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9/10/10 8:42 P

That is so true Momma Bear, we don't "get over" losing a special furbaby, we just learn to cope and remember the wonderful times we had with them!

Hugs to you Pattie, Love you sweet friend!

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9/10/10 1:12 A

Yep, this thread brought some tears for me at the memories and the poem but they are wonderful memories of a fantastic furbaby. Many things may trigger tears which are healing, happy tears and sad tears, but hopefully each day will continue to also bring healing to you. Remember that we are here for you and know that each of us grieves in our way and time. Grieving is a process that definitely takes time and not something "you will get over" not matter what.
You are doing well remembering the good times with Sadie and all that she "helped" you through and the good times with her.


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9/9/10 9:24 P

Pattie, remember we are here for you and feel your pain!!!

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9/9/10 6:17 P

i am sorry about sadie...i also am waiting for the memories to bring happiness instead of pain. yesterday i went food shopping. i always used to take reilly - he loved car rides! yesterday i felt so alone in the car. and now i have to skip the pet food aisle. i walk past & see his dog food...and the tears come. halloween would've been his 13th birthday. i remember the breeder telling me about the night he was born. she had her dog in labor, and trick-or-treaters at the door. all night she was running between the two, practically throwing candy at the kids. he was "my reilly-boy" as i liked to call him. and i miss him so deeply. so i send you - & everyone - hugs...and hope you find comfort soon.

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9/9/10 7:54 A

Thank you for your kind comments. I am very sad today remembering picking out that tiny ball of fur and bringing her to her forever home.

I didn't have her long enough. It's so not right that our animal loves don't live long enough. I feel this pain and heaviness in my chest that wants to yell, scream and be angry.

I really thought the pain would lessen, but it just gets worse as everything sinks in and emptiness fills me.

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9/8/10 9:44 P

What a beautiful heartfelt poem!

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9/8/10 8:44 P

You are both absolutely right! They do have a way of getting us through the "rough patches" of our lives... I think that is why it is SO much harder when we lose them. We don't have them to turn to anymore to deal with our heartaches. It is hard when the one "person" you turn to for coping/sympathy is gone. I know that my Tyler had more tears shed in his fur than most. Our furbabies really are with us through everything... Our silent supporters.

Pattie, I'm glad you shared your feelings with the group. I think that "misery/sorrow shared is divided... blessings shared are multiplied..." The saying goes something like that at least. At any rate, it does help to share your pain with the people who can understand and relate to what you are dealing with. We're here for you whatever you need.

I know Sandi can attest to the fact that we all patch up our hearts in our own ways and move on to honor our pets. I had framed photos made of Tyler with sayings on them. One a friend had made for me for my birthday and one I had made for my mom and myself with the picture from the team page. The poem on that one was:

Tribute To A Best Friend

Sunlight streams through window pane
onto a spot upon the floor.
Then I remember,
it’s where you used to lie,
but now you are no more.
Our feet walk down a hall of carpet,
and muted echoes sound.
Then I remember,
it’s where your paws would joyously abound.
A voice is heard along the road
and up beyond the hill.
Then I remember, it can’t be yours.
Your golden voice is still.
But I’ll take that vacant spot of floor
and empty muted hall
and lay them with the absent voice
and unused dish along the wall.
I’ll wrap these treasured memorials
in a blanket of my love
and keep them for my best friend
until we meet above.

--Author Unknown

If you haven't checked out the poems/quotes, you may want to, but be warned... They ALWAYS make me cry. It's a very cleansing thing for me though. I guess we each find something that works for us. Poetry helps me...

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9/8/10 3:29 P

Pattie, sending lots of hugs and love to you today as you remember your precious Sadie, it is so hard on each type of anniversary when they aren't around. The 27th of each month is hard for me as that is when I would give my Honeybear her Heartguard and then the 28th of Dec. is when we put her down, so that is definitely a hard day too. So I know what you are going through.

It is so sweet the way she got you through your surgery and the death of your bil and Dad. Our precious animals have a way of helping us through loss and heartache.

Yes, one day the memories will make you laugh and even though right now they bring sadness, remember, there is joy in the morning!

Love and hugs to my special friend.
Sandi

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9/8/10 10:35 A

I'm feeling very anxious about tomorrow. It was September 9, 2001, that we adopted our beautiful Sadie. I still remember picking that small black ball of fur from the box at a local rescue shelter. She was in the back, so we thought she was calmer than the others--we would find out soon that was definitely not the case.

And two days later, I remember her crying in her crate while we watched the television coverage of 9/11/01.

I was recovering from the hysterectomy I had on 7/27/01, and she got me through the mental and physical changes I was experiencing. She also got me through the death of my sister's husband, killed in a car accident, and then my father's death three months later. She was such a gentle, sensitive soul, and always knew how to make me laugh.

The memories...the memories...I know someday they will make me smile, but right now, they just cause me to miss her so much more.

Thanks for listening.

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