You are AMAZING! I think it is wonderful that this happened for you. I have been in therapy for more than 2 years and only after i told my therapist enough with the food issues and that i wanted to work on other areas of my life was i finally able to start turning things around and i too realized i would eat out of anger. I get mad at a friend or family member and because i also want to be the "good girl" i eat to stuff the words back in my mouth and to stuff my feeling back down inside. Now ii am learning how to talk to people when i am upset by them and that sometimes i have to walk away to gather myself together because i don't want to turn things into world war III. I am also learning sometimes the anger stems from the frustration over having no control over what others do that end up affecting my life but i am learning even if i have no control over the situation i do have control over how i react and eating does not make anything better so i too get to the gym or go for a ride. I also have a journal that have that can get so mean and horrible i have had to put some pages through the shredder because if anyone read what i wrote i could hurt people a really do love (most of the time).
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Without knowing all that has gone before, I question your not wanting your children to see your pain. When they witness your positive way of handling emotional pain, isn't that a good life lesson for them to take into adulthood?
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Yes i have felt like that.. never drove to a fast food place thou.. yelling or do what you can to feel better so you dont do something you regret later.. is a good idea..! Hang in there things will get better...
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Yes i can relate to what you are talking about. except i usually end up eating i haven't been able to just allow myself to feel what it is that i am feeling. I am glad that you didn't turn to food and allowed yourself to feel angry. and congrats on your weight loss
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Yup! I bet that anyone who is an emotional eater with toxic people in their life has done this...The trick is to realize it, appreciate the 'aha!' moment, and do something FOR YOU....Nothing TASTES as good as taking control of your life FEELS!
I am sorry to hear about your mother's treatment of you- but we can't control what other's do to us, only how we react to it. And I must say - you have done an AMAZING job of finding a healthier way to handle the issue. You are darn right - you have the right to your feelings. Vent them instead of stuffing them!! WTG!
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I am so sorry that you have an abusive mother. Congratulations on yelling in the car and not ordering food to numb your feelings. How mature you handled the situation. Tears heal and are well spent when necessary.
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Donna, that is really an incredible story, and so inspiring! I am so proud of you, and I don't even know you. your story gave me chills. I am horrified by your mothers behaviour, but you took care of YOU. You didn't give her power over YOU. That is really wonderful. Congratulations and I hope I can learn from you.
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woohhhwww hooowwww! Realblonde! That was such an incredible gift that you gave yourself! I have never had such a drastic situation but there have been times when I have been able to stop the robotic self from sabotaging me. It is that trance like behavior - I don't remember getting the food nor eating it. I seem to wake up on the last bite feeling ashamed, guilty, deflated and NOT even satisfied! Good for you! Keep up the good work
I think this fits in this forum as it truly relates to my emotions, food and how to handle.them.
A few days ago after hearing some news from my kids regarding my mother and her weird relationship with my abusive ex husband (too much and too messy to detail here but let's just say she has said on more than one occasion she prefers him to me, spends holidays with him, his sweetie of the week and his family) I jumped in my car and started to drive to the gym.
I was trying hard so that my three teenagers wouldn't see my tears. I mean I know exactly what kind of person my mother is but I don't want my kids to see my pain. She does loves my children.
And suddenly my car turned into a fast food restaurant. I sat there for a moment (no food just sobbing) and realized that I WAS NOT HUNGRY, I was just MAD AS HELL at my mom and the situation. Telling her for the eupth time that it's hurts my feelings wouldn't help or matter.
But what helped me was realizing that it was OK for me to be MAD and instead of medicating myself with food (to be a "good girl") I could yell in my car, walk at the park or take a class at gym. Most importantly I COULD BE MAD and ANGRY.
Since this realization a couple of days ago, I have have stopped my slow upward spiral on the scale and I am back down almost 4 pounds.
I share this because my "MOMENT" turned me around...has anyone else had this happen or a moment like this?
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