I have the same problem, most days I can take it or leave it when it comes to sex. It has caused issues in the past but, after 10 years of marriage, my husband and I have had many frank, open talks about it, and that has helped.
I still rarely initiate, but I make a point of complimenting my husband often and showing affection in the day to day. It's not the same, of course, but it goes a long way to show my husband that my libido is not a reflection of my feelings for him.
On the weekends I make a point to dress up a little (a nice bra/panty set, a little lipstick, nothing fancy). When I feel better about myself, I'm more likely to make moves to initiate, or at least send the signal that I'm interested!
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