BJDENO - Sorry to hear that your husband passed away. I'm sure that it's hard to strike out on your own, since our society seems to be oriented for couples ! I think that you can meet people through your Church or Synagogue, or Temple... Perhaps you can meet like-minded people at the Gym, swimming pool, skating rink - where you'll have lots to talk about. If you have a hobby, perhaps you can meet people that way.
Central Time Manitoba, Canada
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I too, feel lonely most of the time. Ever since my husband passed away, 14 yrs. ago. But ever since I can remember I have always been afraid to meet new people and when I'm standing with a group of friends, coworkers etc. I'm usually just listening to the conversation and never get a chance to be part of the conversation. I need to get over this fear. I don't want to be alone the rest of my life.
I can relate to this post and would say that Yes I do feel lonely more often than not. I attribute it to my hearing loss. I have severe/profound hearing loss in both my ears. I have to work harder to understand spoken words, follow body language and stuff. Feeling like a sore thumb in a group is a very good description of how I often feel but yet don't feel like that is who I am. Sometimes I feel trapped inside this non-hearing self and try to let people know what it feels like - usually my close friends - and I make light of it to those who meet me so that they are uncomfortable and hopefully don't think I am rude or weird.
Two random compliments is a great way of connecting. I've found that just smiling at someone gets you a smile back and is an instant feel good (probably for both of us).
Feeling overwhelmeed makes you feel insecure too I bet. It does me. I work at so hard just trying to be there in the moment that I don't have much left for feeling really part of things.
Good luck with your personal challenge. You might consider slowly immersing yourseld into the larger scene to get more comfortable. Maybe sititng in a food court at a mall or a coffee shop and just interacting a bit here and there. One of my goals to keep myself from fading into the dark hole is to push myself to interact with people and not overly worry about missing what they say or if I respond wrong (cuz I probably heard what they said wrong).,
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Do you feel lonely more often than not? Why? Do you want to change that?
More often that not I feel lonely. I do not know how to fix it. I can be surrounded by a hundred people and I often still feel like I am a sore thumb in a crowd. I get over-whelmed around a lot of people and I think that is why I donít reach out. Or it may just be my lack of connection. Today to change it I am going to offer two random people compliments!
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