I know that this is very hard for you. I had 2 cats that were my kids and losing them, well, it was like losing a part of myself. Unfortunately it takes time to heal, but in that time you have all your friends here to talk with. I would give anything that you or anyone would never have to hurt again. (My dream I will always dream)
Thanks everyone for all the words of support and encouragement, especially you Emilie. So nice to have someone out there who understands what we are going through. Ok, I'm going to say the mantra out loud....and just get through this. But its nice to know I have support out there. Thank you. CC
All my cats & my dog are my babies. They all have their own personalities. I love them all for who they are. Thank God for the companion He gave you. The grief is normal. I wish you angels to help you cope. Sandy
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face ... we must do that which we think we cannot. Roosevelt, Eleanor
CC, I am so, so sorry to hear about your dogs. I lost my dog two years ago. He was my best friend and I had raised him since he was a puppy. It really was one of the most life-scarring events I've ever experienced. For people who are not animal lovers, it's hard to understand how devastating the loss of a pet can be, and the fact that it is NOT "just a pet". For me, my dog was an integral part of my family and we had grown up together and shared more memories than most people in my lifetime.
In addition to the loss itself, an event like this also serves as a reminder of just how much time has passed. You realize that the 15 years (in my case) went by way too quickly, and in a way, the death of your dog is kind of like saying good-bye to that time in your life...or at least making you conscious of time that has come and gone. Of course you will always have the memories, though, and especially with pets, they are always good ones. It sounds like you have additional stress because you are handling the reactions of your family, whereas I had a hard enough time just dealing with my own! Just try to realize that it's going to take time, probably more than you might think. For about at least six months I could not even look at pictures of my dog because it was way too painful.
Emotional eating is totally understandable, but before you run to the kitchen next time, maybe just simply ask yourself if you are truly hungry. If you're not (although MUCH easier said than done), try to find some outlet that is healthier. Making yourself fully conscious BEFORE you start eating is key, rather than inhaling an entire of bag chips without really tasting them or realizing it (story of my life). As most of us know, feeling like crap leads to emotional eating, but emotional eating undoubtedly just leads to feeling even worse. Walking, talking to friends/family, or even a mini vacation are all things that might help. I wish you the best and please continue to post on here whenever you need someone to talk to.
I know how you feel. We lost our dog 2 years ago. She was 14 years old and the sweetest dog. I miss her so much. We are finally getting a new puppy next month and I am very excited about that.
I know you are sad, but using food to comfort you will not make you feel any better. Say that out loud. That's what I do when I'm about to do something like that.
Hang in there.
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I know where you are coming from....our 12 yr old springer has just been diagnosed with early kidney problems. The vet wants us to feed him special food that will set us back $70 a bag...what can we do..they become like a child to you. Hopefully the new food will give him a longer more productive life and buy us some time...a friend just lost his dog of 8 yrs to liver cancer..he had a new pup within a few weeks...an empty house can be daunting..have you thought about a new dog from a shelter or an older dog from a breeder that doesn't want to use it for breeding anymore? then you are not dealing with the hassel of training if that is a problem for you
Mary "We canít become what we need by remaining what we are."
I'm a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.
I understand your desire to bury emotions in food. I'm having an opposite problem with a dog--the puppy keeps having "accidents" in the house, so I'm frustrated with that. Get away from the food--go for a drive, if it's possible walk the dog, go to a movie together...Want my puppy? (kidding)
Ok, pretty sure we are losing our second dog after losing the first one only 4 months ago. Trying to keep the family sane and wanting to do nothing but bury my emotions in food. I'm trying hard not to go raid the kitchen....could use any words of encouragement. Thanks CC
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