Whoa, Bethers, hold the phone. I'm going to go on at length here, because this is going to be fun for me. Apology in advance, as I'm sure I'm repeating what some of our esteemed colleagues have written.
The simple answer is: Don't talk to your aunt about lapband. She loves you and she's lovable as anything, but.... Further, and I hate to say this because she is your favorite and you may sock me, a person who is forever delightful may one day have a surprisingly negative response or just see a topic through different eyes.
I've never heard of anyone who stands to eat. Moreover, I've never heard of anyone who stands to eat and has regained weight. I'd think that, if such a person exists, all the regained weight must settle around his/her ankles.
If dear Auntie Alarmist has heard anything about the other relative's having a bad experience, she misunderstood and/or didn't understand (same thing, huh?) and/or truly is an alarmist and/or embellished the information to make a better story of it. (Here's an idea -- you call the relative yourself and see what she has to say.) Even if your aunt has some of it correct, there are plausible responses.
You've been informed by the surgical practice abou life with a band and the changes that must be made to have a successful experience? It's necessary to eat slowly, chew thoroughly (about 25 chomps per bite), take small bites and pause between bites. Eating fast, not chewing well and bites that are large may prevent the food from passing through the band. This is commonly called getting stuck." It's miserable and often preventable by, I repeat, following the eating-technique guidelines.** One thing people do when they get stuck because it may make the difference and, perhaps, partly from instinct, is stand and pace a bit. That's about the extent of standing.
A band that's been adjusted too tight will also make it difficult to eat on a consistent basis. The solution is to go back to the surgeon's before long to have a tad of the saline extracted.
If your relative eats chocolate like crazy, that's her doing and not the band's. The band doesn't prevent us from eating things that aren't conducive to weight loss. In fact, chocolate, cookies, cake, ice cream, potato chips and other crunchy things all go down easily without giving the feeling of fullness. No one knows why as far as I'm aware. People who get stuck on any regular basis and lose motivation often resort to quantities of the high-cal, high-fat, non-nutritious items just to get something in. The person who wants to continue losing weight will get the assistance that will facilitate it.
If the practice has a band support group, go to the meetings as often as you can. If it doesn't, find another in your area. Our online group is a great help and greatly supportive. In-person contact with others is a nice plus.
As I've looked back at your post several times to be sure I'm not missing anything I want to ramble and pontificate on, little details keep popping out. I think your aunt must be an older lady, in her 70's or more?
I've run into some difficulties with my band (this week is my second band anniversary), but, all in all, I wouldn't have it any other way.
P.S. There's nothing wrong with a treat as long as you figure it into the day's nutrition and calorie intake and can control the portion and the frequency. Maybe I shouldn't tell you this so early in your game?
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