For me it is always being told "it will all be ok"or "it'll work out - just hang in there." I want them to look into that "it will all be ok/it'll owrk out" crystal ball and tell me WHEN - because I could sure use the heads up on that one!
I know it is their way of trying to show support, but geez, sometimes it is better to just say "I'm sorry you are having trouble" and not tell me it'll work out.
Part of my studies involved 3D graphics and game engine work.
I can do it, but it's not my forte, nor do I particularly enjoy it.
Plus, jobs involving those skills are located far away from home. As in, states away. But, that's what everyone asks me. "What are you doing with your degree? Why don't you apply to this job, that job?" It's because I have no way to get to them, even if I did make the cut - and even then, if I did make the cut, and I got there, I'd be miserable and alone.
Then there's the "Walmart is always hiring!" line of bull.
No, Walmart is NOT always hiring.
And neither is McDonald's, or Wendy's, or Starbucks, or anything, for that matter. They're always accepting applications.
"Well, why didn't you apply?"
"Oh, I did. They each have an application from me, and a copy of my resume - I even wrote custom cover letter - YES EVEN TO WALMART!"
At which point, awkward, disbelieving silence ensues.
My biggest peeve are people who hate the job they have, but know better than to quit because it will be impossible to find other work - but they hold currently unemployed people to the expectation that there IS easy work out there to find. So frustrating!
I relate to both of you. I hate it when everyone suggests getting a job you have no chance of getting (not your field of study). My mom said to apply as a social worker. I don't have any social work experience or degree, I will be an automatic rejection.
"Failure is only postponed success as long as courage 'coaches' ambition. The habit of persistence is the habit of victory." Herbert Kaufman
I can totally relate to what you said Ali! I absolutely hate when everyone you talk to just has to come up with an idea for you. It does make me feel really dumb.
I also HATE when friends and family talks to me like I have a disease... Every time I talk to my dad and his wife it's always, Are you doing okay? We worry about you? Keep your head up, okay? And I won't even have to bring anything up about job searching or maybe my head is already up and I have high hopes... I have noticed my friends don't really want to talk to me either, because I really don't have new news and they are all like ooh, I'm so sorry it must be so hard...
I know that they are all trying to be nice, and it is just a matter of not knowing what else to say, but it has been driving me crazy. I can't have normal conversations with people anymore!
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Nothing makes me more irritated then when a friend or family member gives me unsolicited advice on how to find work.......
I know that it is my best interest my family has in mind, but just because I have a degree doesn't mean I can march into a University and demand a tenured teaching position (But thanks for thinking I could Grandma.)
Moreover, the advice I get from friends that is so obvious you wonder what they must think of you. For example, I've had a number of friends ask "Have you tried Networking?"
I do my best to keep my sarcastic comments to myself and simply be polite but sometimes I just can't help it: "Networking you say,....is that like Telling people you are unemployed so they can ask you stupid questions like 'have you tried networking?"
What are some of your pet peeves.
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