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on weight lost. Forgive yourself for binging.
I have been there too, but through help & support of loved ones, I overcame this. We are all here for you.
"Forgiveness is the fragrance a violet sheds, after a heel has crushed it." ~Mark Twain.
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There is nobody on this team who hasn't been there. I would get rid of all the junk food in the house. Keep only healthy food. Take it one day at a time. Or one hour if need be. Don't quit, don't beat yourself up.
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A person who doesn't will find an excuse...
My suggestion to you is to try out everything the others have said and see what fits you. My way of dealing with being lonely and borad is to do my craft work that I have to have clean hands to do. You can not eat and have clean hands at the same time. Some things are knitting, choretching, and other needlecrafts, sewing, quilting, and latch hook.
I am not alone God is with me in this and all endeavors I take.
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Excellent advice here and YES I to have had my "secret" binging. I am very much in the same boat as VICKI-BISHOP-56.... Marriage and then my business has me around food all of the time. I am cooking preparing meals all day (you would think that I would be sick of food) but a bite here a nibble there and before you know it - WHAM over 200lbs and 47% body fat. I was thin most of my life. But in the last 20 or so I have been a yo- yo. You need to talk to yourself -- but good words -- words of affirmation. Instead of oh I deserve this candy, cake, chips Say I deserve a HEALTHY body, clothes that fit and look nice. I DERSERVE TO BE HEALTHY. I don't need this ______.
You can do this!!
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Lots of great advice here, I'm sure you'll find a lot of the suggestions to be helpful to you. One thing, I just plain don't bake cookies, cakes, brownies, whatever...because I don't need them in my house. I know, in a moment of weakness, I'd eat too much, then feel terrible about it. Better not to tempt myself that way.
It sounds like a lot of your problems arise when you're home alone. Make a list of things that you can do instead of eating...I know a lot of the people on this team clean house when the urge to binge strikes (that might make for a mighty clean house some weeks at my place!), others do a hobby of some sort (anything that keeps your hands occupied), log on to SP...time gets away from you when you're here reading and responding to posts, etc. I tend to work out when I'm starting to feel the urge to binge...that focuses my mind on why I'm doing all of this in the first place.
Best of luck to you as you continue on this journey...you'll figure out what works for you and you will be successful in attaining your goals!! You can do it!!
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I think that is a great idea.
1 bite at a time = 1 choice at a time.
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We did a challenge on this board a couple of months ago based on this - it supposedly takes 21 days to break a bad habit and replace it with a good one. Some of us committed to going 21 days without a binge and we started a new thread every single day and checked in. I swear to you, it worked. I have been on maybe 2 binges since we started that challenge, and it used to be an every single day thing for me. So here's what you do - take it 1 day at a time - "I WILL NOT BINGE TODAY". And do that every day. By the time you get about halfway through that 21 days, it's getting SOOOO much easier.
Be kinder than necessary. Everyone is fighting some kind of battle.
Honey I know the story all too well. I at times will consume 3,000 calories in ten minutes. Lately I've been making sure to eat a lot of fiber, and to avoid refined sugar because I have noticed that they usually trigger a binge, and this has helped me a lot. You just need to become aware of what your triggers are.
well its time for a new start.. i know you feel bad.. and want to lose.. so try to do a few things.. one plan ahead on food and exercise.. get a accountable buddy on here you can report to each day.... thoes will really help.. dont think negative you know you can do this and have a healthy life style..
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Lost 110 pounds so far! i am loving it!
I am now exercising 50 mins a day working up to 60 ! Keeping active is so important!
I will be brief, because everyone has been so thorough!
I am brand new, but in addition to getting rid of my trigger foods, I have goals to sleep more (and in my bed - not on the couch) and to try not to drink caffeine, because I EE when I am tired...so I am trying not to be tired!
Hi and welcome. Lots of great advice here. There is a slogan I have taped in one of my cabinets......fail to plan......plan to fail. I beieve that is a big key to winning this battle..that we are in EVERY DAY! Even when we all get to goal, it will still be challenging, but visualize that new you! Close you eyes and see YOU!!!
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Make it a blessed and healthy day! IT IS YOUR CHOICE!
Remember how special you are and how you are soooooo worth it to be healthy and fit!!
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You can beat this & I'll tell you why---the fact you came on here & admitted it, that's the first step to making it(the cycle) stop. The worst thing about shame is that people don't talk about what they are truly ashamed of...they'll tell you all kinds of personal info, but shame really makes people get really quiet & that's bad because then it just grows. So, I know you're ready to do this. & I know you can & I'll tell you--you're gonna screw up many times while learning new ways to react..it's just part of how it works..but you will get stronger & then you will pig-out less. Get the food junk out of your house--now!--or it's hopeless. Trust me, I've been known to get in my car & drive to get a cake mix & I'm pretty tough, so don't be hard on yourself while you're trying to re-wire your brain. I now overeat less often than every 2 months, which is ok by me & is allowing me to keep gaining on my goals, so perfection is not the goal & it can cause failure. To this day, & I've been at this journey around 20 years, I keep a few pieces of dark chocolate at my house & I factor treats into my nutrition tool--with that I know it's here if I should need it & the worst damage I can do is about 500-800 calories. I modeled this after my quitting smoking in 1999, I kept a pack in a drawer for 1.5 years, so I knew it was there, but I chose not to smoke.I really don't trigger much with foods anymore, used to way back, I could just see it & was helpless against it. At the core of my compulsiveness was rage(I'm not saying that's yours)--but once I got it out & forgave others & then myself, then I gained more control. You do get stronger...walk & journal alot before you put anything in your mouth, make yourself work your way to eating & at least the amount will be less. Now when I over eat, it's because I chose to...but it's been very considered & amounts are controlled still-unlike my days of eating 1,000's of calories in less than 30 minutes. You can do this; It will take time. If you totally lose it again--then at least just smear the food on you, instead of putting it in your mouth, there are less calories if you use it as an ointment rather than a pill...you can get better, read Dr. Phil's Self Matters book, if you don't know what to journal---gets easier
Edited by: CHARLIESANGEL10 at: 3/26/2009 (14:26)
I've done that same thing too! I'm pretty sure everyone in this team has been there...you name an emotion and I'll find a reason to eat because of it (I'm happy, let's eat! I'm sad, let's eat. I'm bored...you get the point).
Last Sunday, for example, I had all my meals and snacks planned out, everything was going ok, then my boyfriend left for the night and I was bored, so guess what? Yep, I binged on everything i could find...at least the stuff I can find is not as unhealthy as it used to be, but all the same, I ate too much! Of course, then I feel guilty, so I eat more...
This seems to be happening less and less since I've been on SparkPeople. I agree with everyone that says to get rid of the trigger foods and foods you are likely to binge on...after that, you really need to look inside yourself, but don't look back! Rather than beating yourself up for past mistakes, use that energy to motivate yourself to change...I always say: you can't ever change yesterday, but you can always plan for tomorrow!
And one last tip: lately, when I am bored and likely to over-eat, I get on SparkPeople and cruise around...before I know it I forget all about being bored. Instead, I feel refreshed and motivated! Stay Strong!!
I hear you...I have done that too. We just have to keep trying...one day at a time.
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You know just tried to self sabatage. I just had a scrap with my mom on the phone. Right after folding the laundry I went straight to the fridge. Unfortunately, maybe fortunately, there was nothing in it but healthy food. Nothing easy to grab ,unless I wanted to make a salad.NOT.Second thing I did was come straight here to EE because you all will be there to help settle me down until I have my emotions under control.SOUTHERNGAGIRL is right, it really does help if you don't have easy access to those trigger foods.Since coming here to EE I am learning to to identify my triggers. I am feeling much calmer now just writing this post. I hope you find some answers and some comfort in knowing that we do understand this battle with food.Let's get our selves back on track starting right now.
Edited by: CUTTINABBY at: 3/26/2009 (13:50)
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You know in a way I tend to blame my marriage on my weight 85% because I didn't start regaining any of the large amount I had lost in the 80's until I got married. It was a slow process until I hit full menopause then all bets were off. Don't get me wrong; I have a good marriage and a very loving husband and if it were a choice between him or my weight, he'd win hand's down. But before we got married I only ate when hungry and I rarely cooked big meals. And I was MUCH more active. But since getting married 13 years ago my whole routine changed to make a comfortable home for us and my eating habits changed too. Now I'm having to find a way to get that part of me back that had the determination to eat right and be more active and it's very slow going.
There is no shame in coming in for help. I've done it. This is a process and it will take time to unlearn. It will not happen over night. It will time is it not easy but keep going.
slips will happen it is a part of the process too.
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I'm so glad you shared. I've been doing the same thing. I just don't know how to reach out for help. I just cannot understand why I'm doing this to myself !!!! Like you, I hate where I'm at in my weight, yet I still sabotage myself. Last night after doing pretty well with food all day. I go and eat 2 sloppy joes. Then, like that wasn't enough of a F-up. I bake a chocolate cake with homemade cream cheese frosting !!!! Well 2 slices later I just think "What am I doing??" I'm excited to see the advice of others on how to concur the self sabotage.
Change your thoughts, Change your life !!
Never trade what you want the most, for what you want at the moment.
Discipline is what takes over when the motivation isn't there.
That's how I started this journey too. (((Hugs))) I know your pain.
I got rid of ALL my trigger foods. That left me little choices, but I had to do it to be sane. I started writing down my feelings whenever I would want to eat or whenever I would eat/binge. I learned to give myself some grace afterwards. Beating myself up wasn't helping. I learned after several weeks that natural foods don't cause me to crave so I've started eating only those ... no processed foods. I'm doing much better now.
Hope you find your answer. Keep coming back. We're here for you!
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First of all CONGRATULATIONS on the weight you have lost so far.
We say negative things to ourselves and it brings us down...I know. I am an expert on this.
We have to FEEL worth it and that is not always easy.
Work on finding good things about you and find something each day to make a goal of.
Like get through ONE DAY without a food binge. And remember you DO have the strnegth and showed it when you threw the rest of the pizza away. You didnt want to do that to yourself and that is a GOOD THING!
hang in there. You are not alone.
I have not failed until I have given up!
I cannot change where I have been but I can change where I am going.
I"m not sure why I do it, but when there is no one around I seem to go crazy on anything in the house that isn't nailed down.
It's worse if I haven't stayed on track through the day, for example, if I don't eat dinner until really late, then I get myself into trouble. last night I made an oven pizza, and ate almost all of it!!! In a brief moment of clarity I threw one last piece in the garbage and cried.
Why do I sabotage myself like this? I'm so dreadfully unhappy in the place I am at now. I have lost 40lb and gained back 16. I'm stressed, worried, distraught and ashamed of where I am at. The worst part is having to wear tight clothes all day long and feel just how snug they are, reminding me of how much I am failing.
I just want to be loosing again, and not secretly binging when no one watches! I can't stand myself any longer, and I need to get some motivation to get out of this black hole
Edited by: MELISSA_WILL at: 3/26/2009 (12:38)