|Author:||Sorting Last Post on Top ↓ Message:||
well, its not exactly a short term solution and I still struggle with it but my meditation practice has helped me alot in kind of a silly way. I frequently get an itch when I'm meditating and feel a compulsion to scratch it. I realized early on that this is kind of a metaphor for every type of craving and compulsion so I started trying to "work" with the itch during meditation. Noticing the itch, going to my breathing, back to the itch, seeing how the feeling changes, when i can't handle it back to the breath and so on. If I am able to sustain this for about 15 minutes the itch passes. I try to use this technique for binging. Trying to be mindful and if I'm not successful trying to stay aware and not turn away from the craving with disgust or sadness or ?? and staying compassionate with myself and all others who are suffering being stuck. A book that I found (and find) very helpful is The Gift of Our Compulsions.
I definitely have trouble with binges if I'm stressed, frustrated, or bored. If I am on a binge then it isn't just overeating. I may start with trying to have a "healthy" binge. All I can say is, don't ever, ever binge on baby carrots. A pound of baby carrots will not digest quickly or easily;) yes, that only happened once.
Most of the times I want sweets....brownies, pie, cookies, doughnuts...occasionally something salty thrown in. Trying to sub other foods typically doesn't work for me. I end up binging on whatever I wanted in the first place.
There has only been one thing that has helped me get a handle on my binges and that would be crafting. After my huge binge episode I stumbled on the art of knitting and that has been a lifesaver for me. Knitting and other crafts do the two things I need them to do: 1) keeps my brain busy, 2) keeps my hands busy. If I just go for a walk, I walk and obsess over what I want to eat. I've even gone on walks and came home determined to binge (and I acknowledged it was a binge). Knitting is an active meditation for me. Unfortunately it seems like I'm now on a spend money binge-- I want to buy everything I see! Yeah, manic but it's getting a bit better (or maybe it seems that way because I'm broke).
Have you found positive ways to deal with it?
I'm also a rebel eater! Getting better about it, but Damn, January was one hell of a stressful month for me and I admit not only do I eat in rebellion, I didn't exercise out of it too!
* What triggers EmoEating for me?
I have gotten so much better over the past 2 years with emotional eating that it is almost gone. However I find that I will be more emotional in the food department when it comes to family or ppl I cared about (and assumed cared about me) that make comments to me or are in general just hurtful. It doesn't have to be a direct link bwt hurt and my weight, just a sense of being totally overwhelmed and not really able to step outside of the situation and access it with clarity. Like I said, doesn't happen often anymore, but when it does, I'm hit hard.
* DO you binge on anything in particular?
I'm a sweet-salty kind of girl. I love me some coke. I have one every day as is, but I'll go above that on a binge and have 2-3 total for the day. I also love extra chocolate, cake, chips and dip, a little extra portion of a meal I am eating. But mostly, something sweet and/or salty.
* Have you found positive ways of dealing with it?
I keep an emotional journal. Anything that is bothering me, I write it out. If I cannot let's say it's too emotional for me to sit in silence and write with, I go to my husband. I yell, scream, cry, and melt into him. He's my rock and a safe place, a trusted place. When writing isn't an option, I talk/yell it out. I'm also a believer in the power of Prayer. I pray, I just crumble and pray.
interesting observations, BeatriceBunny. I had that problem when I was trying to quit smoking. I just really rebelled every time some judgemental non-smoker would say something. I had to mentally separate what i was trying to do from what anyone else was doing, saying or wanted me to do. Really hard though. I like that idea of chocolate cake on a skinned knee! Great way to think of it. thanks for your thoughts.
Yes. It took me a long time to admit that I am an emotional eater because I actually don't eat due to stress.
I'm triggered by rebellion when people around me start restricting/diet talk. I eat when I'm happy and I want to celebrate. I eat to bond with other women. My biggest emotional eating trigger is boredom/need for excitement.
I usually don't binge in the sense that I "eat the kitchen." I wait until my normal meal time and then eat something I wouldn't normally have chosen (comfort food) or eat until I'm stuffed. Usually it revolves around rich or exotic foods or starchy comfort foods.
Over the past year, I have developed some effective strategies. I have an after-the-fact process that has helped me recognize my emotional eating habits. Basically, I realize that I've over-eaten, and I journal about why. I just figured out the bonding with other women one last week, in fact. Once I know why, I figure out other strategies to meet those emotional needs. (I have a friend who refers to this as not trying to put chocolate cake on a skinned knee.) For example, the realization that I eat when I am bored resulted in me bringing art supplies, a journal, video games, and my camera on the road with me.
The rebellion trigger is much MUCH harder for me. I'm still working on that one.
I'm curious as to how the members here deal with emotional eating, whether its eating to make up for past deprivations or to reduce stress or to provide companionship or whatever?
So I guess what I'm asking is:
What triggers emotional eating for you?
Do you binge on anything in particular?
Have you found positive ways to deal with it?
For me the trigger is usually stress, I tend to binge on sweets or comfort foods (mac and cheese, mashed potatoes, etc...) or if its not a full-on binge, I'll just eat something when I'm not really hungry for it. My positive compromise has been to let myself eat it, but to try and stay aware so I don't just mindlessly binge. This is not always successful, but has helped alot. However, I've been less successful trying to substitute other soothing activities. Food just always seems easier and more of a sure thing.