I'm 54 and the full time caregiver for my mom who has alzheimer's. I have to say that there have been so many times in the past few years where I feel alone, even with family support, and just being part of the SP family for a week has helped me alot. It's amazing how much support is out there. I also know that losing weight and feeling better about myself will help me take batter care of my mom. I do have someone come in once a week for about 4-5 hours from an organization called Visiting Angels. There are a lot of organizations out there who can possible lend you a hand. Some in home, and some out of the home. You're in my thoughts.
P.S. Hi Linda, hope you're doing well!
Judy ------------------------------- "Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in. Forget them as soon as you can." Ralph Waldo Emerson
current weight: 179.0
Fitness Minutes: (17,768) Posts: 2,157 1/9/07 9:21 A
good morning ladies-all of you are to be commended for your love,care and concern that you give to others in their time of need.it is a real struggle to get through most days and most people don't even know what you are going through.take some time for yourselves-they have adult day care in most places,or maybe a friend or family member can help with your loved ones.find at least 5 min. in the day for your meditation or prayers.stay on this site and get out every once in awhile-take them outdoors if you can.the sun is very therapuetic.love yourself as much as you love them.and,ladies,this comes from a person who has spent her life working in health of aged persons and caregiver professionaly and personaly;thank you for caring for our disabled-God has given us a gift with you caregivers.
...let us exult while in tribulations,since we know that tribulation produces endurance. Romans5:3b-
Hi MZCOFFEY! I am in the same boat! My husband got sick 18 years ago with a headache. Three brain surgeries and a stroke later, our lives had completely changed. I know exactly how you feel. I am a caregiver 24/7, seven days a week, etc. It is a very stressful situation and one would think after this long I would be able to handle it on the fly! It doesn't work like that.
Contact me anytime you need to vent. Been there, done that. Welcome to SP! I have found a life line here and I plan on staying.
If this forum doesn't help you, keep looking-I am also on the Emotional Eaters forum.
Pounds lost: 5.5
Fitness Minutes: (0) Posts: 126 1/9/07 12:54 A
I know exactly what you're going through. I was in the same situation 5 years ago with my mother and my older sister. Your life takes a back seat to theirs. But that's ok. You just have to make a point of doing something for yourself every once in a while. It gives you a rest and gives you energy to going back and dealing. Hang in there with your diet and know that we're here when you need to talk.
If it was easy, everyone would do it.
Fitness Minutes: (0) Posts: 64 1/9/07 12:11 A
My husband is on kidney dialysis and my Dad is in poor health and I am the one to take care of them both. I have gianed and lost hundreds of pounds over my lifetime. I need to lose weight and I am trying to make a lifestyle change, not one more diet.I have been working on this change for 8 days now. I am not telling my husband or Dad what I'm trying to do, I'm keeping this to myself and only sharing with the SP folks. I feel like I will do better if I do it on my own without my family and there advice. So, I'm making it one day at a time and setting small goals for myself.
Being the caregiver and seeing your loved ones in pain is hard to deal with everyday. I know that God is providing me the strenght to do this. Is anyone in this type of situation on the 50+ females?
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