Thanks for the reminder. I used to really get down on myself when I made a mistake. Then I realized that to be human, I would be bound to make mistakes. Only God is perfect and I'm not God. Now when I make a mistake, I tell myself that proves I'm a 'perfect human'. From there it is easier for me to get up to take the two steps forward.
Have a TERRIFIC day! Patricia co-Leader of Emotional Eaters
current weight: 243.0
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There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when it's convenient. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.
When you get to a plateau, think of it as a landing on the stairway to your goal. And maintenance is a lifelong plateau, so a bit of "rehearsal" for maintenance isn't the worst thing in the world
I say this so often: mistakes are opportunities for learning!
But I don't spell it out as much as I ought to. Some of this may be review for some, but I thought it might be helpful to share this problem-solving process that I've used along the way for myself and others.
So when we have had a setback, splurged or lost or steam when it comes to workouts or any other struggle, for me the question is: what nuggets of wisdom can each of us cull from this experience?
Examine what was going on for you PRIOR to the problem. What feelings were going on...? Depression doesn't count...it is not a FEELING...dig deeper to be more aware of the feeling...sadness, anger, disappointment, guilt, boredom, happiness...?
What THOUGHTS were you having? We all have a degree of "self-talk" going on during these moments. Often our "self-talk" is filled with old negative feedback loops that we repeat to ourselves...perhaps it's time to clean out those tapes? Replace them with more positive, pro-active messages?
What PEOPLE were you with, if any...? Some people bring out the best in ourselves, others bring out the worst...being aware of this gives us greater control over the choices we make.
Keeping a food journal, where you document as much as possible, not only WHAT you eat, but all the things occurring both before and after you eat...feelings, actions, people, places. After a while you will begin to uncover patterns and the wonderful power that you will gain is the ability to jam a stick into the spokes of those old, unhealthy patterns and replace them with positive, healthy alternatives.
I shared these thoughts recently on someone's blog, but thought it might be helpful to pass along for others the consider. I'm very open to any thoughts, feedback, suggestions others might have to add to what I've written.
The SP article "One Step Back, Two Steps Forward" has a great philosophy which I try to use:
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