Yesterday I was able to go to the gym right away in the morning while she was still sleeping...today I will be able to do a workout dvd with her watching...she actually enjoys that and it makes that part easier for me...I have had people coming over and holding her while I am around and than leave the room and come back...so far so good and building on that for right now. Thank you everyone for your ideas and encouragement! It has helped me to understand that I need to focus on me and that will help me with the kids.
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This is where it gets tough...my husband is working 400+ miles away and my daughter was a daddy's girl. She was really good about going to other people...and it just switched when he had to go off to work...he does 20 days out 10 home...He had no problem with watching her while I went and it was nice bonding time. I only go for the treadmill and don't spend much more than 1/2 hour there, so its not that much, but just enough for her to get mad. We did the clingy baby with our three year old...and still have small problems here and there and I really don't want that with her....
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At the risk of sounding like a "old know it all" I will say that you are reading more into the baby's crying then it warrants and even if she/he (sorry) is somehow making the connection it is a normal experience and one that teaches him you go and come back. Chances are it is just a reaction to a change in your routine and the baby will adjust. The last thing you want to do is stop doing things because it makes the baby cry. Most instances of separation anxiety begin at age 6 monthes and peak around 9 months. I completely understand how upsetting baby's crying will make you feel, and I would encourage you to make a swift departure and then call the home about fifteen minutes later and see if baby has settled down. Chances are all is well. In the event the baby is still upset, consider enlisting your husband to watch the baby when he gets home from work, or better yet, if you work outside the home extend your time outside of the house so that you don't come home and leave agan. If all this fails, then remember children change fast and this week's problem will be gone and replaced with a new one next week.
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This is the same post I did in C25K, but I wanted to put it here too:
So my youngest (3.5 months) made it through the first 2.5 weeks of me going to the gym and leaving her with family...now she cries when anybody holds her thinking I am leaving again...How in the world am I supposed to be able to continue training if she stays like this? I can't take her and big brother (3 years) out for a jog because I don't (and can't afford) a jogging/double stroller, and I really want to keep going to the gym since I am paying a monthly fee now. Any ideas???
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