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I need to keep this list as a reminder. emoticon

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I can sure identify with most of these.

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HI
I did enjoy the 16 reasons feelings.

food is our buddy in any giving event . I know when my phone rang . If its happy news
or bad news ( I would go to the refrigator grab the ice cream ) one day i stopped
and realized what i was doing .

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YOU WILL FIND REFUGE,HIS FAITHFULNES WILL BE YOUR SHIELD AND RAMPART psalm 91:4


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BATYAFA,
I suggest you 'cut and paste' it in order to save it. I don't know you can save something from a forum into your favorites.

Have a TERRIFIC day!
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Wow. I thought I had a good handle on my triggers but this list has made me rethink it. There is a lot in here that rings true for me.

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This is a wonderful article. How can I save it as a Favorite?

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Wow, I can honestly say that I eat for every single one of those reasons. And I was about to cry while reading the list. But, it's a real eye opener. Thank you.

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I just reread the list as I caught myself 'snacking' in front of the computer. I decided to get a glass of water and a piece of gum.

Have a TERRIFIC day!
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Very informative. Thank you.

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Thanks for making it sticky. I've reviewed this article nearly daily!

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1/3/11 5:54 P

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As I paid attention to myself over the holidays....I came to the realization that I truly am an emotional eater. I've always known that certain feelings will trigger my "hunger", but I had a huge "ah-ha" moment this Christmas (Thanks to my sister-in-law).

Anyway,thanks for re-posting the feelings list...
I saw some old favorites and a few new ones. My triggers seem to be:
Anger
Depression
Lonliness
Anxiety
Disappointment
Emptiness
Fear
Grief
Boredom
The biggies are definitel anger, anxiety and boredom!!!
DJ

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Thanks for sharing this! SO MANY of those reasons apply to me.

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Great post and responses. Thanks

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Wow, thank you so much for posting, it really solidified why we eat the way we do at times. I am going to take these 16 lessons with me and remember them. If I can identify my emotion, I can stop myself from wanting to pick up a piece of food. Thanks again for posting!

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This was a great read. I read this before going to my mother's after the holidays. Normally I eat my way through the entire visit but this year I recognized my feelings of anger and insecurity for what they were. So instead of sticking my head into a bag of chips I read some secrets of success stories. Thanks for the post.

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This is such a helpful article. Thanks for posting... I truly see myself in several descriptions. Something to reflect upon and act on as we enter 2011!

You've got three choices in life. Give up, give in, or give it your all.

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12/31/10 11:44 A

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Thank you for taking the time to crystallize the emotions behind overeating. I gained 7 pounds over the holidays. That's atrocious but it is indicative of the mixed emotions that the holidays bring. I suppose the best thing to do when one thinks they are hungry is dring water. I cannot undo yesterday, I can only proceed to make changes today, tomorrow and the future days.

Happy, healthy, prosperous, safe and blessed New Year to all.
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Great list, thank you! I definitely see myself in a lot of those descriptions.

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Hey All, I am new to this team. I have known all along that I am an emotional eater. I also see myself in almost all of the triggers. December has been a whirlwind of emotions so I bet I have packed on a few pounds. The holidays are stressful anyways but add in Marital fights due to stress, money and a heart attack and almost death of my fav Uncle and I have stuffed my face with anything I can get my hands on (except candy..Yuck) I am so grateful to know that there are others like me and a place to get support. Thanks.

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This is really incredible. Thank you so much for sharing that list!! I never realized, but I think I eat for almost every one of those emotions!! Hopefully, knowledge being power, will help me overcome those eating feelings!

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Wow. That's seriously an eye opener.


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Wow, I have never seen this list before... I copied it and printed it out so I could read it often. I have known for a long time that I am an emotional/compulsive eater. Eating was my way to deal with whatever life would throw at me. Giving that up is the hardest thing I have ever had to do but I'm finally winning the battle! Thanks for the help and support!! emoticon

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I know that feeling oh to well. This past week I have gone to getting things ready for the holidays to finding out that my father in law has cancer the DAY BEFORE christmas, to unexpected people showing up, to not sleeping cause you still need to be there for the kids, it was just not a good week. And fighting with his family cause they have already put their father in the grave and 'claiming' what they wanted. When is 2011 getting here?

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I've been in avoidance all week - I'm not with my kids and grandkids, which is really hard for me during the holiday season....so I ate BIG TIME all week prior to Christmas Day as a way to soothe my soul. I didn't even check in and log my daily intake - didn't want to know.....wanted to avoid the responsibility and just partake of feeling sorry for myself, I guess. I have a lot to be thankful for, so why do I do this to myself!?

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I have finally read all of the reasons and whys behind them and I see myself in many of those. Thanks for posting

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It's now or never

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I just wanna live while I'm alive -- bon jovi


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I am new to this team, thanks PATRICIAAK for posting the list.


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Full of hope and good cheer.
:I CAN do this....... YES I CAN.
:Don't EVER give up or give in.

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Hi. I just joined this team and read your post. Thank you so much. I've learned a lot about myself. I never knew why I do the things I do. I never connected my emotions to food. I just ate it & never thought about why. so know that I know...I think I will start to track my feelings in a journal & see how the food I eat corresponds to my moods at that time. Huh, a new concept. emoticon emoticon

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Celebration/Joy! Eating over the holidays with family! OMG...back to childhood feasts! So hard to hold back, but really trying. I gave away chocolate I received to my teenage nephews and shared some with the family and had some with my Mom. All in all, I did not have very much. But, even though I struggle with eating too much, I still eat plain...the spices sort of get to me...yikes.

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I can say this today: boredom is the one I am fighting today.....it is horribly boring here today and time is just dragging and there are treats everywhere around here!!!

So far so good though.

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The main reason I've tended to overeat in the past is feeling lonely. I gained over 40 lbs when I split with a former girlfriend, so feeling lonely is a major eating trigger for me. Boredom is also a big factor. Whenever I find myself not feeling occupied enough is when eating turns into a kind of hobby rather than something you do to survive. I find it easier to avoid it now because I've identified the problem and the triggers and engage in activities to distract me :)

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thank you for the reminder, I just came back to SP after 2 mos. which was 2 long**

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Thank you - this is just what I needed to read today. Wish it could be sticky because then I could read it every day.

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Wow, I needed to read this again. Hopelessness and stress and guilt seem to be my major triggers, so I should start being more mindful. emoticon

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Mine is Depression and Hurt

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Hello..I been mia.I think right now being in house and bored and holidays coming is hard .Icy out.Hope all are doing good..pj

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It's so hard to prioritize. I guess it depends on which I'm most guilty of at the moment. I think for me, with the holidays, it's actually joy and just wanting to celebrate with happy food.

New goal: tackle list and figure out which is needed most now.

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I think the big things that get me eating are stress and anger. The other emotions I can cope with just fine. I had to do some self-talk on Sunday after an argument with my husband, and I did not want to do even a healthy snack in that state because I thought it just continued the unhealthy behavior. I just remind myself that there is nothing about eating that is going to actually help the situation-everything is the same after you eat.

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I agree we cant handle them all at the same time. I would recommend prioritizing the list and tackling them one at a time

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As I read this, I found myself realizing that I am guilty of many of these forms of emotional eating. For those of you who do more than one, are you trying to cut them all out? Or focus on one at a time? I just don't know if trying to tackle them all at once will be too much of an overload that leads me to fail more often than succeed! Thoughts?

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Boy does that list describe me

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Thanks a million for this list of issues I need to work through.

I've been so caught up in other things that it's such a pleasure to get this reminder.

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This is a good article to reread several times.

Have a TERRIFIC day!
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Thank you for sharing that great article! I recognize myself in so many of those and I never thought of myself as an emotional eater until recently.

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Most of these feelings could make me eat. I can't believe that I just realized I am an emotional eater.

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So, so true. So many of these apply to me. I recently started seeing a therapist to deal with my food issues and am realizing that I eat to cover pretty much all of the uncomfortable emotions (loneliness, boredom, anger, sadness, etc.)

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yes yes and yes, most of these do apply to me too. Well this is why I joined this group. I plan on combating this full force! starting now.....

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I could relate to so much of this article. Feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, fatigue, fear and recently grief (for a friend) especially.

I KNOW eating healthy will help me combat all these feelings and make me feel strong and capable.

I wish I could do it.

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I am most definitely an emotional eater. I think I fit into all but one or two categories. It's amazing how much insight this article provides. I am carrying this with me wherever I go and reminding myself of this when I think I want to eat. Thanks so much for posting it.

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Oh boy, I can't think of one of those 16 feelings that I haven't used as an excuse to eat. Thank you so much for addressing them.

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Thank-you for posting something to feed our minds with...Its awesome advice to fuel our thoughts. Very appreciated!

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OMG! I didn't realize that this list existed and how I can soooo relate to it! I made a copy of it so that I can look at it every time I get the "hunger" urge. Thank you so much for posting!

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Thanks for posting this list once again, because once again I think I need it! Some bad habits have crept back into my healthy eating plan and I intend to read this and re-read it until it sinks in. emoticon

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Hi Patricia,

Thank you for so much for this article. It has greatly helped in understanding why I tend to eat at night. It is the fatigue. When my body wants to sleep, my mind wants to keep awake and that makes my hands want to put food in my mouth.

I have struggled with this problem since childhood. People have made fun of me cos of my poor eating habits but I could never combat them cos I never understood the root cause.

Now I get it. I will sleep when my brain tells me to.

Thank you so so much.
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Seeing all of that staring me in teh face...I was embarassed. I have so much control over every other aspect of my life (career, lovelife, goals like travelling) but when it comes to food I haven't been able to curb the hand to mouth actions(until recently). Seeing it in black and white helps it make sense for me, and like others this list is going up on the fridge so I can evaluate WHY i want something from the fridge. Am I hungry? Or do I need to deal with one of those emotions before i eat? Thank you for posting that list.

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I know I definatly have some of them. I am definately with insecurity, tiredness, frustration, anxiety, someone thinks I may be mildly depressed, and there could easily be more than that in this list. I am sure that having multiple disibilities do not help because I get frustrated a lot easier than others in a number of different areas.

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wow two of these REALLY apply to me. i am so much of a "happy" eater as well as a "bored" eater. as a happy eater, i absolutely love to indulge in sweets and huge portions. as a bored eater, i definitely eat when nothing else is going on or to take breaks. i guess the first step is recognizing these things - but i think i'll need a little more than that to really stop! any suggestions?? emoticon

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Thanks for posting the list! I've eaten for every one of the reasons, far too many times.

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Wow! Enlightenment staring me in the face...this list is going on my fridge as well! Thanks for the post!

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Eat smaller portions and more vegetables!





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So profound! I identify with so many of those. After my dad died I gained 20 pounds (on top of the 35 I'd already gained). Every time I lose a bit I gain it back with extra. My life is so chaotic, one crisis after another, and food kills the anxiety. Self-sabotage - that's me! The few times that I've kept with the diet & exercise, all my past issues starting surfacing and I killed them with food. There is just some pain that I'm not ready to face.

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Here the list is again.


These are the major feelings behind the "hunger", and if we can identify what we really feel, perhaps we can stop the next craving!

BY Dr. Doreen Virtue - "Emotional Eating"

Listed below are the 16 feelings that Emotional Eaters most often confuse with physical hunger.

Be as honest as you can with yourself when reading this list, because self-awareness is a key ingredient to recovering from emotional eating and the Yo-Yo Diet Syndrome. These listings merely describe the fattening feelings and explain why they lead to overeating.

1. Anger.
Anger is cited in more cases of emotional eating than any other emotion. Anger, especially when it's repressed, feels very uncomfortable, and this discomfort is often confused with hunger. But what feels like hunger is actually a desire to use food to cover up or mask the painful emotion -- anger. Women, in particular, have difficulty admitting that they are angry, due to societal pressures ranging from parental admonitions ("Young ladies shouldn't get angry!") to corporate gameplaying rules ("You'll get ahead in this company if you just smile and agree with management instead of arguing about their policies"). With all this pressure, people sometimes wish they never felt angry - a futile wish, of course, since everyone gets angry at times. People run into trouble with their anger when they ignore their angry feelings or pretend they don't exist, hoping the emotions will subside if they're ignored long enough. Emotion Eaters turn to food in order to stuff their anger.

2. Fatigue.
If anger is the number one psychological reason why people overeat, fatigue is definitely number two. That's why I call it "fat-igue." Some late-night overeaters use food in a vain attempt to energize themselves when they're tired. Shift workers, those who stay up late at night, and "workaholics" are especially prone to overeating when fatigued. Other people use food to calm the nervous tension associated with fatigue. Perhaps you've had a nerve-wracking day at the office, combined with over consumption of caffeine or chocolate. At night, you try to sleep but find you're too wired. That's when cravings for carbohydrate snacks occur, because these foods trigger calming brain chemicals that help you sleep. When we're tired, our resolve to eat lighter and healthier foods often goes out the window. Feeling fatigued, we say, "To heck with calorie counting!" and down a quart of ice cream or a massive plate of spaghetti. It's important to recognize fatigue in yourself when it occurs.

Learn to recognize how it feels when you're emotionally drained or intellectually overstimulated. Once you can label these feelings as fatigue, you won't be as likely to confuse them with hunger. Second, remember that when you're tired, rest will make you feel better. Overeating will not. Food may give you a temporary surge in blood sugar that is reminiscent of feeling rested, but the key word is that the respite is temporary. What's more, an eating binge can lead to sluggish, tired feelings the next day as your body tries to break down the high levels of sugar, fat, and carbohydrates from the binge foods. Rest, regular exercise, and the mind/body methods described in later chapters (The Yo-Yo Diet Syndrome) are the best ways to combat feelings of fatigue. Food only makes things worse!

3. Depression.
When life looks gray and gloomy, most Emotion Eaters start to think of ways to feel better, and their solution to depression usually involves food. People who eat when they're depressed often turn to dairy products such as ice cream (particularly chocolate) and cheese. As precisely as a well-trained pharmacist, but intuitively, the overeater picks food that alleviates depression. After all, the chemical makeup of dairy products has a neurological effect similar to antidepressant medications. Depression occurs for a number of reasons. It can be traced to: Holding in anger A loss, such as losing a job, getting a divorce, selling a house, becoming ill, or losing loved ones (including pets). Physical exhaustion or poor nutrition. This type of depression readily responds to rest and a healthful diet. "Kicking yourself" and focusing on real or imagined negative characteristics in yourself. Try to keep your attention focused on your positive qualities, and remember that everyone makes mistakes. Forgive yourself! Feeling like a helpless victim and seeing the future as hopeless. You're not a victim, and the future will be as pleasant or as painful as you set out to make it! You really do create your own life.

4. Loneliness.
Those who eat out of loneliness usually must push themselves to meet new people, even when the prospect seems frightening. Some of the easiest ways to get out and become active with others involve engaging in some sort of organized group activity, such as joining a volleyball team or a mastermind group, enrolling in any sort of class, or becoming a member of a charitable organization.

5. Insecurity / Inadequacy.
When I started working in the counseling field, I felt inadequate a great deal of the time. I worked in a large inpatient alcoholism hospital, and we were terribly understaffed. There was always a crisis of some sort with a patient or staff member, and there wasn't much that any of us counselors could do to keep the atmosphere positive. There was a pervasive air of gloom and despair hanging over us. And always, at the end of the day, I was left with the feeling that I just hadn't done enough to help the alcoholics and drug addicts in our facility. I'd feel empty and at a loss, and I'd want to eat as a result. Long-term experience as a counselor and my spiritual background eventually helped me to change my perspective. As you may know, feeling "not good enough" is an empty sensation. The insecurity and inadequacy that come with self-doubt can feel like a big, black empty hole right in the middle of your gut. It feels uneasy. It doesn't feel good.

I think that these feelings are among the toughest to contend with because most of us don't even want to admit we're experiencing them. I know that, at times, I used to believe that I was the only person in the world who felt inadequate. And I used to be afraid that merely admitting these feelings -- even to myself -- might make it true that I was inadequate. So I hid the feelings from myself and others and tried to fill the empty hole with food. Inadequacy is a very normal feeling! Everyone, including Ph.D.'s, M.D.'s, rich folks, and other successful and famous people, wrestles with self-doubt and feels like a failure at times. Problems arise when Emotion Eaters try to ignore or cover up the sense of inadequacy with food, instead of taking steps (such as returning to college, asking for a raise, praying, etc.) to minimize the basis for the feeling.

6. Guilt.
Eating, of course, doesn't resolve a guilt-producing situation. Besides taking steps to solve the problem, the realization that you are not completely responsible for others and that you truly can't control anyone else's actions or feelings can also free you of unnecessary guilt. This doesn't mean that you have to be thoughtless, just that you can let go of the erroneous notion that you're responsible for the happiness of those around you. No one person is that powerful! Give others credit for the direction they choose to take in their lives.

7. Jealousy.
Many "jealousy eaters" I've treated tend to compare themselves unfavorably to others in a process I call "comparing your insides with other people's outsides." This happens whenever you look at other people who appear to be so together, happy, and confident, and compare this with how you feel on the inside. You may become jealous if you assume someone else's life is much better than your own because on the outside he or she appears happier than you do. Remember that outside appearances can be deceiving, and that to other people, you, too, probably appear to have it all together.

8. Happiness.
"Happy" overeaters seem to turn to food for two reasons. The first is that when things are going well, they feel very, very good and they want to binge on good feelings. Because the "happy overeater" enjoys food, she wants to eat as much as possible in order to fill up on these positive emotions. She sees happiness as a limited resource that will run out quickly and needs to be gobbled up before it disappears. It helps if she frequently affirms the unlimited abundance of happiness, since joy is our true and natural state of being: "Happiness gushes forth from the center of my being, bringing waves of joy throughout my mind, body, and soul, and bringing happiness to everyone who sees, talks with, or thinks of me."

Second, people with low self-esteem often feel that they don't deserve happiness or success. So, as soon as aspects of their lives -- such as weight loss -- start to turn out right, they unconsciously start to sabotage their own success. Happiness, if you've never had much of it, can seem scary because of its novelty. Even though it seems illogical to wish unhappiness on yourself, some people are uncomfortable with anything but morose, depressing days. They almost need a problem or crisis in their life to give them a sense of purpose. If you're a "happy" overeater, it's important to remember that it really is okay to be happy and experience success! Affirm often: "My happiness is God's will for me. Happiness is my birthright, and my joy heals many lives." In addition, the joy won't disappear or be yanked out of your hands, so relax and let go of any "lack mentality" that tells you that happiness is a finite resource. And most importantly, don't overeat because of your happiness.

9. Anxiety / Nervousness.
Anxiety and nervousness lead to a particular type of overeating -- the "picking" variety. This style of eating disguises the amount of food one is eating because only a tiny amount is being consumed, bit by bit. But since the eating is continual, large amounts of food are eaten before the Yo-Yo Syndrome dieter even realizes what has happened. As if in a blackout or trance, the overeater seeks pacification from anxiety through food. Those who overeat due to anxiety and nervousness use food to relax, so they need to find alternative methods to unwind.

10. Disappointment / Hurt.
Similarly, people often overeat in the face of disappointment. Perhaps a friend lets you down or betrays you. Maybe you didn't get that raise or promotion at work. Or perhaps you feel let down every time you don't win the state lottery. Regardless of its source, disappointment can make you feel alone and hopeless about the future. It can make you lose interest in yourself, and make you not care what you weigh or what your body looks like. When you don't care, it's hard to stay away from food.

11. Emptiness/Hollowness.
I believe that we all have a drive or ambition to do certain things with our lives, and that we owe it to ourselves to try to fulfill those desires. We may not always succeed, but it's very important to at least try. Until we take steps toward our dreams and goals, an upsetting sense of uneasiness lives inside of us. The goal could be anything from getting a high school diploma to graduating from medical school, writing that novel or volunteering at that convalescent hospital. Whatever your personal dream, go seize it! Break the big goal into smaller, more accessible goals, and then take one small step today to bring yourself closer to the life you want to lead. You'll be glad you did.

12. Grief.
To discern whether unfinished grief could be at the heart of your Yo-Yo Diet Syndrome, ask yourself if thoughts about your losses bring about any of the following feelings: A heavy or pressured feeling in your chest Tears in your eyes The desire to think about something else right away Anger, resentment, or depression If any of these feelings relate to you, you probably have some unfinished grief work to complete. Though not a pleasant task, spending some time focusing your thoughts on the pain of your loss (with a therapist, through prayerful meditation, or by journal writing) could be the key to releasing you from your desire to overeat.

13. Procrastination.
Eating is, if nothing else, a very good timewaster. It makes a wonderful excuse for putting off performing an unpleasant task. Do you ever use food as an excuse to avoid doing some dreaded task? Do you use food to avoid making that phone call or writing that letter? To avoid doing a boring and mundane chore? To avoid completing a complicated or difficult task? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you've probably already recognized the futility of eating in order to procrastinate. No matter how much food you eat, the task will still remain on your "to do" list. By eating before you tackle the chore, you only make things worse. It makes you feel out of control, fat, sloppy, and angry at yourself for eating. And you still have to face the dreaded situation. Doesn't it make more sense, instead, to get the task over with (maybe even figuring out a way to enjoy it, too), delegate the task to someone else, or decide that you don't really need to do the chore after all?

14. Fear.
Fear often triggers nervous behavior, especially continual snacking. Fear is the root of guilt, insecurity, and other fattening feelings. Although fear can feel like a giant foe, it actually has more bark than bite.

15. Boredom.
Like people who eat out of procrastination, "boredom bingers" can fill up days, hours, months, and years a bite at a time. They're often anxious about having unstructured time and are constantly searching for something to do. They feel guilty if they're not engaged in some activity, and eating fits their definition of "activity." If this description reminds you of yourself, it's important to come to terms with your underlying issues. Why isn't it okay to just do nothing once in a while? Do you always have to be productive to feel good about yourself? Are you trying to please someone or get their approval by staying busy? What other activity would you rather be engaged in besides eating? Why aren't you doing that other activity now? What steps can you take right now that will fill your life with meaning, purpose, and fun?

16. Embarrassment.
Overeating due to embarrassment or self-consciousness occurs because of unrealistic expectations that you should never be noticed or be the topic of conversation. There is a tendency to take any remark as criticism, as well as a belief that other people's negative opinions about your behavior is true. Then, if you do make a mistake - a social blunder or a business error, for instance - you feel as if the world's going to fall apart.



Have a TERRIFIC day!
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With emotional eating, success can lead to problems. I weighed after several days and found that in total, I had lost almost 12 lbs. What happened, I started eating like there was no tomorrow. I have been on a mini binge for days now and keeping away from the scale. I had reported the good news to my dietician and I have to weigh tomorrow. I have warned her about what has been happening, but I cannot seem to control it. I know that I have gained weight as my cloths are tighter and my stomach which had shrunk a bit is a bit bigger again. How to stop this, I do not know. emoticon

Any ideas are welcome. emoticon

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Hi -- just joined SP earlier this month. Wish I had read this after work last night. Lots of the 16 applied to me. I ended up eating too many calories when I probably just needed sleep and giving myself some TLC. Printed this to contemplate further. thanks,

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Hi.

Where is the list? I'm sorry, I wasn't able to find it.

Thanks.

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Funny thing yesterday: had a medical test and couldn't eat beforehand for four hours. Not a big deal, right, but I was feeling anxious -- not hungry, but anxious. I think for me it's boredom and fear and loneliness and you name it. Thanks for the list -- it will help.

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I am such an emotional eater! I was just talking to someone and I have realized that my relationship with food has to change. I definitely use food for comfort. It feels good to know that I am not alone out here and that other people are experiencing the same things as me.

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just read these for the first time...I joined the group thinking I might be an emotional eater....now I KNOW I am!!! Most of these are so true for me!

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Just got a chance to look at the 16.

16 ways to say, "yeah, that's me..."

16 things to look out for now that I know...

Hugs to you all emoticon

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I think I had some emotional eating this past night. With the board being down and just wanting to eat, I was bored (even though i am working). I think I ate about 600 calories so far. So until midnight tonight I have (high amt) 1200 cal left for the day. I don't think it will be a problem, unless i am not able to go right to bed when i get home.

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my big triggers from this list arre depression, anxiety and boredom. I need to find healthier ways to deal with these emoitions. i am doing therapy right now that has shown helpful in eating disorders called dialectical behavioral therapy. type it in on the web and look it up, there is a site called dbt self help that gives the general principles of the therapy. they teach emotional regulation skills so you don't get too over-emotional to begin with, distress tolerance skills so that you can deal with emotional distress in more positive and less self-destructive ways, and crisis survival skills to use when you are at the edge of doing something self-destructive like binging. check it out, it is helpful.
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I agree, I so want this on my fridge too!


"People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how what you did or said made them feel."


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I just read this and I'm thinking *I do that, yip that's me, I definitely do THAT*

I should print off the 16 headings and post it on my fridge door! That should do the trick!

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Thank you for the post! It is a very nice reminder that I eat when I am have emotional issues.

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Thanks for the info did get it printed it helps to read thru Thank You. Mary

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How to print the "EEs confuse these emotions with hunger list"
On your mouse, usually you click the left side. To print, click the right side while the cursor is hovering over the material you want to print. When you right click a window with a list appears. From that "menu" left click on print.
Hope that helps. If not get one of the grandkids to help out!

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Hi I'm not that PC savy could you direct on how to print the list of feelings Thanks,Mary

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This is a wonderful post!! I just printed it out and plan to do some serious self-reflection on the true reasons why I binge. Self-awareness is key!

"I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me." -Philippians 4:13

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Your post hit on alot of my "excuses" seeing them in print will help me sort thru my feelings. Thanks,Mary

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The list has gotten buried, so here it is again.


These are the major feelings behind the "hunger", and if we can identify what we really feel, perhaps we can stop the next craving!

BY Dr. Doreen Virtue - "Emotional Eating"

Listed below are the 16 feelings that Emotional Eaters most often confuse with physical hunger.

Be as honest as you can with yourself when reading this list, because self-awareness is a key ingredient to recovering from emotional eating and the Yo-Yo Diet Syndrome. These listings merely describe the fattening feelings and explain why they lead to overeating.

1. Anger.
Anger is cited in more cases of emotional eating than any other emotion. Anger, especially when it's repressed, feels very uncomfortable, and this discomfort is often confused with hunger. But what feels like hunger is actually a desire to use food to cover up or mask the painful emotion -- anger. Women, in particular, have difficulty admitting that they are angry, due to societal pressures ranging from parental admonitions ("Young ladies shouldn't get angry!") to corporate gameplaying rules ("You'll get ahead in this company if you just smile and agree with management instead of arguing about their policies"). With all this pressure, people sometimes wish they never felt angry - a futile wish, of course, since everyone gets angry at times. People run into trouble with their anger when they ignore their angry feelings or pretend they don't exist, hoping the emotions will subside if they're ignored long enough. Emotion Eaters turn to food in order to stuff their anger.

2. Fatigue.
If anger is the number one psychological reason why people overeat, fatigue is definitely number two. That's why I call it "fat-igue." Some late-night overeaters use food in a vain attempt to energize themselves when they're tired. Shift workers, those who stay up late at night, and "workaholics" are especially prone to overeating when fatigued. Other people use food to calm the nervous tension associated with fatigue. Perhaps you've had a nerve-wracking day at the office, combined with over consumption of caffeine or chocolate. At night, you try to sleep but find you're too wired. That's when cravings for carbohydrate snacks occur, because these foods trigger calming brain chemicals that help you sleep. When we're tired, our resolve to eat lighter and healthier foods often goes out the window. Feeling fatigued, we say, "To heck with calorie counting!" and down a quart of ice cream or a massive plate of spaghetti. It's important to recognize fatigue in yourself when it occurs.

Learn to recognize how it feels when you're emotionally drained or intellectually overstimulated. Once you can label these feelings as fatigue, you won't be as likely to confuse them with hunger. Second, remember that when you're tired, rest will make you feel better. Overeating will not. Food may give you a temporary surge in blood sugar that is reminiscent of feeling rested, but the key word is that the respite is temporary. What's more, an eating binge can lead to sluggish, tired feelings the next day as your body tries to break down the high levels of sugar, fat, and carbohydrates from the binge foods. Rest, regular exercise, and the mind/body methods described in later chapters (The Yo-Yo Diet Syndrome) are the best ways to combat feelings of fatigue. Food only makes things worse!

3. Depression.
When life looks gray and gloomy, most Emotion Eaters start to think of ways to feel better, and their solution to depression usually involves food. People who eat when they're depressed often turn to dairy products such as ice cream (particularly chocolate) and cheese. As precisely as a well-trained pharmacist, but intuitively, the overeater picks food that alleviates depression. After all, the chemical makeup of dairy products has a neurological effect similar to antidepressant medications. Depression occurs for a number of reasons. It can be traced to: Holding in anger A loss, such as losing a job, getting a divorce, selling a house, becoming ill, or losing loved ones (including pets). Physical exhaustion or poor nutrition. This type of depression readily responds to rest and a healthful diet. "Kicking yourself" and focusing on real or imagined negative characteristics in yourself. Try to keep your attention focused on your positive qualities, and remember that everyone makes mistakes. Forgive yourself! Feeling like a helpless victim and seeing the future as hopeless. You're not a victim, and the future will be as pleasant or as painful as you set out to make it! You really do create your own life.

4. Loneliness.
Those who eat out of loneliness usually must push themselves to meet new people, even when the prospect seems frightening. Some of the easiest ways to get out and become active with others involve engaging in some sort of organized group activity, such as joining a volleyball team or a mastermind group, enrolling in any sort of class, or becoming a member of a charitable organization.

5. Insecurity / Inadequacy.
When I started working in the counseling field, I felt inadequate a great deal of the time. I worked in a large inpatient alcoholism hospital, and we were terribly understaffed. There was always a crisis of some sort with a patient or staff member, and there wasn't much that any of us counselors could do to keep the atmosphere positive. There was a pervasive air of gloom and despair hanging over us. And always, at the end of the day, I was left with the feeling that I just hadn't done enough to help the alcoholics and drug addicts in our facility. I'd feel empty and at a loss, and I'd want to eat as a result. Long-term experience as a counselor and my spiritual background eventually helped me to change my perspective. As you may know, feeling "not good enough" is an empty sensation. The insecurity and inadequacy that come with self-doubt can feel like a big, black empty hole right in the middle of your gut. It feels uneasy. It doesn't feel good.

I think that these feelings are among the toughest to contend with because most of us don't even want to admit we're experiencing them. I know that, at times, I used to believe that I was the only person in the world who felt inadequate. And I used to be afraid that merely admitting these feelings -- even to myself -- might make it true that I was inadequate. So I hid the feelings from myself and others and tried to fill the empty hole with food. Inadequacy is a very normal feeling! Everyone, including Ph.D.'s, M.D.'s, rich folks, and other successful and famous people, wrestles with self-doubt and feels like a failure at times. Problems arise when Emotion Eaters try to ignore or cover up the sense of inadequacy with food, instead of taking steps (such as returning to college, asking for a raise, praying, etc.) to minimize the basis for the feeling.

6. Guilt.
Eating, of course, doesn't resolve a guilt-producing situation. Besides taking steps to solve the problem, the realization that you are not completely responsible for others and that you truly can't control anyone else's actions or feelings can also free you of unnecessary guilt. This doesn't mean that you have to be thoughtless, just that you can let go of the erroneous notion that you're responsible for the happiness of those around you. No one person is that powerful! Give others credit for the direction they choose to take in their lives.

7. Jealousy.
Many "jealousy eaters" I've treated tend to compare themselves unfavorably to others in a process I call "comparing your insides with other people's outsides." This happens whenever you look at other people who appear to be so together, happy, and confident, and compare this with how you feel on the inside. You may become jealous if you assume someone else's life is much better than your own because on the outside he or she appears happier than you do. Remember that outside appearances can be deceiving, and that to other people, you, too, probably appear to have it all together.

8. Happiness.
"Happy" overeaters seem to turn to food for two reasons. The first is that when things are going well, they feel very, very good and they want to binge on good feelings. Because the "happy overeater" enjoys food, she wants to eat as much as possible in order to fill up on these positive emotions. She sees happiness as a limited resource that will run out quickly and needs to be gobbled up before it disappears. It helps if she frequently affirms the unlimited abundance of happiness, since joy is our true and natural state of being: "Happiness gushes forth from the center of my being, bringing waves of joy throughout my mind, body, and soul, and bringing happiness to everyone who sees, talks with, or thinks of me."

Second, people with low self-esteem often feel that they don't deserve happiness or success. So, as soon as aspects of their lives -- such as weight loss -- start to turn out right, they unconsciously start to sabotage their own success. Happiness, if you've never had much of it, can seem scary because of its novelty. Even though it seems illogical to wish unhappiness on yourself, some people are uncomfortable with anything but morose, depressing days. They almost need a problem or crisis in their life to give them a sense of purpose. If you're a "happy" overeater, it's important to remember that it really is okay to be happy and experience success! Affirm often: "My happiness is God's will for me. Happiness is my birthright, and my joy heals many lives." In addition, the joy won't disappear or be yanked out of your hands, so relax and let go of any "lack mentality" that tells you that happiness is a finite resource. And most importantly, don't overeat because of your happiness.

9. Anxiety / Nervousness.
Anxiety and nervousness lead to a particular type of overeating -- the "picking" variety. This style of eating disguises the amount of food one is eating because only a tiny amount is being consumed, bit by bit. But since the eating is continual, large amounts of food are eaten before the Yo-Yo Syndrome dieter even realizes what has happened. As if in a blackout or trance, the overeater seeks pacification from anxiety through food. Those who overeat due to anxiety and nervousness use food to relax, so they need to find alternative methods to unwind.

10. Disappointment / Hurt.
Similarly, people often overeat in the face of disappointment. Perhaps a friend lets you down or betrays you. Maybe you didn't get that raise or promotion at work. Or perhaps you feel let down every time you don't win the state lottery. Regardless of its source, disappointment can make you feel alone and hopeless about the future. It can make you lose interest in yourself, and make you not care what you weigh or what your body looks like. When you don't care, it's hard to stay away from food.

11. Emptiness/Hollowness.
I believe that we all have a drive or ambition to do certain things with our lives, and that we owe it to ourselves to try to fulfill those desires. We may not always succeed, but it's very important to at least try. Until we take steps toward our dreams and goals, an upsetting sense of uneasiness lives inside of us. The goal could be anything from getting a high school diploma to graduating from medical school, writing that novel or volunteering at that convalescent hospital. Whatever your personal dream, go seize it! Break the big goal into smaller, more accessible goals, and then take one small step today to bring yourself closer to the life you want to lead. You'll be glad you did.

12. Grief.
To discern whether unfinished grief could be at the heart of your Yo-Yo Diet Syndrome, ask yourself if thoughts about your losses bring about any of the following feelings: A heavy or pressured feeling in your chest Tears in your eyes The desire to think about something else right away Anger, resentment, or depression If any of these feelings relate to you, you probably have some unfinished grief work to complete. Though not a pleasant task, spending some time focusing your thoughts on the pain of your loss (with a therapist, through prayerful meditation, or by journal writing) could be the key to releasing you from your desire to overeat.

13. Procrastination.
Eating is, if nothing else, a very good timewaster. It makes a wonderful excuse for putting off performing an unpleasant task. Do you ever use food as an excuse to avoid doing some dreaded task? Do you use food to avoid making that phone call or writing that letter? To avoid doing a boring and mundane chore? To avoid completing a complicated or difficult task? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you've probably already recognized the futility of eating in order to procrastinate. No matter how much food you eat, the task will still remain on your "to do" list. By eating before you tackle the chore, you only make things worse. It makes you feel out of control, fat, sloppy, and angry at yourself for eating. And you still have to face the dreaded situation. Doesn't it make more sense, instead, to get the task over with (maybe even figuring out a way to enjoy it, too), delegate the task to someone else, or decide that you don't really need to do the chore after all?

14. Fear.
Fear often triggers nervous behavior, especially continual snacking. Fear is the root of guilt, insecurity, and other fattening feelings. Although fear can feel like a giant foe, it actually has more bark than bite.

15. Boredom.
Like people who eat out of procrastination, "boredom bingers" can fill up days, hours, months, and years a bite at a time. They're often anxious about having unstructured time and are constantly searching for something to do. They feel guilty if they're not engaged in some activity, and eating fits their definition of "activity." If this description reminds you of yourself, it's important to come to terms with your underlying issues. Why isn't it okay to just do nothing once in a while? Do you always have to be productive to feel good about yourself? Are you trying to please someone or get their approval by staying busy? What other activity would you rather be engaged in besides eating? Why aren't you doing that other activity now? What steps can you take right now that will fill your life with meaning, purpose, and fun?

16. Embarrassment.
Overeating due to embarrassment or self-consciousness occurs because of unrealistic expectations that you should never be noticed or be the topic of conversation. There is a tendency to take any remark as criticism, as well as a belief that other people's negative opinions about your behavior is true. Then, if you do make a mistake - a social blunder or a business error, for instance - you feel as if the world's going to fall apart.



Have a TERRIFIC day!
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11/12/10 1:27 P

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Wow! We will eat for any reason whatsoever!

Whatever is true . . . noble . . .right . . . pure . . . lovely . . . admirable . . . excellent . . . praiseworthy—think about such things.


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11/11/10 3:03 P

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Ok, this really hit the mark. When you can site 16 out of 16 as reason you eat..you can bet you are an emotional eater. Thank you

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11/11/10 11:35 A

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Both this and the 16 feelings that lead to eating so apply to me. I know I can do it

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CNTRYWOMAN -- I have the exact same problem you do, I tend to eat when I'm lonely. I work in a satellite office, and I'm usually all by myself there...my roommate spends most of her time at her boyfriends, so I see her for maybe an hour every week...there are times when it can seem like food (or wine) are your only friends.

I've noticed that the more time I spend on SP, the less I feel like over-eating. The people on this site motivate me and make me feel like I'm not as alone. I also put a basic step and a stability ball in front of the TV -- I don't know about you, but that's the real kicker for me, and when I eat the most, so the reminder that I could exercise while watching instead can be helpful.

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Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.

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Being sad or depressed makes me eat sometimes.

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I can honestly say I am behind in my posting. I was very glad to see me in print, with the 16 feelings of Emotional eating. I knew that was me, but seeing it in print gives me a whole other way to work out the confusion. I am retired, work pt to be around others. I feel like if I never got out of the house, I would crawl up the walls. I love being around people and seeing new people. I try to eat the right things, cook the right way, but the snacks and being alone are usually what gets me. I haven't gained but haven't lost either,,,,,,,,,any suggestions???

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Boredum, Depression, and Nervousness are me. The boredum not so much anymore because I'll recognize that I want to eat because I'm bored and avoid it and try to distract myself. But depression, when I'm sad or had a bad day or miss my boyfriend I definitely find myself wanting to eat. And when I'm anxious I could clear a fridge in ten minutes! This was a great article.

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11/5/10 4:52 P

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Counseling if you can afford it can help you get over the emotional eating. I am working on digging in to change the EE!

Thanks for your post...there are others like me!

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11/5/10 8:31 A

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I'm new to the team so was glad to see the 16 feelings listed. It helps a lot to see it in print. Thank you for posting.

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Last night I discovered that I confuse fighting frustration with permission to eat. I stood at the kitchen counter munching on cold homemade mac and cheese while I was warming it up for supper. I was in a funk and what made me feel better was doing something that I was in charge of. Only issue is I ate a bit too much and didn't keep the satisfied feeling overall.
Tough lessons to learn at 50+ but feeling proud that I am tackling the challenges. I now want to be proud of my eating choices too - even more than wanting to be in charge - or almost!

'devote yourself to an idea. go make it happen. struggle on it. overcome your fears. smile. don't you forget: this is your dream'
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Thank you for posting this. I am going to add this to my journal as a reference.

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Thanks for reposting this. It is really helpful to have that insight.

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Tonight I was going for a small bag of popcorn, but ended up eating tons of M&Ms. Why? I was reaching for the right thing, but then told myself "Oh forget it. Everyone else eats whatever they want and they don't care if they are big or not. I might as well eat what I'm craving. Then I'll feel better." Does that sound familar to anyone? I went over the 16 reasons list and found a few reasons that fit me. I think I was bored and decided to do something fun which meant 'eat the M & Ms. ugh.

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