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7/8/10 10:23 P

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Knuckles, this works for me--perhaps it will work for you.

I, too, like to spend time on the computer, and I value that 'escape' time (not as much as you do!). I like to feel like I have had time to play and relax every day--before I do anything 'useful'.

So, I set a timer. I do 30 minutes of goofing off (I started with 45, but I shortened it to 30, and still found it satisfactory). I immersed myself in my games for that time. If I get interrupted (even for a bio break), I pause the timer, and finish out my 'fun' time.

After that, I can say 'I had time to play and I'm a bit relaxed... I can do a bit of work'.

I then set my timer for 15 minutes of exercise--usually walking, because I can think while I walk. While I exercise, I think of a few things to do when I am done for the home. My mental list has to be short enough that I can remember it (and I may use part of that 15 minutes of exercise to recite the list a few times), yet long enough to be about 15-30 mins of work. If that doesn't work for you: set a timer. :)

I then go do those things, and when I'm done, I return to the computer, repeat this cycle:

30 mins play
15 mins exercise
15-30 mins on the home

This way, I get my 'fun' time in, but it doesn't take over the evening.

Hope this helps you.

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"Growing old is mandatory. Growing up is optional!" --my dad

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MARTHA116's Photo MARTHA116 Posts: 747
7/8/10 9:24 A

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Computer time probably offers escape.

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7/7/10 9:00 P

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Caring for your son must be really stressful for you. Don't be too hard on yourself. Tackle your other tasks in small bits as you get time and energy.

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7/7/10 6:57 P

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my older son and i split the duties so neither of us get burned out. it is hard especially when you also have to provide for the household income

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7/7/10 6:21 P

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Doing the best you can on any given day is emoticon

Set small, accomplishable goals.

I also have to EARN 'play time'.....
ie: so many minutes paying bills is equal to so many minutes playing here on SP

Whatever it takes....that's what I do.

Caregiving is a very difficult job.
Are you able to get someone to come in to relieve you a couple hours a week?

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7/7/10 6:16 P

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we were luck and didn't lose anything. it was very scary though. the main thing i am dealing with right now is my severely physically disable adult son, who was in the hospital for a month this spring due to respiratory failure and now needs alot more assistance at home. that seems to like all my emotional energy some days.

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7/7/10 5:42 P

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KNUCKLES145 - I just spent some time visiting your page.
Did you experience loss during those fires?
Even if you didn't - your neighborhood did and that is a traumatic experience for sure.

I went through a fire in 1992.....it took a very long time for me to get myself together.
Rebuilding didn't fix the emptiness in my heart.

Be sure you take that into consideration before you are too hard on yourself....
and BEST OF SUCCESS to you....one 'area' at a time emoticon

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7/7/10 5:29 P

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My sister use to send my flylady e-mails.

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7/7/10 4:39 P

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flylady has a vibrating timer you can put in your pocket (sneaky, sneaky!)

Maybe it is just a tough time right now. Anyway, we are here with you!

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7/7/10 3:57 P

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I do that at home. I really noticed how much focus I lacked this weekend. I was cooking something and I would get distracted while I was washing my hands after rolling meatballs. I saw that the counter next to the sink was a little dirty so I started cleaning that when I realized I was in the middle of cooking.
I can't really set a timer at work though so I have to figure out a way to accomplish the stuff I keep putting off. I did get that spreadsheet loaded into the system but I did it because I felt accountable to someone and it wasn't my boss. It was somebody on Spark People. I guess it doesn't matter why it gets done. I wonder what I should work on next?

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7/7/10 3:27 P

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You've heard of CIRCUIT WORKOUTS?
--systems like Curves use this method of working out.
small bits of time spent on one thing - then move on to the next station.
--DVD workouts would be similar with a few minutes of cardio and then a few minutes of weights.

Well....I incorporate this CIRCUIT method into my cleaning schedule when I simply can't focus on one thing.
LIKE TODAY..... emoticon

I set the timer for 20 minutes and do something I don't particularly care for.....
emoticon goes off and I move to the next 'station'.
I set the timer for 30 minutes and do something that I like....
LIKE SPARKPEOPLE emoticon

I can get a lot accomplished in my allotted time and not feel overwhelmed by any one thing.

Let me know if this works for you.

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7/7/10 2:58 P

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Maybe you need a moritorium on your computer games. We procrastinate when it is something we really don't want to do like the dishes. No one wants to do the dishes and we are always hoping that someone will pick up the slack but that's not going to happen.
So what are you putting off at this moment? I am putting off entering a spreadsheet. Well, now it's up to my customer to revise it so I have to pick something else. I am putting off taking my lunch plate to the sink and washing it. I will go do that right now.

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7/7/10 2:27 P

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Coffee, food and computer games lol yes it is sad.

I have tried "rewarding myself" with my computer games and that has had very limited success. and I even use food as an excuse to procrastinate. like "I need to eat a quick snack, then I'll start that messy project".

I need to get back to my "one piece of paper at a time"



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7/7/10 2:22 P

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I thought I had saved an article I read in Psych Central about procrastination and why we put things off.
Maybe you should look at it a different way for now. What don't you procrastinate or put off doing? Name three things. I'm trying to think of things that I don't put off and I'm having a hard time coming up with something.

I don't put off making my morning coffee. That is all I could think off. Very sad...

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Makes good sense to me. Venting helps to relieve stress and sometimes brings the issue into focus. There are things that I put of doing as well. I have to take the 'Just do it" approach. I find if I don't think about it, just get it started, it is much easier to get it finished. Once I start, things go smoothly for a couple hours. Maybe...if you split the work into parts and tell yourself you'll work on each part for 90 minutes to two hours, it won't seem like such a large task to complete.





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7/7/10 1:22 P

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to me a flake is somebody who keeps putting things off until the very last moment and still often doesn't get done what they say they will., missing deadlines.

I am self employed and I can't seem to make myself do the work that needs to be done. I keep putting it off...even posting this thread was a good way to procrastinate.

yes I do have alot going on in my life and yes I "could" use that is an "excuse" but I hate myself for being this way. (I think I just need to blow off steam, not really looking for "advice" or sympathy, if that make any sense)

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I agree please provide a little more info

If You're tired or starting over stop giving up

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A 'Flake'? I don't understand what you mean by 'flake.' It doesn't sound like you are happy however. If you provide a little more information, perhaps we can help.





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but I can't seem to dig my way out.

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