WD what an amazing man your father is and you are so fortunate to still have him with you. My Dad was like one in the Dali Lamas statement and passed away at an early age, 68, only 3 yrs into his retirement. What a wonderful example your Dad is setting. We sure do need more people like him in this world of "all about me." Thank you for sharing your story.
This and your comment about how men connect their worth to their earning power resonate deeply with me. My father was such a man. Fortunately, he earned enough money to retire early--age 55--and has enjoyed nearly 30 years of real "life." I think he presents a perfect example of how dramatically someone can change once they realize their existence is finite.
He came home from a high-stress, major-responsibility corporate position, took off his coat and tie, put on a builder's apron and began constructing, free of charge, homes for low-income handicapped people. In so doing, he shifted his outlook from one of "how can I make a bigger raise this year?" to "how can I help this person in a wheelchair reach his kitchen sink?"
One of the few individuals, male or female, I have ever seen who got the point the Dalai Lama is making soon enough to live it.
Thanks for your post. I'm going to share it with my father and tell him once again how proud I am of him.
Margaret--Spring, TX The Beck Deck Crew!
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It is sad that men especially connect the worthiness and identity to theri jobs. Then when they wear their bodies down spend all the money they worked so hard to earn to try to repair their neglected health.
The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity answered, “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”
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