Then I later upped it to 1400, then 1500, etc. But I always did have limits. To me at least, moderation isn't about it being a giant free for all, just eating whatever you feel like. I did cut out a few things, like cookies/candy, etc, mainly because I find it very very difficult to have self control with those. Even now in maintenance I only bring 2 berry newton cookies with me to work, and don't eat them at home. I still cannot keep cake or things like that around. I save those for when I'm eating out. But for other things, I did not skimp or cut out. Like, still used regular butter, and full fat cheeses. I just made sure that using these ingredients didn't cause me to go over my calorie limits.

I think you have to look at your motivation behind things. Like you mentioned, in hindsight you were eating the cookies because you figured you might as well since your plan wasn't working for you anyway. That's not the kind of motivation you want when making your food choices. Next time when you're faced with the cookies or whatever else it is you're about to eat, think "OK, why do I want to eat these". If the reason is "well, I have room in my calories today and I enjoy eating cookies" then go for it. But if the reason is something like what you mentioned "well I might as well since I am already failing" or "I had a craptacular day at work so I deserve to eat these", then it's not really "moderation".

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11/13/12 5:02 P

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Moderation works more over time. It's not something you really go for if you're in a hurry! But I'm certainly not. I've lost six pounds since July. I've kept it off through a wedding and random
"extra" cookies.

The difference I think is in your motivation. I REALLY DO want to make changes I can stick with. The trick is once you've made some you fine tune it until you're happy with where you are.

Yes, making minor changes usually means minor results but you can BUILD on those without going crazy. I try to work on one thing at a time myself. First I learned to eat (mostly) intuitively. Then I added in making sure to exercise at least three times a week. I'm up to five now. I'm not going for more than five but I'm going for an average of 30 minutes a day vs 15. I'm also adding in a few more veggies and fruits.


~Kelly~

"Food is not love, comfort, or an anxiety pill."

Time to stop trying to solve things with food (lack of included) that food won't solve. Food solves one thing: bodily hunger.



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11/13/12 4:49 P

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Does anyone have a good way of differentiating between being moderate and, well, slacking? I've come to realize that there are times when I tell myself that I don't want to be extreme when watching what I eat or how I work out because "this is a lifestyle change and it needs to be something I can live the rest of my life with."

Then when I look at that decision later it's pretty apparent it wasn't a lifestyle or moderation choice, it was a "I'm mad that I'm not making better progress so I might as well eat the darn cookies" (this is almost always a plural situation - I don't get bent out of shape over one or two moderately sized cookies).

I'm looking for a trigger or guideline for those times when what I'm really dancing around is the question, "is this moderation or a lack of motivation/focus/discipline." I know that just making minor adjustments to my lifestyle and fitness will result in only minor changes to my weight and fitness (pity, I would just love to wake up one morning and discover five pounds gone because I used light butter instead of the real thing (grin)).

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