One of my greatest sorrows in life is my sisters struggle with weight. She thinks that's "who she is". She often says, "Why can't people just accept me for WHO I AM!" I don't argue with her about it, because I know that's her personal belief...but I totally do not think being obese is who either of us really are.
The best representation of this is something I saw on You Tube. It's the world record leader in wearing the most shirts. What does that have to do with being overweight? Well, as the guy puts more and more on, he begins to "look fat"!!! After seeing that video, I realized more that fat is just layers and layers of "fat shirts" that we've put on over the years and that can be removed.
And when this guy put on all 155 shirts, it added 100 pounds to his weight! So ask yourselves: should this guy go around town, with all these shirts on, and tell people "This is WHO I AM! Why can't people just accept me THE WAY I AM!!!!"? If he did that, he would be decieving himself...that isn't the way he is! In reality, he's a slim man hidden under 100 pounds of shirts. They can be taken off...and in the same way, our fat can be removed with diet, exercise and support from others.
Support from others? What does that mean? Well, this guy has so many shirts on, that you can almost be sure that at first he probably needs help removing the shirts (by comparison, we may need help at first getting slimmer---Weight Watchers, Spark People, etc...we need support from others.) But as he gets "slimmer", he probably can remove the shirts himself.
Here's the video and see if you don't get that same "wake up call" about how fat is something that can be "put on" and "taken off"...just like these shirts. (I wish they had put a video also of the shirts being removed--like he's "losing weight"!):
Excellent perspective! This is a journey. No one started out overweight, addicted to food, etc. Unhealthy eating habits built up over years can be overcome and changed. It's important to remember, though, that those habits and their consequences developed over time. No one should expect an overnight miracle. We need to be patient and forgiving of our individual selves and be our own best cheerleaders.
Edited by: PATTK1220 at: 7/13/2012 (14:05)
Patt in Minneapolis Leader, Forks Over Knives & Engine 2 Diet ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Until he extends his circle of compassion to include all living things, man will not himself find peace. ~ Albert Schweitzer
Mistakes are the portals of discovery. ~ James Joyce
We must be willing to let go of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. ~ Joseph Campbell
I just read a very thought-provoking quote by Holley Gerth: Your struggle is not your identity; it's your location at the moment." We tend to think of ourselves as "I'm the person who needs to lose 10 pounds (me), or I'm the fat boy, or I'm the person suffering from a mental illlness. We need to change that negative self-image to one of "I'm the one who can..." Good luck with your struggles; we all have them, but we are not our struggles and where we are today is not where we will be in the future.
Boni Co-Leader Vegan Fitness and Nutrition
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