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2/27/13 10:11 P

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Not so good at that but trying hard

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2/26/13 1:24 P

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At work, I just avoid the food that people bring in. If I know there are cookies or other sweets in the kitchen, I just try to avoid it. Unfortunately, I eventually have to go in there to refill my water...but I'm strong now! :)



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I'm learning to tell people i'm full or I had a big lunch they still try but i've decided i'm in charge of my eating.

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2/25/13 2:19 P

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When people push food I usually tell them I'm allergic to (pick one) wheat, apples, corn starch, sugar, yeast, coffee, and am over my tolerance level on them today. The allergies are true and the tolerance levels are true they just don't know if I'm really overdone the levels. It also stops the harassing if I do eat something "forbidden" another time. If they keep pushing I'll tell them in front of anyone who is listening that if I eat that (whatever it is) I will begin vomitting very quickly. That usually quells any more pushing. Worked wonders on an old boyfriend's mother and her plum pudding with extra citrus pieces and congealed and lumpy sauce.

If someone knows I have problems with certain foods or everything is a dieter's nightmare, and they laugh off or ignore my pleas, the next time I bring an extra special desert or main dish that would rival anything that person can produce. (I love cooking, have a degree in food and nutrition, travel a lot and have recipes from around the world). For example, If someone always serves pumpkin pie, (wheat sugar corn starch and calories) I bring lots of gluten free pumpkin pudding or indian pudding that makes you want to sit in a corner with a spoon and a gun to shoot anyone who tries to have some. Mine gets eaten and those pies just sit there getting cracks on the surface.

There is no vengence like a dieter or someone with allergies who is purposefully dumped on.

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2/16/13 3:29 P

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I like the JADE response. I'll have to remember that for other areas. That's basically my philosophy.
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2/15/13 1:44 P

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One of the things I've found most helpful is advice from another website: Never JADE and NO is a complete sentence.

Never JADE:

J - Justify
A- Argue
D - Defend
E - Explain

If you do any of the above actions, you are giving the serious food pusher a way in to try and change your mind. If you keep telling them your reasons and they keep finding ways around them, then you know that this is someone who really doesn't have your best welfare in mind, for whatever reason.

Consistency is also key. If you tell someone no thank you 10 times and give in on the 11th, you've just taught them it takes 11 times asking you before you will accept what they are offering you.

I just say, "No Thank You." with a big smile. I don't offer explanations, or reasons why I can't or justify my position. Just no, thank you. If you don't give them an edge, they have nowhere to go. You don't have to lie. Most of us are raised to think that it's rude to say no thank you without and explanation and actually, it's not unless you say it rudely.

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2/13/13 9:14 P

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ask them details about the food: who made it, what are the ingredients, where they found the recipie etc.. if you can get them off track they may forget to keep pushing food on you.

Don't forget to be awesome.


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2/12/13 5:43 P

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LIE!!!!

The in laws - huge portions of very high calorie food - 1-3 times a week
The lie - can i take rest of my portion home for lunch (toss it when i get home) i eat about 1/4 of what they serve me. (i tried talkign about it with them and the more i explaiend the more they pushed bad food onto me)

Co workers - why are u on a diet ur not fat?
The Lie - Wish i could eat like this all the time but I eat terrible at home.
(if you open ur self up to them all is good when they are on the wagon but most of the time they are off the wagon and you get the evil eyes watching you eat ur salad as they eat there fast food....and omg if u dare have a chocloate one time infront of them they will point it out right away)

My experince most ppl who sabatoge or push you to eat bad are just insucure with themselves. If this type of person asks you how you do it its way easier to just say I follow the candain food guide. They dont really care they just want to judge you and point out any flaws you might have.

Not all people are like this just some of the non suppotive type and this is how I started to handle them and so far so good.




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2/11/13 10:04 P

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When I told my MIL that I had started a diet and was doing really well, she said "That reminds me. I bought pies" and then she put 2 pies in the oven, I did have the tiniest piece ( I was not strong enough yet) the very next day, she came home from the store and made cinnamon buns. This time I was ready for her and told her that I used up all my calories on that silly pie the day before and didnt want to do that again today. She then told me that the cinnamon buns were good for me cos they had cinnamon in them and that is good for me. I told her she was full of bologna. That was probably a little rude but it worked, now I tell her no.

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Mamma taught me how to eat right!
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12/26/12 2:28 P

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Paula- emoticon That you created a plan when offered more food. Notice how Sydletz put humor into her comment. Make it your own. If you can find a way to complement the hostess that would work. I also liked how Cindi used a smaller platel. I hope you find your own power to resist the urge to say Yes! when you really want to say No!.

Sydietz- Great come back to your dad. emoticon

Edited by: PICTUREME40 at: 12/26/2012 (14:29)
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Yesterday my father asked me if I wanted some fudge I said no, I am not hungry and I am on a diet, he asked me again and i said "no, you eat it, then after a while you can look like me and I will be the one that thin," he has not offered me any more fudge. (And no he is not mad or angry, or insulted-he knows me too well).

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Thanks everyone for sharing.
Cindi emoticon emoticon

You should feel very proud of yourself to setting that new boundary. It will be a good memory for future events. So write it down keep it handy. Put into words how it felt to not give into it. Than you will remember it for future reference.

"Feel the fear and do it anyway!"

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Yesterday at the family Christmas, I took a salad plate for my plate. Got some comments about it being one day, etc. But, it was just enough. I was going to go back for a little more, but got involved talking and didn't. It was just right. My husband actually did it first and I followed his lead. I think I've found my new normal for gatherings.
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I am the worst at refusing as I don't like to offend but with my new plan ready to put into action I have decided to stand up for myself and say 'No thank you I need to stick to my plan' if they persist I will tell them honestly that my health has to come first and thank them for the offer of the food.
Saying No is hard but friends and family should respect what I am doing.

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Way too many years in the military as an officer and way too old to change. I am at all times honest and blunt without regard for feelings.

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.”
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sydletz- your correct, honesty is the right way even if they don't want to take no for an answer. Maybe looking at the different ways to answer someone isn't a bad idea to have some rehearsed one liners to in power those who struggle with this and end up giving into them.
Thanks to all who shared their favorite come backs to the food pusher. Keep them coming.

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During this time of year there is a constant food parade that marches through the front desk at the retirement community where I work. I've simply been saying "no thank you". When well-meaning people really persisted I told them, " Thank you, but I've recently learned I'm pre-diabetic and that would push me over the edge. Whew pusher abated.

The higher your energy level, the more efficient your body. The more efficient your body, the better you feel and the more you will use your talent to produce outstanding results. Anthony Robbins--


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12/22/12 3:28 A

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say "i'm not hungry, but maybe later. if they keep pushing say you are "i just ate so it will not taste right"

Don't forget to be awesome.


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Most of these involve deceptions and "little lies," someday when I go to heaven I would like to be able to tell God I was honest after I was brought back to life, I can not make that claim before my accident. So I respond honestly,No thank you, I am currently on a diet, but thanks for offering. If they continue to push. "Please do not take this the wrong way, The answer is and will continue to be No, but again thank you for offering"

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.”
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good tips

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MOTIVATION REALLY IS--- TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR CONSCIOUS ACTION
FOOD NEVER SOLVES ANY ISSUE EXCEPT HUNGER.



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Thanks for sharing that article. I will most definitely be using some of those helpful tips next week. emoticon

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For those of you that celebrate the holidays. Here is a link for some nice ways to say no to all those food pushers. Just click the link and in power yourself.

www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutriti
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