Emotional roller coaster is hard. I take on the emotional problems of all of those around me and I then get burned out. I use food as comfort or as a distraction. I feel better when I am baking, cooking, shopping, etc. I am working on realizing it and then start writing first.
I am new to Spark people, but I have been blogging on my Spark page and it really helps. One day I had a really bad day and I wanted to write everything out in detail, so I used my journal under myplanner to keep it private, for the sake of some I was writing about, lol. My point is, venting and writing it out, even if it's private, helps! So keep doing it. I have also started reading "The Spark", and it has been very inspiring, and I'm only on chapter 2! You are going to have bad days, try to remember to be positive and remember you can't control everyone else only yourself!
remember, emotions are not reality. If you still feel an uncomfort (my word) around him, coming from him, say so. Tell him "I know I've disappointed you in some way, but I don't know what it is so as not to do it again; please help me understand".
Try spending some quiet time with him and talking in the next couple days and talking to him about it. :) Tell him how you want to be there for him, and you know something was bothering him, but he needs to talk to you about it.
Sometimes we just need to put words to our struggles, heart aches or just not feeling that things are right.
Don't let this stressful junk derail you from what you really want to do and how you know you need to get there.
Would it help to just say to your husband, "I just feel like something isn't right, we are both stressed over ___ (fill in blank), but I don't want to be stressed over us. I love you, cherish you..... etc."
When I am stressed it's tough enough with my husband, but when he's stress also - woah it's tough times 10! Expectations and mind reading do not work and does not help.
Take a deep breath and go with the truth you do know and tell those voices of doom in your head to shut up!
You CAN do this.
~Sandra Marquette MI - EST
5% Winter 2016 Challenge - Champions in the Kitchen; 5% Challenges 2015; BLC23-27 Violets
"It's all about my best health" "There is no quitting in living life to the fullest." Sandra
I was doing really good this week but then it just snapped, my hubby has been under stress as well as my bestie and I was doing my best not to let their moods get to me but still support them. I was starting to feel the tension at lunch yesterday and with my headache and my hip acting up from all the rain, it really started sinking in, hunny needed something but didn't convey it and then looked at me disappointed because I didn't get what he meant and it hurt. I felt like I let let him down when I didn't even know it and my eyes starting welling up. The rain and my hip kept me from my 10K steps yesterday too so on a whole kinda bummed out. But the worse part is we seemed fine the whole rest of the day, got home had sonic (was still within calorie range) watched and movie and snuggled but when it came to bed, he started pulling away. I couldn't sleep, then we had another storm, woke up the pup, so I went to console him and after that all I could think was there was something wrong, so sleep was even harder to find. This morning, things still feel wrong, I feel like we had a fight when we didn't and I can't get my head around what is going on. This is very unlike us and it is just shaking me and I feel like I might cave and slip with all this going on. Sorry I needed to vent.
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