Lisa, you made great points and wrote it out so well; explaining how so many saw it and felt as well.
People are passionate with what they believe. Like religion and politics and we all know how heated these passions can get. I think next to these and even equal with these; is the passion of life choices for health and or humanitarian issues. Who doesn't get choked up seeing animals being abused. I have shed many tears over this. The control issues of personalites during these passionate moments is what I believe got in the way.
As an adult I do not need to be scolded and do not like it one bit. I also do not like to be bundled into a group or called names, because of my opinion or choices. Some people like to seperate people and place them in groups. We have done this through out our human history. Seperation is fine, when we choose like groups for our own. To be with others that share our passions. The problem I saw was these teams are open to all, and all choices.
I once was on a team, and I didn't follow their rules of food choices and I was ritaculed for it. I felt rejected, embarrassed and left...I wanted to fit in, and didn't. My error not theirs. I moved on. When we have such an open form here and in blogs we open ourselves up for many opinions. Which I so enjoy so I can see all the flavors in my choices, whether they be like mine or not. I am OK with strawberry when you pick choclate(analogy), but I do not want to be excluded and looked down upon for my choice, my differences.
Oh how we have beaten up people along this road; for their personal choices. We see it each and every day in our lives, through out the world as well. As we lump others into groups assuming they follow the typical sterotype (society is the "we" I use and human nature is the "we" I use). No person has lesser value than another...NO ONE!
To be treated like we are stupid (I hate that word) is an emotional hurt and not everything or everyone here is OK with that. So many of us carry painful situations that are part of our life's journey. Tact is needed, support is wanted and good sound information...so we have the tools to be successful.
There are lines that are crossed and when warnings are given, the warnings need to be followed. People can not be allowed to bully or hurt others. It is a leaders responsibilty to address anyone that is causing another harm or pain. So much time and space is given for the problem to be corrected and when it is not, the problem is looked at and a solution has to be made. When a person ignores the request and continues personal attacks (yes even in a private form) it can not be allowed or tolerated. These situations are hard for any leader to address, especially when addressing it with someone who is admirable and has benefical traits. There is a lot more to every situation than meets the common eye. This is not as simple as it may appear. It is not as simple as a diet plan, it is not as simple as we would like or want it to be.
I may not agree with what another chooses to do in their personal life, but I will fight for their right to do it. Until it starts harming or hurting another. We have to ask ourselves did the value out way the harm? Never, never can we look upon this in that eye or we have lost what value we hold dear here and in our society.
I wish to move on from this and build on what we have here. I absolutely love the excitement here and the open form of choices and the sharing. I pray we have learned from this and can move on with passion and respect.
Edited by: ERIN1957 at: 5/8/2012 (12:53)
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