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Fitness Minutes: (51,954) Posts: 48,216 1/17/09 6:42 P
for me, every single emotion is different
i have had to figure out the real emotion, and then try to find ways to combat just that individual one
so, some i'm doing ok at, some i still really struggle with
for example- anger, frustration- i can tackle exercise, beat up my gazelle, and it gives me time to think, analyze, pretty much get over it- correctly
so for me, it's all about finding a healthy new habit that will replace my old, bad, eating habits
one by one
"Losing weight is not about willpower--it's about moments of bravado, like the moment when you ask your waiter to take the bread away from the table right away." ~~Jillian Michaels
~~we don't see things as they are, we see things as we are-- anais nin
Pounds lost: 16.2
Fitness Minutes: (108,027) Posts: 17,654 1/17/09 1:55 P
For me, food was always how I avoided feeling my feelings...I ate to numb myself. Now I'm getting much better at just allowing myself to feel whatever it is. Sometimes I'll journal about what's going on and that gives me a little insight. Sometimes just asking myself, "what am I trying to avoid feeling? What's bothering me?" Often, once I've put a name to it and acknowledged the feelings,that's enough to take away the urge to binge.
It takes some experimenting to figure out what works for you, but you can definitely do this!!
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current weight: 266.0
Posts: 4,840 1/16/09 3:23 P
I agree with taking it one day at a time.. one hour at a time even!! I try to redirect and find something to do...like maybe stand up and take a walk around the house and look for something I need to do.. fold laundry, tidy up etc, or listen to music... it usually takes my mind off my thoughts for a while and most times I can think through what's bothering me instead of eating.
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current weight: 181.0
Posts: 264 1/16/09 3:15 P
Take it one day at a time, one meal at a time, one bad day at a time. I always ask myself "Why are you eating this? Are you hungry or are you dealing with an emotion?" After awile, I am usually just plain hungry and not trying to deal with something. It will come to you in time.
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Pounds lost: 48.6
Fitness Minutes: (67,830) Posts: 10,587 1/16/09 12:53 P
I've learned that I must feel the feelings that I'm having instead of numbing them. It is hard, but it is doable. I've managed my ee for almost 2 months now without a binge.
1 bite at a time = 1 choice at a time. Choice is in our power; take the power and run.
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Nothing is forever why not live for today and make it the best day ever.
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current weight: 202.5
Fitness Minutes: (14,049) Posts: 2,308 1/16/09 10:54 A
I've discovered that I eat to push down my negative emotions. When I finally gave myself permission to be angry things got easier. For me at least. I do a lot of apologizing to my husband, he tends to bear the brunt of it. I swear, the man is a saint.
Good job on discovering your trigger and looking for ways to handle the emotion rather than eating. You will discover what works for you. Don't give up. Don't be afraid. You can do tis.
He must increase, but I must decrease. John 3:30
Is not what I shall be capable of tomorrow contained in what I am today? Paul Tournier
current weight: 264.2
Posts: 22 1/16/09 10:45 A
I just posted a very similar idea/question on my blog. I'm doing well with my weight loss, but I feel "entitled" to celebrate with some food. For me it doesn't matter if it's good emotion or bad, I just want to eat.
current weight: 223.2
Posts: 10,621 1/16/09 10:12 A
welcome....you are in the right place. We all suffer the same problem......come here often and see the suggestions of others. I am sure there will be at least one person that you can get ideas from that you can live with. The solution...is different for everyone......but you are half way there cause you at least know what the problem is..........
One day at a time......in my red high heels, and my crown!
I am so done bein the fat girl...how bout you?
It's no longer a diet. I am calling it my live-it.
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current weight: 164.0
Posts: 53,177 1/16/09 10:08 A
Do you write in a journal? Write down what is happening when you want to eat. What triggers it and the events surrounding it. When you begin to understand what is happening both externally and internally, you can begin to avoid the triggers.
Marty Eastern Standard time Massachusetts
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There are two options regarding committment - your either IN or your OUT. There is no such thing as life in-between.
A person who wants something will find a way.. A person who doesn't will find an excuse...
Pounds lost: 28.2
Fitness Minutes: (229,253) Posts: 6,612 1/16/09 9:13 A
I know its so hard! Even thou i am almost at my goal i still sometimes eat more than i should and its all sugar stuff , cookies or something. And i think why in the heck am i doing that and why am i??And its all from being at daughters and she has it there i dont at my house. So nw have to figure out why i am and stop it, i exercise a lot each day so buring a lot of calories, that helps with emotional eating. Its something we all struggle with each day.. and we all will for life i think , the thing is to take each day as it comes, keep busy plan your food ahead of time and do the best you can Geri
loving myself as i am beautiful inside and out!!! Think positive .. you can do it!!!..... i do care.ï¿½ï¿½Life is not easy for any of us, but what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all, confidence in ourselves.ï¿½ ï¿½ Don't give up we all can do this!! Lost 110 pounds so far! i am loving it! I am now exercising 50 mins a day working up to 60 ! Keeping active is so important! classylady~Geri
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Posts: 7 1/16/09 9:10 A
I have always had a weight problem. I did not discover that I have been an "Emotional Eater" until several years ago. This disease has ruled my life. I am 48 years old. I am trying to reclaim my life step by step. I am shy and don't want to be noticed. Food has been my friend. I have a good support group God, my Finance'and my children.
It is still tough.
Posts: 3,765 1/16/09 8:29 A
I have picked up crocheting. I dont know how to make anything yet but dish cloths and long scarves. It keeps my hands busy so I cant go eat in the evenings. When I am bored and hungry during the day I can do some exercise or go outside but at night I needed something to keep busy. Its boring cuz I havent learned how to read patterns yet but it is working I cant eat and crochet at the same time.
If you haven't got a smile on your face and laughter in your heart, then you are just a sour old fart!
current weight: 135.0
Fitness Minutes: (5,330) Posts: 419 1/16/09 8:27 A
I think I am making progress because yesterday, I was upset, and I thought about how easy it would be to pull in and get ice cream, but instead I went to the gym and used the negative energy to push me. When I left the gym I felt better.
Today is what I have, I can only regret and cry for yesterday, but I would rather bask in the hope of tomorrow.
If you fall off the horse...get up dust off and try again.
current weight: 204.6
Posts: 4,472 1/16/09 8:14 A
I deal with feelings by eating I have figured out that boredom is my problem I am very active and keep the brain active but after 7 pm and there is nothing to do I start grazing last night I was so bad I jumped in the shower and washed my hair I had taken a bath 2 hours earlier (LOL) but it helped took me 70 minutes to do my hair looked great by the way just no place to go now that I know what the problem is (Thanks to SP) I will deal with it I lost 2 pounds this morning so my plan must be working (LOL) Its my water bill I am now concerned about Oh no another stress
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Posts: 1,056 1/16/09 7:37 A
I was going to post this very question. I overate yesterday. I knew I was struggling. I tried talking to others, and I got through most of the day. I also tried drawing. I like to use colors and images to express my feelings, especially when I can't quite put them into words. What I am struggling with is something that has been going on for a week (and I have no control over ), and yesterday was the first meltdown I had. I figure today is going to be better. Exercise, walking mostly, really helps me get into my head--when I have enough time to really "zone". That was not something I could do yesterday. I am looking for some more ideas of what to do when I can't exercise, talk to others, and nothing seems to be helping...
current weight: 189.0
Posts: 4,054 1/16/09 5:15 A
I quit smoking 2 years ago. I thought I was doing good until I gained all of this weight last year. The reason for my weight gain was I went back to my old habits where I was comfortable with.
It is so easy to put food into your mouth just like it was to put a cig.
This week I am keeping track of my food and my exercise to help me get back on track. Coming here and reading is also a good thing to help you keep on track.
One step at a time!
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Posts: 102 1/16/09 12:17 A
You have to figure out what's eating you before you eat. Because if you are not hungry, food is not the answer. These are two cliché's that really address the problem of EEs. I am working on that. Positive reinforcement and cognitive therapy helps.
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Posts: 656 1/15/09 11:16 P
You have to let yourself feel the feeling instead of eating them away. Writing down your feelings about what you have discovered and telling your story, even if it is in a journal and you are the only one to see it. This will not be a quick fix and will take practice.
There are no shortcuts to achieving what you want. Dedication, commitment, and effort are needed to accomplish anything worthwhile.
current weight: 263.0
Posts: 1,053 1/15/09 10:57 P
That is the question that we all struggle with but you now have the support of all of us who are going through the same thing that you are. You have to make your plan whichever you are going to use and stick with it. Drink your water and do your exercise and if you slip you get back on track and start again. And you come to Spark and ask for help, for support and we will all help pick you back up.
current weight: 187.0
Fitness Minutes: (4,171) Posts: 307 1/15/09 10:49 P
How do you deal with the feelings that cause you to emotionally eat and be overweight?? I have finally figured out why I am overweight, but the problem is I don't know how to deal with it. I understand why I am overweight, so how do I stop the emotional eating???? I feel like I have spent years trying to figure out why I am fat, why I overeat even though I know it is bad for me. I have finally figured it out, but what now???? How do I process all this and stop the vicious cycle of overeating??
"You aren't an accident. You weren't mass-produced. You weren't an assembly line product. You were deliberately planned, specifically gifted, and lovingly positioned on this earth by the Master Craftsman" ~Max Lucado
current weight: 237.0
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