Do you have a partner (gf/bf, husband/wife)? If yes:
1) Did you tell them about your weight loss goal/efforts? Yes, I did and
2) How do they support you? He always tells me how proud he is of me! He eats whatever I happen to make to eat and has NEVER complained once and
3) Do you ever feel like they don't support you? Yes, when we go out to eat and he orders what seems like the least healthy thing on the menu. When he orders those things like chicken wings as appetizers and then repeatedly asks me if I want any.
4) IF you've shared your goal, does this make you feel more accountable or more stressed?
I don't think it does either. I hold myself accountable all on my own and he has never criticized or said anything if I do make a less healthy choice.
~Tiff~ SW 01/01/13: 189
2% goal: 185.22 Met 2/6/13 5% goal: 179.5 Met 2/21/13 8% goal: 173.88 Met 3/30/13 10%goal: 170.1 Met 4/12/13 12% goal 166.32 Met 5/23/13 15% goal 160.65 Met 7/14/13 18% goal: 154.98 Met 8/9/13 20% goal: 151.2
GW: 125 "Seven days without exercise makes one weak."
It sounds like he tries to be supportive. That was a good move. If you can not reach the snacks you may not eat them. It is really you that prevents you from eating them. I try to eat the protein, vegetables, and fruit to fill me up. Then I do not have any room to eat the snacks but it is hard to see or smell food and not eat them. I have to distract myself by going for a walk or doing a find the word puzzle. I may try a crossword puzzle. Best wishes, Linda from bean town
Linda from bean town EST
current weight: 125.0
Fitness Minutes: (41,763) Posts: 67 4/23/13 12:17 A
Yes, he has been with me for almost 17 years. Loves me and thinks I am beautiful no matter what. This, however, can be a bad thing as he doesn't get my need to control my eating habits. We love healthy food but we also both love junk food. He is much better about will power than I am and doesn't understand why I don't want snacks in the house. He was very supportive though last week when I asked if we could make a separate snack cupboard for him and I put all his goodies in the cabinet above the fridge! He knows about SP but not the extent to which I have gotten involved. You all are my support group
Pounds lost: 18.0
Fitness Minutes: (73,372) Posts: 7,742 4/21/13 6:53 P
Yes, I have a dear husband. 1. Yes! 2. He is okay with not having foods that are 'trigger foods' for me in the house. He never complains about my size or weight and says he appreciates me as I am. He enjoys the green smoothies and salads I make and takes them to work with him, which motivates me to make them for both of us. 3. No. 4. No, he 'does not care' (in a positive way!) if I reach the goals or not. As I understand it his standpoint is he loves me if I reach the goals or not. He does say, when asked, that he believes I can do it.
1) Did you tell them about your weight loss goal/efforts? Yes I have told my husband of my weight loss goals and efforts.
2) How do they support you? He supports me by paying for whatever I need to do the job. He also asks me regularly how I am coming along and will compliment me on my weight loss efforts when he can.
3) Do you ever feel like they don't support you? Yes when he offers me things to eat that I no longer eat.
4) IF you've shared your goal, does this make you feel more accountable or more stressed? More accountable. It doesn't stress me because I am doing this for myself, with help or without. His knowing wont make me put sweets in my mouth or not put sweets in my mouth....that's my choice and mine alone.
I will NOT run emotionally from compliments and hide in fat layers for protection.
current weight: 225.0
Fitness Minutes: (6,287) Posts: 2,445 4/21/13 3:58 A
I guess I seem to be the odd one out here. I never mention to him that I am on a weight loss plan but having said that he knows that I am trying to get all the family eating healthier and I will cook healthy meals most of the time. He just gets to eat as much as he likes of it! Sometimes I may not have dinner with them as I have had something different earlier or plan to have something later. He never notices. Not sure what that says about our relationship. I suppose there is different things in every relationship.
I am also quite a private person and don't look for outside support from family and friends. That is why I like Spark. That is my support!! And my husband knows nothing about it! I should say that he has no weight issues and never had. Is about 140-150 lbs all his life. I learn a lot from his eating habits as he is very relaxed about food. He will eat when hungry, can go most of the day not eating and have a good dinner in the evening. And sometimes I see him eating a lot during the day. It all seems to balance out but he seems to stop eating when he is no longer hungry even if it is something he loves!!
He has also never commented on my weight and has loved me equally at every size. I think that is why he never mentions it. His feelings are not dependent on my size which I am thankful for.
I don't keep treats in the house and I don't feel guilty about that as he can have them when he is out. He used to want cookies but never pushed it. I do all the cooking and grocery shopping so that helps me! I used to exercise when no one was around but I have worked through that one - mainly because it was seriously effecting the times available to me for exercising!!!
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I am not in a relationship right now. It would be very difficult if a partner was not supportive of my weight loss. I guess I would not be with that person for long. I would be okay to workout or take walks with a partner. Ideally I would be happy with a partner that would eat healthy and exercise with me. Linda from bean town
I am going to take this one and although I am not currently in a romantic relationship, I do live with my son who cooks and who also has both weight and diabetes challenges of his own. He is aware of SP and he also belongs but doesn't really bother with it most of the time. He will track occasionally, but not always. He DOES, however support my efforts, weighs and measures my food when he prepares it and tells me how much X and how many Y he is putting on my plate so I can track it. Often when in doubt, he will tell me in advance to see if they fit into my daily calories. I honor his support and kindness by making suggestions BUT NOT pushing them on him. I also help him figure out things that MIGHT work for him. He has lost weight and improved his health while I have.
I have had both supportive and not so supportive loved ones through the years. I always make a point of explaining that IF I AM PUTTING FOOD IN MY MOUTH, IT FITS MY PLAN and that I do NOT want anyone telling me I must or cannot have something. I also have made it clear that I am responsible for what goes into my mouth ultimately.
Ed keeps a separate snack supply that is NOT mixed with mine and he also doesn't TOUCH MY stuff without asking. We are both willing to share but neither one of us trespasses on the other person's SNACKS unless it is offered. He has learned that IF he portions things into individual snack packs instead of the BIG bag - they last longer and he is less likely to overdo it with them. He does it as soon as we get home from shopping.
It works for us.
With love and caring from Nancy ... wishing all of you a wonderful, blessed, and precious day.
current weight: 238.0
Fitness Minutes: (30,338) Posts: 24,173 4/20/13 7:51 P
Yes I have shared with my fiancee about my weight problem and my goals and he has been most supportive. He even cooks healthy meals jsut for me. He cheers me on when i have succeeded and he cries with me when I feel i'm a failure & he picks me up when I fall down. If he didn't I'd kick his behind out of my life. that's part of a relationship.
I did share with my husband (and Mom, since she lives with us) that I had joined SP. I explained that if they were serving me something to eat, it would have to be portioned out by using the digital kitchen scale or measuring spoons. I have absolute support from them in this endeavor.
The goal of becoming the healthiest I can be (as opposed to dieting) does not stress me out at all. It was much harder to have to become gluten free due to my wheat and other grains allergy than to track my nutrition,etc. on SP. And yes, both my husband and Mom agreed to also be GF even though they don't have to.
I am totally accountable to myself for this - neither of them would say anything.
My Mom has been a WW Maintenance member for over 20 years so she understands what it's like.
My husband has never ever asked (nor been told) my weight.
It's strange to my ears to hear them say how hard I've worked to get where I am now, whereas I don't see it as hard work (if that makes any sense).
Edited by: CHERYL_ANNE at: 4/20/2013 (19:20)
Fitness Minutes: (8,165) Posts: 5,320 4/20/13 7:14 P
Those are a lot of good questions. We've been married(today actually),for 23 years so he's lived quite a few times through my weight loss efforts. He supports me up to a point. He does insist on having chips for the week-end in the house but he knows I will not get ice-cream or cookies. I can go to Zumba anytime I want but he will not come for walks with me,even if I beg. He loves me no matter what size i am and never said anything even when I was at my fattest. When I cook, I sometimes have to make 2 meals because he is a very fussy eater, but I like simple foods so it's not that hard. I guess we've learnt to compromise on some stuff and he did learn to eat healthier. Him knowing my goal makes no difference.
Hope this helps!
current weight: 171.4
Fitness Minutes: (0) Posts: 61 4/20/13 6:27 P
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