As the mother of three, grandmother of five, & having taught grade school children for a good many years, one thing I learned is that you don't have to convince a child to do as you need him to. You must let him see that you expect first time obedience in all matters.
One place you can give a choice (so he learns decision making skills & can show his independence appropriate for his age & within a scope of your choosing) is to give him a simple choice about what to wear or take with him when y’all go to the YMCA - i.e. Johnny, you may wear the green shorts or the red shorts when we go to the YMCA. Or “Johnny, you may choose one book to take with you when we go to the YMCA today.” You simply make it clear by giving him the choices that y’all are headed to the YMCA. Period!
You don’t give him a choice about going or not – if he fusses take him fussing his head off – be gentle but firm with him – don’t worry what anyone else may think of his behavior. Consistency is the key. Not bribery or pleading on your part. You are responsible for how your son turns out & what you teach him now will serve your relationship well in the future. When children are allowed to fuss to get their way, you create a monster that will continue to fuss, or worse, to get his desires met, as he gets older. It may be a phase he is going through – that doesn’t mean that he should be allowed to fuss to control you or his father.
Remember he is the child & you are the parent.
First time obedience is something children need to learn early & well.
God bless you as you train up you son in the way he should go.
Edited by: IMAVISION at: 6/14/2012 (21:59)
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