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5/16/13 1:21 P

Hi Michele, we started out with a sunny day but now it is cloudy and looks like it will rain. I was at my bereavement group today. We talked about our loved ones funeral. I always feel really sad after these meetings but it is nice to be able to talk about things. It helps you to accept what is happening.

Have a good day and a good visit with your grand-daughter.

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5/15/13 7:53 P

Hey Dianne......Glad your doing fine. Could use some help with sleeping myself but after years of working nightshift and doing every 2 hr. bed checks, I some times am awake every 2 hrs. All this cropped up after hubby had his hip reconstructed. Hubby was fine this morning had gone out to pay some bills, came back home an was sitting out on the porch. Came back in after a while an I kept hearing him calling. asked where he was as I could not find him. Said he was in the bathroom but in fact he was in the bedroom looking for the bathroom. How quickly things can change! .....Me, just rolling with the flow. Getting ready to visit my grand-daughter for 4 days starting tomorrow, Just hope his son keeps an eye on him. Are you ready for warmer weather? Have a good week!

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5/15/13 4:51 P

Hi Michele, things are certainly quiet. I stopped taking medication for chronic insomnia and now I am sleeping better than I have in years!! I guess I have less stress and my body is finally realizing it. All is well at my end and I am enjoying quiet time.

Take care of yourself

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5/14/13 11:05 P

Quiet times within the Team, hope everyone is well and those in your care are also. Won't be long an the Summer Holidays will be upon us all, including the end of the school. Enjoy the rest of this week and Be Safe.

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5/7/13 9:33 P

Hard to believe it has been awhile since I was in the chat-room for I chat. Yet, I'm all alone tonight. So, I sincerely hope everyone had a good weekend and the Mothers out there are getting ready for their weekend. Haven't heard from the girls so don't know if they have anything planned. Sure do miss them and that 7 year old.

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4/28/13 12:45 A

We're at the last Sunday of April, can you look back on this month and truly say it was a good month? .... My month started out calm and rewarding, then bad news from DH's doctor set life stumbling back ten steps instead of forward 15. Hubby dug in his heels for 3 days then began to question what he could do to slow things down. Now he has leveled off an trying to accept his condition. Now with the ending off this month I can look back an truly say I have done the best I can do!

Peace, Love an Blessings to ALL.

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4/25/13 11:02 A

Yep! He sure did. he told me very sternly to Quit Smoking and not later. Afraid he is going to need to see those stats drop and oxygen started, for him to believe anything. Your correct about the knowing, yet I believe DH just does not want to know. .................... Happy for you, Hope things can work out for you!

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4/25/13 8:35 A

Hi Michele, things are going fine. Yes, I am still going to my bereavement group. It goes until June. I have started "dating" again. My x-husband has taken me out for breakfast and lunch a few times. We have known each other for over 40 years. Don't know where this is heading but we will see.............

Did the doctor recommend anything for your dh to bring his oxygen levels higher? I know that even when we know what is wrong it does not necessarily make things easier. My best wishes

Dianne

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4/24/13 1:31 P

Afternoon Dianne........ How have things been going for you lately? Guess you read my adventure. Guess the shock of his doctor visit has worn off, as today is no different than the past months. Are you still attending your group meetings?

Michele

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4/24/13 12:33 P

Hi Sheri & Michele, my prayers go out to both of you. I agree with Michele that a good cry often is a great stress reliever. Though the stress never really goes away it can be controlled a bit better with a good cry. I will keep you both in my thoughts.

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4/24/13 1:25 A

Thank you Michele,
Very sweet, God Bless
I will stay in touch for sure!
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4/24/13 1:21 A

Sherri ..... Right now you need some Positive distraction and the thankfulness that the two of you have the time you have together. Make use of this time as one never knows when it will end. If you need a good cry, let those tears roll. There is no shame or weakness in tears. I spent the biggest part of the day Monday crying (away from DH though). By letting everything out when Tuesday started I felt refreshed and had a clear picture of what was ahead of me.
The only thing I thought about those two days was -- what would I do without him? My answer now is make the best of what we have...........................................................

Feel free to ask for help at any time. You can always Spark mail me. Place yourself in God's hands and he will see you both through these coming periods of the unknown.
Stay Positive and take care of yourself.

Michele

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4/24/13 12:58 A

Hi I am Sherri
I am the caregiver and girlfriend of my BF Pete. He is a cancer patient battling stage 4 colon cancer for over 7 + years and going strong! I live with him. I am very much in love with him. He is such a great guy. He has been in and out of the hospital all year with different surgeries and pain issues, chemo treatments, etc. Recently he has been in the hospital with pain issues and it has been tough. I am suffering myself, from depression, high weight gain and loss of motivation to do much. I am a full time on line student and unemployed. I have quite a bit of stress. I have lost a lot of the things I have enjoyed doing most. I have let myself go, and I dont even look like the same person. Have gained over 50 lbs in 8 months. I love my BF with all my heart, and I just feel like I am in a rut that I cant seem to get out of. I physically do not feel good. I worry a lot for my BF and I have a lot on my shoulders....being the caregiver and pwr off attrny also. I am grateful to God for all His blessings and giving us the strength and courage to carry on. We take a day at a time. But it is very very hard on both of us. We dont have much support of family/friends and that makes it hard too. Hope I can meet some nice caregivers here that will help with support and someone to talk to. I have so many things going thru my head at times and cant really express it. Please keep us in your prayers and hoping for the best. Hope, Sher Bear

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4/24/13 12:37 A

Sorry, been caught up in medical emergency with DH and just now things are beginning to click together. The last two weeks have been challenging and not easy. Having a hard time adjusting to hearing DH's Doc. blunting tell him to start deciding just how long he wants to remain alive. Jaw dropping at the least. ...... Come to find out that his mood swings, forgetfulness, fatigue and loss of appetite has all been the result of a decline of his oxygen saturation in the blood over the last year an all most 4 months. He is on the lowest percent of the saturation before he is put on oxygen. ...... Naturally, this news has not been accepted by him. Today all he really has done is sat in his recliner and stare at the four walls. Needless to save my job has increased two fold but, now being aware of why he had been acting the way he was, I do have a better acceptance of everything. Now it is getting him to understand how and why this has happened. ......


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4/16/13 10:30 A

Welcome to Sherbear123

Glad you are joining our group. Please tell us a bit about yourself. We are here to support you in any way we can.

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4/15/13 7:49 A

Right back at you. Hope you have a good week.

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4/15/13 12:26 A

Have a week an weather!

Safe Travels and Be Safe.

See Ya!

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4/11/13 11:28 P

Dianne..........That part of the forecast went North of here but, did not bother the Youngest Daughters. We only got the rain and cold winds, I'm worried about all the water lying around freezing over night. Got to many errands to finish up tomorrow that I could not do for all the rain we have been getting. .......... Actually need to get away from hubby for a while, tired of his lashing out about things he can't find or things "I" mess up or won't do things the way he does things. Most of all I can't get this through to his doctor. His oldest son and my daughters see this change in him worsening each time they visit. He's always fine at the doctors and I keep hoping he will slip enough while there for the doc. to see this. I have taken care of many patients with this problem but, this is just to hard to accept.

Michele

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4/11/13 3:32 P

Hi Michele, while you are getting warm weather, we are expecting a major snow fall or freezing rain tomorrow. They are saying to expect from 15 to 30 cm. I was going to remove my snow tires tomorrow but I guess I better wait till next week. I am really tired of the snow, we got alot this year.

Hope you do not get any tornadoes.

Take care

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4/10/13 11:39 P

and 80 today severe weather to roll in tonight. Atmosphere right for Tornadoes, I seen enough of Dorthy an Toto as well as Oz the Powerful and Twister in the last week -- Think I'm ready. Do vividly remember if the sky goes green their is Hail around the corner.

Hope this weather is being nice an easy with all the aches an pains many of our elderly are having. I know I can use a break from the aching myself. For the remainder of this week ..... have a peaceful one.

Michele

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4/8/13 11:37 A

Oddly, getting used to DH's mood swings and forgetfulness (which is getting worse). Especially along the lines of finance. Know I have to take over, not looking forward to his reaction over that. Otherwise, enjoying the change in the weather and time with my girls an my grandchild. .... Just got back from a week with OD's, took GD down with me. GD really put the OD through a rough weekend of fun and joking. Had a blast, got rid of stress and laughed long and hard only to run into it (stress) when I walked in the door at home. At least my girls know just what is going on here.

Planning another get away, later this month at YD's, once again stress free. Keep in touch when you can.

Michele

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4/8/13 10:27 A

Hi Michele, I am doing pretty good. Winter is finally finishing and the weather is getting warmer. I am still going to my bereavement group every week. I have been finding it really helpful. It lets you talk about your loved one as much as you want without boring your family and friends. It also lets you see that you are not alone in your bereavement.

I am also still going to the gym 3 x per week. Still not losing any weight but I continue to eat properly and to exercise. I guess the weight will come off when it is ready. But at least I am healthy.

How have you been doing?

Take care

Dianne

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4/7/13 9:39 P

Your more than Welcome....how's it going?

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4/6/13 10:44 A

Thanks for the info

Dianne

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4/5/13 12:15 A

Been reading some update reports from CDC, found two areas that are averaging just a little higher than 2012. One......was the Flu which the CDC attributes the colder Winter this year. Two ..... Shingles, which if you or the person you care for had during childhood, your are carrying the virus. Vaccination is recommended on both.

Enjoy the weekend, Be Safe and Enjoy yourself.

Michele............

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4/1/13 11:46 P

Did anyone get Fooled Today? If so please, tell us how it went.

Michele

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3/31/13 2:43 P

Morning an a Happy Easter/Passover to each an ALL! Rain for early Sunrise Services but, dry now. Had our Easter gathering with the family yesterday, and wore DH out with the GD an her cousin. He did great, enjoyed himself so much that he is still sleeping and with easy breathing which for him is unusual. So quiet around here I'm not sure what I should be doing for a change. However, will enjoy this free time for as long as it continues. .... Have a great day plus a snow free week for a change.

Michele ....

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3/31/13 11:54 A

HAPPY EASTER/PASSOVER everyone.

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3/28/13 10:08 P

Welcome to our team WRKNG2ABTTRME. Nice to meet you.

Dianne

Hi to everyone else. Happy Easter or Passover.

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3/28/13 9:20 P

Welcome Nancy, glad to have you with us. How can we help you? If you have not posted in the Thread " introduce yourself or I'm a caregiver too" please, do so or you can post here as well. That will give the team an idea on just how we can help you.

Looking forward to meeting you. ......... Michele142

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3/26/13 12:09 A

How are you doing? ..... let the Team know how you are doing and if we can help you in anyway! Don't be a stranger, pop in when you can!

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3/23/13 11:29 P

To each and everyone, have a blessed Holy Week and a Safe Palm Sunday!

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3/20/13 6:35 A

Happy spring! We have winter storm warnings up and the county plow truck just went by. Getting ready for a doctor appt with hubby. Hope we can actually accomplish something this trip.

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3/20/13 12:27 A

Wednesday, March 20th, the first day of Spring, but around here it feels more like the first day of Winter. Flood advisories and watches have been with us since Saturday and do not seen to be leaving anytime soon. Th creek across the road from us has been over the road in two places yesterday. We have more rain on the way for the rest of the week and weekend. With days like this DH is starting to get moody once again. Myself can not stand not being able to see that sun. That though I can not control.
Hope all are well and those in your care are well as well.

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3/16/13 4:31 P

Thank you and a happy St Pat to you too.

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3/15/13 11:51 P

Wishing everyone a very Happy St. Patty's Day and a !

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3/15/13 12:07 A

Been scheduling up coming screenings and physicals due for myself and DH, and was able to spread them out over this coming year. So I'm able to cross 2 items off my ToDo List for the year. With the time change here an the break in the weather DH has been doing so much better. Once the sun was shining more an allowing him the ability to be outside he is acting more like his old self. ......... Hope everyone has made it through the Winter Months without much problem. If living in the colder areas I know Winter can be a problem for anyone trying to just stay warm, let alone keeping one's immune system up to par.

Spring is just a week away, then Easter will be here (an early one at that), Enjoy St. Patty's Day and enjoy the beginning of Spring.

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3/11/13 12:12 A

Surprised tonight to look out the window and find "light". Even noticed that hubby stayed awake longer tonight as well took himself a walk tonight across the street to our friends house. Our friend walk him back home, needless hubby has shown no mood swings today.
Daylight Saving helps his mood swings, this maybe the help I have been needing. Has anyone else every noticed a change in behavior in the areas involving the time change?

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3/9/13 12:18 A

Hope everyone has a nice, safe and enjoyable weekend. For most of the lower States the weather is supposed to be approaching the 50s or higher. Spring is surely just around the corner. The Winter "Blues" should gradually be leaving as the Sun is starting to shine more each day. Nature is beginning to wake-up and the chance to get out an walk is becoming more enjoyable. During this change-over stay healthy, as well as those in your Care.

Michele

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3/6/13 12:19 A

Looks like everyone made it through the weekend and ready for 'Hump Day'. It has been snowing here since 8p.m. and still continues. Morning rush expected to be bad and many schools have closed in Northern Kentucky and Southern Ohio. Anywhere from 4 - 6 inches are expected by morning rush hour.

Hope everyone is well and those in your care are also well and safe. Winter is just about blown out for this year and Spring is ready to Spring. Plus it's Tax time, which in itself can be a stressful time. Be careful if traveling and stay warm and Safe.

Michele

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3/2/13 1:09 A

Weekend is upon us at last. Mother Nature's busy playing her favorite games again throughout the country so stay warm and walk carefully. If traveling, Safe Passage.

Michele

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2/27/13 9:24 P

Started last post out with the weather, so tonight is no different. started snowing 30 mins. ago and is to keep it up through the weekend. Hoped March would make its appearance like a Lamb, so I can scratch that idea. ........ Have been under the weather myself the last three weeks but, before that DH was under the weather. Believe now he has realized that he is just not as young as he used to be and can not handle the cold.

Winter months are hard on Caregivers as well as those we care for. There is confinement due to weather or episodes of short lived illnesses which also have the possibility of developing into long term. "Cabin Fever" hinders us all as well as the lack of Sunshine, this is the time of the year when the term "Seasonal Depression" makes it self known to all. Hopefully Spring is actually right around the bend. .............
Stay well and Be Strong.

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2/8/13 11:39 P

Evening, cold, andwindy tonight...Temps dropped this afternoon from 50 to 30 right now and to be 28 in the morning. Grateful that this part of the country missed the bullet but, hope the North East makes it through tonight and the weekend.

Got a breather for this weekend, so will heading down to my oldest daughters for the weekend.
Hubby left in charge of his oldest son for that time. Looking forward to this weekend, this will hopefully be my stress buster for the last month.

Hope my return finds everyone well and safe!

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2/7/13 11:40 P

Read an interesting article here on Spark yesterday concerning a fake Cancer Drug which the FDA has been investigating. You can find it from the Spark Points Page by clicking on Health News, when that page opens the article.

Hope everyone is well and ready for Spring. Hubby has been bored this past week as No Football for him to watch on the weekends. He has never watched Pro-Basketball and is just waiting now for Spring Training to start the Baseball Season. That means finding something for him to do till Baseball begins.

Enjoy tomorrow an have a great an Safe weekend.

Michele

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2/4/13 9:28 P

Hope everyone has started off the month of February Well, Safe, and Healthy. Also hope those in your care are well, also. We are in the process of winding down the Winter months and the Flu season as well. The CDC is reminding everyone to get that Flu Shot and that there is plenty Vaccine available. The CDC's reason for such a Flu outbreak this year is last year's mild Winter an low usage of the Flu vaccine. They believe that fewer people received the vaccine last year, that those who did not get the vaccine did not build up their immune system.
Accordingly each year the vaccine has some of the vaccine in the body to help fight the Flu strain for the next year, the new vaccine is aided by the vaccine from the previous year to fight the new Flu threat of the next Winter. The deaths from the actual Flu has more than doubled from last year and added more deaths from children as well. For you and those you care for as well as your family, follow the guidelines setup by the CDC or have this discussion with your physician as well as the physician of the one you provide care for.

Be Safe and Well.

Michele

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1/28/13 12:30 A

Hope everyone is doing well and and you are well. Have been under the weather myself for the past several weeks and still not feeling well.

Stay strong and healthy and have a great week!

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1/25/13 12:26 A

Hope everyone is Safe & Well. Kentucky, Ohio, and Indiana are expecting another arctic blast for today. Be careful if driving in the am and stay warm!

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1/23/13 12:30 A

Are you living and/or care for someone in the areas where the weather and temperatures are staying in the Teens '? Please keep a close watch on them with the temperatures in these areas. Dehydration is still possible, many chronic disease, medications, anemia , chemo or even radiation can alter their perspective of being warm or cold. As with mothering an infant, if you are cold they are cold. Be on the watch and keep yourself and them warm.

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1/21/13 11:34 P

Evening, hope things are warm and cozy where you are. We are having a chill factor of -3 below at present. If you are around the Cincinnati, OH area I am sure you have heard of the multiple wrecks involving multiple cars. The videos from those scenes where unbelievable! If on the roads tomorrow, Be Safe and Warm.

Have a great week!

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1/17/13 11:22 P

Just popped in to see how every one was doing. I know here in the States many are having either an increase or steady of Flu Cases over last year. I hope all are well and taking care of themselves.

Be Safe and well!

Michele

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1/15/13 12:06 A

Stay warm tonight, stay healthy and safe with a better day tomorrow.

Good and sweet !

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1/14/13 12:36 A

Enjoy the coming week and have a less stressful one!
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Have a great week.


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1/8/13 11:26 P

Hope this week is less stressful than the previous one. Tomorrow is Wednesday or Hump Day for those working and for caregivers I'm afraid it can be just another day.

Be strong, loving and laugh as much as you can. Enjoy the remainder of this week.

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1/1/13 9:20 P

Happy New Year everyone!
Hope 2013 is a better year for all of us.

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12/28/12 1:16 P

So, Happy to hear things are beginning to fall into place for you. I have always heard that things do come to those that wait. Guess patience is a virtue after all. How were the Holidays for you an yours?

Diane, we are getting hit again with snow again today and through to next Tuesday. We've had the snow but to present about 1/2 the amount as you have. Ice has been more of the problem here than the snow. Hope the New Year is great for you.

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12/28/12 9:57 A

I took Mom and my hubby to the Social Security office yesterday. I called the 800 number for an appointment and the rep was rude and ignorant. When we got to the office, the people there were gracious and very helpful. I got Mom to sign the paper making me her "representative", meaning I can actually talk to Medicare about her bills without her having to be on an extension. I can also change her address, or do anything else that needs to be done without having to try to explain it to her and have her do it. I got my hubby to sign a paper that lets me talk to Medicare about his bills without having to put him on the phone first (he hasn't paid a bill in 33 years and isn't about to start now.) Now I am in a better position to help them both.

I suppose Medicare has to do this to protect old people from financial abuse, but it also prevents those of us who want to help from helping. At least there is a way to fix it, but it requires a trip in person to the office. I can't say enough good things about those people there.

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12/28/12 8:29 A

We got 45 cm of snow yesterday. We set a new record. Snow was up to the top of my tires.
The city would come by to plow the street, then the contractors would come to do the driveways. So in the end the whole thing was a mess. The snow back is so high that I can not throw snow over it. So where to put the snow? I don't know. Today everything looks like a winter wonderland.
No plans for New Years Eve.

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12/27/12 10:22 P

If you don't count in the snow and freezing temps. things around here are as good as they can be. Know the North East is getting hit pretty hard and we have more snow coming in Friday night through next Tuesday night. Guess December is going out with a Bang! Hope everyone is Safe an Warm, heard there were a lot of power outages with this storm.

Finish this week and great ready to bring in the New Year.
Be Safe, Healthy and stay warm!

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12/27/12 11:23 A

Hi Michele, Christmas was great. We were 13 for supper at my place and it was just the right number to have. All went well.

Hope everyone also had a good time.

Happy New Year

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12/26/12 10:31 P

Hope Christmas went smooth for everyone, and your wishes did come true.

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12/24/12 8:39 P

" The children were nestled, all snug in their beds, while visions of sugar plums danced in their heads."


MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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12/23/12 10:15 A

HAPPY HOLIDAYS everyone.

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12/23/12 1:05 A

Try remembering the true meaning of Christmas. Read the story, keep that meaning in your heart along with the one you Love. You can do this.

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12/22/12 8:53 P

Christmas is my Sweetie's birthday, and it's really stressful for me. I'll be glad when this holiday is over over over!

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12/17/12 7:09 P

Dianne, you had me hungry till I got to the pigs feet. Have not heard them mentioned for the last 27 years. They used to be noticeable on the Bars around here in Kentucky. I'm as ready as i will ever be for Christmas, now only waiting for the snow!

Catch up later down the road!

Michele

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12/17/12 1:34 P

Hi everyone - I am ready for Christmas Eve and Christmas day. The only thing left to day is my French Canadian "Ragout de boulettes avec pattes de cochons" and my tortieres. Loosely translated that means, pork meatballs with pigs feet and pork pies. It is a tradition to have this every year. So far the number of people coming for Christmas dinner is 13. If any one else decides to come, we will not be able to have a sit down dinner so we will have a buffet dinner instead. Would much prefer sit down dinner. Gifts are all bought and wrapped. The only person I really have a hard time buying gifts for is my son who has Autism. Not much interest him. So I bought him a coddle blanket and his usual monkey/ape stuffed animal. He has had a fetish for monkey/ape or Elmo's since he was little. But if it keeps him happy then that is what he will get. I got really frustrated when trying to buy the new laughing Elmo. It is not available in Quebec because the French equivelent is not yet availabe. This bilingualism stuff gets tiring at times.

That's it for me for now. Chat with you all soon.

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12/16/12 8:04 A

I will not let my mother's situation deter me from having a holiday to make the grandkids happy. I'll be bringing her here for the day, and this house is not walker-friendly. There are steps everywhere and there isn't a bathroom on the main floor, so we have to haul her up or down to use the bathroom. The bathrooms are too small to hold a person and a walker, so her privacy is compromised, which she doesn't like, but we'll manage. The kids need to remember her so it's vital that she be here. I'll have a whole family to help out on Christmas Day. It will be great!!

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12/15/12 11:13 P

Well, the countdown for the Big day is on, all the children in this family are on a journey to see what they can find. DH has been on his good behavior for the past several days but, I still can not get my Me Time in. Hope everyone is emjoying the build up for the 25th of this month.

Be Safe and stay Healthy.

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12/13/12 12:07 A

Glad to hear things are getting back to normal. For a caregiver - Stress seems to be normal.
Sudden illness during the Holidays is not expected yet, it does happen. Hopefully, things will be as you both wish.

Happy Holidays!

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12/9/12 8:33 P

My Sweetie was in the hospital, and it was a relief for me to have the house to myself and not have to do all the caregiving. Now he's home, and I can feel the stress.

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12/9/12 12:04 A

P.S.---ALS does have a society or organization that you can contact to see what assistance they maybe able to give you.

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12/9/12 12:02 A

ALS would be a disability along with his other disabilities, if he is not getting Disability Benefits through Social Security which he is entitled to even though he is with VA, check into it, don't wait. Also do not wait on getting, POA (complete) over everything as well as a Living Will or Advance Directives. Each component is all intermingled. His daughter my not be active with her father now but, if she feels she is due something later down the road she will be knocking on your door. Also for you and your DD, get a Will drawn, if you and DH do not have one.
No one likes to dwell on these things early in life but in the position you and DH are in you need to get these out of your way now and not later! Been there and lived through it with Dad, it's not a pretty time without these papers.

With your neck region, I use a small neck pillow at the neck when I'm in a recliner, computer chair and some times when in bed. I have one that can be warmed in the microwave for sleeping. it helps me all the way around. Some pharmacies that handle medical supplies carry them as well as patient care supply stores.

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12/8/12 12:52 P

ALS is always fatal, yes. Please contact the VA for any help they can give you now that you know what the future will look like. I believe that ALS patients qualify for Medicare regardless of age. I have a friend whose husband died of ALS. She had to divorce him in order not to impoverish herself with his care, but was able to have government help because he was "single", and she had full Durable Power of Attorney. She had to set up a medical trust as part of the divorce. There are lawyers who can help you with the process. The divorce was a legal situation only; she was effectively his wife throughout, but was able to keep her house and most of her pension and savings. Even after his death she is still Mrs. Roper.

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12/8/12 11:55 A

DD and I made a cake yesterday because I felt that if I did something with her, she would calm down with the talking a bit. But that did not happen. I do not enjoy cooking or baking either one. But I try to do things with DD that she will remember as "good times", and she likes doing things in the kitchen.

DH got some bad news at the doctor yesterday. All this time, 9 years now, doctor has been saying that he has Inclusion Body Myocitis. Now he is changing his diagnosis to ALS-Lou Garrigs disease. This disease is ALWAYS fatal. There is no cure and the end result is always death. There is nothing that can be done to slow the progression down or even make the symptoms a little less severe. After getting everyone into bed, I went to my room last night and cried myself to sleep.

While DH was in the doctor's office, he asked him if he had a living will & advanced directive.

I have been looking at stuff on the internet about ALS, and have found that military veteran's are twice as likely to get ALS!!

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12/8/12 11:39 A

I want to thank you all for your support. Even though it is thru the computer, I am glad that I have some friends to talk to and to give me support. And none of you make me feel stupid or make me feel like I have been put-down. I sure do appreciate your all's friendship. all for caring about me.

I have a question that I hope someone will be able to give me some ideas on. I think you all know that I have Fibermyalgea, Chronic Fatigue syndrome, scoliosis, chronic headaches, depression....to name the most pressing problems. Well the past 6 months or so, I have been having a LOT of pain when I sit and watch TV. (I don't do a lot of that, but it is painful anyway). When I sit in my recliner, or any chair for more then 20 minutes or so (even when sitting here at my computer) my neck hurts and I get a headache. And it hurts my neck to hold my head up when I am in a relaxed position without support. When I am in my recliner and I rest my head on the back of the recliner, my neck still hurts and when I put a pillow behind my head my headache gets worse. It seems that no matter what position I get in to watch TV, my neck and/or head hurt to where it is not pleasurable to watch a TV show.

I told my doctor and he said that it was the Fibermyalgea and there really was not anything that could be done about it.

Anybody have any ideas?




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12/8/12 10:41 A

Dianne,

Oh my, you, me & Michele have a lot in common with family. My step-daughter, who is 32 now, hates me with every fiber of her being. And because of that hatred, she will not even visit her Dad, who has been critically ill for the past several years. In the past 10 years, we have seen her less then 5 times. Even though she has always lived about a 30 minute drive from us. She has 3 children, whom we hardly know. The baby, we do not know at all. DH and her mom were married for 3 months, but not at DH's will. She got him drunk and took him to a same-day marriage place in Vegas and got married. (I guess it did not matter to the minister/justice of the peace that DH was drunk). Thankfully he was able to have the marriage annulled, but that was not before she got pregnant. Now my step-daughter blames me for them getting a divorce, even though she has been told many times by different people in the family that I did not have anything to do with it. I was not even in the "picture" then. My DH would love to spent quality time with his daughter & grand children. But if left up to his daughter, it will never happen. She blames me, but it is her mother who did all the damage and awful things. His daughter lost her mother 6 years ago. I was hoping that would make her closer to her dad. But it did not.

The girl is 32 years old, DH & I have been married for 25 years. You would think that after awhile, especially after she started having kids, she would "grow up" and realize what she & her children were missing by not being around their father/grandfather.

Your very right Dianne, it IS their LOSS, NOT yours. You were with your DH to the very end. They were not. THEY will have to live with that for the rest of their lives.

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12/8/12 9:00 A

Hi everyone - I know how you feel about children ignoring their parents. My dh's kids were very upset when their dad divorced their mom. It took them years before they could even begin to accept me. One of them took over 20 years. But at least towards the end of dh's life they started seeing him more and more. I have not heard from them since, not even to check if I am OK after the funeral. I am sure that I will never hear from them again, even though I was with their father almost 30 years. But I figure it is their loss and not mine.

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12/7/12 11:58 A

Morning Starr;

I keep telling myself that his family in time as they age will experience the same from their children. Especially if that money runs out before they do! I can forgive as we are taught, but I can never forget!

Had lots of errands to run today but it's raining, and too rain all this weekend. Hate to get out in this as I'm just now feeling better. You know what they say about the best laid plans.
So, guess I shall concentrate of the inside needs for a while.
Have a great weekend.

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12/7/12 8:59 A

Michele,

I hope that your feeling a bit better now. I know that it has been a rough start to winter for a lot of folks. During the entire month of November, there were at least 1, if not more, folks sick in my house at any given time during that month. I had begun to wonder if the 3 of us were ever going to get well. And with me being DH & DD's full-time caregiver, it is NOT a good thing for me to be sick at the same time that they are. But, I deal with it as best as I can. I try to look at it this way......even though I am sick, they are still getting better care then if they were in a nursing/group home.

Last Wednesday I went to church and found out that more then one-half of the congregation was at home sick. And a large portion of the folks who were there, were coughing, sniffling, sneezing & looked like they had seen better days.

I sure do understand about how your DH feels about his family ignoring him. My eldest child who will be 30 this month has all but disowned me, because I won't take full-time care of his 4 small children. Never mind the fact that my plate is already running over with taking full-time care of disabled DD & DH, and my health not being good either. Have not talked to him since May, and at that time he told me how horrible of a mother and grandmother that I am. We also have a 32 year old daughter who only comes around when she needs money. Otherwise, we never hear from her. We do not give her money, as we don't have it to give, but she expects it anyway. We see her only about once a year, even though she lives less then a 30 minute drive from us.

I suspect that there are a lot of family who the Scooge of past, present and future needs to pay a visit.

Hugs to everyone.

Starr

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12/7/12 12:25 A

Dianne...things have gotten a little better the past 2 days, as have been able to tolerate solids foods and they have been staying down.
Hubby has been more depressed lately, It's Christmas time an his family: Children, GC have not been around him since his fall and mood swings. Thus his GGC have not seen or called him either. Aside from my family and his son he litterly has no one.
This is a Magical time of the year, perhaps Ole Scooge's past, present an future will pay his family a visit.
Have, a great Holiday Season and be Safe.

Michele

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12/6/12 10:26 A

Sorry to hear you are having a difficult time, Michele. I have been doing well. I never seem to be home. I am busy with a buying Christmas presents for my dd, gs and a couple of friends. For the friends I usually bake a variety of baked goods. The baking makes me feel Christmasy. I'll certainly be busy during Christmas. I have a Christmas Eve supper with my bf and the clients I used to take care of. Christmas morning my dd and gs are arriving. Lunch with another friend, who is alone at Christmas and then I am receiving 15 people for supper. Luckily I don't have to supply any of the food. All my siblings will be taking care of that. After Christmas I will be working more than usual. All this should help me deal with not having dh not being there. Man, I still miss him so much.

Take care

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12/4/12 3:48 P

Till you get to the doctor, you might want to try these: 1. On the left hand, place pressure on the web part between the thumb and index finger. Amount of time is an individual thing. or
2. At the base of the neck on both sides of the spinal cord, at the same time place pressure starting light on so on. I have tried both at different times and they do help me.

We are all different an so are the headaches and their causes. What may work for one may not work for someone else.

Dianne, how are things going? Pressure has been so bad around here, that I actually had to sit on my hands frequently yesterday to keep from calling a lawyer.

Dianne and Starr keep; smiling and laughing and have a great week.

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12/4/12 10:44 A

Dianne,

Thank you for the sympathise about the headaches. I have tried many different medications. Pain killers, also medication that you take everyday to keep from getting headaches. But I have not been able to take any of them. Mostly because of them making me sick to my stomach and/or making me dizzy & light headed.

My old doctor just moved out of the area last month, so I have a new doctor. I think that I actually like him better then the last one. I am hoping that he will be able to find a solution to my chronic headaches which will not have other side effects which are just as bad as the headaches.

You & Michele have a blessed day.

Hay, I made a blog about my family's trip to see a Christmas lights show. If you like Christmas lights, you might want to go check it out.


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12/4/12 8:23 A

Sorry to hear that you suffer from migraines. I did too until the doctor prescribed Lisinopril and Elavl . I also take Imitrex for the occational migraine.

Check with you doctor he may have a solution for you.

Take care of yourself.

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12/2/12 2:58 P

I hear you on the pain medication, at one time the VA here would make arrangements with one of the local pharmacies on certain medications so that those medications could be picked up locally if the lived as ways from the VA hospital. However with the ever changing laws related to all drugs, things may have changed.

The month of Magical happenings and meaning. Which we all hold in our hearts differently, may this time of the year hold true to each an everyone's own true beliefs.

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12/2/12 11:19 A

Hello everyone.

Not doing too well this morning. Woke up with a migraine headache this morning.

Was going to go to church, but not going to go anywhere with a headache making my eyes feel like they are crossing.

Thankfully DH's home health care aide will be here today, I just might go back to bed.

********MICHELE.....Friday I got everything on my list, of out of the house, chores done. Except going to the dollar tree. But I did that yesterday. Which was fine, because my DH wanted to go there with me anyway. The main thing on Friday was me getting to the VA to pick up DH's pain medication, and picking up other meds from the pharmacy for DD & myself. As usual, it took for ever to get the RX from the VA filled. I think that just about every Veteran in the city was there on Friday. You had asked me if our VA has transportation for Veteran's to & from the VA, yes it does. But they do not do any time of individual care, the drivers only help load and drive. My DH is not able to get to or place his urinal where it needs to be when he has to pee. Nor can he get his zipper down on his pants. And because he takes Lasex, he has to pee often. Now if he were able to use his hands & arms better, VA transportation would be a nice option.....or at least change of pace. And the VA does send medication in the mail. DH gets all of his VA medication that way except for his pain medication. He has tried getting it thru the mail, but twice the pain pills have been "lost" in the mail and another time it was sent to another Veteran with the same last name in another city. DH's doctor at the VA refuses to write a RX for a few days over the date of refill, in case some things such as "being lost in the mail" happens. So if I do not drive to the VA every month and wait on the RX to be filled, then we risk DH going without pain medication for a day or two, or more.

I hope everyone has a great rest of the weekend.


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12/1/12 11:45 P

Hey Starr, how did your day of shopping go? I haven't been out as yet, been under the weather for the past four days. Just trying to do things around here wears me out just trying to get ready to even start. Promised myself if not feeling better Monday will call the doc. DH has tried to help and has been successful at times and makes a mess at times but he is trying.
Nothing really planed for tomorrow as it is in the forecast for rain.
Have a great Sunday, Blessings to You and Yours!

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12/1/12 11:23 A

GOOD MORNING DIANE & MICHELE,

TODAY WE ARE GOING TO GO TO THE DOLLAR TREE AND GET A FEW THINGS.

TOMORROW DD & I ARE GOING TO CHURCH, AS DH's HOME HEALTH CARE AIDE WILL BE HERE.

MONDAY WERE GOING TO GO SEE THE PRADE OF LIGHTS IN A CITY AN HOUR FROM US

AND TUESDAY I WILL GET A COUPLE HOURS TO MYSELF, AS OLDEST DD IS GOING TO TAKE DH & DD TO WAL MART TO DO SOME SHOPPING FOR ME.

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12/1/12 11:10 A

Morning Dianne, Shopping on hold till around the middle of the month. Prices usual level off around that time an money goes farther than on Black Friday. How are you doing this season?
My GD turned 7 this past Wednesday, makes me happy that I can still keep up with her. She is my biggest supporter and motivator. What is your motivator?

Hope everyone has a smooth an De-stressed weekend.
Peace be with you all!

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12/1/12 9:45 A

Hi everyone, I also hope that everyone has a great week-end. How are you all doing with the Christmas shopping?

Dianne

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11/30/12 11:09 P

Have a great weekend and Be Safe!

Peace to all!

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