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2/20/08 6:15 P

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I agree, Emma. You are right that we have to believe that we are sexy first. Sexy is a state of mind. I get my nails done and get pedicures on a regular basis along with other things for my inner diva.

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2/20/08 4:23 P

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The hard part is that we really need to start on the Sexy Diva now. You gotta BELIEVE you are the hottest thing around. That means we gotta dress nice and throw our hips around and BE SEXY... (Losing weight should be easy after that!)




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2/20/08 3:34 P

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This weight loss is a journey not a sprint. Our goal is health not glamour. We can stay heavy and still be sexy divas. I know from experience. But we need to feel good in out bodies.

I can do everything through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13


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2/20/08 3:27 P

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I think you should go for a makeover and get a new haircut and have someone do your makeup for you so you can see yourself in a new light. You are a beautiful person and you need to see it for yourself.
Heck, even Kirsti Alley at her heaviest was still a beautiful woman.

Just because we eat a bag of M&Ms (yes, they are soooo good) does not make us bad people. We just didn't make the best choice. Notice I didn't say we made the "wrong" choice.

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2/20/08 3:15 P

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2/20/08 11:16 A

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I know exactly how you feel. I have given up time and again, and yet I keep coming back to it hoping somehow to make a change. It is really hard to stick with healthy eating and excerciseng, life and all its joys and pains taends to get in the way. last week I basically binged all week, I kept telling myself that I didn't care how fat I get, that I am destined to be alone anyway, and that it didn't really matter, At least food will comfort me, then I looked at myself Sunday night, all bloated and discolored fromt he poor food choices and realized that I really do care. So... here I go again, I st teh bar on goals even lower ... I saw these great boots and if I can manage to eat healthy for the next two weeks I am gonna buy them, no more pound at a time! Well, sorry I am just venting also, and I just thought you might want to know that there are others in the same boat.

Reward; $5 per pound for new wardrobe when I get there!

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EVELYNJOY38 - My heart goes out to you with a post like that, I really hope you don't mean you would hurry up and die either, that would break my heart :(

Like everybody else says, just pick yourself up and start new tomorrow. The most important thing in weight loss (probably even more important than losing the weight) is to learn to forgive yourself. Without this, then you will fail every time. The more you get down on yourself, the more you will give up. But once you start taking charge, it will come easier.

I know weigh loss is very very very hard, and very frustrating, and takes a toll on our minds. But I promise you that it gets better down the line. Train your mind to love yourself and remember the reason you are trying to do this in the first place. Let that come before any thoughts of giving up. Wake up every morning and tell yourself outloud that you can do this! Soon enough you will start believing it, and seeing results!


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tomorrow is a new day and this too shall pass

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I believe we all get down on ourselves on occasion! Right now I am going through a period of depression-I know it-but I also know how to hide it. Right now I am a disappointment to myself, but I know that this to will pass! emoticon

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2/20/08 8:59 A

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Evelyn
You can do it, you deserve it. You are a great person, and you are not a disappointment to me. Good Luck and let me know if there is anythign I can do for you....
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I can't say it better than the others already have, but I want you to know I'm thinking about you and please always post here whenever you need to vent or need support.

Tonight I chose to eat an unhealthy meal, I think I needed the reminder (feeling gross afterwards) of why I'm changing my eating habits. I'm more determined than ever now to step up tomorrow and keep on going. I know in the future I will eat bad food, but I think if I totally banned junk food or beer then I would quit tomorrow!!

What I'm learning is that its all about making more healthier choices than bad ones, and allowing yourself those meals when you're going to have what you crave.

Please stay with it, baby steps, and take care.

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i know your disapointed and want to beat yourself uip over all this.. now is the time to say to yourself i am going to do this and no matter what happens i will do it and get to my goal.. why is that??cause your thinking postive and not thinking negative.. and that really helps..!!! thwere is so much info on the site so many here to help and suppor you.. if you need a acountablty buddy you shoudl sign up for one.. cause when times get tough you will need one to help you thru things so you dont bing again.. i do care!!! hguss Geri

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Lost 110 pounds so far! i am loving it!
I am now exercising 50 mins a day working up to 60 ! Keeping active is so important!
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2/20/08 5:58 A

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Did you fall down? We ALL stumble, trip and yes, occasionally do a full on face plant into the ground (or a vat of ice cream, take your pick). The shame isn't in the falling, it's in the failure to get back up again.
If you are not ready for a complete life change-for Pete's sake don't make one! Don't set yourself up like that. Make one small change, even one that seems insignificant to you right now, and stick to it. A tiny one. Don't try to reinvent yourself overnight woman. How many of us here, as emotional eaters, no matter what our age, DON'T EVEN REALLY KNOW WHO WE ARE YET? The joy in the journey isn't just the weight coming off, but the discovery of who we truly are inside. Of what we CAN do after a lifetime of CAN'TS.
You CAN make one tiny change. Take one baby step. Take one minute, hour, day at a time. You are worth at least the effort of one small change.
Rereading this it may sound a little harsh, maybe that's what is needed here. If you didn't care about making a change you wouldn't have posted. Sometimes we need a hug and other times a swift kick in the tush. Little of both here.
Hang in there, it gets better.
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2/19/08 10:52 P

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Have have been where you are.

I Kept buying comfortable clothes and went from a size 12 to an 18.
At size 18 I refused to buy a bigger size because I was giving myself permission to do gain more weight by doing that. I have cried and felt like dyeing and have spent many months and even years being depressed withthe Gray clouds that were just hovering around me. Till finally I got tired of being sick and depressed and uncomfortable. (I was Agoraphobic for a year because of my weight gain it drove my family crazy)

I am the only one that can make this better so I mad up my mind that I was gonna make a life change not a diet. I am so afraid of being sick. Binging made me sick. My last Binge was last month. But instead of letting it get me down I Got up the next day and moved forward.
One step back was enough for me I didn't have to make it 2 steps back because, 2 leads to 3 and before you know it I would be in my vicious cycle again.

So if you Slip Just pick yourself up and the next day choose to be healthy and make healthy choices. Before you know it you will have started to change your habits. My husband says it takes 14 days to break a habit.
today I wear tight pants to remind myself there is no room to grow and I keep going to the next smaller size the exact reverse of what I was doing the past 5 years.

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2/19/08 9:53 P

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Evelynjoy...it helps to know that you are not alone. Reading your post makes me feel that I'm not alone in how I feel after I binge. I was just beating myself up that since I've been on this site I actually gained a few lbs and could not seem to stop stuffing my face over and over. It feels good to get it out, to be honest and let it flow...because then you can start the next day fresh, regardless of what happened. Stay strong...keep reaching out...and realize that you are already making major progress by venting and realizing what you are doing, getting it out really helps! emoticon

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Evelynjoy, I felt that way about myself all weekend. You are not alone in feeling frustrated and disappointed after a binge.

It is so hard to forgive ourselves or show kindness to ourselves, and I don't know why. I have had a lot of family issues recently, and what am I doing? "I'll show you, I'm going to eat this whole box of godiva?" I have to ask myself what that accomplishes, and the answer is not a darn thing. Short term solution to a long term problem.

Please forgive yourself, show your body kindness, and move on. The next meal is another meal. You can start over as many times as you need. We'll always be here to help you restart.



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2/19/08 8:15 P

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Evelyn, every single word that has been written to you is right on the money. We've all been there. We've all struggled, all made mistakes, and all picked ourselves up and kept on going.
Two things have helped me tremendously to change my mindset this time around: SparkPeople, and a wonderful book called The Beck Diet Solution by Judith Beck. It's not a diet book. It's a cognitive therapy book, or a book that will help you to change the way you think. Instead of focusing on FAILURES, you'll learn to celebrate SUCCESS, even if it's eating only half the carton of ice cream instead of the whole thing! Every journey begins with a single step. We'll make the trip with you. Hang in there and keep on writing when you need encouragement.

"Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body." 1 Corinthians 6:19-20


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Don't give up just keep reaching out. You can't change what's done. Do better tomorrow. You are more than a #. You are not defined by what you weigh.

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One bad day doesn't mean you have to give up. Please, if I gave up for every bad day I have, I wouldn't be doing anything ! Come here to vent. We will listen ! don't give up ! emoticon Make a new resolution today to not give up !

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emoticon Don't give up on yourself EVELNYJOY Loosing weight and changing our bad habits is HARD! Just take it emoticon one day at a time girl. We all have bad days and fall short. The important thing to do is forgive ourselves and move on. Remember God loves you just the way you are! I am here for you if you want. Spark mail me if you want to chat.


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MILLER32807 - I can't top that answer! emoticon

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Love thyself.


You are a human being, a person...you have emotions....you have thoughts...Your body allows you to walk, talk , express yourself and your love towards others. Your body gets you through the day...it pumps your heart for you, automatically breathes for you....

Your body is a miracle ! it is a gift ! it is wonderfully made...it functions ! It is a vessel for your spirit !

okay...so the body weighs more than you would like it to.
It is not out of your ability to help it along and help change the way you think about food and your relationship with it.

You have the ability to instill change....

Your body is grand...it has hands to be helpful, a mind to be creative, a soul to love and a spirit that can soar !

Love thyself ! exactly the way you are NOW ! you are special !



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Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, you aren't a disappointment to yourself, you took the time to ask for help/support, you realized you needed it, to me that says you are ready for change, and you are dedicated to reaching your goals. Hang in there it took a lot of courage to write the post your going to succeed this time, I know it!

 
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You're posting because you had a bad day and you knew that there would be people on here that understood you!!! That's what we are all here for. But please erase those thoughts from your head... you are very much worth it. I have had the same thoughts before and I know they don't help at all. Take it one minute at a time; day by day. Don't beat yourself up for making bad choices or eating something you shouldn't have eaten. You already ate it, take a deep breath and move on. And please post anytime you have negative thoughts. Sometimes just the act of writing (or typing) it can be a huge release in itself. You get those feelings off your shoulders, and can deal a little better. Hang in there, and we are here for you.
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SUPER THANKS to you for responding and yes it is true i am what I tell myself I am or as the saying goes:
"If you think you can, if you thinik you can't...you're right!!!
Again thanks for your response.

If I am not for myself, then who will be for me?
If I am only for myself, of what use am I?
If not now - when?


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Evelyn, don't give up. Pick yourself back up and start over. I've only been doing this for three weeks, and I still have as many bad choice days as good . . . but I'm making progress. Every day is a new chance. Don't give up! You can do this! We're here to support and encourage you every step of the way. You're worth whatever effort this takes.

It is a mind battle as much as anything, KMEKate is right about that. When I eat wrong, it's because I've given up control by choice. This team is full of people who are rooting for you and who are here to help give you courage and encouragement whenever you need it. We all have bad days. I've done the binge eating too, but knowing that the folks on this team are here for me and struggling with this also helps me get back up every time I fall and start over. Know that we're not disappointed in you, so stick with it - we'll be sticking here with you!

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Courage does not always roar. Sometimes it is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.” - Unknown

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Being confident of this very thing, that He which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ - Philippians 1:6

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Miss Evelyn! Time to stop that talk RIGHT NOW. Yes, I said right now missy. Life happens, binges happen. We can choose to stop them and move past them, or do nothing about them and keep the cycle going. Stop saying negative things about yourself. I am a firm believer that what we talk about we bring about. I did it for years. No more! Why? Because all those years of I'm fat, I'll never look like that, there's no cute clothes for me, no kids I don't wanna run and play...guess what? I was exactly right. I didn't change a thing cause I sabotaged my MIND before I even began. No more! I am DONE doing that to myself. Yep, I still slip up sometimes, but I get back up, and I start again. Tell me you're going to choose the same...I'm listening.

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Well...I did it again (so what else is new??) I binged. I tis the story of my life. And I saw it coming and I did nothing to stop it. Whay am I posting? I never changed anything. AI suppose I am just venting (at least i am not eating!!)
Waht can I say? I recently bought new fatter clothers (not to be confussed with the "fat" clothes.
Ok you know waht? the hell with it
Why did I even post?????? But why do I do anything. It's times like that that I wish I'd hurry up and die. Hopefully I don't mean that.but who knows.
Lis ten up! For anyone who may have taken the time to read this: THANKS.

If I am not for myself, then who will be for me?
If I am only for myself, of what use am I?
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