Nancypat1 is right on the money, here. It's a matter of finding what is right for you. It's easy for me to get depressed if I am trying to live up to someone else's imagined or real expectations. Sometimes my own unreal expectations can bite me in the (you know) too.
I gave up Thanksgiving with my family for a couple of years because it was just too stressful. When I came back to the fold, I was welcomed and respected for my choices.
Many good thoughts to you and yours this holiday.
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Fitness Minutes: (120) Posts: 13,328 11/6/12 9:08 A
I don't worry about what I eat on Thanksgiving (or Christmas Eve or Christmas day etc..). I call those "splurge days." I enjoy the special foods that I don't get the rest of the year. My goal is simply to not eat myself into a food coma.
A day of indulging every now and then really isn't going to undo your hard work.....as long as you get yourself right back on track. So don't be stressed, just enjoy yourself!
Edited by: YELLOWDAHLIA at: 11/6/2012 (09:09)
Weight loss is accomplished with the mind.
A person who wants something WILL find a way....a person who doesn't will find an excuse.
Which do you prefer? The pain of self discipline?....or...the pain of self regret?
If you are eating less and healthy and losing weight make a healthy thanksgiving meal. It can be done For instance a green bean casserole with light low sodium cream of mushroom soup and you can make your own french fried onions. I'd ahve sweet potatoe or yam without thecandied bit.
I can feel your stress. Is there any way this year other family members could bring dishes so you didn't have to do it all yourself? I wouldn't be able to move for a week if I had to prepare and eat all that good food. This year hubby and I are going to keep it as simple as possible. We're buying a prepared Chicken from our local grocery store and a small dessert and calling it Thanksgiving. The less I have to spend in the kitchen the better.
The advice you have so far is good and offers several options. My advice is pretty much the same as for anyone either starting off or struggling to overcome obstacles.
MAKE A PLAN - SPECIFICALLY MAKE YOUR PLAN
I have done Thanksgiving the traditional way and only eaten healthy, BUT I have also eaten some of everything I love and STILL managed to eat healthy and stay within my calorie range, BUT at other times, I have simply said I am not going to worry and stress over this, I will just eat whatever and pay the consequences later. MY most effective plan is to eat a light breakfast and lunch, drink water, and eat some of everything including the desserts for the evening meal. I deal with desserts by cutting SLIVERS of pie or cake and that way I can enjoy them without guilt and try ALL of them.
You need to think about what YOU want, how YOU think you will have fun and not beat yourself up. You need to think about YOUR family, YOUR preferences, YOUR particular needs and come up with a PLAN for YOU that MIGHT just work for YOU. If you find that the plan didn't work, tweak it, change it, and adapt it until it DOES eventually work for YOU.
With love and caring from Nancy ... wishing all of you a wonderful, blessed, and precious day.
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Fitness Minutes: (22,101) Posts: 5,550 11/5/12 3:50 P
Another view is to eat a little bit of each food you like. After all it is Thanksgiving, it is only one day a year. Enjoy the day, eat in moderation. Please don't worry about the day, it will drive you crazy. This is a lifestyle change to a healthier lifestyle so you need to make it something you can live with forever.
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this lifestyle change is for you and only you. dont' look at it as being depressing. think of it as a new challenge in life. make the taste testing your dinner. mark the calories and when it comes to dinner sit down, make sure you pile your plate with lots of salad and veggies. it isn't anyone else's business what you choose to eat at the dinner table. you can do this. you dserve this. during our holiday celebration, I bring along a veggie tray. I only eat those items that i do not get througout the year. I do not eat the mashed potatos or pies, cakes, rolls, and such. I eat the veggies and lean proten of the turkey minus the gravy.
1 bite at a time = 1 choice at a time. Choice is in our power; take the power and run.
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Fitness Minutes: (860) Posts: 135 11/5/12 1:52 P
Thinking of the Thanksgiving holiday that is coming makes me a little depressed. I am thankful for all I have, but I am obese and I am the cook in the family. So it is very disheartening to have to cook all the food, taste test to make sure that the flavor is what you remember, and still be espected to eat.
My question is how do I cook all the food (list of food will be given later), taste test, and still be expected to eat. I will have cooks assistance, but only i know the proper taste.
Thanksgiving Meal turkey stuffing mashed potatoes gravy creamed peas and corn bacon wrapped cabbage homaemade biscuits candied sweet potatoes green bean cassarole cranberry-apple crisp pumpkin cheese cake pecan pie stuff in a corner(mixed fruit, cottage cheese, jello, whipped cream) sweet tea coffee soda kool-aide
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