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Nancy...

I think these are great dreams. They are gifts. I hope you are working with the Workshop I'm giving.

I'd like you to work with your own dream images "as if" you were the writer/director/producer of these dreams. Take them one at a time. You can Journal with them if you prefer.

Now, one by one, change the scene to what benefits you. Make a new dream. Change as many details as you can. Change the script. Make yourself more powerful, a great communicator, maybe even funny as you hand back the cat food & ask for exactly what you want. Decide what you want "even if" it's not being offered. I call this the "Queen's request."

Ohhh...the cat is in the kitchen. You obviously are daydreaming. Please bring me blah, blah, blah. And make certain, please, that the plate is hot, etc., etc.

Do this with each part. Remember, you are the writer/director & producer....of everything.

I'd like to see some of your feedback here.

And, SMILE when you are doing this.

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Dear SparkReaders....

I invite you to a Teaching Workshop I am giving to my Team...Sugar & Food Addiction. We are working with Inner Journaling, Imaginology & Living Affirmations. You can find it at the following link. The thread is called "Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder. Today we are working with "feelings & how they play out in the different scenes of our lives." The Living Affirmation & "mind-gifts"for today are about Healthy Eating.

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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION

I HAPPILY REMOVE MY HINDRANCES.

Most of the time we are not aware that we are on the path leading to illness. We wake up to the activity of our day, or I should say, "we wake up IN the activity of our day" because the mind and body are already well involved before the clock radio is called to action. While I know all of this, I'm no different from everyone else, therapist or not.

My recent illness was both a surprise and not a surprise. I was expecting it, actually wondering where it was. My breakneck pace of life that always seems to be my response to additional stressors had brought me back to areas "less visited" during my more balanced days where addictions and compulsions stayed away without a fight.

As I lay here, I'm thinking that I probably had been secretly wishing to be ill. At least I would be forced to do nothing. Over the years, I'd cleared out most of my addictions and they no longer held the same love appeal, but the old programmed mind wanted to hang out anyway, like a big tease. Now I find their presence annoying, preferring to escape through sleep instead of through a plate of ice cream.

It's been a full day since my inner visit. I've thought about it and now wonder if it was simply my fever breaking. I hope not. The last time this happened for me was several decades ago when I was seriously ill and my life seriously shifted. I'm hoping there are other doors, other than illness, that will keep me connected. As a therapist, I believe and practice meditation, but this place is something more and I WANT IT. Oh, how typical of me. Just like a child stamping her foot, demanding that she be given what she wants.

As the image of my outrageous child matures, I find myself laughing at her ridiculous patterns. The voice from nowhere or somewhere else responds with gentle demeanor "Ask politely." Once again I feel tension draining from my body, as if I'm back in that chair that pulls me down. While I'm delighted to be back, I'm wondering if this inner traveling will be interrupting my day whenever it wants to. Certainly that can't be a good thing. How will I ever get anything done? Or, maybe I'm sicker than I believe and these visiting images are active delusions, setting me up for some serious medication.

Stop now. It's time to give it all up...all the hindrances that have blocked for decades. Give them up? Goodness, I'll be empty! It's obvious in this moment that I have a liking for the most miserable parts of myself. The idea of releasing them, just letting them go is more unsettling than my fever-pitched headache.

Question time. Where would I begin? Answers coming even before the questions fully materialize. Yes, I remember this happening before and it was enjoyable, at least then. Let's see how it feels now. The headache opens and I'm already inside the corridor, back in the chair, surrounded by teachers I can't see or hear, but somehow I know who they are. Some are very old and wise, others younger, perhaps seeking their own spiritual merit badges through their work with me. Somehow I'm remembering the time I went to have my hair colored at the local beauty school and realizing what a mistake that was, but for some reason that experience doesn't mesh with this. I'm accepting what's about to happen before it happens. It feels comfortable.

The answers flow. There is no beginning and no ending, just Knowledge and the experience it lends. The Universe is eternal and fluid. Everything experienced of this so called life plan is an illusion. So, let me get this straight. Nothing is real?

It's made clear to me, and not for the first time, that life is like a big story book that can be edited both past, present and future. And, since this my story book, I'm invited to do the editing, along with Universal Guidance. There are no mistakes, nothing to forgive, nothing to fear. A pile of fresh-start clean slates are always available. Yes, I've known this for a very long time, but for some reason it feels new again. Perhaps I've entered through a different door and the clarity that I'm experiencing is moving me up to a higher level.

Checking in on my headache and can't find it, so this is also good news. I'm wondering how to proceed, when the answer is presented before the question is fully formed. I come to know that I am already proceeding and yes, I will be interrupted many times, just as a pilot needs to keep checking, perhaps re-adjusting the positioning of his plane. The life that my body and mind are experiencing are tantamount to a big school, where the teachers are all spiritual in nature. Some appearing in bodies and some not. I'm now plugged in, meaning that I am on an accelerated path. I'm excited by the possibilities, but also feel myself holding back, not wanting to open everything at the same time.

I'll be communicating through inner journaling, as well as straight-forward mind-chat. I know where I want to begin, but I also accept that perhaps I don't know what is best. We'll see.

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elizRN, I don't know if this is the right thread to do this, but I had two disturbing dreams last night, and after reading your post, thought that you might be able to help.

I don't usually remember my dreams, and when I do, even if they seem crazy, I can sit back and analyze what my subconscious is trying to tell me. I am able to analyze what those two dreams are trying to tell me, I just don't know how to make the changes necessary that my dreams want me to.

The first dream- I dreamt I was in prison. It wasn't an ordinary prison, it had all the comforts of life, it was like a small apartment, but I had no freedoms.

My interpretation: My going to work is like being in a prison, It provides for all the necessities of life, but I don't have any freedom to do what I want to do.

Dream two. I was at a banquet where I was serving meat, corn on the cob and twice baked potatoes. A lady from my neighborhood who is a better cook than I and her husband were at the banquet. I was serving family style. I got the food on the table and it started going around and I sat down. I got a potato, but the corn was never passed to me. I had to ask and the husband of the lady who cooks well got up and gave me an ear of corn. When the meat came to me, it was nothing more than purple and blue cat food.

My interpretation: I serve others their most basic needs , which is what eating is, but others don't seem to be aware of my needs. I have to ask them to do things for me, and sometimes when they do serve me, it is nothing more than cat food. the purple and blue in my mind is a higher grade cat food, but nevertheless it was still cat food.

So how do I handle this? I don't know how to get out of going to work, we need the income at this time in our lives?
And how do I let others know that I have needs too and want to be treated with respect, without having to throw a temper tantrum?

You may be interested to know that this is a reoccurring pattern in my life. I have a tendency to give and give and give, (my love language is service) but people don't seem to notice what I am doing for them, and very rarely give me back what I need in return.

Then when I speak up, they either ignore me, or look at me in disbelief, or I end up throwing a temper tantrum and they wonder what is wrong with me?

I know what the problem is, I just don't know how to make the changes necessary to stop it.

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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION

I WELCOME SELF-HONESTY.

I've been away...not on vacation, but on my own journey of self-honesty. It's not something I raised my hand for, but my body and mind decided to shut down business as usual until I took the time and personal space to address some of my own issues. Oh? A therapist with issues? Why not? Everyone else has them!

It's been several years since my body decided to take a trip into the dark abyss of illness. In a way, I was excited because I knew that once I started to feel better physically, I still had to fully recover and it is in that time-space that an inner journey would take place. I know from past experiences that my mind knows where to go, but living life "as usual", never affords me the time to arrive at that special destination...the place that holds the questions, as well as the answers.

Two whole weeks away from work, desk, computer, phone and even a meaningful conversation of any length. Days and nights consisting of sleep and more sleep. No need to worry for this is the preparation for the journey that would take place very soon. No preparations necessary. The body would alert the mind when the time was right and I would simply find myself there.

It happened in the middle of a morning at the end of the second week or so I seem to recollect. I didn't do anything special, just took some tylenol, closed my eyes, waiting for the pain to go somewhere else. Instead, the pain opened, just like a door in the middle of my forehead. I recall a long hallway, dimly lit, but appearing friendly, as if it was expecting me. I sensed a lack of hesitation on my part, a wanting to go in and down the corridor...starting to feel better, a little stronger and clearer despite the pain waving me on. The pain no longer had meaning, other than to be some sort of director to the scene. I didn't seem to mind it's presence because it was the one thing that remained familiar to me, rather like a touch-stone. As I moved further down the corridor, I no longer felt a need for it's presence and so as if it could read my mind, it stepped to the side, becoming part of the wallpaper.

I was not asleep, but instead very much awake. I know this because I opened my eyes and looked around the room where I was resting. Everything seemed the same and so I simply chose to go back. There was no difficulty in getting back to that place. That in itself was interesting because before getting sick my level of concentration had been waning.

I found a chair and sensed an invitation to sit down. There was no one there, or at least no one that I could see or even sense. The chair was comfortable and began pulling me further down into it, not enough to frighten me, but enough to let me know that I was to be there for awhile.

The next thing I remember was the fog. I've lived in England, so I do know fog, but this was a different variety. Very colorful with blurred images that seemed to be lining themselves up and then leaving to the left. I started to become aware of what things were, despite never hearing any voice or instruction. It was simply a sense of inner knowing that was accompanied with a feeling of deep certainty. Things not only needed to leave, but they were simply leaving on their own. No efforting, no decisions to be made, no thinking things through, just peaceful exiting. By body began to feel lighter, as if I was floating upwards. Now, in my usual awake state I would not have been accepting of any of this. My tendency is to hold on and never let go, but that part of me wasn't present at this time.

Now I found mySelf standing in back of my body. I placed my hands on my shoulders and could feel them, but I was definitely outside of myself. I walked to the right side of "me", then to the left and then found I could float up and look down at myself. I was aware of where tension had been stationed inside my body. I also understood that my mind was not in my "head", but instead in all parts of my body, experiencing the tension as blockages. I was then invited ( I don't know by whom ) to reach down and remove a block. The blocks were rather small, but when I removed one, it grew in size. I chose another one and this one also grew, but not as big as the first one.

I was instructed to place the blocks on the table and somehow knew that I would be spending time with these. The answers I was seeking, even though I didn't know the questions as yet, would be given to me by the blocks.

At this moment I came to the realization that I was hardly alone, but instead, there were many "beings" with me, each one an instructor of sorts. I didn't see them, but their presence was obvious to me. I also understood that they had been assigned to me, to walk me through my healing and then into a clearing, where my purpose or work would be synthesized by them. I would also become acutely aware of the emotions that would be part of my life from now on forward.

This was not to be a one time meeting, but would happen frequently to be enhanced in meditation. My body would be welcomed, but I am not my body. It is simply a conduit for moving around the Universe. My focus in this regard would be changing and there was really nothing I had to do.

I found myself opening my eyes, fully returned to the room and my bed. There was nothing else. No fanfare, no lights, no angels, no eureka or ah-ha...just a knowing that change had happened and perhaps for the first time, without any struggle.

Before I became ill I had been working on many different projects, always feeling like I was chasing myself. It's become clear to me what parts of these have left and what has replaced them. These are not plans that I worked out in my usual way, but instead, an inner knowing of what I am to do.

I invite you to join me in making contact with your own Universal Connections.

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Beliefs are the life blood of action. You are following your belief that you needed to stop drinking coffee and I am very impressed with your obedience to that prompting which I believe most certainly was from an angel.

And I have no doubt either that you have faced some pretty challenging opposition to that resolve,even as we both have with cutting out the sugar. I have watched members of my family try to quit coffee and they didn't last very long. You are doing amazingly well and I believe not only did your angel work in you to quit but is helping you also to do it. After all you are proficient in speaking words of faith to yourself and a quick reminder from your angels of good thoughts and your off running with them.

I loved your affirmations today in this journaling. I too believe in angels. I know we are visited daily by them in the form of positive thoughts. We can allow them to fill our minds if we just will. Some days my positive thoughts are so strong and lift me to a point that I half expect the "angels" themselves to appear right then.

We do have a choice to dwell on the "angels" or the "devils". Too often we just allow what ever comes into our minds, that is negative, to take over. Because the road of least resistance is negativity we find we are often drug down until we are unable to do anything of worth. I prefer to be lifted. Thanks for lifting me with your affirmations.
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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION

I BELIEVE....YES I DO.


Beliefs are deeply-held mind programs that work behind the scenes as powerful goals. They originate from many places, some obvious, some not so obvious and others...a complete mystery. I love exploring the history of my beliefs through automatic journaling, especially if those beliefs position themSelves in the middle of my life path. It's almost "as if" they want to communicate with me, perhaps to share something that I might find useful. My Path has revealed some of these, mainly spiritual in nature.

Today's Automatic Journaling...

I ready mySelf to relax deeply into the moment, releasing my mind and body. This is usually easy for me, but this time my conscious Self keeps interrupting, trying to direct the subject matter for my journaling session. This is not the way.

Oh, how I despise being interrupted. And, as for being directed, this is not one of my strong suits, especially if, whatever it is, belongs "soul-y" to me. This is how I view my journal, the front door key to my soul. I've worked long and hard to attain this position as writer, director and producer. In the past, I would stand by the side-lines. Others ran and played with my life. Now, I'm not tossing blame here. I expected and even wanted them to do it. Lazy? Fearful of making mistakes? Always wanting to please? Many reasons to be the actor instead of the director.

Today, it seems that my conscious mind wants to return to that way of being. It's not going to happen. I get up and change my position. Back to the down-breath. Feels better this time....no static interruptions. The thought processes slow, slow, slow. The mind screen a beautiful shade of light blue. Images arising of their own accord. Just letting them do their thing. I don't believe I'm "there" yet. Just passing by images assisting the journey inward.

I'm invited to sit inside a spiral, rather like a slinky. I had one as a child and loved watching it going down steps. Now I'm inside one, going deeper down the spiral staircase. Yes, the spiral staircase. I went down one a few days ago with my childSelf, but this time I'm alone inside the slinky. The slinky-ride is fun. Feeling like a child in an amusement park!

The slinky lands and a door opens. I'm at a different area than before, but I sense this is my Life Path, like someone is telling me that. In front of me is a library-like building with a gold door pusher. I'm already pushing it open. The sign tells me that this is the Library of Beliefs. I'm reminded of the Library of Congress where some of my father's political cartoons are in safe keeping. I sense my father's presence, wondering if this is just a heart-felt desire or something else. Whatever it is, the sensations are peaceful and loving.

As a child, I was brought up Catholic, but my adult conscious Self does not follow any organized religion, but instead harbors strong beliefs in a Higher Power, spiritual teachers and message bearers. Part of me questions the presence of actual Angels, imaging these in a different category from spiritual teachers and messengers. I've often thought what my reaction would be if an Angel Spirit came into my awareness. My current thought is that I would really "freak out." I'm here in the Library of Beliefs to explore that notion and to learn more about me, mySelf and I.

The inner mind houses many different libraries, this being just one of the many, but a very important one to be sure. Beliefs fall into categories. They are housed in sectors of this particular building. It's already known that I am here regarding spiritual beliefs and so I'm ushered into a sector located near to the back. I've come to understand that spiritual beliefs are often very old, accompanying the individual through the birthing process. If newborns could talk, they might relay some of this information, but by the time the baby is old enough to speak, these memories are often in the back of the mind. However, if you hold a baby close to your heart, you may be able to sense the energies released by these. We think of the baby as being precious, but underneath the preciousness one can find spiritual connection.

I'm hear to ask specifically about Angels.

My fingers type direct questions onto my keyboard. Sometimes the answers come through my fingers, other times through the pen that sits on top of my writing journal.

"Have I ever been in contact with an Angel?" I'm somewhat doubtful, because of the Angel image I have in my mind. I'm answered with the words of my own observation.

"What makes you believe that Angels look a particular way?" I honestly don't know. It's just an idea in my head.

I find mySelf in a sector of the library were my Angel contacts are classified by date and time. Wow! I must say that I'm surprised to know how many contacts I've had. I'm told that some of my communication was short, but very important, some even life-saving. Others were short, but with less impact. Others were huge. I pull one of the "huge files" off of the shelf. Yes, I do remember this happening very clearly. I just never thought of it as an Angel Appearance.

It was back in 1984. We had a carbon monoxide leak from three different furnaces in our new home. The house was old, but we had just moved there a few months ago. The furnaces were all replaced, but I had a cough that wouldn't relent. So, I went to stay in a section of the house that was deemed "servant's quarters." I'd been sleeping there for about a week, but the cough persisted. One night I was awakened from a deep sleep. I felt pressure on my legs. There was a blue light surrounding something or someone who seemed to be sitting on my legs. I heard the voice of my step-father who had died about five years ago. The voice was calm, but strong. "Get out of this room right now. The flue is blocked and the contractors did not put the safety switch on the furnace. The carbon monoxide is spewing into the room." His voice went on to tell me exactly the configuration of the furnace, the flue and where the blockage was. He also told me not to call the same contractors because they would lie.

Yes, this is exactly what happened and everything was as his voice told me. "And so, do you not realize that you were visited by an Angel?" I must admit, I didn't realize that. I did know that something spectacular happened that night.

I'm asked to look around this sector of the library and spend some time reviewing other parts of my life experience. "Yes, I do believe in Angels."



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Charlene...yes, the going deeper & getting out of one's own way is a special technique that I will be explaining in the Inner Journaling area. I thought I would have it going by now, but believe it or not, I'm still recovering from withdrawing the caffeine. At least the headaches are gone...but I'm still a bit fatigued & not working at full-throttle. This has truly stunned me.

Yesterday, I was having lunch out with my husband. The waiter asked, "coffee?"...LOLOL I almost punched him.

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I really can appreciate your method of journaling. You expressed what I do when I journal my thoughts by continually going deeper. The method is just understood and taken for granted I suppose, in my case. I'm am glad you put it into words. Thank you.

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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION

I WORK TO CLEAR THE ENTRANCE TO MY CREATIVE-HEALING MIND.


** side-note - In our Team...Sugar & Food Addiction, we are going to start working with what I call "Inner Journaling." I teach this to my students & clients & want to do the same with my Team. This is not like "regular journaling", so I'm devoting a few blogs to these techniques. Here we will join Affirmations with Inner Journaling & open your own creative-healing mind. If you are not a member of our Team, I invite you to join us.

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There are many libraries in the "theater of the mind" and all are multi-functional. It's good for me to remember that my mind is beautifully organized because most of the time I feel just the opposite. Today is one of those days!

Before I even begin journaling, I'm reminded that sensations of disorder often follow times of great stress or tension and I've certainly experienced that over the last week. Still cleaning up after the electrical fire. Waiting for the building inspector to hopefully close this door. The electrician gave me a magnet reminder to stick on the refrigerator. Not a good idea to keep this in the front of my mind. Besides, who could ever forget the name Mr. Sparky or the jingle that plays on their phone line.

My mind is just leaving the anxiety-mode. Sensing the tension remaining in my body. Like buzz-saws. I've decided to utilize the sensations for going deeper. This is a technique for managing pain, so I'll look at the buzz-saws as a pain sensation, going deeper down as my mind locates the sawing sensations. Starting at the top of the head, scanning down, just like a hand scanner for airport security. I'm stunned at the amount and intensity of the buzzing. This sort of meditative body opening is very powerful and revealing. My shoulders reveal super-sonic buzzing. Of course, so much weight placed on them over the last week. Forgetting how vulnerable the body can be to high stress, and how out of touch one becomes when the stress experiences push themselves to the front of the line. Reminds me of people in the supermarket who would run you over with their carts in order to be first....especially in the bakery.

Thoughts are racing, arguing with the buzz-saw, demanding to be noticed. I observe them passing through my consciousness, as I travel deeper down, like swimming underneath them. Noticing them on the surface of the water, but not caring about their presence. Simply allowing mySelf to go deeper down. When my attention is brought up to the surface, I simply notice and respond by going deeper down. Meditating through mind and body clutter.

Feeling better now. Leveling off. Ready to greet my inner mentors and Universal Mind. While they are always present, it's often difficult to communicate through all of the obstructions brought about by stressors, both big and small. I often forget to notice what's flowing through mySelf and this experience serves as another reminder to stay connected.

The buzz-saw now presents itself to me, asking to be utilized for something useful. This is an example of "transmutation" or changing something into something else. In the body, it represented locked-up stress and now outside my body, it represents a useful tool. I'm understanding that I do have paths in my subconscious mind that have not been tended to over the years. They are over-grown with weeds, brambles and debris. I'm led to one of them, not even knowing where it leads. I'm reminded of how clutter blocks many things in life and how good it feels to get rid of things that often stuff closets, drawers, cupboards, to name a few. Paradoxically, clutter can take over all areas of life without even being noticed. Ask any hoarder...

I'm now wondering how many paths are blocked with over-growth and what lies beyond. My childSelf has appeared, demanding that I leave them alone. Obviously frightened, even though she maintains that she knows nothing about these. Fear of the unknown. Another childhood issue that needs to be put to rest. I'm reminded that the best way to achieve this is to go forward. The buzz-saw buzzes in response. I'll start with what is in front of me and take it from there. The brambles, vines, weeds respond to the buzz, removing themselves with little effort. Reminds me of cleaning out the garage. Items wanting to be released by donation or going to the trash. Realizing that my mind was doing the blocking and not the stuff.

The path bricks are revealed. While a bit dingy, it's clear to me that they are golden or goal-den says the journal. I can now notice a sign directing the way. This path leads to the Library of Desires and Talents. Oh, it's been a long time since I thought about any of this. My life has been so encapsulated around my work, home, relationships and daily rituals. In a way, my life has become tiresome in it's sameness. It's not that I don't enjoy my life, but every room can benefit from a fresh coat of paint.

I'm entering the Library and have decided to spend some time here. I think this is "just what the doctor ordered." Fresh paint...fresh insights into those parts of my life experience that have been ignored. I'm heading for the early years and can sense the idea of fun and games entering my body. Glad that I released the buzzing, so now I have room for taking in the joy that I know is located here. Skating, hop-scotch, my blue bike, clarinet and my kick ball are against the wall. Just like new. Just like "knew."

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Yes...the gifts are coming through your "creative opening." Congratulations!! Keep going! elizRN

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I am also learning to act upon those silent fleeting impressions. They do help.

example. I have two freezers and it was time to defrost. Oh how I hate to defrost, the chizzling off of the frost is so time consuming. I put the job off for days. Then one day the thought comes into my mind. "Why don't you put all the food from the one freezer into the other. Turn the freezer off and go to bed? In the morning you can wipe out the melted ice. Turn the freezer back on and do the same thing with the other freezer." Well Duh- why hadn't I thought about that earlier.

About journaling- My mind does not even know what it is thinking until I see it written down on paper, or a computer screen.

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I LEARN TO LISTEN AND PAY VERY CLOSE ATTENTION.


Everything is connected, but sometimes we have a loose connection that needs to be attended to.

Automatic journaling is how we enhance our connection with our Higher Power, sixth sense or intuition. Journaling is not just a writing exercise, but a process of becoming fully engaged with the Universal Mind. Our level of engagement continues throughout our daily experiences in what I like to call the "workshop of the world. We know this as our current reality. It's like we are participating in a theatrical play, where the script unfolds as the scenes unravel themselves. It's an "auto-pilot" production and we are the players. The clearer our Universal connections or intuition, the better for us. We stay in the position of "heightened observer." The scenes of life become more vibrant or clearer like HDTV and our ability to ask or hear specific directions is greatly enhanced. In other words, the connection is clear because the debris has been removed.

Sometimes intuition speaks softly, other times very loudly. In my experience, it's always best to listen. Intuition allows us to see more and to make better choices. These choices can change one's life dramatically. This is what happened to me in the middle of the night.

Act I Scene I

I'm awakened by our alarm system making a strange noise that I've never heard before. It wasn't all that loud, but since I have a tendency to "policing" my life, my mind seems to stay alert to any and all changes in my environment, a result of early childhood trauma. I get up and flight on the light. No light. No electricity. Oh damn. What's going on. Heart racing a bit. Wake the husband. Just for a moment, wondering what I would be doing if there was no husband. Am I such a needy person??? Realizing the child part of me is so very fearful, but I can turn this off. Just this week I released my child from her leg braces, taking my position as a mature Self. Deciding to wake the husband, so he won't feel "left out". Also, depending on what happens next, he may be useful, especially since he really likes to take charge.

Act I Scene 2

Well, as expected, he takes over, directing me through the house with flashlights, calming the child, even though the child was calmed long ago, but no need to announce that. Nothing to be gained. "Just a regular black-out" was his diagnosis. As for the alarm, "who knows. It's not the first time the damn thing did something strange." I do have to agree, although the police, investigative part of me isn't satisfied, but no need to get into this discussion in the middle of the night. Those subjects are best saved for another time, if at all. Lessons learned from many years of marriage. Husband returns to bed, snoring within minutes. The investigative-police part of me is happy to have him removed from the scene. She also likes to be in charge.

Act 2 Scene 1

Awake and alert. Time to research and collect evidence. What's really going on here? Another presence is felt. I immediately know it to be Universal Intelligence, an active group of spiritual helpers. Some people call these "angels." Whoever they are, I'm happy they're here. I feel at peace and safe. The childSelf is directed to sit quietly on the sofa to observe, for this is how the child part of us learns to mature.

I'm told to disengage the alarm and go into the garage. Calmly now. As I open the door, the smell of smoke touches my nostrils. I look around, but everything appears normal, except for the smell. I wish the lights were on. I'm instructed to call the electric company and receive a recorded message. Our address is checked via their automatic-response computer and I'm told that the problem will be resolved by the next morning.

The investigative-police part of me isn't satisfied, but it's more than that. She will not go to sleep, but stays vigilant, shining the flashlight in different parts of the room, just in case this is more than it seems, for my intuition is convinced that there is more than meets the eye.

Act 2 Scene 2

The mind and body are calm, but alert. 4 AM Lights and voices on the side of the house and a banging on the window. A man wearing a construction hat informing me that there is no problem and telling me to trip the main breaker.

It doesn't move. I'm not strong enough. He agrees to push it for me, even though they are not allowed to enter any premise. I open the door and he takes a step back. "Don't touch anything. The electrical panel is smoldering. It may spark or explode if you touch it." The car sits next to the electrical panel. My husband is snoring down the hall.

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Finding an electrician on a weekend and one who would be able to handle this job. I look through the phone book with my flashlight. Don't know any electricians. My pen moves towards the name of a company with a ridiculous name. "I would never call a company with a name like that." The pen ignores my comment, encircling the name. Oh, someone else is in charge here. The pen then makes a 1-2-3 list as to why this is the right company. Intuition.

Snoring stops and agreement is reached without debate. Strange? The company with the odd name responds immediately, dispatching a knowledgeable professional...clean, neat and focused. "You're very lucky you didn't lose your life or your house last night." Yes, I do know that and I am grateful. There is tremendous power in heightened awareness and healthy connections!


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In spite of the fact that the fiery furnace is heated up seven times, I continue in my resolve to eat a natural foods diet in moderation. I also also continue to eliminate sugar and salt.

"Now, faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen." Heb. 11:1


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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION

I RESPECT MYSELF BY THROWING AWAY WHAT I DON'T NEED.

Approaching my journaling with a reminder of the importance of meditating regularly and asking the mind to go deeper than before. This deepening takes me well below all the emotional garbage that is strewn in my current reality. Much of it has been blocking my creativity and spiritual connections. Just the opposite of what I want. I'm eager to work with my emotional childSelves, but desire to do this at a spiritual level and not from my ego-Self. The first is powerful, creative and healing; the latter offers little of anything.

I'm surprised at my level of anger, as well as the anger than surrounds me. As I become more aware, it's seems like a plague. I've decided to shut off the TV and to stop reading the newspaper for now. Then there are the others who are so contaminated with anger. It's so clear to me now....their "operating systems." My reaction in the past was to move into my defensive mode, fighting to the finish. This is a very unhealthy pattern, one I'm interested in deflating or breaking completely. Of course I realize this is a lot to ask, but I'm asking anyway.

Before meditating...

I'm going to use a technique from my past that worked quite well for me. I call it the "garbage can."

Opening my journal, pen on paper, requesting the pen to locate anything and everything that is blocking my mind today. Just a quick mention is all that is needed. The power of awareness. Noticing and releasing, leaving the creative space open. Inviting the Self to enter deeper levels. Lots of junk today. As the pen puts it to paper, all seems rather ridiculous. I've always had a churning mind, even as a child. I feel like I'm vomiting some of this. Some of the same themes hit the paper. First it's the "to do lists"...the never ending "to do lists." But there is more.

Here come the things that want to be on the to-do list but haven't been listed as yet. In a way, they drive me crazier than the actual list. Constant shuffling. Never a moment of peace. Needing and fighting to win agreements, things that are wrong with our house, being interrupted and tensing my body as I pretend that it doesn't bother me, which it always does. That's a laugh unto itself. That part of me is hyper-active, just waiting for that button to be pushed. Here comes some more.

The need to exercise at a higher level, walk further, harder, push those weights, setting more goals than I could achieve in a life-time. Here they come...the never ending goals, some as dreams, others in parts like wounded soldiers, goals carrying lists, goals pounding on my mind, goals, goals, goals. Goals choking me. Never, ever finished and never will be. I feel the anger rising in my throat...leave me alone. But, they won't because I'm addicted to them, just like my eating disorder. I hate them, but I love them for they are what I am. How sick is this? My "journal master" says nothing. It's as if I never spoke. Feeling like a crazy person needing some sort of restraint. Restraint? Of course. My eating disorder. That is a restraint. Yes, I know all about restraints... I'm requested to "shhhhhh" now...

Meditating and deepening...

"Garbage can" away... following my "master", going deeply into the chair, utilizing the "deeper down dial" that works so well, especially when debris has been removed. The regular dial has five levels, but I an requested to go deeper today where I can enter levels of my spirituality and creativity that have been absent from my life for so long. A special gift, rewarding me for working in this very difficult area and not backing away. Thank you. It feels good to go deeper and the journey is rather speedy, like the express elevator in a tall building. Passing floors that have no purpose for today. Perhaps another day, but not today. I'm grateful, for I am really tired from shoveling garbage.

Arrival...

The elevator door opens and the "Light" greets me. I want to bask in it. I need to, but I'm moved along. The message is "that I don't need anything." I just think I do. I have everything inside of me, including my Highest Spiritual Nature. Sensing a spring breeze touching the top of my head. It's been so long since I've felt a breeze. I've been out of touch, blocked by so much debris and anger, not even noticing. Asleep for it. Like being in a smoke-filled room, unconscious and smothered with the poisonous gas.

Waking up is both delightful and challenging. Asking to see the blockage means being willing to look with acceptance. Not a strong suit for me. I've been fighting for so long. No wonder I'm tired. My biggest opponent is me, mySelf and that part comes towards me. I don't know whether to laugh or cry. She is beautiful and ugly, like someone with two distinct faces. I tear as I write this. Something touching my soul. I feel so sorry for her, yet I admire and love her at the same time. Like a mixing bowl of emotions, all releasing themselves. Goodness...

The children come forward carrying their toys. Seeing them in a new light now. Understanding their meaning and importance to the protection and release for the child who had no other way. But, I am no longer that child and so the release must be re-designed. The part of me with two faces shows me some of the ways I've collected anger and how I handled or tried to release it. Try is the operative word, because it was impossible to truly release my anger with inefficient or addictive tools. Instead, they destroyed me further. Now, the two faces me is showing me a living diorama that displays how I even enjoy the anger. Giving permission for entering addiction.

Additional parts of my life experience are becoming clear, like a fog lifting. Realizing much more is opening to me now. I'm grateful, for this is very fertile ground for creative planting.

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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION

I ENJOY THE PROCESS OF SOLVING PROBLEMS.

You don't have to look far to notice what a stressed out lives we lead. No wonder we prefer to hide out in some addiction or to just stay in the pram with our blankie.

Solving problems means being willing to have a good look and then to make changes. So where does all this stress originate? Some believe it is all about work. Others stick the blame on relationships or financial matters. For others, all would be well if the kids grew up and left home. All of these beliefs are correct, simply because they are believed, but they aren't the whole answer. Stress is accumulated throughout the day, even on a good day. It travels along with us, reaching out and touching every part of life and experience, attaching to every relationship and desired goal. A close look finds it connected to addictions, child and spousal abuse and a whole lot more. And yes, .....did I mention.....it can kill you.

If this is the case, then is there any hope for a decent quality of life and survival even if stress is high? Yes indeed, for well managed stress is connected to enhanced health, self-image, self-esteem, healthy relationships, prosperity, creativity and all of the good things of life. Now who wouldn't want that?

GET ME THE GOOD LIFE

Every client who visits my office or who attends a workshop wants to be saved from something. This is what I heard over and over again. "Oh what I wouldn't give for a fresh start!" Well, the good news is that fresh starts are available to us in each and every moment. While most of us don't need quite so many, they are there if we need them and there is no reason, whatsoever, not to take advantage of these wonderful opportunities.

In the practice of Interactive Self-Hypnosis we work with planting new beliefs, as well as active imagery that programs the subconscious mind for change. While some of this work appears simple on the surface, it is anything but that. I explain it to my clients like this. Suppose you were driving a car and saw something in the middle of the road. If you just move the steering wheel a half turn to the right, you won't hit it. If you don't turn the wheel, you will hit it. So is the half turn a small thing?

Here are some simple, but powerful new beliefs that help to change directions and outcomes. When practicing with simple affirmations such as these, relax deeply and see them on your mind screen.

I am always free to choose to stop doing what I am doing.

I am always free to choose to break old habits and patterns.

I am always free to chose to change anything and everything.

I am the writer, the producer and the director of my life.

BEGINNING SELF-EXPLORATION

If you truly want to manage stress at high levels and get the good things of life, you have to not only be willing to work at it, but you truly need to want it........that's called "hot desire."

Let's explore this a bit. Since all we have to do is to have the desire and then to act on our desire, why do many of us tend to ignore this gigantic opportunity? Why don't we turn the wheel of the care?

Take just a moment and let that question settle in your own subconscious mind. When you are ready, I'll give you some additional insights, but please don't rush your own personal work. As you begin to work with your own inner self, you will find that more answers coming to your own mind that will be very specific for you.

Here are some things I've noticed. Perhaps you have noticed them as well.

Most of us have excuses living on our tongues and for those of us who are tired of the excuse-life, it is often difficult to decide what to do instead of what we are doing and then how to actually begin.

We think about starting tomorrow, but tomorrow comes and goes and we find ourselves in the same old place.

We might wake up with good intentions, but then "life interrupts us" and despite our intentions, we fall back into old emotional patterns, beliefs, activities, choices, as if these were the only place to go.

Before we know it, we are at the end of the day and still "window shopping" in our mind, desiring things that we simply cannot grasp or for some reason , cannot hold on to for long, if at all.

And so, we tend to live in the land of good intentions and excuses, spending incredible energy on defending ourselves, our positions of inactivity or perceived failure and blaming others for stepping on our toes and our dreams. Most of this constitutes garbage.

Basically, we are all the same. We all have histories and baggage, desires and dreams. If you read or work with my programs, you will be doing many things differently from now on. Some of those things will be obvious and other's not so obvious. You will be consciously aware of some changes, but other changes will simply happen, as if they had a life of their own. You will find yourself replacing old emotional patterns, beliefs, activities and choices. Much of this will be effortless. You will no longer just window shop in life. You will actively choose what you want and act in accordance to make it yours.

I ask you to work with a Journal and a 3 ring binder. You can certainly download this blog or other areas on my websites that are designed for my clients and students. Remember all of my material is copyrighted and so you cannot reproduce it, but certainly you can copy this for you own benefit. Go through each part and highlight areas that speak out to you.

I'll be showing you how to work with these parts through a self-hypnotic tool called automatic writing. This will allow you to explore areas that interest you with your own subconscious mind inner coach. I'll also be providing you with self-development work based on different chapters of my books and also be suggesting CD/Audio programs that can assist you in working quicker and at higher levels, should you choose to do that.

I'll often introduce you to clients of mine and invite you to look over my shoulder as we work together to turn the wheel of the car.

MEET DONNA

I'm 38 years old and work in television production with a major network. I am over-weight and completely stressed out. I bite my nails and pull at my hair when I'm nervous. I've tried artificial nails, but I pick those off as well and so I spend quite a bit of energy hiding my hands as they are a true embarrassment to me, especially in my profession. Why can't I stop this? I know that I drink too much coffee, have a terrible diet and on weekends I find myself drinking too much.

I've thought about this and think it is because I'm trying to fit in all of my fun and relaxation on the weekend. I do feel entitled to this because I don't have a minute to myself during the week. I am married and have two school-age children who are already over-extended in activities, making my life even worse because of time constraints, but what's a Mom to do?

Here is the frightening part. I truly don't feel well physically. I'm fatigued just about all the time and have frequent headaches. I truly do not remember the last time I felt well. I had a medical check-up and the doctor told me that I am fine. I am not fine and not even near to fine. This frightens me even more than having a diagnosis of something. Is that strange or what? I went to counseling and found it useless because, despite everything, I'm a fairly happy and successful person. I have a good marriage and two great children. I'm just not well.

I don't know how to start or where to start. I'm like a "messy desk" that I don't seem to have time to straighten out because people, including myself, keep putting more things on it. I'm truly frightened that I will die from all of this stress and yet I can't seem to motivate myself out of this. My doctor offered me medications and I turned them down. I truly don't think that they will solve any of this. I see this as something I absolutely must do myself. I have many other aspects of myself to share, but don't know what it is that you need to know from me. Just know that I'm ready.

GET ME HOT DESIRE

As I look at Donna, it seems to me that her body is burning out from not getting what it needs. I'm impressed that despite being so busy and fatigued at the same time, she is willing to go right ahead with this work. This says MUCH about her and tells me that SHE WILL experience success, if her desire is "gut-felt" which I believe it is. Sometimes we need to truly get sick and tired before we are willing to become seriously involved with our own rehabilitation and self-growth.

This is usually my first important assessment factor when meeting a new patient/client in my office. I want to see and sense the desire. I want to sense if they want me to do the work OR if they are wanting to do the work themselves. In my experience, those who have HOT desire and truly want to do their own work, despite any and all obstacles, will be huge winners.

Those that are not willing usually have very different outcomes. So it is important for everyone working with me, assess themselves in their desire and in their willingness to do their own work and to do so consistently. This is not a magic fix, but true self-development work. It is like training for an Olympic Medal, only this is for winning your life back and keeping yourself out of trouble medically and emotionally.



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I'm growing up. My inner voice told me one time, "the faults in others that you view are for the purpose of showing us the same tendency in ourselves and our need to do different". It is most definitely difficult to think of ourselves as having a fault like someone elses fault we hate. The point is we are all human and have like tendencies and if put in the same set of ciecumstances not knowing any better we would act the same. Thank goodness I am learning better ways of dealing with stress thanks to you Elizabeth.

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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION

I CHOOSE TO GROW-UP.

We all want everything yesterday, but champions are not made like that. Every moment in a championship performance contains thousands of knowledge-gathering and practice moments. It's the same for lifestyle change and self-rehabilitation. Short-cuts simply don't make a champion....

What is it about not wanting to do the work necessary to achieve? Yesterday I met Jane, a 30-something professional with a rather serious alcohol problem. It didn't take long for her to get into denial, despite the fact she sought my help. While this may sound incongruous, it's quite common. The belief goes something like this.... "If I seek help and it doesn't work, then at least I tried." This is a door-knob or escape technique, taking the individual back to addiction "jail."

It's seems so much easier to stick one's head in the sand and ignore reality. Yes, it does take work to change lifestyle behaviors and to break old patterns that take one down roads that are potentially dangerous. My take on this, is "either you do or you don't and no matter what you do or don't do, you will be getting outcomes.

The severity of the outcomes will depend on where you've been, where you are and where you have chosen to go. For Jane, the outcomes are going to be quite severe unless she chooses to awaken. For some reason, younger adults seem to think they can wait to employ change. This is a very dangerous belief and sets the stage for all kinds of trouble. For Jane, this could mean severe damage to many different organs in her body. Jane's reaction to this was "it's just wine." Just another attempt to deny and grab the door-knob.

SO WHAT'S A GIRL TO DO?

For Jane, this is about much more than putting down the bottle. Careful observation told me that her wine drinking was connected to a low self-esteem, self-image and lack of maturity. She was totally disconnected to her authentic self, therefore not allowing her to manage incoming stress in a healthy fashion. Work with Jane is going to involve rescue and rehabilitation of her true Self.....not a journey for weaklings.

The basic tool Jane and I will utilize is called Interactive Heightened Awareness. It involves becoming very aware of specific behaviors and the emotions that are coloring them. Jane cannot change what she isn't willing to see, or what she can't see at all. Many of her behaviors and emotional reactions are very ingrained, although she may know them as part of her personality or "just the way she is". These behaviors may or may not be perfectly fine. Rule of thumb.....if they are interfering with quality of life experience and health, they need to go or to be changed.

Most of us are bogged down with behaviors and emotions that work against us. Some are hidden and some we hide from because it just seems easier to do that. You don't have to look far to know how true this is. It's easier to see this in others, so try to notice what you criticize in others. More than likely this is your own short-fall.

GETTING TO KNOW YOURSELF - THE POWER OF PERSONAL ASSESSMENT

Take a moment to deeply relax and just as if you were looking in a big filing cabinet, find the folder that contains your current lifestyle patterns. As your mind scans the material, notice that some appear familiar, but others may not be quite so clear. While you think you know yourself and how you spend your time, you are about to find out that you know less about yourself than you thought. That is because a good part of your day is spent in a very limited conscious state known as low-level awareness, or automatic pilot I call this is day-sleep walking, a form of automatic self-hypnosis.

It is difficult to honestly see oneself and even more difficult when one doesn't know what to look for when looking in the self-disclosure-mirror. This is where the power of personal assessment comes to help and guide you.

Let's practice some self-exploration. You already know that most of your mind programs are automatic and well-woven into the fabric of your life. The subconscious mind is available to help you wake up, but you are going to need to know how to communicate very specifically concerning what you truly want and for this you will need special data collection. Once you have the information or data, then you will be free to examine it carefully without judgment and then to decide if you would like to change or mind-edit this information before returning it to your subconscious mind library.

Even though you may think that you know everything you need to know to make changes in your lifestyle behaviors, most likely you do not. Like the octopus, the head of the behavior may be above water, but the tentacles or roots of the behavior are below the surface. We sense these as blocks, resistance or procrastination. We want to change and know what needs to change, or so we think and then we simply can't move, just as if our feet were sitting in tar or cement.

So you will be needing additional information that may not be in your current memory bank, but waiting for you in your subconscious mind library and you will have to ask directly for this information. Some of these things will pertain to your family of origin, as well as from your own health, emotional and behavioral history starting from the time you were an infant and up through this very moment.

You will also be reclaiming memory files about your beliefs, how you got them and whether or not they are blocking your current progress. Beliefs are like coats, many of which were placed on you when you were a child or perhaps unaware as an adult. Some may have been forced on you by someone who appeared stronger than you in that moment. But that was then and now is now. You are taking back your personal power and ownership of only the beliefs you choose to wear at this moment in time.

You will be guiding yourself with images of what you do want. That is why we must spend time in thinking about this. It's important to review your life and notice the areas, both big and small that do not reflect what you want and also to notice areas that do reflect those positive aspects. They need to be divided, just as if you were cleaning and clearing your home. When you have accomplished this, you can enter any area of your Inner Library and start inner exploring. The lights will go on and it will easier to see in the corners of your belief closet and the past experiences that are connected to these.

When your Inner Librarian or Coach spots something that may be of interest for a self-review, you will find yourself receiving the message. This is rather like having a wonderful personal assistant who is completely attuned with you.

The library of your mind is vast. You began collecting subconscious experiences and corresponding belief coats in the beginning of your life, even though you cannot consciously remember these. All coats and experiences, old or new, big or small can hold important information and keys to your success, as well as reasons for past failures. You may have a desire or tendency to rush through this kind of self-detective work. Perhaps you even recognize this as a past behavioral trait of yours. This is a good example of Heightened Awareness. You may have uncovered an unhealthy source that leads to procrastinating or self-blocking. When you spot these tendencies, pretend that they are colored child-blocks, labeled with their name. Place them in a pile over there.

While it's just fine to read through the thoughtWARE Book material to become familiar, don't fall into the trap of hurrying and not doing the detailed detective work. You will be cheating yourself and taking away from the quality of what you are capable of doing, perhaps even taking you down past roads of failure.

There is no easy road when looking to achieve high level health and optimum performance. If it were, more people would be experiencing it. thoughtWARE Books offer you the opportunity to see and address your short and long falls, as well as your potential. As you build your commitment to this self-development work, you probably will want to review this area more than once so as to build on the already presented memories.

You probably know plenty of people who want to change something, but simply canít figure out how or when to get started. Somehow it never seems to be the right time. Excuses abound that keep them engaged in procrastination. Perhaps you have had this personal experience and are wondering right in this moment if you can do this. This is another colored child-block called "doubt". It usually accompanies "lack of self-confidence."

Do know that this time it will be different than before, because Iím going to help you get started and find your balance. In fact, you are already in the process because you are reading this workshop blog. Itís said that when a rubber band is stretched, it never returns to itís original position, and so with reading material such as this. The actual process of reading engages your right brain, or subconscious mind and so inner motivators are already etching. Notice if you can sense them.

Throughout this inner detective work you will be activating the different areas with a light application of Interactive Self-Hypnosis. Managing health issues, addictions or getting to the heart of any problem involves the act of beginning. You must commit and step onto the merry-go-round of life. Life does not stand and still and wait for you. So reach out and grab on to the golden ring.


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AFFIRMATION - I RESPECT THE WORK OF MY BODY.

Understanding hyperinsulinemia is Key to becoming well. It's important to realize that this is a medical condition that was inherited through your gene pool, then worsened by a lack of Knowledge of how to take care of it.

When the pancreas continually is asked to over-produce insulin, it can wear out. When it stops producing, then the diagnosis goes from hyperinsulinemia or pre-diabetes to full-blown diabetes. Think of pre-diabetes as a path that can begin at birth, depending on your gene pool. If you have been adopted, then you probably don't know your gene pool, but if you look closely at your history of hunger patterns & tendency towards addictions or chronic medical conditions, you can guess-timate your gene pool. Why is this important? Well, if you know what's going on inside your body, then you can work to prevent further distruction on your path.

Think of a smoker. Each cigarette she or he smokes takes them further down the path to disease. Some diseases are slow killers, others go faster. The same happens with sugar, food & hyperinsulinemia. Some paths are accelerated because the family medical history makes it so. Others are accelerated because of the longevity of the poor eating habits.

Keep in mind that it isn't just about sugar & junk. It's about what you are not eating as well. The body has specific needs & you are the CEO of the body. After all, your body has to accept what you put into it. It's not like your heart or lungs or intestines can go out & purchase the best foods for them. They are literally stuck inside of you, therefore depending upon you.

The body parts do not want to go down the path to disease. They want peace or homeostasis...balance. Think about this before you put something in your mouth. Remember that the body parts have to deal with it, as well as deal without certain things. It's truly a rough spot to be in....don't you think?

What are some things that accelerate the path? Besides not eating the foods that are necessary for healthy body-system management, there is the issue of dieting. Chronic dieters have accelerated paths. The body systems like consistency. They want to know what to expect, sort of like you & me. We like to know what to expect, don't we? Who likes unpleasant surprises.

Sometimes when people change their behaviors, they expect everything to change in the next moment. Why hasn't the scale weight gone down, why are my pants still tight, why don't I feel better, why am I still craving, why am I still having hunger pangs, why isn't my exercise working? Why, why, why.

When, oh when oh when, will I get everything I want. I want it now !@#$%^

The body cannot change on a dime. If you could look inside of yourself & observe your body as you change, you would see the cells working very hard to undo damage, make repairs & then get ready for instituting changes. But the "why-person" usually is impatient for all of this to be accomplished, especially a compulsive/addictive person who wants to push a button & have it happen.

One of the things we get to learn through food, addiction & nasty habit recovery is to be patient & if you are really a good observer, to learn from your very own body. Those are answers you will want to hear.

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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION -

I understand my family & personal medical history & how it impacts on my eating issues.

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I decided to address this today because we have several new members in our Sugar & Food Addiction group who need to review this part of our work together. For me, it was this very Knowledge that put me on the path to health & I might add, sanity, many decades ago.

We know how we feel, but we don't know why. Two of my biggest reasons for failure & ill health over the years had to do with my excessive fatigue, especially in mid-morning & afternoon and then my "I could eat the wallpaper off the walls hunger." I could not figure out HOW I could ever be at my supposed goal weight while I felt like this. The problem was that I wasn't asking the right question. "Why do I feel like this? What is my body trying to tell me that I don't get?"

I started doing research, and yes...I prayed for the right information to find me. Then I bargained..."If you show me the way, then I'll tell everyone else." This is the reason I spend so much time on SparkPeople. I was saved through the Knowledge I received and now I share it with my patients, clients, students and those who work with my programs.

Here's the core..

The family & personal medical history tells you about your genetic code related to how your pancreas reacts to certain foods, primarily carbohydrates. Certain diseases & addictions, be they yours or belonging to family members dictates this. If your pancreas over produces insulin in response to certain foods, then you begin to build something called insulin resistence. This is also called hyper-insulinemia or pre-diabetes. There are different levels of this. Some people are low-level, others moderate & some high levels. For me, I was a high-level but now I've lowered it to somewhere between low & moderate. In other words, I've corrected the insulin resistence with my dietary choices, amounts, habits & exercise. Notice that I didn't say just one of those....it's all of those.

When the cell borders are insulin resistent, the body cannot release fat. The antennae are blocked. When this happens the body burns sugar. It gets it from craving sugars & foods or beverages with high level sugar content or caffeine. It also gets it from the sugar stores in the body...from the liver & from the muscles. That is why one feels the fatigue. The stores in the liver are there for the brain & so it's common to feel brain or cognitive fatigue. You know, when your concentration is blurry & it's difficult to focus.

So, what family & personal medical history are we looking for. Go back to your grandparents on both sides, then your parents, direct-link uncles, aunts & yourself. Look for adult-onset diabetes, heart disease, circulatory disease including strokes, certain cancers like breast, uterine, ovary, high blood pressure, hypoglycemia, obesity, osteoporosis, inflammatory diseases, addictions...especially alcohol, food, sugar & drugs.

One of the things that happens with hyperinulinemia is that the lean body mass breaks down & the body fat percentage becomes bigger. So, inside an obese person one will find an "anorexic lean body mass."

It's very important to learn how to eat for this medical issue. If you don't eat suffiently & give the body the right foods to reverse the insulin issue, then the lean body mass will continue to shrink & the person will tend to yo-yo. This is very dangerous & can lead to very serious problems as one gets older.

There are also the emotional issues that are connected to this imbalance. When the insulin is over-produced, so are other stress hormones. The emotions & thoughts respond to the state of the body. If the body is getting what it needs & is healing from the previous abuses, then one feels well. If not, then one is imbalanced, both body & mind.

If you are not a member of my Sugar & Food Addiction group, I invite you to join our educational forum.

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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION -

I go to my difficult "inner" places with the confidence of my Adult Self.

This particular Affirmation Workshop is one where I invite you to look over my shoulder as I approach some of my most difficult areas. I hope this will give you some insight into your own areas. Here I'm using my "automatic writing journal." If you haven't worked with one, I suggest that you begin. I'll be happy to give you some hints about doing this for it's difficult and is very helpful.

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Approaching my journal blog with some angst...

Since I've been working in a specific area I call the Library of Desires and Talents, in other words, what I truly want for myself, my body has been experiencing even more tension. I've also heard this comment from some of my readers. Why is it that when thinking about what I want for myself my tension increases? Shouldn't it decrease? Perhaps as I open my mind with this journaling I'll find the answer.

Working with others is very different from working with myself. It's easier for me to spot what's going on. I have to admit that looking inside oneself can be quite agonizing, but there is no other way. Either someone has to help you or you have to help yourself.

However, my level of tension is somewhat a mystery to me and certainly not what I want to experience. I'm busy editing my book and I want to be rid of this body tension! It's the reason I returned to Inner Journaling. I thought returning to "fun and games" would bring delight and relaxation to all parts of me. That's why I started off exploring in my early years area, when I had time to play all day. Do what I wanted. Even played hooky from school. Sometimes I wish I could play hooky from my current life, but of course, that's not an option. Too many responsibilities. The idea of hanging out in this area of my inner mind was to play hooky of sorts, but instead, what do I get? I get a super-tense body!

I feel so !@#$% angry today.

"Today?" responds my "Journal Master. "Perhaps you would like to re-think that. Look inside your anger. You will see how long the path winds, through so many years. In fact, you might like to take a walk there, but best wear a protective suit."

I'm somewhat nervous to begin my session today. Yes, I do want to go inside my anger. Knowing this is the way to release, I'm still arguing and resisting. My body already hurts so much and I still don't understand how the tension got to this level, especially since I've been playing in the "theater of my mind" with my happiness toys.

"Why did you play with your happiness toys? What was their purpose?" The questions are clear and on mark. Of course, there was a reason for them, for everything has a reason. Just because I was a little child and lacked insight, doesn't mean that they didn't have their own purpose. Yes, I was escaping even then. Now it's becoming clearer why I am having this body tension. I was looking at my toys "as toys" and not as a mechanism that served me well during those times. Playing hooky was another mechanism to keep me protected. If I didn't have to leave my "toy factory", then I didn't have to deal with what was outside. This included leaving my safety place, or my home.

I'm coming to realize that many of my early issues have not been "cleaned up " and if they have been, it's not nearly enough. No wonder I am so angry. The anger runs deep, like rivers cutting through the middle Earth. Obviously I was not able to approach these rivers as a young child, not even as an adult. I'm realizing that it takes not only courage, but a high level of life experience and insight to walk the paths that go to meet these deep rivers. I'm game for this now, because "if not now....when?" I'm no longer a child, nor a young adult, nor even a middle age adult. It's time and I have both the desire, deep wisdom and freedom from many other weights that allow me to walk into deeper parts of mySelf.

Perhaps this is why I've been brought back to my inner journaling. I find that I can enter by choosing a favorite "early toy." I pick up my kick ball and foot it down the path. Always been good at kickball. Always able to find the hole in the opposition and make the pass for an easy run. Kicking the ball, running forward and sensing the freedom as my feet hardly touch the path. The sign tells me that I'm almost to the "village of anger."

Expecting it to be dark and dank, but it is neither of the two. Actually, it's quite alive with a high level of energy. Many games of intense kickball going on. Players practicing and very focused. Never thought of my inner anger in this way. I've known about my repressed anger for many decades, but I've never been to this area and I'm finding it quite exciting. Yes, the other interpretation of anger could be excitement. The air of forgiveness floats over me, like a breeze refreshing my body and mind. I sense a feeling of respect for mySelf and those parts of me that have been living in this area for so long.

Each player has a history that is written on her shirt. Here are memories long forgotten, but seeds for my current !@#$%%. The youngest parts of me have shirts filled with writing. I'm understanding that these little Selves had no voice and so the writing on their shirts is long and intense. I have the desire to hug them, hoping I can release some of their angst. How old their shirts are and how stiff are their little bodies! I feel tears welling behind my eyes. One child appears dead, and then another appears looking dead. The dead parts of me are now coming forward, too despondent to even play kickball. Yes, it's true. Looking closer at the kickball players. They represent my older or more recent Selves. The older or earlier life representatives are inert. Of course, these are the parts of me that hold me in my depressed state. The other parts, the more recent kickballers, are my more active-angry Selves. I know everyone here.

My journal advocates tell me that it's time to hold a meeting with all parts of me that live in the "village of anger." There is much work to be done here. Much healing. Much release. Much re-programming and education. Now, I'm understanding the toys. They march past me, some from very young years, others from my teens and young adulthood. Surprised, but not really, at more recent toys....each asking me to "follow." Leading me down paths less traveled, but paths that will open secrets long buried.

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Hi Cindy...we've missed you, but I'm glad to know that you are doing so well. Keep reading & applying the things you already know & the new ones you are learning. This is an ongoing process, so just keep tuned.

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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION

I BEGIN ACTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH MY BODY & ANSWER ALL CELL PHONE MESSAGES.

Before I begin working with the above affirmation...If you are new to my Affirmation Workshops, I welcome you. The workshop is ongoing, based on my work with myself, my patients & my writing over the years.

I'm the leader of Sugar & Food Addiction on SparkPeople. I invite you to join my educational group & to ask questions as well.

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I was asked the question, "where does one begin? I've always been addicted to something, and the idea of beginning truly frightens me."


When patients come into my office, I view them as carrying a big box of computer connections with the strands all tangled together. The strands represent their disorderly issues. There are so many of them. Some are stuck to others & others have tangled themselves around those.

They hand me the box and say, "Fix this please."

The truth is that they must fix their own box. My job is to show them where to begin and how to untangle the disorder.

Of course, everyone's wires are different, just as all of our lives are different. But, what remains the same is the way to do the untangling.

Back to the question...where to start.

We must start with deep relaxation and by this I mean very deep relaxation that is accomplished by making contact with the body. The body is the first key to bringing order back. What's ironic is that your body is always with you, but little attention is usually paid to it's communication. It's like cell phone messages that are never answered. Body cells & systems ring, but no one answers. The call may go to voice mail, but the messages are either not picked up, or not listened to carefully. This is how trouble begins & body systems break down.

The first order of business is something called "body scanning" or "mental biofeedback." Obviously you cannot be paying attention all day to your body, but you can plant a subconscious mind program that will put at least a part of this on auto-pilot. You might notice yourself doing this when you take a deep breath....when noticing a high level of tension. Unfortunately, that is usually too late because the stores of stress chemicals are already in overload.

Releasing body stressors needs to take place throughout your day. It's like taking out the garbage. If you only put garbage in the container and never take it out, it will over-flow. It's the same with the body, only more serious. 60-90% of diseases are stress-related...big garbage issues!

Body stress comes from a multitude of areas. One of the biggest inner stressors is food stress. This is followed by emotional stress, physical stress, and then outer stressors.

Now, how does this connect to addiction & food issues in particular? Well, when stress chemicals are high, instead of taking out the garbage, one goes to a vice. Then, the vices become the replacement for garbage removal, but unfortunately they don't help, but hinder. Vices cause more stress, both physiologically and emotionally. Once the vice patterns are in place, then this is the mode of choice.

Some of us have a closet full of addictions. Some are related to foods, others to chemicals, and then there are the ritual behaviors and habits. The bigger the closet, the more choices for the Self. The body is never attended to and so the problem circles and circles.

We learn to break the cycle with body releasing. And then, we begin to notice the stress storing at "lower levels". The more proficient we become, the more the body can help in our unique partnership.

MIND EXERCISE

Body scanning involves a state of intention to relax, setting the environment to invite that state. Relax into the moment using the techniques of deepening I've discussed before. After reading this, please close your eyes gently. Now, starting at the top of your head, just as if you had a hand scanner like is utilized in airports, begin to scan down your body slowly. As you pass over each body part, the mind knows to open it and releases stress chemicals. Go down the front and then your back. If your mind wanders, bring it back. It's normal for the mind to wander. Once this mind program is in place, it will become easier and more proficient.

When you have finished open your eyes and re-acclimate to the room. This is a simple body scanning, but it works well. The full program is available on my websites.

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HI there Elizabeth, Charlene and others that have joined. I have not forgotten you all, I have limited time on puter and between logging my nurtrition and doing my blog and emails Seems I don't have time for it all.
I have written all the titles and read all the days you have put up. I find them so enlightening.

Something interesting this eve. My hubby and dad had gone to the legion for supper and I was goign to meet them at dads ( dh was driving dad home,leave his car there and I would pick him up after). So he called said leaving in 5 mins, then I read an email got ready and went to dads. Parked in his parking lot and wasn't waiting long. But iinteresting to me, and not scarey this time was the thought I felt like a child again. Dad and I used to drive to the library, after which he would stop at the mess ( military) and go sign in for the jackpot, often get talking ahve a beer, or two or three and I remmber reading my nancy drew and waiting in teh car. I so remember one time reading and reading and it got dark and i had to ask a man to ask my dad to come out. This eve in the car I rememebered that and thought gee I feel like I am once again waiting in the car for dad. Granted not the same at all but interesting that this thought came up.
Lucky for us we were nevr in an accident nor hit anyone else, him drinking and driving overseas in windy roads.
Thanks Eliz. for all this information and helping us to learn about ourselves.
I have been eating well, lots of fruit and this eve made an apple crisp and wow that bit of suger- was it ever sweet too sweet for me!!!
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If you want something bad enough, you will find a way, if you don't you will find an excuse.
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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION

"I learn to observe and evaluate my pleasures... It's time."....
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Everything is about choice and that includes how we choose to pleasure ourselves, including how much! The holidays are one of those times when it's not uncommon to pull out all the stops. Unfortunately, be it shopping or any other example of over-pleasuring, the piper will be paid, be it in a larger than life credit card statement, or a larger than life Self on the scale.

Watch out for the hooks...

It's so easy to fall in love.....and with so many choices, one must be careful to look for that hook. As a clinical hypnotherapist, I work all day, removing hooks and healing the wounds. Some people are so in love with a particular brand of hook, that they actually go out to find another one just like the one that was previously removed. This can even happen before the old wounds are healed, as if the new one will help that process along.

While the love-ordained bait may change, one's hook-preference often remains the same. This is very common in the realm of addictions, be they chemical, food-related or even in relationships. Stop smoking and eat sugar. Stop drinking and drink more coffee. Cut out the coffee and increase the soda. Stop buying shoes and hang out in the book store. Divorce an abusive mate and find another one.

People find pleasure in the strangest things. One of my anorexic patients finds her joy in keeping her weight as low as possible. It doesn't seem to matter that her body is suffering and some of the damage she is causing is permanent, or is setting her up for plenty of displeasure down the road. For her, it is unacceptable to change this hook for a healthier one.

Helping this patient to move away from this pleasure-state and into something would be much more difficult without utilizing hypnotherapy. In hypnotic trance the patient's resistance and defensiveness can be lowered. Here is where the power of choice words and metaphor comes into play.

Fear of letting go the hook is always a hypnotherapeutic consideration. It's not uncommon for pleasure-words to cover this particular emotional barrier. The individual can actually set up a belief that the activity or behavior is pleasurable, when subconsciously they are simply frightened of letting go of it.

I have experienced this myself, in relation to a few of my own pleasures. Shopping was one of these. It wasn't until I self-examined my shopping behaviors and habits that I uncovered how truly tense they made me. Certainly that tension increased when my credit card arrived. Working with spending habits often opens the subconscious library for in-depth personal development work. What one finds beneath the surface is often quite illuminating.

Why do so many people have unhealthy pleasures? That's a question I've often asked myself and especially when I meet up with such a vast variety of these in my office practice. An answer, or at least a partial answer, to this question can be found in lack of knowledge and practice of stress management. Take a look at how you release your stress on a given day. You will find the patterns there. Check if they are healthy or harmful. Try to be honest.

While stopping for a drink on the way home may not appear to be a big thing, check this behavior for frequency, as well as the level of desire. How would you respond if you couldn't do it anymore? I heard a lady tell her friend that she would absolutely die if she couldn't binge on popcorn in the movie theater. While that might sound like an exaggeration, this is not the first time I've heard words such as these connected to stopping a potentially harmful behavior.

So, check out your pleasures and give them the litmus test. If they need some cleaning up, decide how you will go about doing this for yourself. At the same time, make certain that you are developing new stress management techniques that will grow into healthy pleasures......if you give them a fair shot.

MIND EXERCISE

Sometimes just reading isn't enough. If you follow my work you already know how to relax deeply into the chair where you are resting. Go ahead and do so now. Begin with the yawn breath, looking forward to taking time for yourself, knowing that the time you spend now will benefit you in ways that can only happen when you relax deeply with purpose. Sense the chair pulling you down as if magnets were gently pulling you down. Count down if you like. Once you have finished reading this, you can close your eyes gently at the lids and then locate your mind screen. I'll meet you there.

Locate your workshop and enter. There is a book waiting for you on the table. Sit down and place it on your lap. Read the leather cover and trace the word "Pleasures". Now open it. There is a table of contents of your most pleasurable activities. Some work well for you while others do not. If they don't work at all, you can touch their name in the table of contents and they will disappear. Your inner mind knows that you do not wish these in your life any longer. Now open the book to one pleasure that you would like to keep, but modify. Notice that you are actually in the scene. Everything in life is portrayed as a perception or scene. Now you are able to change any part that you like. Tell the actor-you what you want. Change the rules, the script or anything else. There is a pad on the table for writing the new directions. Take you time with this. When you are finished you can leave the scene in the book and return to the table of contents to choose another, or you can return to where you began your creative mind reprogramming.

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INTERACTIVE AFFIRMATION

I LISTEN FOR ANSWERS TO MY MIND QUESTIONS.

Asking questions is a healthy activity and one should spend a good part of the day asking them. However, be sure to stay tuned in for the answers.

We tend not to recognize how many times we ask questions to ourselves during our waking hours. If you practice tuning into your own thought processes, you will hear them. Sometimes it's almost laughable. I asked participants in a graduate seminar to write down some questions they remembered asking themselves on the way over to the meeting.

"I wonder if I'll be able to find this place. Should I turn here?"

" How will I be able to understand this material since I have no experience in the field of self-hypnosis? Will I come across as a jerk?"

"I wonder if she can read my mind."

"Should I stop and go to the bathroom before arriving?"

"What should I do if I fall asleep during the hypnosis?

"Will I ever get my eating under control?"

While we're all great at asking questions, few of us tend to pay attention to the answers that are delivered in response to them. In case you were wondering, these answers come from your powerful and creative subconscious mind.

Think about some of your own self-conversations, especially those containing questions and notice if you expect answers, or are you just rambling on auto-pilot. If you are listening for the answers, kudos to you. However, if you are not, why not plan on doing so. You will be pleasantly surprised.

THE ANSWERING SERVICE

I like to image the subconscious mind like a big library and that's not too far from the truth. Everything you have ever experienced, be it a thought, a sound, a taste, a touch, an idea is stored here and it's all in order. All one needs to do to access something is to "ask" the right questions, so now you see how important questions can be. The stored material in the mind can also be utilized in other ways. This is where creative thinking comes into play and once again, "asking" the right questions.

There is so much to learn and experience when working with the subconscious mind that it is actually mind-boggling. Because the material and research is so vast, I like to teach through imagery. I encourage questions from my students, clients, readers and listeners because this gives me a new opportunity to design yet another teaching image or metaphor.

Here are some questions I received over the past few weeks.

Q - I've been following your blog and I'm very interested in the area of release or letting go. Here's my issue. If I release something, why does it reappear in my life? How can I it clear to my subconscious mind that I don't want this any longer? Is there a special technique of suggestion for this?

Behavioral and thought patterns are usually pretty heavily etched in the subconscious mind and tend to present themselves on automatic pilot or when triggered by certain experiences or other connectors. When you practice releasing or letting go, you are actually interrupting these old patterns and then placing something new in their place. It stands to reason that it may take a bit of interrupting BEFORE you begin to see or experience a lessening. It is important to interrupt each and every time you become aware of the thought or behavior you do not want. This is how you tell the subconscious mind that you do not want it any longer.

MIND EXERCISE

Notice whatever it is that you do not want. Label or name it, just as if it belonged in it's own file. This type of "isolation" assists the subconscious mind in knowing exactly what it is. Next, breathe from center. This slows the brain waves and will allow you to place a suggestion on your mind screen OR to give a verbal cue to your subconscious mind. I like to utilize a positive image on the mind screen.....something that I want. Because this follows the labeling and the centering breath, the inner mind understands this as a replacement. It doesn't matter if the two are unrelated. The subconscious mind cannot judge. It just understands that you want to replace one with the other.

Q - I'm a secret eater and wonder how long it takes to get something like this under control. I can't imagine living without bingeing on junk and sweets. The stress in my life is huge and this is the only time I truly feel at peace. Is there any hope for me?

Eating issues, be they secret or not, are multi-faceted and so it can take awhile to get all of the facets into some sort of management plan. Imagery, especially re-framing can truly help to move things along a bit faster. I'll give you an exercise in a minute, but what you also need are techniques for releasing your stress in a healthy fashion. Right now you are only getting to that peaceful place through unhealthy bingeing and that can prove to be a big health risk. As for there being hope for you, of course there is. No one needs to accept being held hostage to their addictions.

MIND EXERCISE

Relax into the moment. If you have been following the blog you do know how to do this. Tilt your eyes up and locate your mind screen. Place an image there of a house. Notice you can reach in and open the door, just like opening the door on a doll house. Peak in and pay attention to what is going on. There is the kitchen, stocked with healthy foods, a gymnasium with state of the art equipment, a spa for relaxing, areas for resting, reading, socializing and a garden for meditating. An image of you is participating in all of these areas. Simply follow yourSelf around, noticing how content and at peace you are.... it feels so good to have a healthy discipline. This is just a start for you....I'd like to suggest that you visit this area before going to sleep each night and find out more.

Q - I'm interested in managing my thoughts and emotions, especially fear. I have social anxiety that takes a toll on my career. I balk at conflict and find it difficult to speak up when I have a different opinion. What's weird is that people don't know this about me. They think I'm all together. What kind of imagery would help me?

Yes, you are living behind a mask and so your self-efficacy is low. You can begin to design the "you" that you prefer to be. Your subconscious mind will believe whatever you tell it, as long as you relax deeply and energize the desired "you" with hot desire and positive emotion.

MIND EXERCISE

Relax deeply into the moment. Locate your mind screen. Place an image of yourSelf there. Now invite in others who you admire. You don't have to know them, but stay focused on the characteristic that they have that you want to be a part of you. Have them line up and then........one by one invite them to step inside you and leave their characteristic gift and then exit the other side of you. When all have passed through, notice yourself enjoying the inner gifts. Walk into different scenes in your life and experience these.... sense gratitude, peacefulness and perhaps most of all.......have fun.

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Yes Nancy...it is often forgotten. I see it over & over again in my teaching & private practice. The body & mind MUST BE a partnership in order to succeed. Happy New Year! elizRN emoticon

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Wow very powerful. I often talk about emotional eating getting the best of me, but your article lets me know that I have to do my part. I have to feed my body nutritious meals on time. That one point is often not brought out in the emotional eating discussion. Instead we are told to have this knock out drag out fight with our inner childself. Thanks, it is what I need this morning.

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ACTIVE AFFIRMATION

I REFRAIN FROM "SELF-WRESTLING"

Positive conditioning leads to success, but before this can happen you have to decide what you want to change. Then, you need to actually do it. Somewhere between the wanting and doing there is often a glitch or tripping stone. The old conditioning comes back to visit and it is always stronger than the new change that you have put in place.

In the world of eating, conditioning is very powerful. Some habits and behaviors have been in place since early childhood. The child part of the Self has little or no desire to have any of these things changed. They are enjoyable and comfortable. They help to release stress and are often connected to a supreme happiness. Happiness hormones are addictive. As we learn to observe food and beverage as chemicals, it's easier to spot their addictive characteristics. It's not just the sugar, fat or salt. It's much more than that. The addiction doesn't just live in the body. It lives in the mind as well and often times the mind is much more highly addictive than the body.

When I work with smoking cessation, I can actually convince someone that the nicotine no longer has any adverse reaction in the body. This is the power of suggestion. But, then the mind enters. Smokers tend to be very frightened of the mind checking in with them. The questions they ask usually have to do with "What do I do when I start thinking of smoking? What if the mind won't let me relax until I take at least one puff?" Think about that last one and then you will understand where the addiction lies. One puff of nicotine will do nothing, but the smoker believes that the body will relax with that one puff.

The same happens with food and drink. Just holding a can of coke can relax a soda addict. Turning into the supermarket with the aim to buy ice cream or candy will release tension for someone addicted to sugar. Just agreeing to go for pizza after work will put a food addict at ease. So, which is it? The mind or the body?

The conditioned childSelf is very powerful. Most likely it has had it's way for decades. It will not give up without a fight, but unfortunately fighting doesn't work. Think of an uncontrollable child that you might now, or even parent and you will know what I mean. No amount of arguing or punishing is going to change anything for the better. This is why so many people are unsuccessful when it comes to changing conditioned eating habits. Sometimes, the child won't even resist because it knows that it is going to win anyway. All it has to do is wait for a week or so......just one little trip and it's all over. How smart that childSelf can be! In a way, we must admire the tenacity.

But, your Higher Self is smarter than the child. The problem lies in a lack of Knowledge about what is really needed by the body and a special discipline to manage thoughts and emotions. The body can be a very strong partner, but in order to form that partnership, the body must be feed the foods it needs in correct amounts. It needs to have food deliveries on time with no exceptions. That means no skipping meals or even postponing them. If a meal is going to be late, then a healthy snack needs to be provided. One cannot just ignore body systems that are waiting for a food delivery. This is not the way business works and it's not the way the body works either. If you want to benefit from the body partnership, then you have to be a reliable partner yourself.

A good part of your day is spent in partnership with the body. Besides the healthy food and beverage deliveries, there needs to be special attention given to faulty deliveries. These need to be curtailed, preferably removed. That means cutting out sugar, refined carbohydrates, saturated fat, overly salted foods and junk. Junk refers to anything that isn't nutritious. Soft drinks fall into this category along with alcoholic beverages. There is the argument for red wine and that is something you and your body need to discuss. This will be a time for a very honest appraisal. The amount of food delivered is also very important. The body knows how much food it needs, so listen to it. If your deliveries are consistent with high-level nutritious foods, then the body will not be craving. If the body doesn't crave, then any and all cravings are "mind-activity."

Here's where the childSelf enters in full regalia. Let the arguing commence. Here's the rule of thumb. We do not argue with the childSelf.....EVER. It's against the rules. The child is simply not allowed to debate about anything having to do with the high level care of the mind and body. Would you give your child your car keys or debit card? Of course not, and so the child does not make any decisions about what you eat or drink.

As you come to learn to care for your body at high levels during the day, working on your partnership, the body will support you. Next, as you work to manage your thoughts and emotions, your mind will form an additional partnership with you. Now, you have a true Board of Directors. The child does not enter the Board Room. Get it?

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INTERACTIVE AFFIRMATION

I AM ON A POWERFUL JOURNEY TO THE CENTER OF MYSELF.

There is no journey more powerful than the journey to "high level health." I know this to be true for myself & have watched thousands of people return to their personal power as they walk the path, trip on stones, pass frightening boulders and cut down tripping vines. Others that stand in opposition are dismissed, for this is the path of the owner & no one else.

How you care for yourself is self-revealing. What you choose to learn, how you observe your body & mind are key to opening the secrets that sit along the journey path.

There are choices to make, but before you can make them, you must uncover them, because you cannot change what you can't see or choose to see. This is the gift of the journey.

What are you seeing today?

The Christmas holidays offered me many gifts, some old, but with new tangents & others completely new. I saw my Power over my addictions being enhanced right before my eyes. My relationship with my Higher Self & "Universal Teachers" was more noticeable. My need to binge became more illustrated, showing me why I have those desires.

I stay Grateful.

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INTERACTIVE AFFIRMATION -

I ACCEPT MY ANGELIC GIFTS..

Gifts often come from the least expected places.

No matter how you look at them, thoughts are gifts. They are like plants that live in a garden, many of them stimulated by old belief patterns. Cleaning them up means opening new creative places for planting new patterns that can form new, carefully crafted beliefs. Remember, many old negative belief patterns came from others. Now, you have the opportunity to design exactly what you want.

When involved in belief-designing keep an eye out for obstructions or resistance. These are nothing more than old, left-overs. If one presents itself, stay aware and breathe from your center. Relax into the moment. Tilt your eyes up slightly. Locate the mind screen. Place an image or think your newly designed goal right there. This is a direction to your subconscious or creative mine that you don't want the left-over, but the new design instead.

If you are following along, you have disposed of the old coats or beliefs. Now, children from your past are coming towards you with gift boxes. Locate a special place on your Path for greeting your past childSelves, perhaps outside your "workshop." They are out of hiding now, desiring to share their power with you. Even the very youngest, now that they have been unburdened,have power to share.

You may wonder how this could be, for they are seem so vulnerable. While that is true, they represent your earliest survivors. They came into this life with a strong soul and spirit. They came with two books. One for teaching and one for learning. Perhaps in the past they were blocked by negative energy or sharing from others who were in need of their own healing, but your past Selves have been freed now, and their gifts are being given back to you.

As the children arrive, breathe in deeply, sensing yourself deepening, perhaps counting slowly back from five to one. When "one" presents itself, you find a beautiful golden egg-shape surrounding you, like a comfortable capsule. This is your private space on the face of the earth. The air is pure and energizing. Breathe it in. Notice that you can view life going on outside of your "egg", but it doesn't enter your space. You can observe the different scenes that take place in your life.

The "actor you" is playing out, experiencing emotions, learning lessons, even teaching some, but that is all happening outside of the true You. Others who you recognize as partners, children, relationships, colleagues and the other "players" on the world stage from those you meet at work, in the market, on the roads, see on television or hear on the sound-waves are present outside of your private space. You are disassociated from them. From this position you are able to correspond in healthier ways than before.

The gifts are ready for opening. The children have returned to their gardens, for their work is completed now. You are in charge. They have been released and wait for any re-programming you might like to send their way in response to the gifts. You and you alone are responsible for your life. You are the writer, director and producer of your life course.

Sense this feeling now as it enters your body....take time with this experience for it is life-changing for most of us, especially if your past included co-dependent relationships. It's like.....you are truly home now.

The opening of the children's gifts is a form of life review, but only experienced through the positive nature of these gifts. The childSelves who delivered them were in their pure spiritual states. Depending on your belief system, you might think of these as Angelic gifts or gifts from your Highest part of yourSelf.

I suggest that you take your time as you open the gifts. For me, I like to open them just before going to sleep at night, or upon waking in the morning when the mind is in a hypnogogic or very slow brain wave state. You can choose which gifts you might like to open. Listen to your inner guidance for that part of you knows what you need.

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AFFIRMATION WORKSHOP - CHANGING BELIEFS

ACTIVE AFFIRMATION -

My beliefs are like coats meant to grace my body and mind.

You already know that you have a Past and a Future Path. Mentally walking these paths is not a game, but an actual therapeutic opportunity to edit your mind programs, be they old or newly planted. Old mind programs are known as memories and live on the Past Path. It's not uncommon to pre-planted old memories your Future Path. In other words, your future is "pre-planned." If the plants are positive, then planting them ahead of time can work extremely well. For example, if you are looking forward to successful experiences about your family, health and work, the new seedlings are already taking root. But just the opposite happens with negative plants. They also take root, acting as tripping roots, waiting for your shoe to approach. Down you go!

If you are following along, you now have retrieved your youngest self and are ready for "self-parenting." This means that you take care of your young Self until the time when that part of you can take care of itself. You may be 30,40, or 50 plus, but your childSelf may still be very young and immature. You know this by how your current life is unfolding. You may have health issues caused by inattention to your needs, or relationship issues with others or with yourSelf. These are all childSelf issues and can be managed with special mindbody tools like we are using here.

We need some active imagery for self-parenting. The creative or subconscious mind responds quickly to mind pictures that are marinated in emotion. When you were not paying attention as your self-parent, both negative and positive active images were allowed to play freely. Now, that is over. You have taken possession of your earliest childSelf and have committed yourself to being an excellent parent. This doesn't mean that you won't make mistakes, for every parent does. But you will be awake for these and commit to change course whenever necessary. This is what excellent parenting is about.

As you walk your Past Path, you will come upon separate gardens for different age groups. Everything in the creative mind is highly organized, making it easy to dig weeds, remove old plants and put new seedlings in place.. As you visit your gardens you might be amazed at how many plants exist here. Here's a bit of Knowledge to help explain this. Everything you have ever experienced or thought lives in your subconscious mind in the form of a plant.

You might be thinking, "This is a nice story but how can I change things that really happened? I can't change the past, so how can I believe that pulling plants out will change anything? Here's my proof. I have failed at weight loss. I can't sustain an exercise program. I am fat. I do have a big nose. My breasts are small. I have been divorced twice. I have been passed up for promotion. I have lost my job. I have few friends. This all happened or is my truth."

In a way, you are correct, but what you can change is "how" your mind remembers something. In self-hypnosis this is called "re-framing." Changing frames or aspects of memories can change complete outcomes. Let me explain more about this. Think of yourself as an archer and a certain memory as the bulls-eye. The part you remember is all in that red center. The bulls-eye memory is surrounded by lots of other things that happened, but you have chosen only to remember the red center. Then the center core memory is stuffed into a very small box that you carry around in your pocket. Begin to observe your thoughts or your conversations with others. "I've decided that I'm healthy enough. I can never follow-through with exercise. There's no point in even trying to improve. My fate is sealed."

That memory box in your pocket changes with each thought or spoken word. Every memory has an embedded emotion. If it's negative, then the emotion becomes more toxic with age, like the stink of an old cigar butt. Every time you think or talk about the memory it becomes more toxic. Positive memories have just the opposite effect. The more you think or speak about them, the quicker you will achieve what you set out to do.

But that's not all. You can also change where a memory is stored. Think of your subconscious or creative mind as a huge library. Memories that are on the active or new shelves have a tendency to dominate. Even if a memory is old, it can live on the "new shelf." This happens when you keep it alive and well, either through your thoughts or conversations with others. Memories on the back shelves, in the bowels of the library, seldom surface. The creative mind knows they are there, but rarely goes looking for them. So, just like the box in your pocket, you want to re-arrange your library so it works best for you.

Let's address your "mind software"....your beliefs. Beliefs are specialized mind programs that direct your actions. We all have hundreds of them, many of them planted from infancy. The earliest beliefs were given to you by others. I like to image them as coats of different colors. Negative beliefs are dark and uninviting. They may or may not have been useful in the past, but they aren't now. You are self-parenting now and so you can remove these. Positive belief coats are woven in joyful colors, inviting your childSelves to keep wearing them.

Let's practice retrieving belief coats that are not wearable, especially the ones that do harm to the self-image and self-esteem. You may be surprised to know how many exist in your child's closet.

Relax deeply into your creative mind space. If you are new to this work, either read earlier entries or just follow along. Make yourself comfortable wherever you are sitting. Re-arrange your body. Notice that your body knows what to do. Take in a cleansing yawn breath and allow your body to sink into the chair, as if magnets were pulling you down. Tilt your eyes up about twenty degrees, locate your mind screen and the workshop of your mind. Go around the back, locate your Past Path and travel down to where you were given your earliest childSelf. Now, look back up to where you are sitting in your "present moment." The path is long and filled with small gardens. Children of different ages live in these gardens. Just in your mind, ask the children to put all dark, dreary coats in the boxes provided outside their garden home. Don't worry about their ages or ability to do the task, for it will be done. This is the creative mind at work.

Notice that you have a big red wagon. Walk back towards your "present moment", picking up the boxes as you go along. There is no need to look at them or to examine them in any way. This active imagery is sufficient for your first clean-up. In the future you may spot some additional coats and you will dispose of them at that time. As you move along towards your "present moment", you might notice some areas have more coats than others. Simply be aware.

As you arrive back, ask for the coats to be disposed of, and it is done. There is a small pile of dust in the wagon. On closer inspection you notice that it sparkles. This is valuable gold dust. You are given a small crystal box to hold this and other treasured gold dust you will be given along your paths. Later, you will sprinkle this on your Future Path.

There are some children that are coming up the path. They have gifts for you. We'll meet them in the next chapter.

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Hey all you Cindys out there LOL. Drop my Cindy and just call me Charlene. Cindy was just a school girl nick name for me anyway. Now that I'm grown I can handle my grown up name. LOL.

My affirmation for today is "I choose to let others be who they want to be. I am responsible only for my actions not other's. I will be a light and not a judge."

"Now, faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen." Heb. 11:1


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Hi ya'll....good day here...
interesting reading tonight....wow...my life seems dull in comparison...

about the martyrdom...I just mean from a Christian perspective that we are all called to be martyrs for Christ....not the doormat thing....
its just we are in an imperfect world and it will always be that way till the Lord returns...
so to love one another through the good and bad is a martyrdom....

and I also believe that prayer changes everything...that is all!
I've seen it.

Coping techniques are good too....I am just saying stretch for a little more!

Off to ride my bike....God Bless us all!


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LOL Cindy Charlene I am healthy4me = cindy. lol
We have moved so much and since he got out of the military we have moved5 times that would be since 1995 but one was cos of my mum and her being sick.
Had a good day today and now to get the last of my Christmas baking done. I only made 3 diff things this year. and that is all.
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LOLOL to the cow dung!! Just focusing on that brings the mind/body to a different place. One day my husband said to me, "I wonder where your mind goes." LOL...he doesn't really want to know.

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Good Golly Cindy, Thanks for reminding me of your name LOL. I knew it and thought halfame was someone else. When it's late at night and I'm so tired my brain does not kick in well and all my grey hairs show.
I see I am blessed that my husband doesn't run away physically when he gets the mood. He just runs away mentally. And until I couldn't take it any more, he wanted to move every two years from the time he got out of the service in 1976. But he knows my health is not good and so has agreed reluctanly to stay put. He has done so for 7 years now very resentfully. I ignore it!
I did as you suggested this morning because the world was caving in on me with all my negative family members and I prayed for mercy from the lord. Within a two hour period I used Elizabeths cow patty suggestion on my ranting husband while sitting in the car he was driving to the store. Not interacting with his conversation, but I'm sure he could sense my disgust, he said, "Yea I know you don't want to hear it. I'll shut up". I just smiled and when I came back knowing I would have to go to my room and meditate the angry feeling away, the one daughter who had been so negative wrote me a letter of apology and has been very kind and cooperative all morning. The Lord knows how much I can take and he did have mercy on me. So thank you both of you. You are two very special friends.

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"Now, faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen." Heb. 11:1


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Thanks Elizabeth and Cindy Charlene we do have similar things going on but mine had taken a diff turn and thank heavens he went for help. I think I wouldnt be with him otherwise and I don't agree in leaving for nothing.
My hubby got into the flight or flee with his anxiety. He would get so nervous and just leave. I would be at work or at the neighbours and he would leave, max out credit cards for cash for his saftey net and go whereever. First few times he went to diff provinces looking for work. This baffled me and terrified me financially ( who was going to pay this back ME by law). How can a normally sane man do this, how can he not know what this is doing to us, me, himself. He even once had his meeting with his physcologist or iatrist the one that prescribes meds. lol and then left. When I got back I called him and he said well sure fooled me....
He always called a few hrs or many hrs later, crying scared to pieces then begged to come back and he did and we went and put all the $$ back in the bank.
After 5 times in one year, I was going crazy also. we both got councelling and he finally after many tries got his meds changed ( dr wouldnt agree it was a med doing this but dh was sure and finally they changed it and he hasnt' done it since).
So for me I had to learn that he wasn't doing this cos he didnt love me, he wasn't trying to be mean and hurtful. Once or twice he did leave me good bye lettters then called did you find that letter BURN it please.
As long as I could remnind myself that he was having a medical issue and tried my very very hardest ( and that didnt always work)to make sure I knew in my heart and head it wasn't about me I was able to stay with him and hope and pray that he got well.
So now it is more like yours - there is only his opinion and thats it. and you can argue blue in the face. or I know that you left the door open but will say if he knows he did it for very sure he will agree. Last eve he said are you goin to call for more hrs on tues. ( work homecare and call for hr when I dont have enough) cos you are off 25,26, 27 ,28 i said no I am off 25,26,27 not 28 I know you are Cindy you are. cos you took a day off extra incase it stormed. Then he realized the 27th would be the extra day. and apologized.
so life goes on, better than a few years ago but still not super. All marriages have times but noone should have to live in worry of what they say, how they say it or the little things you may or may not remember.
HUGS to you and to myself. and Thanks many thanks for Elizabeth!
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Wow! I finally got sat down at this computer. And bless you both for your help. It most certainly does. Elizabeth your visualization techniques are great and I will copy this off and read it until the visions are instilled in my mind. I laughed at the cow patty visualization idea, and I loved it.

I have gotten to the point where I just say "Poor boy,he has problems". But both your methods of dealing with undesirable words from another person are welcomed and usable by me. Thank you! When we pray for an answer we must work as if everything depends on us and pray as if everything depends on God. But I have come to the conclusion that if I want to move a mountain and I think I can do it I had better get a shovel and if I think God can do it I better get out of the way. He is taking away my need to be in control, cause it hasn't helped in the past and it won't help in the future. All I can control is myself and that not alone. Elizabeth your affirmations are God's words to me. Thank you!

No, my husband has never physically abused me, nor called me names other than that he thinks I'm too sensitive. I really like what halfame said about praying for the Lord to have mercy on me as well as my husband. I most certainly do love him regardless of his actions at times. If what you give is what you get then I darn well better be merciful, for I need mercy every day from the good Lord.

I've tried mirroring his feelings but it seems to make the negative escalate because he really loves griping and when I give him a listening ear and understanding, I think it makes him think I agree with his anger, which most of the time I don't. So I have most often just let him rant and rave and he'll end up telling me, "Yea, I know. You don't agree with me". He'll often tell me his attitude is not my fault and just ignore him. I just smile and go about my business.

I am looking now to the part where I go off with my wounded child and pray and meditate. I really want to change my own negative programing because he has these tirades. I want to turn the negative thoughts into positive. Help me with that Elizabeth.

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Griping and criticizing is disrespectful and unloving and I don't deserve to be treated that way.

All I do is try to please him and he doesn't appreciate it or me at times.

Just about the time I think he is going to try to be happy, the rug is pulled out from under me and he is back to his old self.

Why can't he see what he is doing to me. I've told him before that his behavior upsets me and I want to eat us out of house and home.

Indeed halfame, marriage is a martyrdom. The only thing is, we kill ourselves when we try to figure out how to change another person. It is not possible, I have learned, no matter how much I wish things were different, all I can do is change myself and quit playing the martyr with my negative self talk.

I know unconditional love is truly the key for finding peace. I've prayed for the gift of charity which is the pure love of Christ and I will keep working at it as I receive inspiration on just how to do that. I am very grateful for your input. I want to get better mentally and emotionally so I can get better physically. I will drop the negatives in the deep hole in my back yard garden, But I will go a step further and replace them with the positive.

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I smile at your comment, but don't believe in martyrdom.

When you said "I do"...what were you saying "I do to?" Remember, no one owns anyone, so it's not possible to be a victim or a martyr, unless you choose to be one.

This was a lesson I had to learn & not just about my husband. I could go through my life and count the numbers of people who would have liked to pin that label on me.....including myself....but that needs to be over. I pray that you come to that day & take back your God-given freedom of Self.

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hey cindycharlene!

you are a woman of faith....
pray "Lord Jesus have mercy" or "Lord Jesus have mercy on my husband" during these episodes..
the Holy Spirit can do anything...
praying for you too...
good strength...marriage is a martyrdom...!
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OK CindyCharlene...

You already realize that you can't help your husband right now. Obviously, if he becomes sicker, either physically or emotionally, you will need to take other steps, even if that means becoming a legal guardian. I mention this because many of us need some sort of a benchmark regarding an illness of our partner. In other words, knowing when you will take over. I know what that looks like in my mind's eye regarding my husband. Other than that, he gets to be in charge of his own life, as I am in charge of mine.

In the meanwhile....

We come to love and accept our partner...unconditional love. It's important to be able to get into that "state" during the worst of times. A good technique that works for me is that I have designated a spot in the middle of my husband's forehead that allows me to "imagine" that I can see his Higher Self. Since you are religious, you might like to place a cross or some other symbol inside that place. For my husband, it is a golden heart. It lives right in the middle of his forehead and contains my unconditional love for him. During difficult moments, I take a breath...observe my belly breath...then travel to the "place." I keep my focus there, even while he is delivering whatever it is.

Here are a few other things I do. I realize that he is throwing trash or manure my way, so I literally move my body to the side. This tells my inner mind that the cow patties are going over my shoulder & not hitting me. This may sound a bit odd, but the images work quite well.

Another...I image a TV encapsulating him & I play ridiculous music & a laugh track. So, he is nothing more than a television show. Another odd one, but it shifts the mind/body connecion.

My favorite...I know that he is in his "childSelf" behavior. And, when he is in "his", do know that my childSelf steps forward. Sometimes it wants to engage in the "conversation" or to be "right", but usually it wants to answer with some sort of addiction. None of this is allowed. So, my childSelf and I breathe from center, notice which parts of his behavior is playing out in his childSelf and we simply sit in self-respect for ourSelves. I actually sense my child sitting next to me. I sit taller and more stately. I'm the wise and intelligent one. Then, when the time is right, the child & I retire to a place where we can be alone to meditate or pray. In the meditation or prayer state we see or sense him being blessed by our Higher Power & then observe a change in our relationship actually playing out with our Higher Power observing, just as if our Higher Power was the writer, director and producer of the scene in the play.

Now, I know that you asked me if all this gets pulled into consciousness. Quite honestly, it doesn't need to be, because once you read & play act this, the inner programming is done. What's important is to be consistent in your approach. After awhile you will begin to see changes in your husband. BTW, when he is verbal, simply let him be. Notice him from your Higher Place, but don't get into the ring with him. He may say things to you such as "do you hear me? what's wrong with you? why don't you respond, etc." He is looking for the engagement. This is part of his problem psyche. "Stay calm and focused. Answer, but in simple terms such as "yes, I hear you. I appreciate what you are saying, etc." You get the idea. All the time, your breath is in your belly and your childSelf is being protected by you in the position of your Higher Self. Then...off you go to do the cleaning up with the meditation or prayer & re-programming.

What happens here is based on your beliefs. Some say that prayer is answered, others who work in metaphysics say that this is transference or telepathy. Whatever it is, it works. Even for those with PTSD & anxiety. This is how we treated patients in the psychiatric units where I trained & worked for many years. You can use these techniques with anyone. They are powerful and peaceful at the same time. And they heal the wounds, be they physical or emotional.

I'm assuming that you are not being physically abused, because when this is the case, then other means need to be employed. I'm sure you know that.

OK...

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HEALTHY4ME, I am very excited to have not only Elizabeth's help but yours also, since you can relate.
My husband refuses to get medical help because he thinks he can deal with it all on his own, which by the way is not working. But then I have come to accept that only God can change him and I must change the way I "deal" with his "disorders". I am so looking forward to the help I feel I will receive from my association here on this discussion.

But I am off to church until three this afternoon to get more strength to deal with my lot in life; hopefully happily. As you say Elizabeth, one does not have to allow others to effect us adversely. It is a choice.

I suppose it is all in what I tell myself and believe. I also suppose if I honestly looked at what I was thinking when he acts the way he does then I could change my thinking and not be so adversely affected. I want to judge righteously, or in other words give him the benefit of the doubt.
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Just jumping in, havent had much time online with work and being busy. Cindy Charlene My hubby is exmilitary and he too suffers from severe deprssion anxiety which is being controlled by medications mostly. But I will be interested in how Elizabeth can help us both with this. Awesome idea.
Thanks and hopefully tomorrow I will catch up with some of you. I have been writing all the titles of the affirmations and am only a day behind. lol
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Of course. Tomorrow will be a good day for me to help you with this. I also have another person who needs some assistance in putting her "interactive self-hypnosis" in place, so we'll make it a party. emoticon

BTW, I can't wait to share these with you. I have utilized them with my husband for years, as have so many of my patients. LOLOL

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Ok Elizabeth, here is one I want you to help me with. My husband of 52 years is a Vietnam Vet. He has Post Traumatic Stess Disorder, Social Anxiety Disorder and is mostly depressed. I know I have a good man because he is honest and as faithful as the day is long to me and I know he loves me but he is angry a lot of the time and snaps and gives orders like a First Seargent.

Being the good Christian woman that I want to be, I do not want to take offense so I just forgive him and love him because I know he has problems. To make a long story short I know I cannot change him only love him and I do, but his negative behavior triggers my cravings for sweets. I guess it has been a way I found to love myself when I am not feeling very loving or loved.

I am affirming that other people's negative behavior does not effect my eating habits, but if there is a better way of putting it and also to visualize it I would be happy if you would put it into imagery for me. Or is that even imageable?

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Thanks to all of you who are working along with me in the Affirmation Workshop. If you have special affirmations you would like me to place into imagery for you, please let me know.

For those of you who are following along, please go and relax deeply into the moment. You already know how to do this. If you are new to my writing, scroll down for some further instructions. Once you are deeply relaxed, return to your "workshop" and pick up your "Book of Stressors." Notice how heavy it is. Also notice that it has a beautiful leather cover with your name embossed on the cover. Trace your name with your finger. You are you. This is your book. It is heavy. It is filled with value.

Your subconscious mind directs you to look at the table of contents. Here you find your stressors divided into different categories. This makes it easier for identification purposes. The more stressors or "buttons" you find, the better for you. Not only can you release the body from the production of stress chemicals caused by these, but you can also diminish the compulsion or obsession connected to the stressors. That's the part of you that actually calls the stressor to return for another performance. "Let's get mad, sad, out of control, play victim and a host of other roles you do so well."

Stress reactions are made by choice. Nothing is stressful on it's own. In addition, most stressors are pure mind fantasy....stories we have sold ourselves and then share with others. We each decide what we will be bothered, annoyed or frightened about, as well as the level that we choose to be effected. Each time we tell the story, either to ourselves or to someone else, the stressor button becomes more golden...more valuable in a negative sense.

So, now you know why it is so important to locate these. As you look at your "table of contents" many will jump into your mind. We have stress buttons in relation to specific people and experiences. Then, there are those more generalized. Think about things you don't like to do or particular behaviors you don't like in general. Tell yourself "all of the things you don't like, in other words, your life complaints." Be sure to look in the area having to do with yourself. These are often the most toxic. The things you don't like about yourself usually have huge stress buttons.

Some stressors will be hidden, often forced into hiding by toxic emotions, especially anger and fear. You may even hear yourself denying having a stressor or even stress in general. "I don't know why I binge at night. I have no stress in my life. My stress has nothing to do with my eating issues. I exercise. I meditate. I'm happily married, have perfect children and even my dog is a pure delight." The need to be right, being judgmental about yourself and others cause great stress to build in the mind and body. And, stress needs to be released. The body and mind need balance....this is called homeostasis.

Now, look to your stress-release mechanisms. These are usually addictive. Be sure to look beyond substances such as caffeine, food, sugars, beverages, alcohol, smoking and the usual ones. Look way beyond those....see if you can find addictive behaviors or emotions. Look beyond the usual behaviors that are more on the surface. Go down deep. They are often the most difficult to find and then to own. Any secrets? Dig them out and bring them to the light. They won't hurt you. Secrets cause pain when they are hidden, but not when they are opened to the light. Forgiveness and compassion comes with this lighting.

In the moment you become aware of the stressor, you can release it with your breath. The combination of awareness and breath will not only diminish the stressor, but will "open" it. Inside the stressor are "golden opportunities". They are buried deep inside, but will show themselves if you are diligent about staying aware and releasing.

Here's the action steps...

STRESS AWARE - BREATHE - BODY RELEASE - MIND RELEASE - GOLDEN OPPORTUNITIES SHOW THEMSELVES

You may be wondering, "What are golden opportunities?" These can be all sorts of treasures. Some things I've found inside my own stressors are keys to the triggers. Now that I have the keys, the triggers no longer work. I've also found great insight about myself and the origin of the stressors. Some were given to me "as gifts" from people I wanted to please and so I learned to imitate them. Others were things that people "sold" to me as good, or even great ideas, such as bingeing or hiding or lying. These are powerful awareness tools. I remember finding plans for stopping a particular stress reaction, one that could also be applied to other things.

So, be diligent! Get the job done! Have fun! Be grateful!


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My affirmations today are;
I am making a new history for myself with the emphasis on "eating orderly" one step at a time.

I have eliminated sugar, junk and refined foods.

My focus is on natural foods in moderation.

I do not allow negative people to influence the way I eat.


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Oh Elizabeth, how interesting first a similarity that I have never been able to figure out. I cried at present time too and mum never knew if it was cos I didn't like them, didn't want that or what. I have no clue I just rembmer crying and finding it super super hard to say thank you. Wonder why cos did say thank you for normal things.
but back to the affirmation. I will be bringing my flashlight to the grocery store! I should bring a real one, people would wonder but would certainly stop me. For instance I felt rotten all day, cold and a strange pain that I can't figure out. I even laid in bed thinking about obesity and this part of me laying on the bed beside me ( YUK) but when we were out we stopped at bulk barn and bought some xmas candy and a big dark choc. bar.
I have to say that even while doing it, guess before reading this I had my flashlight but the batteries must be dim. but it was there cos i was like why am I buying this... I know it will be me that eats most of it. So at least the knowledge is here, now to get off the fence as the first discussion we spoke about being in the contemplating mode too long.
Thanks again now going to bed early as the pain in my pelvic area is so annoying.
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So, do you now see the connection of the chocolates at the wedding?

I'm going to comment more on your very interesting post tomorrow. It's off to relax & then to bed for me.

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I carry a lot of responsibilty...I nourish a lot to other people...
but I often feel like I don't exist....
odd thing to say...but its what I feel like...
hard to really be close...and I think this causes me pain....and then I eat...and it doesn't hurt so much....till later....when I can't walk...
I am going to change that...
I don't know why it is so important to me to need to exist for others....
off to sleep on it...thanks

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You are most welcome. I sit by your side, observing you becoming healthier and healthier.

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I have gone to the beginning of the affirmations and copied and pasted them on my word pad so I can read and study them at my leisure. They are wonderful affirmations and the enlargement of them with your descriptions so enhance them as to be very useable. I am greatly encouraged by them. Thank you. Charlene

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Sometimes "happy events" trigger our own sad memories. I really think this is the reason why people cry at weddings & other major celebrations. Christmas is like that for me. I see the presents & I cry. This does go back to my childhood when I believed that I wasn't worthy. The Macy's Thanksgiving Parade makes me cry...but only at the start of the parade. LOLOL...when the drum major drops the beginning baton to start up the first band, you can count on me sobbing away. Again, this is a childhood "teen year" thing. I was in that parade for four years, so it's the memories that kick me in the pants. Joy mixed with sadness.

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thanks for sending me the affirmation...

I am a little reluctant to find out why I chose to eat too many truffles at a wedding today.
I was happy for my friends...but something in me feels sad or something...and I don't know if I want to go there...like its just dark.
Felt lousy after the truffles....sick even.
My other food choices were good...just lost it at the dessert table...and then only with the chocolates...there were numerous other things to choose from cake etc.
Will give the meditation thing some thought...
I do often eat something like the truffles and it is almost like I don't remember eating them or not aware of it at the time...just after....like eating over some kind of pain.
thanks again...

the hiatal hernia treatment...not eating 4 hours before bedtime has had a nice benefit...have lost 4 lbs. and I feel about 50% better in general!!!!(had not yet upped my weight to 232)

off to walk...

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Shining the Awareness Flashlight...

Clips from ThoughtWARE - 101 Mind Programs for Losing and Maintaining a Healthy Weight - soon to be published in EBook.

INTERACTIVE AFFIRMATION - I LIGHT UP MY LIFE!

The mind screen is one of our most powerful resources for it allows us to view what's going on in our moment to moment life without "being in it." We are the observers and not the participants. Certainly, one could argue, that we are doing whatever it is, but when we take the position of "observer", we hold the power for change. It's like being the writer/producer/director of a movie or play. The "director you" sits in the audience seats observing the scene on the stage. For that position it's easy to see the big picture and to make the changes that will make the production better. This is exactly what you are doing.

A powerful image in the awareness flashlight. It works in the same way as the theater in the mind. When you hold the light and point it at something, you are also the "observer." The name of the game is to bring everything to the light. Some aspects need greater introspection. For example, if you find yourself in the supermarket placing cookies or ice cream in your cart, you want to shine that flashlight on that scene. The observer wants to ask some very pertinent questions. "What's going on here? What were you thinking? What was the motivation? What emotions are present? How hot are those emotions? Who is in charge? Now...a very important question. What were you NOT thinking? What is missing from this scene?"

So, your actions are not just simple little meaningless things. Without stopping the action with the flashlight, you miss out on the most important information and it is this information that will bring you to a higher level of self-management.

Every moment holds the opportunity for getting better and better. I used to ask myself, "How well can I do my supermarket experience?" Another question, "What will my shopping cart look like when I get to the check-out? Will I need to make any corrections before I empty my cart? If so, how did those things get in my cart? What was happening in those moments?" Here's another opportunity to take out the flashlight. In other words, it's not over until it's over.

It's both interesting and powerful to pay attention to the workings of your mind. Look and listen. Your inner chat and mind images are your teachers. They show you your truth and then, give you the opportunity to "ask for the answers."

Let's go back to my supermarket experience and the questions I asked myself regarding the cookies and ice cream. That particular day my emotions were running "very hot." My emotional child was completely out of control, not wanting, but demanding a reward. The inner dialog went something like this. "You never give me anything. I work very hard and I deserve this. I want it. I want it. I want it. Give it to me. No? Well I'm taking it."

On this particular day I found myself with a pint of Haagen-Daz in each hand. My emotional childSelf relaxed. Then, I became aware of what had gone on. As I shined the flashlight, my emotional self tightened up. It was difficult to move my body and my hands refused to open so I could release the two containers of ice cream. Another woman was standing behind me, "Take as long as you like, " she smiled. "It's so difficult to make a choice." OH....yes, how right she was, but I made a choice right in that moment. I put the ice cream back on the shelf and took my screaming childSelf to the car. I moved the seat back and began to meditate. I needed to get to a place where I could ask the right questions because this was a very big teaching moment.

As I went deeper down into the place where my very best flashlight is located, I noticed an image of my emotional childSelf waiting for me. She was wearing a very big wristwatch. I asked her to show it to me, then asked her why she was wearing it. "It's the hurry up watch. The hurry-hurry-hurry-hurry watch."

Identifying stressors is not always what it seems on the surface. Some are buried very deeply, others are multiplied making them appear "normal", but they are not. The hurry-hurry watch is one of these. If you keep an eye out for people zooming around life, you don't have to look far for those wearing this time-piece.

Relax now...go to the Workshop of Your Mind...pick up the book called "stressors" & ask your subconscious to show you what's going on. Throughout your day your thoughts will register the answers to this question, so stay alert.

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WOW...what can I say! And remember, every day can be this good or better. Your choice!

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Ended up with a good day, a lot accomplished all Christmas shopping done except dh which I know what I want to get just have to find time to get it when he isn't with me. only 2 things.
Also a huge feat and feels so super. My ENTIRE house is clean and tidy ( well craft room could be better but thast okay this time of year!). I got so much done and isn't it so nice when the house is organized and no piles of books, papers, just stuff evrywhere. I am so content.
Ds is here to help dh with fence, done that and now they are cutting ds wood to make table top over glass while grandson is young then we will go over for a visit.
I have eaten well, and am on the end of my alloted water for the day. here is to making a plan.
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Congratulations for getting organized for the end of the year. There are many things for you to do, so this is the time to work in your "Workshop of Your Mind." If you would like to share, please do.

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OH Elizabeth! thanks for this one today! I woke from a good sleep with OMG what if I have breast cancer. A few months back dr thought he felt something but he had never checked me before and after a huge arguement with the breast cancer clinic He did numerous re checks and we are saying will wait till March to find out as he is nearly positive it is fine.
I have gotten over it don't think of it very often ( or not consciously obviously!) but this morning woke wide awake thinking that.
So I started with my diet is a sure breast ca. maker, my activiity level wouldn't be helping etc. Anyway laid there getting a headache, and thought have to get some changes implemented but immediately thought a week before Christmas yea right but what if... playing that game. Since it is the time of morning I have to get up tomorrow, I got up and hopefully will get rid of my headache.
So am going to "my room" my chair where " my book" sits and going to think positive thoughts,
I LOVE the X out the negative thoughts and as reading that could imagine the huge black X. I am going to go to my "center" and make this plan, see this plan and get to where I know I can make these plans.
My start day is dec 31 this year, 53rd birthday. a year that I said that by dec 31 next year I want to be at goal and a healthy, fit and happy person.
THanks so very much again.
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hi...

does this mean like..what you will be doing or eating during the day...
or more like how you will react in a certain set of choices....
or is this more like behavioral things...like not snacking or binging....

sorry to be so dense...just starting out and trying to find a starting place....
I won't retype it all...but in the "where are you now" section I basically laid out my struggles so far.....

I find all this very interesting...I like the affirmations even if I don't really get it yet....
I sense some changes already just reading them...
like an awareness when I am doing almost anything but especially right before I eat...

where went the fog??? the one where I would eat and then wonder what I ate??? and then be perplexed as to why I am so big!
thanks so much....halfame

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Remember to relax before every active affirmation. Then, go to your Creative Mind Workshop. If you are new to my work, scroll down to earlier posts.

ACTIVE AFFIRMATION - I make my world.

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Everything is fiction. Even if it really happened, it is still fiction because it is not happening now. If you are following along, you now know what you want and what you don't want. The choices your make will make your world. As thoughts, emotions or experiences present themselves, you will have the opportunity to chose. It's a "yes or a no." Things that you want you keep and enhance with positive emotional marinades. Things that you don't want, you X out, release and make an available space. It's just like cleaning out your closet.

In this ThoughtWARE book you are reviewing and underlining all pertinent information in whatever nutritional plan you are utilizing. You are making it simply and easy, weaving into your life experiences. Even if you are not perfect about following your plan, you are writing it down "as if" you were. Your subconscious mind only understands what you think and what you do. When there is an incongruence or disagreement between what your plan indicates and what you do, your mind will follow the last activity you have entertained. That's why it is so important to think "as if" you are doing everything perfectly, even if you are failing in some areas. After awhile, the plan will win. Let me repeat this...Write down exactly what you will be eating and when you will be eating it. Also be clear about what you will not be doing.

When we sit and relax inside our imagery, a programming screen appears. If your eyes are closed, the screen is visible on the back of your eyelids. If your eyes are open, then you see or think the images in your thought processes. This type of programming enables you to see, hear and feel the scenes as they play out. It helps to enter the, acting as if you were the lead actor or actress. Open the screen to the scene where you are waking up in the morning. Review your day with the new changes. Keep an eye out for any resistance or inner child negative thought remarks. Don't turn your back on these! These are gifts from your subconscious mind who is showing you clear obstructions that need to be tamed and re-programmed. Take your time as you explore your new changes in different scenes....... the more you review, the better your mind programs will be etched.

Image yourself as the writer, director, producer of this "day in your life" program. Design it as you want it to be and energize it with hot desire. Truly see it and sense it.

A good way to do this is to pretend that you are telling someone about this great moment in time. Tell your story with great enthusiasm and excitement. This is true inner motivation and very powerful. As you become better at defining your inner thoughts and pictures, you will be able to greatly enhance the levels of your beliefs and plug into high energy..

Next, write down exactly what you have to do to activate your new plan and when you will do these. Confirm a date for the launching. You are now ready to plant both the program and the detailed planning very deeply into the subconscious mind. The goal is to etch it very deeply into the inner library, so it will play on cue like a powerful inner CD. As before, take quiet time for yourself and have your written work on your lap. Breathe deeply and allow your body to sink into the chair where you are resting and bring the mind screen into place behind your closed and slightly tilted eyelids. Actively image yourself experiencing the plans AS IF they had been in place for a good period of time. In other words, they are not imaged as being new, with rough spots. This is not to say that you will not notice resistance, because you might. Once again, these are gifts and so go ahead as the writer, director and producer and work out the kinks here.

Take yourself through the variety of plans even if they involve activities that occur on different days such as shopping, picking up the kids, bridge games, etc. These are all part of the major plan for long term success.

It's not uncommon for many people to miss these first steps and by doing so to set themselves up for failure either right in the beginning or somewhere down the road. When you know what needs to be done and you can examine it subconsciously, the answers will present themselves to you. There is little, if any struggle. Remember that even when following one of the popular weight loss programs, it's simply not enough to read the book. Books are filled with details that need to be implemented over a long period of time. These details need to be introduced and then organized into the current "programmed" lifestyle. Old habits and behaviors may need to be revised or even deleted. Keep in mind that some of the changes will effect other family members, some in ways that aren't even clear because they are harbored down in the subconscious mind. So it truly helpful to work out some of these snags before they occur. This will allow for smoother transitions and hopefully avoid triggering other snags.

Good etching provides the gateway to long term success.


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HI Elizabeth and others,
I haven't abandoned ship, just had very little computer time as working from 8 am to 6 and then supper and then rest then bed lol I am still reading and doing and must say the last 2 are hard for me. I am not doing well with eating at all, suger and all the other not good for you foods are still here, I keep thinking I can't wait but then think wait till the goodies are out cos I know am only setting myself up for failure . then think if I think that I will do that, words and thoughts I know.... but I also know myself and do know that while it is hard to change you hae to want to change. I do I say I do but don't walk the talk, no more this time than the past 30 years. So have been doing serious self talk and getting my mind ready, also with this respite that I have been doing all week, I only bring healthy foods and good quantities so actually been doing better than I think. So off the weekend the busy again next week but not a respite it is many diff clients.
I thank you again as this is really helping me to see that I will reach this goal and that Cindy Charlene is doing it!!!
thanks all.

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AFFIRMATION - DEC. 9

I DECIDE WHAT I WANT...

As you sit by the side of your garden, this is a good time to spend some time reflecting on what went on in the past. Your plants are not inanimate. Each one holds a story of what happened to it from the beginning of time. While it's true that body systems can be born to this world with difficulties, most of the time this is not the case. Being honest with your eating behaviors is part of getting well.

Sometimes losing weight is part of getting well and sometimes it isn't. What's important is that the body systems get the foods or deliveries that they need to do their job and at the same time to support other body systems that may be in the healing mode.
Everyone needs an eating discipline program. Even if you are at your ideal weight, you still need to provide your body with the best deliveries. Scale weight does not determine health and there is a part of you that knows that, even if you don't care to listen to that part. You do know if you are eating habits are healthy. I know that you know. I suggest that you read and underline all pertinent information in whatever material you are utilizing and then work it into a very specific plan before beginning to weave it into the fabric of your life. Be simplistic here. Write it down. Know exactly what you will be eating and when you will be eating it.

Also be clear about what you will not be doing. This is the time to get very specific, but do stick to the bigger problematic issues. Today is the day to start bringing these to the light. If sugar or walk-by eating are issues for you, write them down. If you are secret eating, write it down. If night eating is big for you, be sure to address it, but if it only happens occasionally, let it go for now. Even if you fall into one of your smaller holes, you'll still be right with the major parts of your program. Remember, you don't have to change everything at once. Just like the stronger body systems take care of the weaker, so it is with disorderly eating behaviors. Shine the light on a major eating issues, and the smaller ones will simply fall into place.

Now you are ready to begin some mind etching. It's quite easy to do this. Take some time for yourself, making certain you will not be interrupted. Have your writing work on your lap. Relax deeply and enjoy just be still, both inside and out. Now close your eyes gently and tilt them up about twenty degrees. Right in front of you is your programming mind screen. Just as if you were playing a movie, take yourself slowly through your day as you observe yourself implement the changes that you have outlined.

Look to the list of what you will be doing. Observe yourSelf as you do each one. Notice that you are enjoying practicing these healthy behaviors. Because you are deeply relaxed and focused, your subconscious mind is etching these programs deeply. Take your time, spending time with each one separately.

When you are ready, go to the list of things you don't want. Find yourSelf involved in past "fictional" memories of these. Underline the word "fiction" in your mind. Now place an X on the fictional stories. This tells your subconscious mind that you are editing these out of your story. Now fade them out. They are not important, nor useful. Do this with each old behavior. Enjoy this activity. As you go through your day, practice this with things that come onto your path, for your path is yours and you are in charge....no one else.

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INTERACTIVE AFFIRMATION - DEC 8

I practice persistence.

Find your newly upholstered chair on the side of the garden. Each time you relax into your chair, you will be able to plant each affirmations deeper down, allowing them to become more automatic and powerful.
As you enter your "goalden path" notice that your signpost is already in place. You sense your attraction to persistence, finding yourself wearing a tee shirt with this well-feeling word written across the front. You remember that it takes persistent gardening to achieve a healthy weight loss and maintenance. This is not a short-term project. It takes muscle building and persistence is part of that process.

Your body needs it's own discipline. It needs to know what to expect. Each time you put something in your mouth, be it a food or beverage, the body needs to send out the proper hormones to take care of it. You have chosen a healthy eating plan, one that fills you with energy and good management of your hunger. If this isn't so, it is important for you to review your eating plan because you may not be meeting the needs of your body. Your body systems are like the engine of a car. The choice of foods, the amounts and timing of meals must meet the needs of your engine. You want to burn fat and not lean body mass, remembering that your lean body mass is your fat-burning machine. You eat to protect this valuable part of your body.

Impatience or constant changing of eating plans can interfere with your body systems, making it more difficult for them to adjust to what's being delivered. It helps to remember that your body systems have to rely on you to keep them functioning. We rarely think about them in this way.
Imagine for a moment that you are your heart, or your eyes or any other organ or system you choose to be. Now realize that you are stuck inside of someone who owns you and you are not able to go to get what you need. Next, notice that it is meal time and you are waiting for a delivery. "Will it come on time? Will it be what I need? What if it doesn't come at all? What if too much or too little comes? How will I be able to continue my necessary work?" While this might sound silly, it really isn't. It is just a different way to look at the truth. No matter what the delivery, the heart needs to keep beating, the lungs need to breathe, the kidneys need to filter urine, the eyes need to see.

Sitting quietly and focusing on your body system plants, notice which ones appear to be the most healthy and which ones seem to need more assistance. Your Therapeutic or Higher Self brings a watering can of solution for you to apply to your plants. Take the solution with gratitude, stand up and walk towards your garden where you will apply the solution. You are told that it contains high level nutrition, healthy eating behaviors, emotional and thought management, and positive imagery for making long-term lifestyle change. Sprinkle the solution over all body system plants, making certain to feed all of them. Remember, the stronger will assist the weaker, but all must be cared for.

When you have finished, return the watering can to your Therapeutic or Higher Self. Take your seat by the side of your garden, giving thanks for your body systems who have supported you throughout your years, even though you may have ignored or treated them badly. This is the time for asking for forgiveness.

THANK YOU. EVERYTHING WILL BE BETTER FROM NOW ON FORWARD. I WILL BE PERSISTENT IN APPLYING

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The longer you sit, the more you will learn about yourself and what's blocking. There were times when I sat for quite awhile.

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worthiness is the BIG issue...and the likely reason I'm having difficulty. I'll have to stay on this one awhile. Interesting question as to why I'm sitting there??

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It's fine to sit outside...perhaps you don't feel worthy of having so much power, or just the idea of being so powerful is frightening to you. A suggestion is to ask yourSelf why you are sitting there. That part of you will tell you. She may not tell you in that very moment, but she will tell you. Another suggestion...ask the child to take the hand of the Therapeutic or Higher Self. Then the power will extend out. The child can hold hands for as long as she likes.

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image that person. This is your Higher or Therapeutic Leader Self...& now, you are invited to climb inside her or him.Simply do it...& feel what it feels like to have so much Power.

I couldn't climb inside??? I ended up sitting next to her, her power frightened me??? Best description of how that felt to me. what's that all about?

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INTERACTIVE AFFIRMATION - Dec. 7

I AM PROGRESSING ONE STEP AT A TIME.

Remember to relax deeply before beginning each affirmation. This will allow you to plant the images deeper into your subconscious mind. I'm going to place a relaxing chair at the beginning of each affirmation from now on forward. You can upholster it in any fabric you choose.

You are now with your words on your "goal-den path." Place a sign on your path & read your words again. These are guideposts & you will have many. It's important to remember that your words, whether spoken or in the form of thoughts, are busy designing themselves into goal images. Every word, every thought, every image becomes a goal of it's own. It then connects up with similar images that are planted deeply into the soil of the mind. From that position, they direct your beliefs and actions.

It's easy to understand why self-talk is so important. As you look back to your past, you can see all the grime that sits on your path. These represent negative chat or thinking that kept your gold from shining through. But, that is the past and now you are moving forward, one step at a time.

Your "goal-den path", also known as your "life path" is divided into gardens. The garden sitting on your right is your most important garden. Notice it now. All gardens have signs so you can find them easily. This sign tells you that this is your mind-body garden. As you enter, notice the vibrant colors and the different types of plants. Each plant represents one of your body systems, each one needing the very best of care. All body systems are connected, the stronger supporting the weaker. So, it is very important to always care for your plants at the highest level. Please sit down in the chair by the side of the garden.

Whether you are choosing to lose weight, to maintain a healthy weight or to do anything else in your life, this will always be your most important garden. It is connected by an underground root system to all other gardens on your life path. If you take excellent care of it, your desires in other areas will be enhanced. If you ignore it, then your other gardens will not receive the nourishment they need to succeed. Everything is about optimum performance. You have the choice and power to care in this way.

When learning to manage weight, either for loss or maintenance, the very first step is spend sufficient time in fully understanding and believing in the specific eating discipline you have decided to follow for this is how you will be feeding your body systems. This means going beyond just reading a book or following someone else's lead. Keep in mind that everyone is different and comes to their current moment of awakening from a different family and personal medical history and from different life experiences.

Along the way you have developed both talents and negative programs. You have specific strengths and weaknesses, as well as beliefs about yourself. You live in a completely different world from your friends and even from your family members. While it may appear that you are much the same, this is only a surface view, a far cry from what is your true nature and reality. Of course you can listen and learn from others, but it is important to learn to trust one's own intuition and inner guidance system.

It's simply not enough to know that you must lose weight or even to want to lose weight. You must truly believe this in the core of your being. It's important to know that your convictions and hot desire to achieve is the primary inner motivator. This will take you through any and all obstacles. Without deep belief and hot desire in place, you may be easily persuaded to wander off track and to look elsewhere.....window shopping in the world of weight loss and management, like roaming the mall of life.

Relax again into the chair. The energy from your body systems is very powerful, helping you to build your conviction and hot desire. You already know what hot desire feels like for you have had this life experience before. Now, you are going to bring forth that emotional image into your mind's eye. Remember it. Now feel it. Make it more intense. When you are ready, notice that the hot desire is filling your body as you sit by your body systems. The plants are vibrating with the arrival of hot desire. Each time you feed your body systems, they will respond with a gift of enhanced commitment. Things will never be the same again. You have now transitioned to living at a higher level than before. Each time you come back to care for your body systems, you will climb the ladder to an even higher level.

The ladder is over there. Notice the rungs. They reach right up into the heavens. This is your ladder and this is your journey. Celebrate that now.


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Yes, the mind is set into rapid jumping...LOL...it's like looking for just the "right thing." And, you found it or it found you! Honestly, I get the biggest kick out of the rapid jumping. It's like one of those tumblers that holds the numbers for the lottery. The tumbling stops eventually & the winning number pops out.

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difficult at first my mind jumped all over, several visuals of bldgs,rooms, ect...then remembered long ago when friend helped me find my power animal...big black panther (current screen saver for 2 yrs.) TA-DAH! In my visual he was beside me as I overlooked the bluest sea and behind me was a huge greek bldg. like pantheon. Pillars and everything and two stories high Inside was like a HUGE library...it was so good to visit again...at entrance sitting on a granite pedestal sits a directory which I can tap and I'm instantly transported to room, or I can leisurely wander the long pillared halls...I'm beginning to design rooms now...the workshop is first...thanks for helping me revisited that beauty place!

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OH another good one Elizabeth. I will try this for sure. I am sure that next time I go near the bakery dept I will envision those shirts on those in the area and on myself if I get too tempted.
Thanks for all these ideas. Now to go to my room and think of some for me about worry, eating cos I am bored, and exercise and or lack of cos of knee pain.
Lots to think upon.
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DECEMBER 5, 2010 - AFFIRMATION

EVERYTHING I GO THROUGH HAS VALUE.

(Remember to work with these affirmations in the workshop of your mind. Scroll down to the beginning of this thread if you aren't familiar with this. Don't make the mistake of just reading & not doing.)

Once in the workshop, open your affirmation book to the above words. Then, tap tap on the page so it will open. Think of the room where you find yourself just like any other room you enter in real life. This will help you to move through any "I can't visualize, etc."

This is a special room because it has huge shelves with tokens of things you have gone through in your life experiences. Mine are arranged according to years, but your's may be arranged differently. Tokens are both positive and negative experiences. All have value.

Pick up a token, any one will do. There is a value placed on it. Now tap tap on the token. It will open like one of those little jewelry boxes with the dancing ballerina. Inside you will find your gifts from having experienced this token.

I'm looking at a very special token that has to do with my compulsive eating issues. I'm in the supermarket & can smell the bakery smells. I'm drawn to the bakery, but once in there I noice how unhealthy people look who are shopping there. I can see numbers on their jackets or shirts. This is their level of addiction. The names of the diseases they are working on are listed on the back of their shirts. I read "diabetes, hypoglycemia, heart disease, stroke, cancer breast, cancer ovary, high blood pressure, osteoporosis, mental instability...oh so many. I smell the smell...it is now the sweet smell of disease. I read some of the labels on the pies & cakes, things I've eaten so many times. I can't pronounce the ingredients. These are chemicals that my body would have to manage. I don't know if my body knows how to do that or if these chemicals will hurt my body cells. I listen to my inner voice...leave here.

Fresh fruit is calling me from the back of the store. While my body still can't handle too much of it, there are fruits that I like that are easier for my body to manage. I feel so good. I'm in charge. I make excellent decisions, but most of all....I know the truth about the bakery & why it exists. I'm smarter than this.

Come back to where you began this affirmational exercise. You have planted at least 25 positive programs in your subconscious mind that will be available to you at any moment. Go back to this area over & over, picking up & entering other tokens, both positive & negative. This is a key affirmation for making hundreds of changes in your life.

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Great Toni..wish you had a "sparkpage." Maybe soon?

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Eliz...just stumbled onto your posts this a.m. Not been on, or, exploring Spark like I did when I FIRST discovered in 2008. Got overwhelmed with to much information and not computer savvy! I'm going to overcome my obstacles and begin doing your affirmations beginning with creating "my mind place I love to visit!"

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I really like this brick analogy and brushing off the negative. I have to say other than my mum making a few comments that have affected me, and still do at times ( the power we allow words to have!) and a few times my dh has said things, allmost all the bricks are ones I have thrown at myself. So learning to build with these and learn that I don't have to acknowledge these negative blows is challenging but at the same time, very free-ing. I am learning all the time to love and honour myself because I am worthy of love.
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December 3, 2010
Affirmation Workshop

I BUILD STRONG FOUNDATIONS FOR MYSELF.

Go to your inner workshop & open your affirmation book located on the table. Notice that the book now has golden lettering. It's becoming more valuable.

Open to the above affirmation. Notice the word "myself" is written in golden letters, for you are the most important person. No one is more important than you. You are a unique spiritual being placed inside a body you were given to care for & now that you are awake, you are caring at a very high level.

Tap, tap on the picture or thought & enter the affirmation. I'm waiting for you. Just as you would look around any room you enter, practice entering the affirmation in the same way. Just "think" of it like this.

I'm taking you over to a model of a new building you are constructing. There are many little bricks there, some thrown at you by others, but most thrown at you by yourSelf. You smile at the idea of bricks being thrown. How ridiculous!! Now, start arranging them into the foundation of your new building. Perhaps there are names on the bricks. Notice that some names appear more frequently. Brush off those names, for they are not important. You own your life & you build a strong building from the Knowledge of who you are. YOU ARE. You are "not becoming" for YOU ARE. You are waking up to who YOU ARE. You are not waiting for yourSelf, for YOU ARE already present, wholly present, Holy Present. Honor that Knowledge.

Know that those who throw bricks, those who criticize, simply do not honor themselves & therefore throw bricks at others. In reality, they are throwing these at themselves, for the bricks have nothing to do with you. But, you can awaken, take any small truth that you can utilize, brush off the brick & build with it. You can be grateful for each & every brick, for it opens you in some magical way.

As you honor the bricks, they will tell you their inner secrets, and in so doing the construction of your building will be enhanced, for help is all around you. Welcome it in new ways.

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Remember that your mind & body need healthy food & on a schedule...every 3.5 to 4 hours. It's your responsibility to be the best CEO for yourSelf. Always, always, always have the best food available & never, ever shortchange yourSelf.

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Eliz thanks for more affirmations. I have had a long day and came home with a headache, but going to go rest for a bit.
I haven't much food in the house to tempt me this eve, but will stay away from bread. Thanks for some visuals to us.
I also like the counting down, wow I will be asleep before I can reach that number!


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I have been practicing a very simple exercise just before going to sleep each night of counting backward from the weight I weighed on the morning weigh-in backward to approximately my ultimate goal weight. Just this repetitious "count down" has seemingly helped me lose a few pounds, so, yes, I would like to participate in an affirmation workshop. Anything to move my health into the realm of very healthy. Thanks for beginning this.


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Affirmation: December 2, 2010

I TURN DOWN MY DESIRES FOR FOODS THAT LEAD TO KILLER DISEASES.

You already know how to go to your special workshop in your mind. If you are new to the "affirmation workshop" please scroll down to find the entry exercise.

Once this program is placed, you can do this at any moment with your eyes opened. It will always be with you like a golden coin in your pocket. Tilt your eyes up gently, as if you were in the second row of a movie theater. See/sense the object of desire & the emotions that are with it. I like to image the emotions as children wearing tee shirts with their names on the front.

First, dismiss the emotions...just eliminate them with your mind. Remember, once you are in the workshop of your mind, you & your Higher Therapeutic Self are in charge. So..dismiss the children...gently but firmly. They can go to the playground down the path where they will "lighten up."

Next, place a black circle around the unwanted object of desire. Now, simply imagine the object moving way back...far away from you. Remember to do this exercise when the desire is at its lowest level, an early thought. If you are already feeling compulsive about it...you can call in a negative or positive motivator image or both. Plan these in advance. They live in the library of your mind. Some of my negative images include a physician giving me a diagnosis of diabetes or heart disease, or a very tight pair of jeans or the idea/image/feeling of never succeeding. Let you mind show you your most powerful negative images. Bring them close to you, so you can see & feel their attached emotions. Powerful positive motivating images could inclue "you at your goal & others applauding", etc. Once again, ask you mind for guidance & always keep these internal motivators there for you, at an arms reach.

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AWESOME!!! and thanks for the hug. I can feel power when I allow myself to think like this. I have done counc. with phyciatrist alone and with dh, and yes they have helped me, but perhaps I am ready now or perhaps all your analogies are just spot on. I am really learning from this and feeling much better.
Diet wise well I am improving, not near anything great but thinking and improving but my negativity in other areas is getting easier to shush.
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This is an ongoing "affirmation workshop". It's best to begin with my first post, so scroll down to find it. Each day builts on the one before. You are welcome to post your thoughts, as well as your favorite affirmations.

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I STAY MOTIVATED AS I GO THE DISTANCE.

Losing weight is one part of the journey. Maintaining a healthy weight is the "ongoing journey.

Things may appear difficult or over-whelming before they are easy. Watch your language, both what comes out of your mouth & what roams around in your thoughts. These are all mind programs, so don't be involved with what you don't want. It's a waste & a self-tripper.

Let's go to the affirmation. Relax & go to the library or workshop in your mind. You already know the way. When you are inside your special place, open your affirmation book. Notice there are 4 steps on the side of the page. The page becomes full size now. Climb on up, counting the steps as you go. Great...you are in now. Just as you would look around your own room, look around your affirmation space. I'm giving you a hug...feel it...& now I'm asking you to follow me on the path to the right. We'll stop at the sign that says "calendar." There is someone waiting for you....image that person. This is your Higher or Therapeutic Leader Self...& now, you are invited to climb inside her or him.Simply do it...& feel what it feels like to have so much Power.

OK...let's walk the calendar...you may be surprised to nte that the calendar road keeps going on & your Powerful Self feels wonderful about this. There are gifts waiting for you on different days & on some days where "battles" may be sitting, you have no difficulty in knocking them over with ease. These days provide even more Power, more golden coins in your pocket & a VERY STRONG SENSE OF SELF. Others watch you, but are not part of your Path or Calendar even if they are related to you, are in your immediate family or work with you. This is your life calendar & no one elses. As you become more Powerful, some individuals move away from you while others come closer...this is because of your Power. sense your motivation rising...especially when encountering a battle, be it big or small.

Let's walk a bit further, noticing that time simply doesn't matter...looking back you notice that looking ahead has no importance. Only now is important. You get it. You love being here & being inside this part of You.

I STAY MOTIVATED AS I GO THE DISTANCE.

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Yes...& see/sense the exercise helping you to make more money to pay the bills, for when you are stronger, you will be able to work longer hours without injury. Connect these images in the "theater of your mind.'

Good work.

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This one is tough for me as I am mostly a quitter. I know I am - when things get hard I stop.
But in my room are stacks of bills, some lower than others but there are too many. I see them and instead of getting overwhelmed, I look to the side and see my work uniform, and my healing hands and know that I will get these bills under hand once I get my hrs at work. I know we will be fine, and can see me stepping on the stairs of bills, till they get shorter and shorter.
My other area of the room is the cluttered basment where I want to work out. I can see the area around the tv, and know I can move the bike and chair. I can then use the dvd that came with the library book. I have had the book out for nearly a week and have yet to use it. I know that perfectionism is stopping me, so Sit quiet and allow myself to know that everyting doesnt have to be perfect, I can do the ex. to the amt that I can do. Practise on teh basic steps so I don't hurt my back or knees. I will get better and in doing so have straighter posture, stonger core and feel better. Breah and breah and know that I will feel better, feel the healing breath in.

Thanks again I am loving this. I will learn to let myself allow to not try so hard to do it right or not at all. Huge step. I also am learning to not worry about things that can't change or can only change as I work at them.
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I WALK BOLDLY THROUGH MY OBSTACLES.

Remember to enter your "relaxed slow-brain-wave state" before placing affirmations. This makes them "living & real" to the creative mind, bringing your goals along at a higher speed.

Go to the workshop in your mind. That image is below in one of my first postings. When you get there, open your affirmation book & turn to this one.

I WALK BOLDLY THROUGH MY OBSTACLES.

Enter the "scene". There is a sign with the above words on it. Read them, then look ahead down the path. There is an obstacle course. Some are named, some aren't, for we don't know all of our obstacles, but the inner mind does. Now, walk forward, head up, body centered, sensing your power & strength...feel it...sense it. Now make it bolder. Be your boldest & then improve on that. "Oh yes I can" says the mind & body. Now, climb over or dismantle each obstacle image in any way you choose. I wear a toolbelt with hammers, machete's, etc. Or, just push them out of the way with the power you have inside of you. Notice how easily they fall over. Nothing is too much for you.

Now, repeat.

I WALK BOLDLY THROUGH MY OBSTACLES.

Open your eyes gently & re-acclimate back to where you began this planting.

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Absolutely perfect!! And, about that room upstairs. I think it's waiting for you. Don't forget to keep a journal about what you are doing. I'll work in more suggestions for that as the days move forward.

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11/29/10 7:21 P

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Hmm, very interesting.
when I did this I see nothing behind my eyelids but was able to imagine the room. It is quiet, with table, rocking chair, pillows on floor in corner and small table with candles. I am able to relax either on floor and or chair and also has my yoga mat. In this serene place, I am able to eat well and healthy - there is fruit in a bowl. I see myself doing yoga stretches. I also can feel myself quieten and think positively and dream about moving to the woods and our cabin. I feel calm, quiet and like I would like a nap.

Not sure if that is what you were trying to convene but made me feel better. I am sure if I do this daily I would feel more relaxed and able to deal with things. Our wish about the cabin is our go to area. we own 3 acres of wooded area that is called cottage country. we often think we would like to live there year round, it is about 20 mns from nearest town but about 12 -15 families live there year round. our issue is that we usually talk or think about going thre when we are stressed and dont want to deal with what liafe is giving us.
right now i just started a new job today, am feeling good about it, anxious to start and even though the $ is good the hrs are uncertain as it is hoemcare but i feel as if it will be fine. first time in long time i have a positivbe and good feeling about a job.
so thanks for this, going to sit and think of my room. maybe I will go up and relax in my spare qguest room - the calmest, serenest room that has yet to have any guests ironic that we made that room up and our bedroom hasnt been redone yet.
thanks again.

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Cindy in Atlantic Canada

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan but also believe.

If you want something bad enough, you will find a way, if you don't you will find an excuse.
ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!!!!!


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11/29/10 7:09 P

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I'd like to utilize this area to post daily affirmations. Everyone is welcome to join in. Post your favorites & extend a hand to everyone on the path to managing eating issues... Because I'm a therapist, I'll give you some additional imagery to take each affirmation forward. I'll always post the affirmation in caps, so if you don't want to do the visualization exercise, you can just read the affirmation.

Let me begin...

MY MIND IS MY MENTAL WORKSHOP.

Relax deeply after reading each affirmation. They work best when the brain waves are slowed down. It's easy to do this. Take a cleansing breath...as if you are taking a yawn breath from the bottom of your feet. Sense the chair underneath you. Let it hold the weight of your body. Now, after you have read this, close your eyes gently. Tilt them up about 20 degrees. You are now in the workshop of your mind.

On the mind screen, which is just behind your closed eyelids, think or sense or image the workshop of your mind. For me, mine is a building that I've had over the years. Formulate yours however you like. You can even draw it if you like. Now, go ahead inside. Notice how you have decorated it. Touch some of the things. Walk around...make yourself comfortable.

On the table I've placed your "daily affirmation book." It's a living book. That means you can go inside it. Open it, find today's affirmation & tap tap on the page. Now you will find yourself inside the page, walking around where this affirmation lives. This affirmation says that MY MIND IS MY MENTAL WORKSHOP. Find the areas there that are about your life. These are "working areas." Visit them. Give instructions to the areas of your life. These are living things, so they will do what you ask. If you like you can write these things out in a journal you will keep for this affirmational work. The more you write or participate inwardly, the faster you will change your outcoms. They will change in both big and small ways.

Feel free to ask questions or post your own work.

elizRN



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