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5/4/13 8:40 P

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Thanks for all the support and feedback! I know I can get back on track, just need to take one day at a time!

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5/2/13 6:09 P

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Tia Maria AWESOME! emoticon

I am starting my ticker again since starting low carb....in the home strech!
You have no control over what you weigh...only what you do.
Progress NOT Perfection!


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5/2/13 1:44 P

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I lost my weight twice doing Slim4life and then slowly over about a year gained it all back again and an extra 10 pounds each time. After I lost the weight, they told me to count calories, but I think they should have told me to count carbs because I am so carb sensitive.

I have had to get it through my thick skull that I have to live this way as a lifestyle. My metabolism cannot handle all those carbs anymore. I am prediabetic, and I am trying to avoid being put on meds next time I go to the doctor in September.

So this time, fear is my motivation.

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5/2/13 11:10 A

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I agree Timariaan. Way to go!

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Jan 1st 2014- 231
Jan 1st 2015 - goal Onederland !!!**************************** One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar!


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5/2/13 10:40 A

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Wow! Timariaan.....thank you, you just made my day~

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5/1/13 9:07 P

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Congratulations, TiaMaria! You've done really well.

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5/1/13 8:21 P

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I can relate to all of you.

My weight has been a struggle since I was 5 and obese. I remember being 11 years old 5'5 and weighing 260lbs, yuppers at 11. I managed to get up to 330lbs after having my daughter at 23 and finally made a change. I found that spark people really did help me, joining teams that didn't have overwhelming commitments, it made me accountable. I have also self sabotaged myself many times. I found that as soon as I got into the 270's I got scared and ran back to food, so I must have gained 10-20lbs, 10- 20 times lol, no joke seriously.

I realized that 270 was my safe weight, and I had a lot of emotional issues to deal with and I recently dealt with them, last month to be exact and I have went from 279 - 257, woot woot 22lbs in a month and a half. That baggage was weighing me down.

Get your mental right and focus on just being a better you period and the weight will melt away. When I am happy I don't run to food and I have learnt to say no at outings, I used to think that I was being rude rejecting food BUT no wait, they are being rude to me, by offering me food and making me feel guilty after I have told them that I am on a diet. My feelings come before others when my health is in question.

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5/1/13 6:38 P

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thank you all for the information, motivation is the hardest part emoticon



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5/1/13 10:39 A

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I'm horrible at checking into this site, at keeping track online what I eat (I do have a notebook at home), and about staying focused in general. Life seems to get in the way, and I drop myself first. Thanks for the reminders and that we are not alone. focus, focus, focus...

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4/30/13 4:26 P

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I also think it would be worthwhile to check out the Beck Diet Solution books. I think the author's name is Judith Beck.She works with people on "cognitive behaviour." In other words if we change the way we think about things then we can be successful at almost any way of eating. It isn't a diet burt a way of thinking. She has workbooks and books etc. If you do the exercises that she suggests it really helps a lot. That is what I was working on before I started the low carb eating. I think it helped me to be able to stick with the low carb plan. There is a team here on sparkpeople but I don't belong to it any more. You do need to get the book if your were going to be on that team. One of the things she has you do is make like flashcards to remind yourself of positive statements etc. Another thing that was good for me was to list the Advantages to Weight Loss. I have this list in my blogs. It is really exciting and motivating to see or even check off things on your list as you are able to accomplish them after making progress in your weight loss journey. I just wanted to share this info because it really helped me a lot to not only change my way of eating but to change my way of thinking.

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RTKR - 6/23/11 - 305
Sept 2011 - 315
LTKR - 7/26/12 - 257
Jan 1st 2013 - 241
Jan 1st 2014- 231
Jan 1st 2015 - goal Onederland !!!**************************** One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar!


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4/30/13 2:10 P

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My response as well would be to look at the why of it. Self evaluation goes a long way to not repeating past patterns.

For me the key was taking the blame off of myself. I was morbidly obese for over 20 years. Struggled with weight since I was 8-10 yrs old. Back and forth endlessly.

The more I learned about biology and my own body (still a learning process!) the weight came off. I too focused on health over weight and looked at the big picture. Also not trying to be perfect but taking the perspective of evolving. Incremental improvement!!!!

And you are absolutely in a great place! Stay on the message boards to get daily support.

I am starting my ticker again since starting low carb....in the home strech!
You have no control over what you weigh...only what you do.
Progress NOT Perfection!


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4/30/13 12:46 P

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Wow, Maw, you said stuff that applies to me as well. I realized this week that my mom and my sister (who is 13 months younger than me) have always put me in the role of the odd one - they made fun of my body and resented how self-contained I am (I lock down my emotional responses around crazy people like them!), and I carry all that shame to this day. I got thinner at work a few years ago and drew toxic male attention that ultimately cost me the job (which I'd outgrown anyway) and all the "friends" associated with it.

I strongly believe that our feelings, beliefs, and emotions are huge factors in weight and body image. I gained my weight back at work so those two obnoxious men would quit oogling me and making comments (our so-called HR dept did NOTHING, but after I left I unloaded a lot of details on the attorney who represented the agency and the manager got fired - I consider that a happy ending!), and so that I could go back to being invisible.

Now that I am aware of all that baggage I want to put it behind me and I know that is part of the weight issue. I am at the point Suzanne mentioned - I want to make good food choices based on health, not on a scale number. I do not want to make food a moral issue (no guilt for bad choices!), but just eat to be strong and healthy while I work to heal the inside. I have Gary Taubes' book on my shelf and am bumping it up past some of the others I have haven't read yet!

Leslie

"Normal is not something to aspire to - it's something to get away from." -- Jodie Foster

"Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world." --Albert Einstein


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4/30/13 11:21 A

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I have pretty much the same story, although after having both kneeds replaced and losing 85 pounds and feeling so good I think that I have sort of worked through a lot of the emotional stuff somehow. This way of eating for over 18 months seems to have curbed so much of that stuff in me. I think it has taught me that I can get past is all. When I want to eat stuff that is not good for me now I stop and question and most of the time say no, especially to bread, potatoes, pasta, rice, etc. Reading Gary Taubes book :"Why we are fat and what to do about it" changed my life and took away so much guilt and shame from me, which I think just caused me to eat more for comfort.

Probably the biggest thing that has helped me stay on track is support from others. From my friends, my physical therapist, my friends at work, and most importantly my friends here on this team. Without this support I really don't think I would have been able to continue. Staying constantly in touch on spark and with this team has kept me going.

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RTKR - 6/23/11 - 305
Sept 2011 - 315
LTKR - 7/26/12 - 257
Jan 1st 2013 - 241
Jan 1st 2014- 231
Jan 1st 2015 - goal Onederland !!!**************************** One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar!


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4/30/13 9:46 A

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Well said, Maw! That really has given me something to think about as well. I know my weight loss is at least halfway tied to emotional baggage. Up thru college, I was very active and a gymnast. Later, though, in my 20s, I started to gain and got pretty close to 300 lbs. My mom used to be proud of me when I was going thru school, being popular and all; but, when I gained the weight, she started picking on me..'downing' me, saying unkind things like 'don't order everything on the menu!' It really destroyed my self esteem. I opted, at the time, for a THEN not well known, gastric bypass via some friends of mine who had gone thru it. After all was said and done(along with some cosmetic surgery for the tummy tuck), I was down to about 142 and I looked great!! BUT even then my mom wasn't satisfied and even to this day, finds things to knock me down. After the surgery, they put us on Atkins for life, along with vitamins. I've been on Atkins or low carb ever since. When I see myself getting out of my comfort zone, I go back to the 20 carbs a day to bring myself down. This is where I am now. January I was at 167 and I am now at 152. My goal WAS to get to 145, but I've decided to go break the 140s and get to 139,,just to say I can!! However, the closer I get, the more that little voice in my head tells me...why bother? you aren't going to please her! Or even if you lose the weight, guys are still going to find you old and unattractive. This past weekend, I was THERE and pretty much went off the wagon. BUT I come on here and know that my friends here will boost me up and help me get back on track. That and really enjoying the gym workouts and my health being so you now...keeps me going!! Tks for reminding me, Maw!

So hang in there, fellow loser! If you start feeling like that, come here and talk it out! Maw and all of us are all here to help you!

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4/30/13 8:44 A

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I've definitely been in your place! At 38 I was probably 100 pounds overweight, too. I know that at about 45 I was 175 pounds overweight. And, like you, I would lose and feel very good about it, and then quit. Intentionally sabotaging myself.

One thing that really helped me was to go to Overeaters Anonymous. It's a 12 Step program, like AA, that considers overeating, or compulsive eating, to be an addiction, just like drugs and alcohol. At the time I was in OA, there wasn't really much scientific basis for that, but there definitely is now. Especially the "white" stuff like flour and sugar. And all other grains and most high carb foods, too. So that part of the program has really been proven scientifically now.

A primary focus of the program, though, is the emotional part. You and I (at least I know it's true for me and I bet it's true for you, too) overeat in large part out of emotion. In particular, I know that that is why I quit eating properly when I have been successful. I'm scared. I'm not entirely sure what it is that I'm scared of, but I think it has to do with being "normal." With not having that big buffer of fat around me to "protect" me from the world at large. With losing that excuse of "well, after all, they just treated me like that because they're prejudiced against fat people. That's why I didn't get the job/promotion/friend/invitation/whatever. It's not about ME, it's about THEM and their issues with the fat." With not having the excuse of being too fat to do something, like take up a sport or try out for a play or go swimming or whatever I kind of sort of want to do but am scared to try.

Does any of this sound familiar? It took me along time to figure this out for myself, and I still find myself doing well until I come close to 200 and then bouncing back into bad habits until I get myself safely away from going under 200. I don't know why 200 is a magic number for me, but it seems to be.

So what do I do? Like Suzanne says, I focus on the health. Even when I have gained back 50 or more pounds (which I have done several times, but I've that's still about 50 pounds less than my highest weight), my cholesterol numbers have been fantastic. The doc said that he had lots of college students who wished their blood work came back like mine. I have also gone from being right on the borderline between pre-diabetic and diabetic to having normal blood sugar, even when I was gaining weight. And my blood pressure is now at the low end of normal instead of being at the high end of borderline high. Those are the things that have kept me eating low carb even when I was gaining weight.

I hope something here helps you. I don't usually share this much about myself in a public place like this. I thought about sending you a SparkMail instead of going public, but I know we are not the only two with this issue, and I hope that I can help you and maybe someone else, too.

Best of luck, and stick with us here! Most of us have gone through times when we just weren't doing it right, and have found that posting here even when we're going haywire with our eating makes it a lot easier to get back on track. You won't find anyone judging you here, except in a good way. And we're always here to listen.

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4/30/13 7:26 A

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This is the place. I find listening to Gary Taubes on my Ipod when doing stuff around the house helps keep me motivated. Talking to other LC people helps too.
You have been overweight a long time, you have done a lot of damage to your body. Keep the focus on your health, not the weight loss.

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4/30/13 3:05 A

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Hi all, I'm Erica and this is my second go around on SP. Thought I'd come back and try and find some much needed motivation! I finally found that low-carb lifestyle works best for me for weight loss. From July to November 0f 2012 I lost 28 lbs! But, like I usually do, when I start having success, I just....stop. I don't know why, I just do! I know I can do it, I know I deserve it, but I just go back to my old eating habits and can't get back on track! I've gained back about 15 pounds :( Any advice from anyone? I've been overweight since about age 9 and have 100 pounds to lose. I'm only 38 and I want to have another 50! Thanks for any comments!

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