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5/2/12 12:00 A

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I have a hard time balancing it all too - so I'm just going to prioritize my eating and ensure I get a bit of exercise in. I will need to 'balance' the rest after I've done that! If I don't, I will continue to have my weight go up and down and never have the energy and fitness that I crave...

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3/30/12 1:04 P

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Hi Ladies! I'm new to this team, and just wanted to chime in. I just had my 2nd, and I'd like to tell you it gets easier...but it doesn't! HA! Seriously though - it does get easier as they grow up. Of course, right now, with a 4 year old and 2 month old, I feel like I'm ready to be committed to the looney bin. And as if we don't have enough going on, we're trying to get fit! HA!

When I get home at night, it feels like I'm trying to run a marathon. Feed my 4 year old, change my clothes, feed the baby, make dinner for my husband and I, bathe the 4 year old, clean bottles, make bottles, make lunches, play, and spend time with my husband. There are days when I feel like the only time I see my husband is when we turn out the lights at night and leave for work in the mornings. It's insane.

A few things I can pass along. 1.) The house will be messy. One thing we did this time was invest in a maid service. We found a great Groupon deal that allowed us to afford a maid for a year. She comes once a month and cleans the bathrooms and the kitchen. It's worth every cent!! I know budgets can be tight. We really had to juggle things to make it happen. Thank God for the deal we found!

2.) You can't do it all. I tried. I beat myself up for not being able to. And now I'm at peace and MUCH happier because I finally realized I just can't do it all. Even my husband says to me..."You seem to be handling this much better this time around!". I think it's just because I have figured out what's important, what I can do, what I can't do. I learned to say..."I need help".

3.) COMMUNICATION is key. I learned that I can't just say to my husband - I need more help. I have to explain to him what I need. "Honey, please make the bottles for tomorrow". What he considers a priority may be different than what I need at the moment.

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1/8/12 12:51 A

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I hear you! I am in the same boat -- full time work with an almost 12 month old. And yeah, it is overwhelming and I feel like I'm the only one because so many people have children and seem to manage just fine (or so it seems). I have no advice except for hang in there and it is okay if the house is messy, you're not the only one! I get to work with a few amazing women who are farther along in their career/mother life and some of their comments surprise me -- it sounds like we all go through it and it gets easier. I went to a friends wedding where they read a poem about phases of life and described the years of settling down and raising kids as "the living years" and I think that is just it -- it is crazy and chaotic, but it sounds like it evens out. I used to come home after work and veg out, now I can't imagine having that amount of free time, I kick myself for not getting more stuff done in our house before baby! (I painted all the rooms by the time baby came, but never got around to painting the trim . . . I don't think that is going to happen for at least another 5 years, hahahaha).

Hang in there and go easy on yourself, the ladies with totally clean houses probably have house cleaners ;)

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12/20/11 12:37 P

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Thank you. I know I'm not alone and that I'm not the only Mommy having a hard time trying to figure it all out but it's still stress that I wish I handled better.
I also used to use the baby jogger but now that it's cold, work outs need to be indoors and so that means thay kind of have to be a solo activity if I want my cardio.
Thanks for the support though :o)

**Meghan**

"The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will."
-Vincent T. Lombardi

"Yesterday's failures are today's seeds that must be diligently planted to be able to abundantly harvest tomorrow's success."


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12/20/11 6:32 A

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I have been where you are and I almost damaged my health by trying to do it all. I was working full time on 12 hr shifts(3/4 days per week) , was running for exercise, wanted my house to be spotless every night before I went to bed, was doing all the cooking every day for me, my husband and our son, spending almost every free moment with our son when he was awake, I was getting about 4 hours of sleep a night because of all the things I thought I had to do. It took me getting very sick to realize that you only need to vacuum once a week and do large batch cooking on the days off to get more time in the days I did work. I got a used jogging stroller and was able to spend time with our son and fit in exercise at the same time. I know this does not change your current situation but sometimes it helps to know you are not alone. emoticon

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12/19/11 3:02 P

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I don't really need any responces. I just need to say that I'm having a lot of trouble balencing everything recently.

Because I work, when I get home, I want to spend my time with my daughter (12 months) and not have to do a million other things. But, I have a million other things to do!

When I get home I have to get Peyton a snack, take the dog out, do some dishes, work out, make dinner. These are all things that I HAVE to do and I have about 1 hour, 45 minutes to get it all done in. That doesn't leave a lot of time for anything else. But I feel guilty that I can't play with my daughter more.

And when the weekends are packed (like they have been having recently) when there is really no time to just be at home, I don't get much house work done. So then I have to chose between one of those things on the "HAVE TO" list (usually the work out) and getting the laundry folded or the carpets vacuumed or the wood floors mopped, etc.

My husband says that I should just not worry about the housework so much and be present in the moments that I have with my daughter (and I know that he is right and I WISH so badly that I could) but it's easier said than done. If I'm worried and/stressed about all of the things that I have to do an am not doing, I'm not really appreciating what little time I have with my baby.

I'm just having a hard time.

**Meghan**

"The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will."
-Vincent T. Lombardi

"Yesterday's failures are today's seeds that must be diligently planted to be able to abundantly harvest tomorrow's success."


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