I'm so sorry that you're missing Belle so strongly today. The sad reality is that it's never ever going to be the same. No other dog will be able to replace her in your heart. I do think that we can make room in our hearts for new pets in time though. I know I'm not in a place to add to our family right now, but I'm not opposed to the idea some day.
The vet tech actually gave me some of the best advice. What's funny is that she gave it to me with the intention of trying to help Phoenix cope with her grief at losing her fellow canine partner in crime, but I think it's helped me as much as it has helped her. What she told me was to change my routine, try something new, do different things... It's in the routine that I find I miss Tyler more. Now that I'm mixing things up (working out with the Couch 2 5K program, reading more, watching tv less, etc.) I find that I don't think about him as "missing" quite so often. Instead, a thought of him will sneak up on me, but it will be a happy memory rather than the pain of the loss that I still feel.
That's not to say that I don't have my days though. Like you, I can glance at his lock of hair and break down in tears, but I find that the happy memories we shared are coming more frequently than the sadness.
I don't think there is any set way to grieve. I think it's an organic experience that changes daily, weekly, monthly... We are just learning to go on in the face of loss.
My hope for you is that you can see the light on the dark days... Know that you will see Belle again some day, and in the meantime, try to be the best you that you can be!!! Make her proud!
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