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9/20/11 9:41 P

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I love the comments. I am reserving the Michelle May book from the library. I like her ideas on hunger.

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9/19/11 5:10 P

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Hey there Slim - how are things going?

I've been able to tune into hunger/satiety more consistently lately. I've even endured a few emotionally challenging times that used to send me straight for the fridge, with me saying "I can eat whatever I want" . . . which is true, except I didn't really want anything. Now I tend to notice, oh I feel lonely . . . sad . . . mad . . . AND I'm not hungry so I don't want to eat. That feels like progress.

Yesterday I savored a mini-Ben & Jerry's I've been saving for a while. Cherry Garcia. I didn't buy a whole pint but the tiny size was perfect, I got all the flavor and was very satisfied.

Take care of youself -

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9/14/11 8:12 P

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With awareness everyday can be that way. We soon forget and go back to our old ways of thinking.

I had no false hunger yesterday. I was tired today and when I am tired I know I want to comfort myself with food. Sure enough after lunch I felt false hunger. I wanted to go get something to nibble on. I told myself food was not going to provide me the comfort I was looking for. I laid down and looked at magazines instead. Now, two hours later, not only am I fine but I still feel full.

If I would have given in to the false hunger I would be further away from my goal of getting trimmer and probably not very happy about it.

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.

Even if we lose the race, we are still a winner (just a slow winner).

As long as you keep moving, you are still lapping those on the couch.

Do not take things personally as it is never about us.

Don't find fault, find a remedy.

"The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking."
Albert Einstein
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9/12/11 4:19 P

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Back to work today - but I didn't have to come in until noon. I went for today's walk/jog 5K training workout and completed New You Bootcamp (again). I ate breakfast on my balcony with my kitty and all in all had a lovely sane morning.

I packed food for the day in my Fit and Fresh containers (love those). I ate my sandwich and then was surprised that I was full and didn't want my salad. When I got hungry again around 3 p.m. the salad was there waiting for me. Today I have the luxury of listening to my body and eating when I want to. Usually I'm teaching straight from 2:30-8 p.m. but today I have a few breaks in there so if I get hungry I can eat. It's nice. I wish every day could be this way, I'd be much calmer and probably slimmer!!

- Cathy

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It is joyful when one enjoys nature. You are in the present and at one with nature. The memory of your bike ride is encoded in your memory. Anytime you want to go back to that moment, just close your eyes and relive it. I didn't even go the bike ride but I can picture it in my imagination (daydreaming).

I had three hunger thoughts yesterday but when I thought about it I knew I wasn't hungry. I always have a choice and I choose to ignore the thoughts. I did overeat on fruit. If I would of ate with more awareness I would have realized the last few bites were not as pleasurable as the first few. Discipline (remembering what you really want vs immediate gratification).

Need to remember when eating at friends home -- have a plan what will or will not eat and how to do it gracefully. Let them know ahead of time your choices. emoticon

Edited by: SLIM.CHICK at: 9/12/2011 (14:24)
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.

Even if we lose the race, we are still a winner (just a slow winner).

As long as you keep moving, you are still lapping those on the couch.

Do not take things personally as it is never about us.

Don't find fault, find a remedy.

"The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking."
Albert Einstein
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9/11/11 12:31 P

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MrsPrincess, I know you probably won't see this message but I just want to thank you for joining us for as long as it felt right to you. In that time you made a positive impact on my life. I understand and respect your choices and admire you for having the courage to do what is best for you. Take care, and be happy!

Slim, thanks for reposting that original message. It was helpful for me to read again too (even though I wrote it . . . sometimes I don't listen to myself LOL).

I had a lovely morning. I had every intention of going to church but instead went for a long bike ride through my favorite city park. They have miles of trails going by lakes, grasslands, and trees. The trees aren't changing color yet but the wildflowers are very vibrant and the grasses and shrubs are starting to turn. It was a glorious, warm, blue-sky-with-fluffy-clouds kind of day. It was absolutely perfect and I feel so centered and calm and grateful right now. I wish I could bottle this feeling and sip it during the work week!

I hope you have a great day, too!

- Cathy

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9/11/11 10:01 A

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Thanks for your comments Cathy. I thought about it and know it was false hunger and I mindlessly gave into it. It was a choice and by thinking about it and posting I will gain awareness. I forget things so easily.

Need to read again your first post:
Intention: learn to recognize - and trust - physical hunger

Background Information: In her book, Michelle identifies three eating cycles: Over Eating, Restrictive Eating, and Intuitive Eating. Sometimes Overeating and Restrictive Eating combine in a powerful "eat-repent-repeat" cycle. Intuitive Eating breaks these cycles and restores natural, healthy eating patterns.

Steps:
1. When you feel like eating, ask, AM I HUNGRY?
a) If YES, proceed to #2
b) If NO, realize you have choices. You can eat any way, temporarily distract yourself with something to do, or address your needs directly. The choice is yours, there is no good or bad.

2. Ask three questions to help you decide what to eat:
a) WHAT DO I WANT? Are you craving a particular food? Sweet, salty, crunchy, soft, warm, cold? Recognize that food can and should be enjoyable.
b) WHAT DO I NEED? Have you eaten any vegetables today? Protein? Realize that food fuels your body and life.
c) WHAT DO I HAVE? What options are actually available to you at this time?

3. Eat - and enjoy it! Notice tastes, smells, textures. Try not to multi-task. Notice if you start feeling satisfied sooner than you expect to or want to. Notice how the food makes you feel while you are eating and when you are finished. If you are still hungry, eat more. If you are too full, take note of how hungry you were and how much you ate; consider starting with less food next time. Eat with the intention of feeling BETTER when you are finished than when you started. Allow yourself to experiment and learn about how food makes you feel over time.

4. Use the fuel you've consumed to live a life you love! Here's a few ideas to get you started but you will want to come up with your own list:
a) Consciously savor a simple pleasure every day
b) Engage in enjoyable physical activity - walk, bike, yoga, rest . . . you choose!
c) Take time to renew - read, meditate, take a bath, paint your nails, etc.
d) Connect with someone you love every day

If at any point you find yourself eating more than you are comfortable with, or feeling guilty about a binge, DON'T WORRY! Simply wait until you are hungry to eat again, no guilt required!


Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.

Even if we lose the race, we are still a winner (just a slow winner).

As long as you keep moving, you are still lapping those on the couch.

Do not take things personally as it is never about us.

Don't find fault, find a remedy.

"The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking."
Albert Einstein
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I wish you well on your journey MrsPrincess. You are an amazing person and are whole and complete just as you are now regardless of wherever you are.

I love myself regardless of how I eat. I used the term "bad" in a previous post but it wasn't in a judgmental way. Old habits are hard to break. The word "productive" might have been a better choice.

I am trying to lose weight so I can live longer, not because I am not content with my body. I have heart failure. My heart works at 20% efficiency and carrying any extra weight puts a lot of needless stress on it.

I am sorry to hear about your anxiety attacks. I use to have them and I wouldn't wish them on anyone.

Thanks for your previous comments. They have been very helpful. I just wish I could have been more helpful to you.
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Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.

Even if we lose the race, we are still a winner (just a slow winner).

As long as you keep moving, you are still lapping those on the couch.

Do not take things personally as it is never about us.

Don't find fault, find a remedy.

"The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking."
Albert Einstein
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Hey team, checking in here to let you know that I am closing my SP Account...again. This will be immediate.

I find that it is just so hard to concentrate on what I need to do without having the unhealthy behaviors slip back in. I do much, much better when I am left to myself free from a world of policing. I as was mentioned before, I rejoined in a weak moment where I was struck by the urge to "better myself" before my 30th birthday, next September. I won't be successful here and I cannot truly be in tuned with myself when I have lingering thoughts of scales, weigh ins, and measurements. I also find it very hard to keep away from the overwhelming diet mentality and the need to drop X pounds as quickly as one can. I have a hard time with Purists, labelers, and police. I thought that by sticking to certain groups I could avoid certain topics. Alas, this is not the case.

I do wish everyone a wonderful journey along which ever road that may be. I find that time and time again, I come back to SP only to close up shop. It's like breaking up with an ex, they're you're ex for a reason! I am hoping this is my last venture here at SP as I do know I can make the strides and changes I want in with a time line that fits my needs. I came back to SP for the allure of something "great". I didn't give myself enough credit in that moment of weakness, for I am already someone quite amazing! Good luck to you all! I am taking my mindful approach back into the real world alone, where it was much more successful. I can't count how many anxiety attacks I've had these past 2 weeks alone- all I attribute to the nagging connection to SP and how for me, SP = Diets, Weight Loss, Fads, and Emotional Sadness.

I cannot be whole and complete here, in a world where very few people are happy and content with who they are. At the very least able to recognize that physical perfect, size, and assumed beauty doesn't equal greatness, virtue, life, nor does it change your life, only the body. I want whole and complete that cannot be found in a number. I know that, but so few do.

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9/10/11 9:12 P

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Slim, it sounds to me like you were craving "something sweet" and not a specific food - so savoring the fruit and scone was a satisfying choice for you. I think that's the point of intuitive eating - the choice is completely yours! It sounds like the experience was enjoyable and satisfying - doesn't sound like a "binge" at all! Good for you!

Today has been a much better day for me all around. I slept, went for a run, did today's New You Bootcamp video, cleaned the house, played with my kitty, called my mom, and listened to lots of music I love. I ate when I was hungry - which translated into a late breakfast, early dinner, and a bowl of ice cream. I enjoyed every bite and do not feel like I overdid or restricted.

Hope you all have a great rest of the weekend!!

- Cathy

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For me, that doesn't work; it's still a form of food policing. For me, to label something as "good, bad, or healthy" does almost as much harm as the binge. When I allow myself to think I was "good" then it becomes a purity thing. When I'm "bad", I've failed. However when I look at things from an investigative stand point asking myself "why" instead of using judgemental labels, I often learn a lesson for the next round. At the very least, I am better able to bounce back once an episode pops up. Why did I feel the need to binge? Why do I want that cupcake. Sometimes it's to relieve stress or feel loved. Other times it's because I just want the cupcake- nothing more, nothing less. I'm not bad or good bc of it and that is true whether I ate one or three.

Food is not the enemy and it is not something to be feared or guilty about. Things happen, it's life. Dust yourself off and move on. One day does not define you. If you allow yourself to forget about Good vs Bad and just roll with it, anxiety drops over time. I don't know, but that's what I've learned working with many a therapist. I can have my donut, cake, or corn dog and eat it too without feeling the trauma of guilty words and labels. Life is so much more enjoyable that way!

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Fortunately, everything passes. We all have good days and some not as good.

I have been doing pretty good for a week but this morning I wanted to eat everything in sight. Fortunately I made some good choices. I slowly ate a slice of sweet canteloupe (saved the seeds so I can plant some in the spring), then enjoyed a slice of whole wheat & cranberry scone (very healthy) and then savored a small white nectarine. I was then stuffed and happy. emoticon
Why didn't I think of healthy binges before? emoticon It helps that I have nothing but healthy stuff at home.

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.

Even if we lose the race, we are still a winner (just a slow winner).

As long as you keep moving, you are still lapping those on the couch.

Do not take things personally as it is never about us.

Don't find fault, find a remedy.

"The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking."
Albert Einstein
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9/9/11 10:39 P

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I'm struggling a bit right now. I'm a music teacher and just started a new year. I accepted a new position at work (been there 11 years and am slowly climbing the ladder) that means more $ . . . and more work. I will be working 9-10 hours a day M-F, occasionally more. This was the first week of that new schedule. Today for example was an 11 hour work day, plus an hour of communting time. Things will settle into a routine soon - my boss is on maternity leave so I'm covering for her plus doing my own work. Once she's back my schedule should settle down. Even next week will be better.

Anyway, today and yesterday I just didn't have time or energy for my usual workout; I still did the New You Bootcamp videos but that is all. And I have been eating more food than I need and choosing foods that are less healthy. I am looking forward to the weekend, getting in a couple good workouts and tuning back into my body. I am going to focus on hunger again; using a basic hunger scale to make a mental note (or even a written note) of how hungry I am before and after eating helps me a lot. I haven't been taking the time to do that lately. I haven't even been asking "am I hungry."

No guilt . . . no "dieting" . . . just wait until I'm hungry to eat again and try to reduce stress in other, more effective ways.

- Cathy

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"I will not do today what I am not willing to do tomorrow" has been a motto of mine for some time now. I think it's one of the biggest lessons that I have learned when it comes to living the life I wanted. I knew a few years ago that I didn't want to be a slave to numbers or grueling exercise, but yet, I did it anyway. Why? because how I looked was more important that how I felt. Now that the two are more balanced, I have a more balanced approach. Treat my body and soul with respect and ditch anything else that compromises that. And you've got it right, there will be times that we eat more for reasons other than hunger. It's normal, everyone does it and it's not always something to be shameful of. Even the naturally thin will have a cookie or cupcake simply because it looks good or large hot chocolate on cold, snowy day because it's comforting. We will all do it at one point or another and it's not always harmful to do so. That is another lesson that I've learned.

As for quick results, I understand! I have my moments were I want to be on the cover of Oxygen Magazine. But most days I am just thrilled that I am a few pounds lighter today and I was exactly one year ago. I did it without guilt, deprivation, and craziness. I know that in both 6 months and 12 months I'll be even lighter. Why? Because I am about to take the next step in a mindful approach: listening to my body. Not that I haven't but as I mentioned before, it's about giving it the food and movement that it needs and craves. I set my realistic goal 15-30 pounds lighter. I just want to be able to actually purchase clothing at my favorite stores again, not just window shop; it's depressing when the clothing doesn't fit.

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9/7/11 7:39 P

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I agree, MrsPrincess, we are in very similar places right now! I can so relate to everything you are saying.

I keep reminding myself that I'm not just choosing how I LOOK; I'm choosing how I FEEL. I want to feel at peace with myself. I want to not feel crazy around food. And I certainly don't want to have to count calories to maintain my weight. I keep promising myself I won't do anything to lose the weight that I'm not willing to do for the rest of my life. Eat healthy? No problem. Exercise? Bring it on. Restrict and control my eating? Um, no thanks.

That means I have to be patient with the ups and downs, and realize that sometimes I'll eat more than my body needs for one reason or another. It's a life-long process . . . and I know that . . . but I want quick results LOL!!

- Cathy

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9/7/11 11:22 A

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You are welcome!

I think you and I are in a similar place right now. We know we want change but there are various tiers that we need to work through. You can see where you want to be not just for the scale but for life in general, and it's a complex path that must be walked. Dieting is easy, unfortunately, it's also destructive. And once you've ventured down that path a few dozen times, it catches up with you. I believe this is were I am at personally. I don't want a diet but I do want change. I have to relearn certain behaviours and unlearn others. I need to change my brain's balance and ingrained pathways; make new ones. Our old pathways are deeply entrenched and it takes time to cover them and build better, more secure connections. Time, deep breathing, and patience will provide these things. As time goes on we are less and less likely to repeat mistakes if we stay vigilant. We can also recognize those harmful behaviours sooner and right our wrongs faster. Soon... very soon, things will be different in a good way; we just need to remained focused.

I made an omelette this morning with some veggies and sausage in it and my brain screamed "DIET!" then "you're killing your diet bc of the sausage!!!". And I had to tell myself for a good hour that it wasn't (a) a diet and (b) I can eat what I want as long as I stay in-tuned. I watched my portion sizes so I know I didn't over eat or emotional eat. And lastly, (c) if I am hungry I can eat again whenever I want, be it 15 minutes or 4 hours. I had to make myself believe it was ok and that I was not harming myself by eating too much. I also had to challenge that inner voice that wants to diet and count calories and play the food police. It's a struggle but I know that at the end of the day, it'll be worth while.

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MrsPrincess -

THANK YOU for that post. I myself am/was on the verge of starting to count calories again. Today is my two-week "check in" with Spark, so I weighed myself - 160 today. It was 158 a few days ago and had been for months. When I slow down and breathe, I know why it is up; my parents and I went out for breakfast yesterday and I ate more than I normally would; then they drove back home after a two-week visit and I came home to an empty house after a long day at work. The left-over pizza in the fridge called to me and I ate it, hoping it would make me feel better like it used to (or like I used to think it did). The interesting thing is that I noticed it DID NOT HELP. I still felt lonely and honestly couldn't even remember what the food tasted like once I'd eaten it. So in a way that was a lightbulb moment, realizing yet again that if I'm not hungry, food can't fix it. Still, this morning when the scale was higher than I'm comfortable with, I thought, "I'm tired of this, I want to reach my goal already - why can't I just count calories?" Well, I can't. At least not for long. It always backfires in the end (for me). How many times do I need to repeat this pattern before I "get it"??

Then I logged on to Spark and read your post . . . you helped me see reason, that I don't need to count calories, I need to listen to my body and deal with my emotions directly. I can't thank you enough for that.

- Cathy

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MirrorBallMoon-

"In those moments, it seems easier to count calories . . . until I remember again that for me, counting calories always leads to overeating and disconnecting from my body"

This is/was me! I have been on the count, restrict, binge, repeat phase for a few yrs now and only in the recent months has that changed. Although I have to admit I rejoined SP last week with the intentions of calorie counting once again. I though, knew were my thoughts and feelings were at this point- a time of very high stress and I was internalizing it. My fail-safe is to count and restrict. I am at a place where I finally accept reality and can stop myself from going into those destructive patterns- I consider all things Calories to be destructive bc for me, they lead to very unhealthy behaviors. I am content with me and my life but I am also in a place where I know the difference between contentment and stagnation. With the help of a therapist I have accepted who I am lumps, bumps, and all. I am ok with them as they are apart of me. However I also know that it is perfectly fine to want to change providing one does so in a loving, non-judgmental, and non-destructive way. And with that, I did not count but almost without thought, naturally checked in with myself.

Ah so....

I woke up this morning and realized yet again CC is not for me. I don't want restriction and I am enjoying a life where I am in-tuned and and in-check with my body and soul. Through this self love I am realizing that it is time to release more destructive behaviors and emotional eating behaviors. I also want to nurture my body more- feeding myself foods that actually love my body back and consuming less of the ones that don't. No diets, no numbers, no guilt. I have for the last almost year stabilized my weight thanks to being more in-tuned. I am ready for that next step of letting myself eat the more nutritious foods because it IS really what I am craving. Before I felt as though I was putting myself on a diet. I can't explain it, but eat more wholesome foods was akin to dieting and restriction; probably because diets and counters tell us we cannot have "XYZ" only "ABC". I've been scared and held back by my fear, fearful I would binge and gorge simply bc I was eating in a way that most helped my body. I was fearful I could ditch the judgement and diet behaviors.

With that said, I am with you on this September Reboot. I need it. My mind needs it. I need to challenge the negative chatter that is still holding me in a pattern that isn't safe. And to keep eating foods that don't benefit me in a way I want simply bc of fear, isn't healthy. I know this is what I need to work on, my anxiety level shot through the roof as I typed this. So it shall be, my reboot, to challenge and reconnect.

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Slim, I LOVE the idea of a "Healing Party!"

- Cathy

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Thanks for starting this thread Cathy. Coping with emotions in a healthy way is possible. We just have to find those ways.

Congratulations Amber on the birth of your darling little son.

emoticon Last night I was a little depressed and threw myself a "Healing Party". The difference between a Healing Party vs a Pity Party is awareness and quantity. I wanted something sweet to eat. I served myself a biscotti which I save for rare occasions and 6 MM's. I ate my biscotti a little bite at a time and savored each one. The last bite I didn't enjoy as much as the first bite so I knew that was enough. The MM's were ok. I found out I don't enjoy them as much as I thought I did. Next time I can leave out the MM's.

I felt much better afterwards. I wasn't stuffed or had any guilt. This morning, having slept better I figured out what my problem was and a solution for it. I am ready for a wonderful day. So much nicer than binging which always seemed to last for more than a few days.

This was my first Healing Party. Next time I am going to add some pampering afterwards.
Now if I can only remember to do this again next time I find myself emotionally stressed. I forget things so easily.

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.

Even if we lose the race, we are still a winner (just a slow winner).

As long as you keep moving, you are still lapping those on the couch.

Do not take things personally as it is never about us.

Don't find fault, find a remedy.

"The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking."
Albert Einstein
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Hi Amber!

Congratulations on your bundle of joy!!

Thanks for joining us on this "reboot." I too am frustrated by how easy it is to fall back into "diet mentality" or "restrictive eating." I feel so much more at peace with myself, my body, and my life when I let hunger guide my eating and cope with my emotions in more effective, direct ways. But sometimes that can be overwhelming because I have to sit with difficult emotions and figure out how to deal with them. In those moments, it seems easier to count calories . . . until I remember again that for me, counting calories always leads to overeating and disconnecting from my body.

My parents have been visiting, and we've been eating one meal out nearly every day. If I were in calorie-counting mode it would be a nightmare and I would be thinking about food all the time - what I ate, what I "coulda shoulda" eaten, how many calories it had, what I'll have to do later to make up for it, etc. Now it's so much simpler - when I'm hungry, I eat what sounds good and truly savor it. Then, I wait to eat until I'm hungry again. It's working out so well.

I've been staying active too. I'm training for a 5K and doing walking, yoga, Pilates, or biking on my off days. I'm also doing New You Bootcamp which is a fun series.

Usually these extended visits end with me feeling I have to go on a diet and lose the few pounds I gained while they were here. This time is different. Having given myself permission to eat anything I want, I realize I don't want to eat everything!

- Cathy

"Transformation is not a future event - it is a present activity." - Jillian Michaels


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9/2/11 8:44 A

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I am in! This is what I am striving to work toward very much. IE is the way to go for me. I added you as a friend since you're page is private... I couldn't view your blog. I like the concept of what you wrote. Why is it so easy to revert back to dieting mentalities? It frustrates me.

This is something that I've really been focusing on over the last couple of days. I love the way I feel when I eat intuitively. I love the fact that when I am hungry... I eat. With nursing a baby, that seems to be pretty much all the time, lol. If I was dieting, I would be working to ignore that rather than embrace it, realizing that there is a true physical reason my body is hungry!!

Again, thank you for posting this! Something that I am definitely working on!!

*Amber*
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Hey everyone!

SlimChick and I have been doing a "reboot" originally based on an email newsletter from Michelle Morand of the Cedric Centre but now modeled more on Michelle May's book "Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat." We'd like to invite more people to join us!

Intention: learn to recognize - and trust - physical hunger

Background Information: In her book, Michelle identifies three eating cycles: Over Eating, Restrictive Eating, and Intuitive Eating. Sometimes Overeating and Restrictive Eating combine in a powerful "eat-repent-repeat" cycle. Intuitive Eating breaks these cycles and restores natural, healthy eating patterns.

Steps:
1. When you feel like eating, ask, AM I HUNGRY?
a) If YES, proceed to #2
b) If NO, realize you have choices. You can eat any way, temporarily distract yourself with something to do, or address your needs directly. The choice is yours, there is no good or bad.

2. Ask three questions to help you decide what to eat:
a) WHAT DO I WANT? Are you craving a particular food? Sweet, salty, crunchy, soft, warm, cold? Recognize that food can and should be enjoyable.
b) WHAT DO I NEED? Have you eaten any vegetables today? Protein? Realize that food fuels your body and life.
c) WHAT DO I HAVE? What options are actually available to you at this time?

3. Eat - and enjoy it! Notice tastes, smells, textures. Try not to multi-task. Notice if you start feeling satisfied sooner than you expect to or want to. Notice how the food makes you feel while you are eating and when you are finished. If you are still hungry, eat more. If you are too full, take note of how hungry you were and how much you ate; consider starting with less food next time. Eat with the intention of feeling BETTER when you are finished than when you started. Allow yourself to experiment and learn about how food makes you feel over time.

4. Use the fuel you've consumed to live a life you love! Here's a few ideas to get you started but you will want to come up with your own list:
a) Consciously savor a simple pleasure every day
b) Engage in enjoyable physical activity - walk, bike, yoga, rest . . . you choose!
c) Take time to renew - read, meditate, take a bath, paint your nails, etc.
d) Connect with someone you love every day

If at any point you find yourself eating more than you are comfortable with, or feeling guilty about a binge, DON'T WORRY! Simply wait until you are hungry to eat again, no guilt required!

I'm committing to doing this for the month of September. I'll post here every day or so to explore the things this process brings up and offer support to anyone who wants to join me.

For more information about "Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat" check out my blog:
www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo
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nal_individual.asp?blog_id=4440779


Edited by: MIRRORBALLMOON at: 9/1/2011 (23:42)
- Cathy

"Transformation is not a future event - it is a present activity." - Jillian Michaels


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