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BALLERINA2009
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6/2/12 10:25 A

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anna,
Sometimes I feel like too, but I learned not to care. I pay my membership to the box like everybody else. I am not 21, so I do not expect my body to perform at top level. I scale down most times and I do not care. Seriously, those people at crossfit just care about their own scores, they do not judge you.
Just enjoy the workouts and remember that you will get better.



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5/29/12 12:50 P

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One of the best things about Cross Fit is the community and the encouragement that comes with it. Every one is rooting for everyone to be their best. I've seen very little person to person competition, and that is usually with workout partners as a way to push each other. I've never seen anyone hold anything against someone doing "less". I was able to go to the Cross Fit Games Central East Regional competion, the one with the past two years winners and 9 of the top 20 competitors. When Rich Froning, current world champ, finished WOD 6 and clinched the regional championship, he went and cheered on and encouraged the other guys. When they were down to one guy still going, all of the others that had finished were cheering him to get through that last muscle up - it was really inspiring to see. And that's what Cross Fit is all about.

Weakness is a choice; I choose strength.


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I realize this thread is old but maybe you will read it. I started CF 5 weeks ago. I scale everything! And so should you!!!! The scaling is to make sure you learn the proper form and don't get hurt. That's one benefit of CF in having a coach there all the time. I feel sure you are the only one in there that is being critical of your performance. When we do a team WOD my teammates have to do more because they are capable of more. One time I said thanks for taking up my slack and the other lady looked at me and said "you worked just as hard as us even though we did more reps."

One of the best things about CF is that the WOD can be scaled so enjoy your fabulous workout. I hope you stuck with it!

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10/25/11 2:00 P

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I am new to CrossFit too, and am still in the Foundations class, but starting this Friday I will join the regular classes, and I'm a little afraid I will feel the same way you are. But, I know this is a competition with myself, no one else. Not everyone has the same strengths and weaknesses, and not everyone will be able to do every workout. Perhaps that workout you mentioned you were the only one who was scaled, but at the same time, just last week at my gym, I heard from the class finishing up as I came in that only one person-- a coach who had competed at the CrossFit Games-- was able to finish the workout Rx.

Part of why I joined is because I have many friends who do it. One has been doing it for years, and another started only in February. They're both at different levels, as I am at a different level than they are. Whenever you start to feel left out, remember all the progress you have made. Does your gym recommend you to keep a journal of all your workouts? Mine does, and if you aren't doing so, I highly recommend it. It's a great way to have a permanent record of all your improvements.

Keep up with CrossFit, and don't get down on yourself. Keep in mind everyone at your gym was once in the same position you are now. And if there aren't any other newbies at your gym, there are plenty on this site and on the teams willing to offer up support, and occassionally looking for some too, from people in the same position as you are.


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10/23/11 1:23 A

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I'm new to CF and my box actually just opened so I think I have a leg up since everyone is new and hasn't gotten into their "I'm better than you" mentalities... I think of CF the way I do Zumba (bare with me)- In Zumba I have absolutely no moves and am not doing it "right" by any means, but my fat butt burns 2x the calories most of the class does so who cares if I am doing it the way it is "supposed" to be done. The same goes for CF- sure I SC a lot of stuff, but I am new and still out of shape and as I get better I will have more RXs than SCs I am sure, I joke that SC stands for "sorta cheated" but the way I sweat and push myself to finish you can clearly see that I didn't cheat myself out of anything! I could care less what others think, I am there for me and that is all that matters, as time goes on I will get stronger and e able to do more.

I am getting the CF hate mail too, their biggest mistake is assuming we are all the same. Sure some people get hurt when they take it overboard, just like in anything else- but if you pay attention to yourself and notice your limits it is as safe as anything else.

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8/19/11 12:36 A

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This is part of CrossFit....learning to tackle the mental challenges. You CAN do this if you put your mind to it.

Remember that most people scale WODs somehow. And the more you do this, the better you get. When I started 6 months ago I couldn't run 200m. Tonight I just ran a mile. (Of course I had to stop and walk every once in a while.) I have a coach that still does band-assisted pull ups. The more you do this you will find you excel in some areas and need improvement in others. I quickly learned I am pretty darn good at the Olympic weight lifting stuff. Maybe I am pretty strong because I carried so much weight around for so long. But I don't care the reason why...I just care that I can do it!

We all get better every day we show up. That's why showing up is the most important thing.

Good luck on your journey. And don't forget...this group and the other CrossFit team are here for support. We ALL have struggles and we all need support....you can rely on us to help you through the hard times and to celebrate your successes. And I am sure your coaches and the other athletes at your gym feel the same way.

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CHOOSE not to accept the false boundaries and limitations created by the past.


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8/8/11 10:28 P

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Hi Anna,
I *know* what you are talking about. Sometimes it is easy to FEEL discouraged or the odd one out, but the reality is much different. Crossfit is the only group that I experienced all ages, all fitness levels, health levels, age levels able to have fun and exercise together and each one is challenged to do their personal best and helped by all to achieve it. I know I sound like an ad for CF, but it is a great opportunity to be part of a wonderful group.
I am older than most and have had to have lots of things scaled. That's the great thing about Crossfit- I get to be a part of the group in spite of myself. My trainer is great and always reminds me of the improvements I have made. When I point out all the things I can't do, he promises me burpees :-P as he points out all the things I can do that I couldn't do before. I have actually done 6 impossible things before breakfast LOL I've done things that I never dreamed that I could do and even had fun doing them. I actually believe that most of your fellow Crossfitters are NOT feeling that you don't belong and are actually glad you are there. It is hard to let go and realize that the competition should be against yourself and not others, but the journey is worth the effort as you will see yourself getting stronger and more able to do all kinds of things that you never dreamed were possible. You will grow as you keep on keeping on :-) Go for it!
We are usually divided up into teams and everyone works together to complete the WOD. We are trying to go for PRs and time, but we are also working together and can see that everyone has strengths and weaknesses. I am very competative and hate to be slow or scaled; but our trainer is great for helping us grow as people and keeps all of us on task and safe. And yes, he does spend a lot of time encouraging us - we can be high maitenance, but we are like a big family- all types together. We don't get hurt, but we do get stronger and over time can see a huge amount of progress in our physical abilities.
I've been to other "boxes" and the other CF groups are very welcoming and make us feel a part of their group at all times. The breakdown at every class to teach skills and the constant supervision of the trainers and workout buddies keeps everything doable, safe and fun. CrossFit is definitely a place for everyone to enjoy physical fitness as a Sport no matter the individuals age or fitness level- we are all in it together. I even joined a virtual box led thru the internet by a young man who is stationed in Iraq while he leads his troops overseas and stateside with individual WODs that are scaled for everyone (if we can't get to the gym and don't/can't do the WOD posted at www.crossfit.com). Believe me, I can't keep up with a 20 year old in Special Ops! Crossfit gives everyone the opportunity to gain physical fitness and to be a part of the group - and you belong! You are a part of it, enjoy your journey and let us all know how you are doing. emoticon

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7/30/11 9:28 P

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I love Crossfit. My first words to the trainer were "i hate to sweat and i hate to exercise." i have a very arthritic knee, bone on bone and am morbidly obese. She has toned everything to me and yes, i do sweat everyday. I have not had any knee pain and am amazed at what i can do. I am a long ways away from the WOD sessions, but she has made me do more than I would ever had done on my own. Try it, you will love it!!

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ORCHIDLADY56
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7/27/11 9:39 P

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Wow! That your mom can do a handstand is great! I will NEVER EVER use the excuse again that I am too old!



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7/27/11 4:34 P

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I just added a picture to my SparkPage of Mom doing a handstand. It turns out that my mother is much more athletic than anyone knew, including herself. She's gone from step ups to full box jumps in a matter of a few weeks. Before CrossFit, she would go to the Y and get on the treadmill forever at a walk pace. She never broke a sweat. Now, as soon as it cools down a little, she's going to train for her first 5K.

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What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal.
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TJBLEEKER
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7/27/11 1:40 P

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Wow! Your Mom can do a handstand?? That's inspiring. That is one skill I'm afraid of. I know I need to get over my fear.....but first I will conquer double unders.

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CYSCOKITTY
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7/27/11 12:25 P

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Hello all. I'm new to the team. I've been doing a version of CrossFit with my trainer for a couple of years now. I finally made the move to joining the regular CrossFit sessions (let by my trainer, fortunately.) I have asthma. I am still scaled on some workouts and not on others. I have made more improvement in every aspect of my health over the last two years than in all other training I've taken. I've had good trainers in the past, but none of them had a program like CrossFit that concentrates on so many facets of fitness at one time.
I've even gotten my 70-year old parents working out here. No matter what anyone says, CrossFit is completely scalable.
I have always hated exercise. Now, I look forward to going - and I attend the 6am sessions!
Please don't be discouraged. This workout is the best you'll ever get and it's only your personal improvement that matters over time.
That said, I have found the other members to be more encouraging than anywhere else I've been. My mother who was scared that everyone was looking at her, finally realized that if anyone was paying attention, it was to encourage her. She can even do a hand stand now.
Sheri

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What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
--Ralph Waldo Emerson

What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal.
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TJBLEEKER
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7/26/11 11:42 A

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I personally am getting tired of probably one individual with several SP accounts posting CF hate mail on every board. Enough on that.

Keep with it! I love CF and have been at it for over 2 years. I'm one of the older ones there and rarely finish first, but who cares. I feel complete encouragement and a great sense of community. We're all working toward the same goal - improving our health, strength and overall fitness.

Surely you have seen improvements in your performance. They will continue. Challenge yourself in a safe manner and keep at it!

-Tammy-

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NIGHTSRAINFALL
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7/25/11 6:41 P

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If you are posting to tell me to get out of crossfit, message me directly. I don't like it when people who do not know me at all, tell me what to do as if I haven't already taken all those things into account. I'm probably one of the more extreme planners and I analyze everything. There's a reason I choose crossfit, and while I won't recommend it for everyone, I do think it's the best fit for me.

To everyone else, Thank you so much for responding! It's nice to know there's others out there who have been through this or are going through it. Part of it is my own competetive nature, and I realize that's also probably one of the reasons I am being modified so much. They don't want me injuring myself because I don't know how to take breaks, have the form correct, or ask yet. Everyone else, I notice, always strives for time, but it's their best time - They take breaks, get drinks, stretch, stop putting on weights, slow down, or ask for assistance... I am just starting to learn to do that. It's funny how difficult those things are though - because you think they would be natural and yet when given a difficult task and a clock, people automatically (at least myself) forget them. :-)

Anyway thanks for all the responses!

--- Anna


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7/25/11 9:50 A

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Hi,
I have been in CrossFit about a year now off and on. I am very overweight and have had challenges with the program due to that fact. I always have to scale down, you must scale things to fit your skill level at that time. CrossFit may be extreme and difficult but if I can do it anyone can. CrossFit is like a family we all route each other on and all know that it is hard for everyone. I just recently learned that no one in my group looks down on anyone. In fact I learned that they are motivated seeing me do a workout and it encourages them to keep going. Stick to the program if you can. You may get scared and feel uncomfortable, I know I do. But I know that it is good for your whole body. If you are in a group that is pushing you to levels past your skill or physical ability, or if they are pushing you to do some stunt that is unsafe, talk to them or try a different CrossFit team. You just may not be comfortable in that group, you can surely find one who fits you. Thanks emoticon


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7/24/11 11:42 A

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I was new to CF in February and can relate to what you have shared. I didn't know what I was doing, didn't know the terminology and felt like I was the new kid on the first day of school. I challenge you to stick with this - I know for me that pushing through and sticking with it has been really rewarding. I still scale a lot when weights are involved but I am competing against myself, not others. And I truly believe that the CF mentality is very inclusive - people want to see you progress and succeed, they want to see effort and they want to see commitment. Those goals can be achieved regardless of fitness level or scaling. Keep it up and you will soon start to see yourself getting stronger and fitter... it will be worth it!!



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I get modified versions of moves also, I too feel a little out of place when I finish first cause I did it the "easy" way, but a friend told me that my workout, that has been modified for me, is just as hard for me as the regular workout that everyone else is doing is for them AND most of them have been in our position. That thought made me feel a little bit better and made me focus on doing my best each workout and building up to doing all the moves correctly! You will get it! As long as your trainers are great, you will be great! Good Luck;-)


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NIGHTSRAINFALL
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7/21/11 6:51 A

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Orchidlady56 - Thanks! It's nice to know someone else was in the same shoes and that it will get better. Of course I'm going to keep going, I just want these feelings to subside, lol.

--- Anna


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Garyma - it's not that I'm not "keeping up". I'm usually the first done because I'm scaled to my level. It's also that I can't do it. 100 meters of lunges while made me sore, was certainly do-able, same with the 5,000 meters of rowing, 100 GHD push ups, etc. They are all at my level. Other people do get scaled, just not as much usually - ie yesterday in my class I was the only one. I really do like the activities too.

I just feel bad for being somewhere where I can't do what the others are doing. They are trying their best, pushing hard, doing more - and I am trying my best, but not doing more or even the same... I know I can't right now and I am doing what I can, but it still makes me feel poor for being there and taking up their well deserved space.

--- Anna


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7/20/11 9:32 P

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Your post brings up a number of things I don't like about Crossfit.

1. Even though they claim anyone can do Crossfit, most people that are at a beginner or intermediate fitness level will have a very hard time even trying to keep up.

2. At that point,some people push beyond what they know they should be doing, and that can result in injury. Injuries are very common in Crossfit because there is so much pressure to do more than you thought you possibly could. While it can be good to have fitness goals, setting unreasonable goals (which the standard version on the WOD is to most people) you are setting yourself up for disappointment and/or injury.

3. Any exercise program that leaves you feeling like you suck when you put your best effort forth is not a positive or healthy experience.

If I were you, I would ask about getting a refund from Crossfit. They owe it to you for misleading you about the program being something that anyone can do.

Then I would check around the local gyms and YMCAs to see if you can find an exercise program you can really enjoy.

Most YMCA group exercise teachers and personal trainers are really good at giving encouragement and congratulating you on working towards your goals. It's much better to make slow and steady progress towards your fitness goals than to overdo it and have to deal with an injury.

Good luck!

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I also had a problem with self confidence when I first started. I was twice the age of the people there, twice as slow, and scaled by a lot more than that!
Don't be so hard on yourself - it does take time. Half the fun is the journey itself and celebrating your progress step by step.
As well, like you, I felt very out of place at first. But that passed as I discovered that Crossfit is different from any other "gym" I had been to. People really did, and still do, want to see me grow and succeed.
Give it time, give it your best, and know that you can succeed.

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I've been at crossfit a week and a half now. I went 4 times last week, and am up to 3 times this week. Everything is REALLY modified for me. Impart because I'm not very fit nor strong, and also because I have heat sensitivities... The trainers are really cool about it, but I really feel like I don't belong or that I shouldn't be there.

They did 400 meter walking lunges today, and I was scaled to 100 meters. I was the only one scaled. I feel like I shouldn't even cheer another person on, cause I don't know what they are going through nor going through the same thing. I'd love to do more and try harder, but I have in the past gotten really sick from it (heat exhaustion and heat stroke on different occasions). The people at the box don't know why I'm getting scaled, just that I am. I'm worried they are thinking negative things about me, since they are trying so hard and I'm not.

I know I will get better and then do more - but it's really hard. I kinda want to just inform everyone that I suck just to get it into the open. I don't want to be outside of "the group", if there's a group. A part of this probably is my poor self confidence and self esteem, and so I'm trying to not say anything discouraging about or to myself...

I dunno. I just hope I get better quickly!

--- Anna


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