Post vacation update...Actually the second week of the vacation was much better! My brother-in-law was around less, found myself a new apartment, so was in a better mood all around. I had more time to spend on creating art, reading a book, chilling out in general. My friend and I went to tai chi.
Now I am back at work and dealing with it. I had a brainstorm to take some stamps and ink to work so I could design some greeting cards during my lunch time. I had a ball! One card does not take that much time to do but it is still very relaxing. I plan to continue with this, as it is a wonderful streee reducer!
Oh man.. i would so feel like you..! how awful for you to have to deal with all that and not really have much of a vacation.. i sure hope you do have some time to do something when he leaves.. hope you feel better about things and maybe do some exercises in the house soon
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Hang in there! I can relate to what you are going through. We moved last year and had to live with a friend of ours and it was a very long 7 months. We was so glad to get into our own space!! HANG IN THERE!!!!
unfortunately you allowed your brother-in-law to sabatoge your program. You can recover and take charge. Take back your power and get back to your program. Next time give him parameters and boundries. This is your place not his and this should be understood.
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Right n ow I am lovin' the big TV with MY program on it! Did a little cluyter control in my bedroom so my dresser is no longer a major nightmare, and now I am getting ready to start my art project for today. It's working!
It's amazing (and sad) how many people have to go back to work to rest up from their vacations, but it sounds like you got a "triple dose" of lousy!
So sorry to hear it, but you can choose how you deal. Sounds like telling him to stay out of your one space worked, so now you can reclaim your big TV. (I have this fight daily w/ my grandchildren, who each have satellite TV in their bedrooms and a DVD player; guess they just love my company--or could it be the 67" screen when theirs are 13s.)
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Good for you! Your brother-in-law didn't make your day (God did!) so he can't take it away! You're doing the right stuff--exercising and trying to stay positive. Keep your eyes on the prize and stay strong. Enlist your hubby's help in drawing strong boundaries (like how many hours he can watch his programs on YOUR primary TV!). YOUR home is YOUR haven, vacation or no and while you are blessed to be able to share it with someone in need, you should not feel bad about ensuring that it remains a haven for you and your immediate family! You've got folks you don't even know, in your corner...
Thanks for the support! I knew that I'd find some sympathetic eyes here! I am just working on staying positive. By next week I will be back in the grinder at work and will have 0 vacation or personal time as of 3/1. (It's such a great place to work! But it's a steady job with a steady paycheck that I can't replace in my field.) I just had wanted to be more relaxed when I went back to work. Hopefully, the final few days alone will get me there! I had planned on taking a day trip to visit my mom, about 2 1/2 hrs. driving. She is a hoarder and a control freak. She put off the visit last week to this Thursday and then last night she decided to cancel it. I had to tell her that now I don't know when I will be able to come out because now I have no time. I'm actually glad that I don't have to take that trip now, since home is already not that peaceful and being in her home will be even worse. So I just gained another day for ME!
Sounds like you've been handling it admirably. I'm sorry you lost your vacation time, but the only thing to do now is try to salvage what's left. And, don't feel bad about setting limits (like "get off my TV"), it's your home. Your husband might have to set these limits though, since it's his brother. Hang in there and get back on your eating plan. My thoughts are with you!
I hope the snow lets up some so your brother-in--law can find him a place. No families can live together. We all have our own way of doing things. This won't last forever. At least you exercise. Keep your chin up.
Help! My whole vacation is blown! I was looking forward to spending 2 weeks on vacation this month. I had to take the time off or lose it, so my vacation was planned from 2/8 to 2/22. There's still some time left. But I am a little off course. Big bad surprise...my brother-in-law has landed here and it's been almost 2 weeks now. He got into a fight with his roommates and couldn't stay there any longer, so hubby told him to come here. I understand that. He had nowhere else to go. The guy doesn't really have true friends.
So he arrived on 2/3, all apologetic and making promises about how he wasn't going to be in the way and all. Well, those promises have gone by the wayside. He has been taking over the space and staying home all day long. It started with the biggie snowstorm last Wednesday. We all were snowed in. But he decided to monopolize the big TV in the main family room. He sleeps in our 2nd bedroom, which is the den and where I do my crafts, go online, relax, etc. So he's taking up 2 spaces and never leaving them!
He found an apartment and will be leaving some time this week, but all I can think of is how almost all of my vacation time has been spent looking at him here in the apartment. Add in that he is a moody guy and doesn't know when to shut up, and you can imagine how difficult it is. He is not an easy person to iive with.
Needless to say, the food plan for these days has gone by the wayside. What I have been able to salvage is my commitment to working out. I've been to the gym a few times and also went to a 90 minute tai chi class with my friend 2 Sunday mornings - a life saver!!
I would be in a worse mood without the exercise! The tai chi has mellowed me out and loosened up my tight hips/groin so I feel better.
I am also working in an art project, which was my original plan for the time off. It's a collage which has many multiple prep steps to do before I actually complete the picture. I'm enjoying that. I also asked him to not be in the family room today because I need more space to do the project. Right now he is out doing his laundry at the Laundromat and hubby is with him, so I actually have some true peace and quiet and "alone time". Woo hoo!
I am hoping that the rest of the week will be more what I want it to be. If it will stop snowing and warm up a little, I can also go out and do things that I enjoy doing. I will continue to set some limits on my brother-in-law's spreading out. And maybe he will leave by Wednesday. I hope so!
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