(Rosa, here's the letter I wrote under a different topic. Warning: it's a loooong letter! But I'm sure you can relate to my feelings about my sister.)
I don't know my sisters weight, but she is seriously overweight. When I read of the man dying in the article, it reminded me of her. I worry about her.
That makes me think of another side to all this obesity epidemic: "denial". Just recently she was shocked when her husband made a comment that she might be an invalid in a few years at the rate she was going. She thought that was crazy--cause she still is getting out and doing a little shopping now and then, she is no invalid, she thinks! How dare he say that!!!
But the key word is she gets out "a little". Her life has really changed in the past few years and I think sometimes she doesn't even realize it. She rarely visits now and stays home most of the time. She doesn't feel well a lot, too and so she ends up sitting in front of the TV a lot. I would have to agree with her husband--I also suspect she could become bed fast in a few years if things don't change.
To be honest, it floored me in that moment that she was in such deep denial over this, that I honestly didn't know how to respond to her shock that someone would think she could become an invalid. I have often encouraged her to lose weight, and I have had to do it in a "round about" way, so she knows I'm not attacking her. She knows I could stand to lose some weight, too, so I'll say, "Let's get on a diet together and surprise everyone when we lose X amount of pounds by this summer!"
But the truth of the matter is, no family member wants to listen to another family member giving them advice. I'm just "little brother" who doesn't know anything. I ususally don't like it when my other sisters give me advice...so I know how that is. I just hope someone will eventually get to her, before it's too late.
We've had a family member or two to lose a large amount of weight. One of my nieces did and my sister noticed. I have before too. So it's not like there have been no examples. All I know to do is become that example again, and hope she will see again that it "can" be done--especially if "little brother" can do it! Ha!
Denial is an easy thing to fall into. It's really something I totally understand. I think a huge chunk of Americans are in denial. I think I fall into it easily (but am seeing some good changes lately---yaaaa!!!)
Food is such a comfort...it's hard to let that comfort go...but that's when folks like me realize what an addiction food has been for them, because it's hard to let it go and go from eating sandwiches and sweets to eating salads and fruit. That takes all the "fun" out of it!!
But when your body starts feeling better and your energy returns, then you realize just how badly you've been feeding your body trash, and not the fuel it needs. Then all those "no fun" veggies begin to seem like long lost friends!
T E R R Y
***Life has no remote. Get up and change it yourself!
***"I can do all things through Christ!" Phillipians 4:13
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