I fully agree with Don and Lee's wonderfully supportive and balanced responses to your blog, and the additional, thoughtful Friend comments to your post.
To me, you offered the best in not only care, but role modeling for your client - in a sense, a healthy parental authority figure she probably never experienced:
* Your personal empathy (who "you" are in the world, which affects your chosen line of work, as well as its quality)
* Placing her in the hands of those with the skills beyond your own
* Compassionate objectivity and commitment
* Personal reflection and professional follow-up for clarity as to why she may be your "pick" - while not ruling out a divine connection or inner directive.
Sometimes, bending within our capacity, yet perhaps outside of the norm (think, willow vs. oak), going "above and beyond," leaves an indelible tether that, in your client's hindsight, might transform into her lifeline for healing change.
You sound like a lovely person, and I am always happy to find other tender-hearted, mature, objective souls in our world. All your animal groups tell me you were born this way, and that is what I see as one of your gifts. Your sense of responsibility might undergird your unease of having "picked" her - measuring your mature compassion against the sometimes foot-out-the-door compassion of a system.
for being such a healing balm. Welcome to SparkPeople! You belong here.