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Posts: 110 6/27/12 8:42 A
Dear Momarow, don't beat yourself up because you do things in stops and starts. I am also that type of person. For a few months I'm right on track with exercise and nutrition, then I fall off the wagon. The good thing is that every minute of every day is a new chance to do something positive for yourself and your health!! And as everyone in the Slowest Loser group knows, reaching your goal will happen, it just takes time. Instead of beating yourself up when you get off track, make it a habit to reward yourself when you do something to keep you on track, no matter how small the accomplishment. With that type of positive reinforcement, you'll find it easier to get back on track again.
current weight: 150.8
Posts: 838 6/11/12 3:13 A
Don't give up, draw a line today and start afresh.
A long way to go but keep plodding along, day by day.
Pounds lost: 0.0
Posts: 4,002 6/1/12 1:35 A
Look at all these responses! That alone should tell you that you are not by yourself here. What's past is past and you need to forget those times of quitting and think yourself into being a "stayer" Just coming back to SP shows that. I'm also a former WW success who put it back on. I echo the earlier comment about clapping for losing weight (and what about the effect on those who don't have such a successful week?). SP tends to put greater emphasis on health which I think is better. Also, WW is a business and is profit driven. So there is pressure (gentle, but pressure nonetheless) to buy their foods and other products which can be an expensive business and doesn't really allow you to become independent in eating and shopping in your particular circumstances. Unless you're prepared to go there weekly or monthly for life it gets very difficult at maintenance as the meetings are basically geared to those wanting to lose pounds. Good luck this time with SP.
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current weight: 160.0
Posts: 104 5/31/12 10:34 P
I never quit, I just get way off cource.
Fitness Minutes: (8,165) Posts: 5,320 5/31/12 9:40 P
Don't give up! This might be the time that you get to goal!
current weight: 171.4
Posts: 4,139 5/31/12 7:45 P
Don't beat yourself up. So many of us have been there. I'm kinda STILL there! You might find that certain types of food actually increase your cravings, especially carbs of the refined variety. Personally, I do best on lots of protein and fat. Keeps those cravings under control by keeping me satisfied. Good Luck!
Edited by: -LINDA_S at: 5/31/2012 (19:45)
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Pounds lost: 41.4
Fitness Minutes: (48,534) Posts: 15,299 5/31/12 7:22 P
Hi sweets....I keep doing the same thing..... however I am not quitting even if I fall over and keep restarting I am still going to restart
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current weight: 134.0
Posts: 666 5/31/12 4:56 P
With all the responses regarding WW, I feel a need to add to my original post. Although WW is not for me, they have a responsible program and a healthy way of eating and fulfill the needs of many such as Jennifer Hudson. Many years ago I tried plan after plan trying to find the CURE that would MAKE me lose weight. At that time, I did not realize it was MY responsibility. I tried a program called The DIET CENTER. They loaded me up on protein and supplements and eventually I was feeling really bad. After having lost some weight and feeling really poorly, quit. I went back to WW to participate in a healthy eating program. Yes, it did eventually help me to feel better, and I am thankful for that.
MY problem with WW is that they focus on weight loss. Lose weight and people clap. For me, that is not good. I do not want people to clap because I lost weight. I want to be recognized for having made good food choices, or exercising. For me, WW does not have the support that SP has. Although you do not always have the opportunity to meet people, there are many very real people here, all striving to get to the same place...a healthy lifestyle. That is really what it is all about...HEALTHY living!
Sorry, I have been lurking in the shadows for some time and am finally finding out what SP is all about. Thanks for reading (if you did)! SP Rocks!!!
Pounds lost: 38.0
Posts: 423 5/31/12 4:49 P
I find that out of all my teams, this is the team that I am drawin to. After reading the other replies I can see why!! Our team rocks!! We have such wonderful, supportive teammates. I am greatful!! Welcome to the team I am glad you are here!!
Pounds lost: 26.0
Posts: 1,310 5/31/12 4:35 P
Another WW dropout here... I found that the weekly weigh-ins didn't work for me, I would get very frustrated that the scale was moving so slowly. I liked having people to actually talk to, but that mostly happened outside the meetings. I found the meetings themselves rather formulaic and eventually dubbed the program "remedial dieting". I feel like I'm getting everything that was valuable from WW here at Spark, plus more emotional support and it's free. I've set my weigh-ins to once a month and that is working much better for me.
"Be more stubborn than the scale." - Vivian Bedoya (BEMORESTUBBORN)
"There are many ways of going forward, but only one way of standing still." -Franklin D. Roosevelt
Pounds lost: 53.6
Posts: 6,868 5/31/12 3:19 P
There are plenty of us just like you. A slimming club can help, but really it's down to you. When you are ready to commit there is really nothing that will keep you off the straight and narrow, no matter how many times you plateau and falter... it requires patience but we all know that it can be done.
BUT it really is a lifestyle change, not just a quick fix!!
Keep plugging away, little steps, one at a time.... and you WILL get there!!
2 weddings to be glam for - the second will be my own in Spring 2013!! A good place to start...
2012 must surely be MY year at last!!
Pounds lost: 1.0
Posts: 1,715 5/31/12 11:34 A
Wow, I loved reading all the responses that were given here! Can't add a thing only to say best of luck to you and hang in there.
current weight: 169.0
Fitness Minutes: (7,518) Posts: 2,307 5/31/12 11:30 A
Thank you so much for your honesty. I am also really struggling with wanting to quit. It's not that I want to quit, it's that I feel like nothing is happening the way that I want it to. I still have not developed good, consistent exercise habits, and I still eat very poorly - and stuff that I KNOW my body doesn't do well with (makes me bloated and gassy and makes me retain mega amounts of water). Get I go back to that same food again and again. So I hear you. I also struggle with the fact that I don't have a lot to lose. I am sure many people think they'd be happy if they were the weight that I am now, but my clothes are tight and my body is not meant to have this extra fat around the middle. But it can be so discouraging at times. Often I just want to give up and say that whatever will be, will be. But then I have to tell myself that I have 48 years of bad eating habits and lack of exercise, that this will not change overnight. It won't (hasn't) change in a year. And it might not change in three years. BUT I am getting more aware...and I am getting more educated. I exercise more than I did a year ago and I am trying to learn better habits. So for today (and thanks again for your honesty) I will not quit. Perhaps I will see a change in the scale tomorrow, or my clothes, and perhaps not. Stick with us!! And I also agree about the WW thing. I have at least 2 colleagues that I know of who have gained all and more of their weight back from WW. Besides, this site is free and offers so much more!! Stick with us, girl!! You can do this!
“Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles…. it empties today of its strength.”
current weight: 130.4
Fitness Minutes: (73,602) Posts: 5,308 5/31/12 11:17 A
"The world is one country and mankind its citizens" one of the many truths spoken by Baha'u'llah and "Love is the light that guideth in darkness, the living link that uniteth God with man, that assureth the progress of every illumined soul."
current weight: 144.0
Posts: 102 5/31/12 11:09 A
You're doing a great job--exercising as much as you do!! That's a really good thing! And sounds like your DH is very supportive--which is great!! That's an asset, for sure! ~~as for the food calling you---I am so right there with you on that one!! I also find comfort in food--when I'm happy, sad, lonely, bored, etc., etc. What is it that you crave most? Is it crunchy? salty? sweet? creamy? I try to find out what I like the most--then create my own versions of it. For ex: I make my own sugar-free, low fat ice cream at home. or--for crunchy--I'm opting for a high fiber cereal that I like, rather than...say, chips. For every desire--there IS a way to satisfy it, and stay on track. I also find that by eating more fruits and veggies---even if I don't really "want" them---then I'm less and less likely to have cravings for other wild things that are super high in calories.
It's all a learning process. And I know it's very, very difficult. but take it one step at a time. That's what I'm trying to do. and believe me, after this past weekend---I was ready to throw in the towel too!! But I'm here, I'm trying to make small changes, and I'm not going to stop! I'm hoping you won't either!!!
~~Good luck on each step you take toward your goals & best wishes for a sparkly day!!
Pounds lost: 6.5
Fitness Minutes: (13,889) Posts: 208 5/31/12 10:51 A
I wanted to welcome Momarow to a wonderful team full of great supportative members, but if you're a quitter, just like me, I want to invite you to a new team recently started that's called "Quitting - You can't Start until you Stop"...You can search for it on the web site. This team is for all of us quitters who are quitting the negative stuff so we can be successful on our individual journey's. We'd love to have you and all others who are ready to Quit.
Progress, not an Perfection....
Fitness Minutes: (13,889) Posts: 208 5/31/12 10:44 A
I couldn't agree with you more... I am a former WW and have also played "the game" including taking dieretics before a weigh in and was obsessed with the numbers on the scale. At one point I lost 43 pounds, but have since gained all but 7 of them back. Last year I went back to WW and actually gained 8 pounds. What's wrong with that picture. Here at Spark I've learned so much more that all the years on other programs. This time the weight is coming off slower than ever, but I'm confident this will be that last time I will have to loose it because I'm doing it for all the right reasons in all the right ways.
Progress, not an Perfection....
Fitness Minutes: (68,465) Posts: 10,587 5/31/12 10:40 A
i think that making too many changes at one time makes it overwhelming and it makes us want to quit. as for the exercise thing, make it a priority, even it if is only 10 minutes. make that a scheduled appointment with yourself. 10 minutes no matter what type of exercise it is. once you keep making it a priority, it becomes habit. Now, it is just normal that I work out 5-6 times a week. I was doing it 7 times a week but got burnt out, so I cut back. Start with achieveable goals. drinking enough water, tracking your food. it may seem tedious, but it does give you a big picture of how much you are eating. Then you can go from there about making simple swaps and changes. using less oils unless healthy oils, using less butter, cut sodium back, e3ating more veggies and fruits. Eating more whole grain carbs instead of white processed carbs, shopping on the outside of the grocery store, produce, dairy, lean meats, etc. stay away from sugar of any kind, stay away from packaged processed foods. They are what is making it hard to lose weight. some think it is more expensive to eat healthy, but in all reality, by quitting buying the junk food, the processed food, the boxed food, there is plenty of money to buy the veggies and fruits, and lean meats etc. Stay away from fat free things, they have more sugar and sodium than the regular fat counterparts. I do low fat, but never fat free.
and it starts within yourself. You have to believe that you are worth it. that you deserve to be happy and healthy and more fit. My goals have changed. I'm not looking to be super thin, I'm looking to be more fit and healthy. I will never be 150 lbs again. but I'm okay with that. I learned to love myself and make myself #1. My family is much happier now that I've been taking care of myself. I'm happier, healthier and more involved and active. My kids love the fact that we go swimming, walking, play outside, go to the amusement park the zoo, etc. We stay active now, where before I stayed on the couch and sat around. We even take care of our house better, stays cleaner, more pride in all areas of our lives. you can do this. you deserve this.
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current weight: 202.5
Posts: 3,862 5/31/12 10:32 A
I am not here to dis Weight Watchers, but don't hold your breath that they are the answer. They have a sound program to lose weight, but it is not the be all, end all for weight loss. I know more people who have gained their weight after going off, than people who have kept it off. It has to be inside you to lose it and then, even harder, keep it off. Its crazy, I know, because after losing 50 lbs with them, who would have ever thought that I would gain it back, but I did. It didn't solve WHY I ate... and when I didn't go weekly and weigh in (which is not a lifestyle really), then the weight came back. Or I'd play "the game"... you know. Not eating before I'd weigh in... eating "bad" for two or four days, then "diet" to have a good weigh in. And I wasn't the only one. Weight loss has to be something from within... you have to love yourself right now, in this body that you are in, in order to make the changes that will keep the weight off forever. Not because you "have" to weigh in. You hear that all the time on Spark... and the bottom line is that it is really true. Once you accept your faults, your weight, then you are able to make those changes that keep the weight off for good, whether you use Spark, WW or any other sound weight loss program.
Pounds lost: 15.0
Posts: 128 5/31/12 10:31 A
thank you. for me I love to exercise I go to the local YMCA three times or more a week and take a class twice a week . The food it calls to me and I all too often see it as a reward.
Edited by: MOMAROW at: 5/31/2012 (10:33)
current weight: 161.0
Posts: 1,372 5/31/12 10:28 A
I'm the same way. I've quit so many times & I've wanted to quit this time lots of times, but I'm hanging in there & you will too!! YOU CAN DO IT!!!!
Only those who risk going too far can find out how far they can go.
Challenge is a dragon with a gift in its mouth. Tame the dragon and the gift is yours. ~ Noela Evans.
current weight: 265.6
Posts: 666 5/31/12 9:56 A
Hi Momarow, been there done that. It's like falling off a horse, just have to get back on. Although you may feel like a quitter, you are not. Don't beat yourself up. There are many small lessons to be learned and, for myself, trying too much at one time tends to overwhelm me and send me into a tailspin. Take one day at a time. If that is too much, cut it down into manageable hours. My biggest lack is exercise. Start, stop, start, stop. Finally I realized that the 10 min.Sparks might help me focus. I also do not like to go to the gym so have some good exercise videos here at the house. Bet I sound like AADD (Adult Attention Deficit Disorder). Yep, it seems I can focus for at least 10 mins. at a time.
Many members have said...it is NOT in the achieved goal, but the journey to it that means the most. We each have much to learn about ourselves and what works or doesn't. Please do not give up, just keep on truckin!!!
Edited by: MYGOLDENBOYS3 at: 5/31/2012 (09:57)
Pounds lost: 38.0
Fitness Minutes: (101,430) Posts: 28,313 5/31/12 9:46 A
may God bless your continued positive efforts
In GOD We Trust Choose To Lose "If you are going to win any battle you have to do one thing. You have to make the mind run the body. Never let the body let the body tell the mind what to do. The body will always give up. It is always tired in the morning, noon and night. But the body is never tired if the mind is not tired." -General George S Patton, U.S.Army, 1912 Olympian
April Minutes: 1,397
Fitness Minutes: (6,840) Posts: 2,157 5/31/12 9:42 A
Welcome to the team. It's not easy, but remember YOU ARE WORTH IT!!
current weight: 248.8
Posts: 128 5/31/12 9:37 A
so I'm a quitter. I keep starting and stopping spark people its been about 3 years and i do well for a while (once I lost 10 whole lbs ) and then I get discouraged and quit . I defiantly find food comforting so any anxiety or stress sends me running to the kitchen. I have gained about 40 lbs in the 3 years but I do want to give myself credit for keep coming back . My husband thinks I am just not ready yet and to just give it time. I find it frustrating to see other succeed ( don't get me wrong I am happy for them ) I always wonder what is wrong with me that I have no will power and follow through. any and all advice is welcome . I am getting to desperate. I looked into joining weight watcher in hopes it would give me the emotional support i think i need but the nearest meeting is 40 min away.
current weight: 161.0
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