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Thanks for the advice :)
I really despise drama. It's the thing I hate most about derby, and I know it goes on everywhere so there's no getting around it...That was one reason that our team was formed in the first place; too much BS going on at the original team.
You're definitely right about supporting two teams - we actually have been talking about doing a double header with the other team so we could split costs. Hopefully that's something that we can still consider. But now that things have calmed down, some of the rumors have been dispelled - it looks like only one of the girls will be returning to the other team. Two have some health issues and may be back, another needed a break, and the other is giving up derby for a while. So it's not quite the ship-jumping that I thought.
I don't know much about the way the other team operates, so I couldn't say whether it would be better for me. I'm also still fresh meat (hopefully will be passing my skills test in another month or two), so idk if I can guest skate. But that might not be a bad idea to try to start skating with each other and see if we can mend the relationship. Maybe in the end this will be a good thing :)
Derby factioning is pretty common. Most small towns have trouble supporting two teams unless those teams have very different goals, or they work together. It generally takes years to get to a place where teams can realize that they are both competing for the same market and working together makes it easier for them both to thrive.
I hate drama. I want to skate competitive derby. So, I would make my decision based on what is best for me. What do you want out of your derby experience? What does each team have to offer? Which is more in line with your goals? What kind of business structure does each league have? (I know that seems unimportant, but it's really not) Where can you best grow as a skater?
These people leaving couldn't be a surprise. What has been brewing in your league? Are these people just drama queens or are there legit issues? Why did they league their original league and start anew?
I know there is an element of loyalty and emotion involved in make a big decision regarding teams. However, they biggest element is your personal happiness. No one league should make you feel bad about talking to the other league. So, I would recommend that you (with full disclosure) contact the other league and see if you can be a guest at a practice or two. Check them out and see what they are about.
I live in a small town, in which there are two derby teams. One has been around for about two years, the other (which I am a part of) has been around for about a year, and was started by a group of people who left the first team. So, there's a bit of bad blood there...
Well, yesterday, five of our team members - all original "founding" members who came from the other team - quit. I wasn't able to go to the meeting, so I really don't know why this happened. We had had a meeting on Sunday where some frustrations were aired, but it seemed as though everything was fine, so this is totally out of the blue for many of us, and it just feels really really awful.
One of the most difficult things is that one of the girls who quit, who I really admire, asked me to come with her back to the other team. I don't know if all the others are going back there or not, but I've only ever been a part of this team. This is where I started derby, and the idea of leaving it kills me, but if the people who started the whole thing have given up...kind of makes you feel like the whole thing is beyond saving.
I really don't want to have to pick sides in all of this, and I'm almost tempted to just give up on derby for now. I don't want to, because I love it so much. I'm an Army wife, so there's a possibility of leaving this town in a year or two, and maybe I could pick it back up wherever else we go...but, well, this whole thing just really freaking sucks :(