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Posts: 517 10/4/12 4:00 A
I think it can be extremely difficult to analyse why you are bingeing during the process or immediately after. But if you wait for the dust to settle and then find someone you can talk to about it in depth - it could be a close friend you have or someone online here. When you try and figure it out for yourself you can often just go round and round in circles torturing yourself, but when you discuss it with a friend, they can ask you questions and prompt different thinking. You will figure it out, and that is half the journey.... then you have to figure out what to do with the information!
Good luck to you - keep asking the questions - keep posting - and try not to punish yourself for the times when you slip, it will only contribute to the problem. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and give yourself a hug instead.
Pounds lost: 7.0
Posts: 14,499 10/2/12 11:29 P
Without taking the time to read other replies, let me share that for some reason that seems to be the way of this thing called "emotional eating". The good news is that the longer we keep working at making proper changes, the easier it becomes to overcome the temptations that rear their ugly pull. Also, the times between episodes get further & further apart.
Let go of the guilt - that guilt does no good - what is past is past - we need to learn from past poor choices; however, we MUST NOT allow those choices to eat us alive!
Edited by: IMAVISION at: 10/2/2012 (23:30)
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Fitness Minutes: (108,027) Posts: 17,653 10/2/12 7:20 P
Like others have said, we've all done the same thing...why? I think that's one of the mysteries we each need to solve in order to overcome it...the great thing about this team is that there are so many people in different places on this journey that we can get lots of advice and support.
Opportunity dances with those who are already on the dance floor. Jackson Brown
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current weight: 266.0
Posts: 7,186 10/2/12 3:57 P
We all have those moments;so keep reading the articles on this site.
Posts: 6,427 10/2/12 11:39 A
I also go with HAPPYONE's comment. The good news though is that even with this pattern, if you count the good days of the month compared to the bad days, you should still lose a hefty some at the end of each year. So dont give up because of whats going on with your emotions.
I will NOT run emotionally from compliments and hide in fat layers for protection.
current weight: 225.0
Fitness Minutes: (218,843) Posts: 6,532 10/2/12 10:04 A
Oh i know how you feel.!!!. I have had the same feelings.. and its hard i tell you!! I think eating and paying attention what your eating and why. And i also think that we have to take time to see what we are feeling.. writing down our feelings.. going for a walk.. something to distract us from just eating and not thinking.. i am here for you! hugs
loving myself as i am beautiful inside and out!!! Think positive .. you can do it!!!..... i do care.ï¿½ï¿½Life is not easy for any of us, but what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all, confidence in ourselves.ï¿½ ï¿½ Don't give up we all can do this!! Lost 110 pounds so far! i am loving it! I am now exercising 50 mins a day working up to 60 ! Keeping active is so important! classylady~Geri
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Posts: 247 10/2/12 8:58 A
I love your reasoning, Happyone - It just makes sense.
I spent two years losing over 55 pounds, only to put 30 of it back on because I was tired of peoples comments on my weight loss, or being able to keep it off or whatever. I don't like my body being used as subject matter for conversation.
There were 2 people instrumental in getting me to lose weight in the first place and those same 2 issued comments that caused me to gain again. I think I am finally ready to lose it again, for me. And that is essentially what this is about, is doing something positive for ourselves.
Anyone have ideas on how to deal with the comments, whether positive or negative?
current weight: 195.0
Fitness Minutes: (36,414) Posts: 115 10/2/12 8:51 A
Thank you all for your responses!!
I've been doing a TON of thinking about why I do it...why are there the days when I just CAN'T stop eating? I really have come to the conclusion that Happyone331 is totally on the mark.
For me, I believe that it's easier to blame the things that are "wrong" with my life on the fact that I'm overweight. If I lose the weight and these things don't change, what's that going to say about me?
That is something I am working on in conjunction with my weight loss journey...working to be 100% ok with me in ALL aspects. It's a journey, and I'm making small steps forward.
Pounds lost: 81.8
Fitness Minutes: (59,928) Posts: 6,598 10/2/12 6:54 A
Isn't it amazing that sometimes we are our own worst enemies....
Pounds lost: 38.0
Fitness Minutes: (5,938) Posts: 2,436 10/2/12 6:04 A
Good replies so far. I like HAPPYONE331's reply. I don't always know why I do it. And you are right it is not always because I feel down. Sometimes I feel like I am trying to fill a void, but of course food will never do that and it doesn't. But instead of stopping, I continue until I feel really bad and then of course the guilt sets in.
I think, take one day at the time and try not to be too hard on yourself. You are certainly not alone!
Never give up, never quit, never surrender
You only fail when you stop trying
There is nothing to hold you back except you.
You can press forward long after you can’t. It’s a matter of wanting it bad enough.
The bad news is: we are our own worst enemies. The good news is: we are our own greatest champions.
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Posts: 4,359 10/2/12 5:51 A
I've given this a great deal of thought. Believe it or not, I think a lot of us are actually afraid to lose weight, for one reason or another. If we're thinner, more may be expected of us. Or we may attract unwelcome attention from the opposite sex. Or our weight loss may threaten family members or spouses. So it's just downright more comfortable and less threatening to be heavier. Or we're afraid we're not really worth it.
I've read that there are only two primary emotions: Love or Fear. Every other emotion has one of these as it's root cause. For example, anger is really an aspect of fear. So overeating is certainly not self love, so it must be fear. What are we afraid of?
It is easy to think, it is hard to do, but to do what you think, that is the hardest. .......Goethe
Hope is not expensive to have. It is very costly to be without. .....Anne Wilson Schaef
Let your soul stand cool and composed before a million universes. Walt Whitman
Fitness Minutes: (30,324) Posts: 23,090 10/1/12 11:57 P
Right. We all are like this believe it or not. that's why we're here and we're here for each other. Be good and gentle to yourself. move on and think healthy. It might help if you trash all junk food that's in your house so nothing will call your name.
Fitness Minutes: (67,869) Posts: 5,304 10/1/12 11:35 P
You are not alone. Spark is full of people (including myself) that sabotage their diet. There are plenty of people to talk toabout it, but in the end It's an inner journey. Good luck!
current weight: 156.0
Fitness Minutes: (36,414) Posts: 115 10/1/12 11:02 P
Why do I do it? Why do I feel this need to sabotage myself just when I get going on a streak? It like there are days when I can't stop myself from eating everything in sight. Sunday was one of those days. It started as soon as I got up and lasted all day. I knew that I wasn't hungry, but even knowing that didn't stop me from stuffing my face.
Then, as ususally accompanies an episode of hard-core emotional eating, I've been living with the guilt of the binge. I know better...I know that I shouldn't do that, and yet, I just couldn't stop.
I wish I knew what triggered it. I wasn't feeling overly down or more lonely than normal. I just don't know, so it's SO frustrating. I have no clue as to the trigger, so how can I prevent it next time??
Pounds lost: 81.8
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