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Oh, Kitty, I wish I had some glorious wisdom or advice to offer. My younger son is in your shoes too, and I haven't been able to help him much at all.

I know this much, though. Laziness is not a sin, it's a symptom. It's not a character trait, it's a dysfunctional behavior. Kyle's trapped in this cycle of boredom, and we've just been coming to understand that it's rooted in anxiety and depression that he's tried to cover up all these years.

And I know this too. You might not be able to break the cycle without help. Do you have access to any kind of therapy at all? Sometimes just having someone objective to talk with can work wonders. Maybe your pastor?

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Kitty, you are WORTH it to take care of yourself and your life. Big hugs. You need to pull yourself up and move forward. emoticon

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Well Woubbie, Looking at myself from as I would if I weren't IN my body, in the 60s people would have called me white trash, cause I've been lazy all my life and now am living in deplorable conditions because I can't make myself make decisions about what to keep and what to do with the rest.

I think I gave up about 13 years ago when I had a daughter living with me with her baby boy in one bedroom and my other daughter's kids in the other room and the fist girl, was pregnant again, and I was buying stuff on credit just to take care of everybody and got overwhelmed, got hurt, never did recover.

Every problem now seems insurmountable. Right now I have a crockpot that I need to empty cause it got mold in it and I'm sitting here typing. the dog just can't seem to be house trained and the whole house stinks now even though I have blocked him off from going upstairs to prevent him from pooping in the bedrooms we don't use as much because you have to walk into them in the dark to turn on the lights. dog bombs in the dark aren't nice.

I'll keep trying til I die, then my kids will toss it all in a dumpster and be mad at me the rest of their lives. or pity me which is just as bad. LOL


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I love walking with Leslie Sansone right in my livingroom. People just think it's walking/marching, but it is also kicks, knee lift, side steps and other things. I've been
walking with her since 2013. It beats the elements and predatory creatures around me. This includes pack dogs, rattle snakes, scorpions, coyotes, cougars and bears oh my!! So the safety of my living room is where it's at. One thing I've noticed is I have sculpted my legs really nicely with Leslie! I do 30 minutes to 1 hour a day. Lately I've been doing so much yardwork I limit my walk, but I keep faithful to it everyday. And I definitely get my Vitamin D when I am outside working.

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It's an interesting topic for sure. I was just reading this yesterday:

https://www.paleofx.com/why-diets-fa
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and one of the points he makes is that the body constantly strives for homeostasis - the tendency of the body to try to maintain a stable condition internally even when faced with external changes. It's how we try to maintain a constant body temperature whether it's cold in the room or hot - we shiver or we sweat.

I particularly loved the picture of all the body builders taking the escalator instead of the stairs. "...bodybuilders just know that taking those stairs is a needless effort. Conserving mental energy is far more important than expending physical energy. Bodybuilders instead invest their energy in structured exercise."

Pursuing comfort to the exclusion of all else is destructive, but expecting yourself to maintain a regimen that involves frequent or ongoing discomfort is unrealistic. So the sweet spot is somewhere in the middle.

I think of it as the Couch to 5K mentality. Not "all or nothing". Not "no pain, no gain". More like accepting exercise and food discipline in the same way you accept brushing your teeth every day or doing the dishes. Yeah, those aren't your favorite moments, but the slight discomfort of doing them daily is more than outweighed by the benefit of having clean, healthy teeth and sanitary dishes to eat off of.

The article gave me some food for thought. I've built up to a low to moderate fitness level over the past few years, but really put off getting into a structured program, but I think that probably is my next best move. Now to figure out how to accomplish that without having to join a gym!

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just a moment to write this thought. when I can find my page I'll post it as a blog post. is anybody else finding that they have to accept that comfort, which I've pursued since childhood, is anathema to health? I'm not really saying that a moment of comfort, or even an hour of comfort is wrong, but that the pursuit of comfort, the eschewing of discomfort, is maybe the cause of some of our problems!

I made myself do two chair workouts on spark people yesterday and my stomach is TIGHT, almost to the point of a cramp or something, and it made me think maybe I need to accept that I won't be discomfort free if I want health. I should be mostly pain free, but not discomfort free, maybe never. it's a weird thought.


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5/24/16 9:52 P

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Thanks guys. A momma can't help but be worried. She is getting the best of care and everything is fine at this point so we just have to keep her calm and stress free!

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5/24/16 8:27 P

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Best wishes for your daughter and the baby.

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(((hugs)))

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Holding good thoughts for your daughter's pregnancy.

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My daughter has been pulled off of work due to some pregnancy complications. She is 31 weeks. Just gotta keep that baby in there for another few weeks. Hopefully, without working her bp will stabilize. I won't be going anywhere for the next few weeks as we wait to see what unfolds. :-( So far baby is doing fine. She is going in 2-3 times a week to the doc.

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Feeling like crap. Last time I felt this way I dropped about 5 lbs. Not sure if that's what is happening or if something else is going on. I'm on track as far as food etc. Will add some electrolytes and see if that helps. But not sure I can consume anything right now. NOT HUNGRY

Didn't drop weight. Tummy just unsettled after too much fat for the day.

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That's great, CalGal!

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Our first walk through/approval happens next Wednesday. I guess we have to approve what they have done so far. I have already seen a major oops...they reversed windows in the family room and will have to change that. I let them know BEFORE they installed the glass, but did they change it? No, they went forward. Sometimes just don't understand the mindset of a corp that has to follow the plan until approval time. They will spend FAR more money doing it their way than to just fix it when brought to their attention. Ugh. But other than that, it looks like they are actually making good progress. Our tile roof is getting put on. Rough plumbing and electric should be done. Its looking like a house!

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Lol at Maw. Yeah, I DO know eating isn't a way to deal. Got it handled!! Thanks.

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I'm glad your house is coming along, but sorry your daughter can't get your house. Hope it sells quickly so you can at least get that part of the stress over with!

By the way, just in case you don't already know this - eating is not a good way to handle stress! emoticon

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One of the purposes of downsizing was to reduce the mortgage for our retirement in 5 years. We could carry the note, but that would defeat the purpose of the sale. Unfortunately, she has created the problem with the credit, we've helped her before, and we don't think it equitable to our other daughter to do so again. They make good money but don't have the credit. I'm not willing to gamble with our retirement, so if she can't make it work (and we already discounted the purchase price for her &50,000.) its a no go. I won't carry money back on top of that. Just not a prudent thing to do.

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Can you rent it to your daughter, until she can qualify? Or do you need the equity from the sale, to afford your new one? I'm sure there is a way to work it out, since it is her parent that is selling. Realtors know lots of loopholes.

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Okay, am beginning to stress. My new house is well on the way...looks like another 3 maybe 4 months. My daughter is probably not going to qualify for this home, so we now have to get much more done to put it on the market. My brain won't shut down, and I'm spinning my wheels. UGH. My stress has the habit of manifesting in physical ways so need to find a better way of relieving it. Today the work begins. Baby shower here on Sunday. Live in Guest will be arriving for 6 weeks the end of May. She asked if we had room for a friend of hers (which I normally wouldn't blink at) but I just don't think my mind could cope with two extras living here while my home is on the market. I had to decline. One will be enuf. I've known her for many years and she is a dear friend of ours and our daughters, so like having family here. But a stranger? I wouldn't do well.
Home is getting the roofing done this week and much of the rough plumbing/electrical. Progress!

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Jenny, thanks! I hadn't even noticed that. Looks like I'm averaging about 62% fat, 13%, and 25% protein. Not bad for not trying very hard.

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I track everything with the SP tracker and if you scroll down to the bottom of the page where your weekly totals/water consumption are, there's a pie chart with the percentages! :)

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Jennywren, how do you figure the percentages? mI never could figure that out!!

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DETERMINATION=FOCUS=PERSISTENCE=CONSIS
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If you are tired of starting over, STOP GIVING UP!

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They've been out and it was a simple fix. Whew.

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Oh no! hope it's fixed soon! Went to turn on the a/c last night and it took a little fiddling to get it to finally pop on! We were sweating for a min (figuratively AND literally!)

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New well a couple months ago. No water today. UGH. Call in to the well folks.

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James!!!! I promised my numbers for you today! I thought I ate like a piggy after work (I was soooo hungry for some reason) but ended up with :

Total cals: 1342
Total Carbs: 17
Total fiber: 4
Net carbs: 13
Fat: 102
protein: 87

Percents:
Carbs: 5%
Fat: 69%
Protein: 26%

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Agree.

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I think a lot of people unknowingly defend their way of eating so THEY don't feel guilty.


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The craziest is that my parents have done LC for years, and the last 5 or so they haven't been strict about it. My dad says "I have granola and fruit for breakfast... " and proceeds to me me what he eats through out the day... and then says "I don't know why I can't lose weight".... smh


That's about the same as my mom saying "oh it only has a *little* dairy in it, surely dd17 can have a spoonful of it" ummmmmmm she' s dairy allergic, no, she can't. not even a little bit. This is the woman who put me on the Feingold diet when I was 7 for ADHD and was so super hyper vigilant about all ingredients, etc in my food, knowing it could cause me a reaction.

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What is wrong with people. I had the same thing happen when I was up on the mountain, my SIL insisted I try this gluten free, sugar free, everything free, except when I read the ingredients it had 27 carbs. Arrrrgghh. People just don't get it, until it happens to them. She thought since this item (cardboard bread) would be a perfect sub for regular bread. I simply told her I don't eat bread, in any form, thank you very much. Low carb means little or no carbs. My Son was all kinds of proud because he ate a banana! I told him it has 24 net carbs (3 fiber) He freaked. I told him if he were to go with LC he needs to pay attention to the ingredients. He has a stomach on him that needs to go away. He has serious back problems.
Why can't they just take a simple No thanks for an answer. We shouldn't have to fight people to get healthy.



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I used to use food as a reward, as I get older I realize how stupid that was, so I'm working hard to change it!

funny story. Went to mom and dad's yesterday and my mom has been DYING for me to try this pumpkin soup that tastes "just like panera's soup" that she made. Me thinking carbs, and she knows I'm LC, I wasn't really thrilled about it and figured there were other things not "Jenny friendly" in there (onions, garlic, curry), I tried a taste of it. It was SO GROSS! I told her it tasted like pretzels (it did!) and it was very sweet. my mom said next time she needs to add MORE honey! LOL then dad was shocked when I said it was too sweet, wasn't for me.

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As long as the rewards is not food. That would make a whole lot of sense to reward oneself in another way. A new pair of jeans, a new purse, a mani/pedi (this to me is the ultimate reward!) A lot of us, put ourselves on the back burner, to provide the needs of the family.
Another reward to me, is alone time, with feet up, a good book, no computer no TV. Little things doesn't have to cost, except for time. Which a lot of us don't have much of.
Too many use food as a reward, is what I was trying to get across. I don't understand eating something that you know is not good for you, how can that be a reward? I would think backpedaling and undoing a lot of work. It takes more time to lose, and half the time to gain it back.
I do have a serious sweet tooth, that I am going to have pulled! lol And as long as I have it, I don't get little rewards of sweets, no way.



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When I say "rewards" I mean I don't have a set "when I lose 5 lbs I get a new...." but rather I allow myself to get something new when I need something for a special occasion, rather than trying to make due with too big stuff, etc. If that makes sense? I have so many other things to spend on (bills, kids, bills, kids) that I sometimes forget about me and the positive changes I"m making. I have to realize how well I am doing and that I deserve to treat myself every now and again, that I'm WORTHY of rewards.

I dunno, I don't think I'm explaining myself well. This is a lifestyle change for me, absolutely, but I have to recognize these changes along the way, which can be hard for me. So a new shirt as a "reward' every now and again is good, because it's my way of acknowledging I see the positive changes I'm making.

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Honestly rewards would never work for me. Rewarding ourselves for changing our eating habits to become healthy, would be enough of an award for me.
If I started in on any amount of chocolate, I would be done for. We have to regard this as a lifestyle change, to help save a life "ours" It's for the rest of our lives. Sugar and it's fellow devious buds are no longer an option. If you have the will power to say NO to a binge good for you. But I don't. I have the will power to be healthy. Isn't rewarding ourselves one of the reasons we are on this journey anyway? Emotional eating, excitement over something special. Occasions. Nuh uh. We should accomodate what is good for us, not for the occasion. I won't even touch jello myself, especially since it's made from animal bones. And definitely learned my lesson, with sugar free anything. I got those Russel Stover sugar free candys long ago, ate almost the whole bag, and was actually ill from so much aspartine.

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James- thank you! I am losing slowly, but that's ok. Not sure I'm losing as much fat as I expect (really only down maybe 1 or 2% since starting?) but I'm down 6 lbs since 4/20, which is good! :) It's going down, feeling better so I'm good. Will try to remember to post my numbers tonight.

Rewards: sticky sometime, right? because I always associate it with food. We are blessed too, but make my rewards things like a new pair of pants, or a new shirt, a pair of new shoes. Going to have coffee with DH before the kids get up on the weekends, getting hydro massage after a workout. I'm learning to find rewards without food! :)

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April, I like the idea of money in a jar for new clothes for every pound lost. The pants are getting loose so will need new ones soon.

James, I like the idea of going out to the top of a building to see the city. I just always seem to do better when I have some fun little thing to look forward to. My latest is a new workout video that has been fun.

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I love eating low carb and have actually been eating this way to control blood sugar issues for some time. I rarely if ever eat refined carbs, mostly just good whole foods. What I reward myself for is not overeating. That has been my problem, portion control,, and now that I am doing it the weight is moving off. So rewards have been an incentive to me not to overeat. Some low carb foods take more time and fuss to prepare, so an example of a reward would be to stick to the plan today, then take the time to make a really loved fussier food that is low carb and fits in the calorie range. Or some cuts of meat are pricier than others, as I usually go for budget cuts, but a steak can be a nice treat sometimes.

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I was responding to a sentence in the middle of CALGAL98's post:
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My hubs and I have most all we need and want (We've been very blessed). There really isn't anything that would be a big reward.
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So I was thinking of a "reward", nothing big, not food, but something special. I was just brainstorming on something "special". For me that could be to go to a hockey game, I haven't been to a live one in decades.

Another special thing for myself would be to go to the top floor of one of the buildings n the downtown core of the city. It has a ride up many floors and the observation floor has a super view in all directions.

Maybe one of my twenty one neutrons misfired, and I had a thought glitch. I'm like that.

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The treats I have are usually sf jello with sf whipped cream. But I really just consider them part of the woe. Other than that not usually a treat person as I have a history of binging and THAT doesn't work for me. If there is something I want I can eat it, but I usually just don't. I am planning a glass of wine today for Mother's day. Bringing a really nice wine and going to indulge. I might do that 3-4 times a year. Just one. But I really don't tell myself that I CAN"T have something. I usually just prefer not to. I have a long way to go and am very content right now. :-)

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JAMES, I think you mean JEANNEL60, who posted "Just curious, what kind of rewards do people use to keep themselves motivated?"

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CALGAL98,

The word you used was "reward". I said treat, but in no way did I mean food. I meant something nice for yourself.
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I love to read, and I love to sew, and I like cooking for my family although I don't get to do that any more, my daughter decided that she has the larger dining room so she's going to do all the cooking. Anyway, I would consider watching TV while I rode the stationary bike a reward. going to the pool is a reward if I have someone to go with. I realized that I like to do things with people, particularly my family or church family.

Just got back from our monthly after church fellowship which was especially nice cause the girls who were unmarried or hadn't had kids yet did the meal and it was all finger food so no cleanup. Church is where I feel most content so it's a reward to go, especially since we travel an hour each way to get there. during snow or ice storms or especially bad cold snaps we can't go.



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Like Woubbie, I dropped grains, sugar and processed foods and never looked back. The only thing I eat that I consider a "treat" is 10 grams of 90% chocolate. And even that is good for BP and provides a bit of magnesium. Though at 10 grams, I'm sure it doesn't provide much. Off plan food would trigger me big time. We have hot springs here, and I do like to soak when I can. But to me this is just the way I eat now and treats aren't necessary.

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I'm not really looking for treats. Thanks for thinking of me, though. We do most all of those things, or have done. I don't need treats to keep me on this way of eating/living. :-)

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CALGAL98,

Looking for a non-food treat.

Is there a special place in your city that you haven't gone to?

An observation tower, or lookout point? Maybe a sporting event in an arena? Maybe a live play?

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It took me almost 6 weeks to drop a couple pounds. When that scale moved I felt as though I had gotten the best reward in the world. My hubs and I have most all we need and want (We've been very blessed). There really isn't anything that would be a big reward. Food is not an option as a reward. I actually enjoy eating the way I do and don't feel deprived, so its kind of counter intuitive to begin changing that with off-woe *foods*.

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Hmmm. Interesting thought. I can't think of anything I do that qualifies as a reward. That would seem to imply that eating low carb is in some way a punishment or a discipline, and I don't look at it that way at all.

I came to this way of eating in a flash of insight. Someone recommended the book Why We Get Fat and What To Do About It, and overnight I changed my eating habits forever. That suits my "evidence-based" brain to a tee. I discover something that works (and why it works) and there's really no decision involved, I just do the thing that works. I didn't go through any mourning period for bread and pasta and sugar, though I did have to negotiate with myself over alcohol and chocolate, lol!

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I usually like to reward myself with time or little gifts. If I've had a really good day I might reward myself with an hour of guilt free time spent on something I love to do.For me it might be an hour on my spinning wheel or going out for a drive. I might buy myself a new yarn or something definitely not food relate. I use food as a longer term reward. If I can stick to this way of eating for x amount of weeks or months I will treat myself to my favorite food.It is nice though because the longer I live this way the more my favorite foods become low carb friendly. Then for my long term reward I put $2 in a jar for every pound I lose and when I get to my goal weight it will be a nice start to some new clothes or a small outing of some kind.

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I've tried rewards like that in the past. Unfortunately, they just don't work for me. I have no discipline! I either give myself the reward even if I didn't earn it, OR I feel like I didn't work hard enough and don't ever give myself the reward. Which leads to all kinds of problems for me.

But if you have more discipline than I do, here's the kind of things I rewarded myself with. Long hot baths, buying small things to make me happy (like an inexpensive potted flower or a new color of nail polish or a book), going out to see a movie, visiting a park I normally wouldn't because it's far away. The food rewards were the ones I had the worst trouble with. I would usually eat them even if I didn't deserve them emoticon

Good luck! Hope you can find rewards that work for you.

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For sure the weight loss and good health is then ultimate reward but it's nice to have daily rewards too, not just waiting once a week to weigh in.

The gift I'm giving myself this year is a healthy me!


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The weiht loss is my reward and my body getting smaller.

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We don't want to have to say Being cremated is my last hope for a hot, smokin body!

Never trade what you want at the moment for what you want the most!

"Suffering is in the indecision"

Remember: If nothing changes, NOTHING CHANGES!!

If you are tired of starting over, STOP GIVING UP!

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Just curious, what kind of rewards do people use to keep themselves motivated? I was reading about how our brain gives us a dopamine "feel good" surge when it senses a reward. I realize I do that a lot and am pretty reward driven, just now am trying to give myself healthy rewards. It might be a low carb snack I really like if I stay on track with calories that day, like microwave flax crackers and cheese. Or it might be a non food reward, like a movie or book. I like incorporating rewards into my meal plans, like if I eat the meh lunch of chicken breast mayo salad then I get the low carb treat food that I like for snack. I am trying to come up with rewards for exercise, such as watching a TV show if I complete X minutes of workout. I know exercise and healthy eating are rewards in themselves but my brain seems to thrive on the carrot-on-a- stick approach to keep me moving. Anyone else have ideas?

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That's for sure! I'm grateful that my hubby is pretty open to LC (he's trying to lose about 20 pounds himself).

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