Hi, Those adaptive devices are a royal pain-but after a while they do work. I am on week 4 after back surgery (no bending, lifting or twisting) and am having a hard time after the toilet too. Last week I had a day's bout of diarrhea and it was extremely frustrating! Finally just put a towel down and rocked back and forth to get what I missed with the "tongs". Not great-but worked.
It is getting easier to use them-but still hard. And right now I am carrying around a pouch attached to tubing since I now have a wound vac because my incision came open in 3 places. But it will get better and I know that. But I have had a couple of crying jags because of the frustration. Just keep on hanging in there! Diana
Diana TLKR 8/16/2010 Spinal Fusion 8/23/2011 Hip Issues 02/23/2014
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I know well how hard it is when something happens to put you off your normal schedule - but Hey!! Thats life - we all have some problem crop up from time to time!! I shreddeda knee cartilege about 4 weeks ago now and next week get a cataract done- so I won't be exercising for about 8 weeks in total - I dropped my calorie intake and thought - ok - I'll put on a couple of kilos - but as soon as I can get back to it - I'll work that off!! Meanwhile take a walk - I can't walk far but I get out - I breath fresh air and sunshine - I look at the flowers in the garden!!
And read the reply by KHFOUR - she is so very right!!
I remember when I was too overweight to wipe after the loo - I used a rag (damp) that I pulled through - it works too and if you have several and carry them in a thick zip top plastic bag you can cope!! I toured USA on a Round the world holiday with that and pads!! (no way was I going to miss a holiday like that!!) Amazing what you can do if you really want to - or have to!!
Finally - remember - the world has NOT stopped!! This is only for a relatively short time in your life -it seems never ending now - but it will end - there is light at the end of the tunnel!!
Sending you big hugs Kathy. Take things slowly and be good to yourself. We are here for you, you aren't alone!
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Kathy, I am so sorry you are going through all of this. We have all been there. Just vent to us as much as you need to. We are better listeners than food anyday. Take a little walk, outside if possible. That always puts me i perspective.
I'm not sure what basal joint surgery is but it sounds painful. I'm so sorry you're going through that. The addded stress of it being your dominant hand and having to work anyway must be horrible. While I can see that he is trying "tough love", the first thing I'd do is tell DH that 1 pair of pants is NOT enough and that even if you have to buy them from a second hand store, you need more. You don't need the added stress right now.
Keep your chin up and try to find something good in your life every day. If you look close enough, you'll find it. Today, for example, the sun is shining here and the day is glorious. And just in case you think I have no troubles of my own, let me tell you that I have been recently diagnosed with two kinds of cancer and I have about $40 to last until next payday a week from now. I could dwell on those problems (and I let myself for a little while) but then I look out the window and think what a beautiful day God has sent us. The rest of it is no longer so hard to take. I'll be praying for you that you find a way to feel the same way.
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First off, I am very sorry to hear of your troubles and current situation. I used to work as an OT prior to my health issues and I know how hard it is to use some of those adaptive equipments.
Second off, tell your D.H. to chill! His not understanding your situation is only making your current situation 10 times worse and will in no way ease your pain, nor make your emotional eating get under control. Sit him down, explain to him what you need in him, and what you need for yourself to get self healthy.
Now, for yourself, put yourself together. realize that this is all a temporary situation and that you will come out of this a whole person. How you come out at the other end, is up to you. You may not be able to use your dominant hand, but you can use your legs and go for a walk in the sunshine. Listen to some music, watch a favorite movie, call a good friend. Do what you need to make it through the day, without relying on food as a crutch. And when you have made it through one day, then get up, and go through the next day.
I struggle every day as an emotional and binge eater with major health issues. All I can do is offer support. But you will come out of this.
first i had basal joint surgery on my right hand my dominent hand. i am completely bandaged and will be casted next tuesday. i have to go back to work monday. i cannot wipe myself just got a comfort reach and quite use it with coordination or pull up pants or underwear. i have eaten for comfort but am causing more problems. i am down to 1 pair pants cause i keep gaining and ripping them beyond repair. dh says no more clothes till i lose weight i have lots of smaller clothes but no motivation to lose. i cant stop crying all i want to do is bury myself and never come out. i need serious help and some sympathy but i really need to lose my fat a$$.
In a prebariatric program hoping to get approval for weight loss surgery.
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