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Posts: 1,336 5/29/09 3:03 P
I am sorry for your loss. May God be with you and your family.
I f first you don"t succeed brush your self off and try again.
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Posts: 18 5/15/09 1:03 A
I'm sorry for your loss, it's a difficult time for all. My dad passed away 14 yrs ago....2 weeks after his 52nd b-day and 2 weeks before my parent's 25th anniversary. Dates are still hard, but I just keep telling myself that he wouldn't want me moping around and to keep living life, so that's what I do. I make plans for those hard days to keep myself busy.
current weight: 245.4
Fitness Minutes: (41,376) Posts: 775 5/13/09 11:45 P
my condolences for those who have lost a loved one .
I worry constantly about my husband who is not making the lifestyle changes with me. I try not to let it rule my life but I don't want to be without him. I pray that he will join me on SP or on anything that puts him on the right road.
Posts: 8,850 5/13/09 10:11 P
I am praying for you...
Enjoying life! :)
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Posts: 4,187 5/13/09 8:42 P
My prayers and thoughts are with you.
My goals for the swim suit weight challenge are: 1, Lose 4 lbs. 2, Go down a dress size 3. See how many inches I have lost.
One day at a time.
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Fitness Minutes: (90,641) Posts: 19,524 5/13/09 8:18 P
My thoughts and prayers are with you.....
Run with patience the race that is set before you.
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Posts: 665 5/13/09 7:39 P
So sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my son last year in June and with the one year anniversary coming up it's getting harder again. I know time heals because I went through it with the loss of my parents but it's really hard when you lose a child especiall my oldest and my only boy. I thank God daily for the memories of him and I'm lucky to have his 3 children around me and that really helps. Keep plugging and you'll find the memories don't hurt anymore but make you smile. Good luck.
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Posts: 205 5/13/09 6:05 P
That day is always tough I lost my dad at 16 right before new years. Know that you are surrounded by love and all of the sparkers are here for you. Hang in there!
*Charlotte Laura* -No one can make you feel inferior without your consent-
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Posts: 129 5/13/09 4:10 P
I know that you are hurting but be sure to take care of yourself today, even if it is something little.
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Posts: 154 5/13/09 3:54 P
Sorry, that you are having such a tough day. Just keep it mind that they fill no pain, they are at peace. We miss them here, but are always there to listen and you can talk to them anytime. They hear all your crys good or bad. Pay close attention to things around you and you will know they are near. You will see something that reminds you of them, their favorite thing. It is there way to keep their memory and love for you alive. My grandmother who I cherished dearly and when she pasted I was heart broken. Every time I start to get down it seems is near and listening. When we bought our house and the closing feel thru - one week later I got to sign the papers on what was her birthday. I got scared about not having our church for our wedding and I cried a lot to my grandmother and within days everything that was going wrong was fixed. They listen all the time. Remember they love you and will watch over you. Sit back in a chair and close your eyes and just talk to them. You will find you feel their love. It is ok to miss them, we all do. Take care and know they are there and so are we. God Bless
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Posts: 537 5/13/09 3:09 P
I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom passed away 3 years ago this past Christmas eve and my dad passed away 1 year ago this March. My mom was only 58 and my dad had just turned 61 (2 weeks before). When my dad passed I was 19 weeks pregnant with the 1st grandchild on both sides of the family. It's still very hard for me having lost them. Even writing this reminds me of how much I miss them & it brings tears to my eyes. God bless you and may you always treasure the valuable times you shared.
Posts: 151 5/13/09 1:48 P
Hugs to you!
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Fitness Minutes: (100,007) Posts: 9,709 5/13/09 1:12 P
We've all faced loss and it sucks. I was given this poem after my Daddy died 10 years ago. I can't tell you that it gets better, but I can tell you that the times I really feel like curling up in a ball are further and farther between. I'll be praying for you. One thing that helps me is to light a candle every year. It's that light that reminds me how much I love him and miss him, but it gives me comfort. Try to turn the sorrow around into joy that you knew him and loved him.
CHRISTMAS IN HEAVEN 'TIS CHRISTMAS IN HEAVEN - WHAT A BEAUTIFUL SIGHT. IT'S MY FIRST ONE HERE; EVERYTHING IS ALL RIGHT.
THE CRIB IS ADORNED WITH THE BRILLIANCE OF STARS; WISEMEN HAVE COME FROM VENUS AND MARS.
I'VE MET ALL OUR DEAR ONES WHO PRECEDED US HERE; THE REUNION WAS LOVELY, AN EVENT FULL OF CHEER.
AND TONIGHT WE'LL ALL GATHER, IN REVERENCE WE'LL KNEEL, FOR THE BABE IN THE CRADLE UP IN HEAVEN IS REAL.
I THINK OF MY FAMILY THAT I LEFT BEHIND AND I PRAY THAT YOUR CHRISTMAS IS AS BLESSED AS MINE.
PLEASE SHED NO MORE TEARS, FOR MY SOUL IS AT REST, JUST LOVE ONE ANOTHER, LIVE LIFE TO ITS BEST.
YES, IT'S CHRISTMAS IN HEAVEN, SO I'VE HEARD THEM SAY. YET CHRISTMAS IN HEAVEN HAPPENS EVERY DAY.
Here's a link to the poem with pix and music that I made last year on the anniversary. You're more than welcome to share.
Coop (Carla) Dum Spiro, Spero: "While I breathe, I hope" "God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change ... the courage to change the one I can ... and the wisdom to know it's me." coopscreativeconcepts.blogspot.com/
Posts: 184 5/13/09 12:51 P
Although its been 2 years since my mom passed, I can totally relate. All of the holidays, birthdays, etc will bring both sadness and memories. I try and focus on making my mom proud of what I'm doing and try and focus on the positive memories.
I'll be thinking of you today -- melody
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Posts: 1,804 5/13/09 11:31 A
I am sorry. I lost my dad almost three years ago. I lost my mom to Alzheimer's almost 25 years ago. Her body has yet to catch up. Be thankful for the influence he has had on your life and treasure it.
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Pil 4:13.
Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, constant in prayer. Rom 12:12
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Fitness Minutes: (48,139) Posts: 10,083 5/13/09 11:18 A
Imagine you Dad watching over you and reminding you to be the best YOU that you can be.
Prayers going up.
*** Andrea ***
Co-Leader SP Class of Dec. 28 - Jan. 3, 2009
Co-Leader Garland (TX) Sparkers
To achieve something we've never had we must do what we've never done.
Fitness Minutes: (9,516) Posts: 7,103 5/13/09 10:53 A
My prayers are with you. My MIL passed away on the 15th and Mother's Day was really hard on DH. My mother passed away 25 years ago & there still are hard days. Remember your dad and keep good memories of him.
"The Lord bless you and keep you--the Lord make His face shine upon you, and be gracious unto you; the Lord lift up His countenance upon you, and give you peace." Numb. 6:24-26.
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined. Henry David Thoreau
"Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible." Saint Francis of Assisi
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Posts: 43 5/13/09 10:52 A
Keep hanging on, and don't beat yourself up about missing a day or two of boot camp.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
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Posts: 23 5/13/09 10:33 A
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I lost my father in a car accident the week after his 50th Birthday. I was 5 months pregnant with my 3rd child. I can always remember how long ago he died b/c of the child being born 4 months later. It does get easier as time goes by but that doesn't mean we forget. I was at a wedding this last weekend for my cousin and they mentioned loved ones that pasted away. My dad's name was listed and it brought tears to my eyes. My youngest child is growing up without knowing my dad. I have talked with him about his grandfather and we have visited his grave. I think that really helps. Hang in there!!!
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Fitness Minutes: (165,336) Posts: 1,085 5/13/09 10:16 A
i lost my dad in 1996 and it still hurts as i was a daddy's girl too. i will keep you in my prayers and just hang in there remembering you have a lot of us that are feeling the same things best of luck to you.
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Fitness Minutes: (8,205) Posts: 1,345 5/13/09 10:06 A
hang in there.
Philipians 4:13 I can do all things through he who strengthens me.
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Fitness Minutes: (7,752) Posts: 247 5/13/09 9:27 A
Hang in there! I will keep you in my prayers!
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Posts: 1,025 5/13/09 8:38 A
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
~ Tammy ~
"Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens, not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results."
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Fitness Minutes: (10,593) Posts: 1,377 5/13/09 8:37 A
Hang in there..our thoughts and prayers are with you..When you are ready, just get back to exercising..you can do it. we are all behing you.
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Posts: 8,659 5/13/09 8:36 A
I am so sorry. I know you will get through this. I will keep you in my thougths and prayers. Salty
An attitude of gratitude can wipe away bad thoughts anytime. - A fellow Sparker
I am very sorry about your loss. My prayers are with you.
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Posts: 847 5/13/09 8:13 A
I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you. Hang in there do this for your Dad.
With God, Nothing is impossible!
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Posts: 321 5/13/09 8:03 A
My heart and prayers go out to you. I lost my ex-husband, my brother and my father-in-law all in the last two months. Very hectic and draining. But we have to remember to celebrate their lives and remember all the good thoughts they had for us. The next time you feel like giving up, remember your loved one and what they would want for you and what they would say if they were there with you. They always are there......remember that and God Bless You!
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Posts: 602 5/13/09 7:59 A
It's SOOO hard when the death of a loved one is associated with another day that is supposed to be a happy one like your mom's birthday. My father died the day before Mother's Day when I was 7. That was hard enough but as a 7 year old I didn't remember the exact date - since Mother's Day isn't a specific date. Then, 10 years later I come home from school and tell my mom the date of the senior prom and she says' "Oh, that's the day your father died." When does a "daddy's girl" remember the father she lost? Her wedding, her graduation, and her PROM! I allowed myself a sad moment the night before then went on to enjoy myself. It will get better, I promise!
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Posts: 1,336 5/13/09 7:51 A
I am sorry for your loss. I know words can not even begin to scratch the surface on how you feel. My best friend lost her mom a year ago. She still has her voice on her voice mail.
I f first you don"t succeed brush your self off and try again.
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Fitness Minutes: (87,925) Posts: 3,905 5/13/09 7:47 A
I'm so sorry for your lost. I know what you are going thru. I lost both of my parents and there is not a day go by that I don't think of them. Keep strong during this difficult time..If you need to talk I'm here..
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Posts: 315 5/13/09 7:46 A
I lost my Dad in a car accident on Christmas Day of 07. Celebrate his life today. And keep up with celbrating yours too. You know he's watching and in those quiet times you can still hear him. Prayers and hugs and LOTS of kleenex. -- PamK
There is nothing you're successful at that you didn't work at EVERY day -- Will Smith.
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Fitness Minutes: (41,376) Posts: 775 5/13/09 7:23 A
I love what people said about remembering all the good things, and good times it's bittersweet but it helps
Fitness Minutes: (20,756) Posts: 285 5/13/09 7:20 A
I am so sorry for your loss. Hang in there. Time does help. Your in my thoughts and prayers.
FORGET WILLPOWER. "Losing weight is not about willpower--it's about moments of bravado, like the moment when you ask your waiter to take the bread away from the table right away."-Jillian Michaels
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Posts: 53,176 5/13/09 7:12 A
Try to remember things you did together and how much fun you had. I still have conversations in my head with my dad who passed in 1986.
Marty Eastern Standard time Massachusetts
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There are two options regarding committment - your either IN or your OUT. There is no such thing as life in-between.
A person who wants something will find a way.. A person who doesn't will find an excuse...
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Posts: 2,586 5/13/09 6:36 A
I am very sorry about your loss. My Dad was buried on my Mother's birthday a few years ago. Spend the day remembering all of the good thing and the happy times you had with your Dad. Reva
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Posts: 4,121 5/13/09 6:26 A
I too lost my Dad on my Mom's birthday, which is quickly approaching. You will always think of him but need to find a special way to quietly think of your life with him. I guess I am lucky because my Dad told us he wanted us to celebrate his life and not be sad. For his birthday (which is Feb 16) I go to have a drink with others who knew him. We just laugh and talk about how he touched our lives.
I find the date of his death harder to deal with. For that I spend the entire day in my garden which was a place we spent alot of time together.
Hang in there - it gets better I will be thinking of you today.
Lizzy Co-Captain Ivory Falcons
Motivation comes from within
A man can fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he gives up
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Posts: 983 5/13/09 6:22 A
Many Blessings and prayers for you!!
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Posts: 264 5/13/09 6:21 A
LJCAT, I am very sorry for what you and your family are going through. I will keep u and your family in my thoughts and prayers!
Fitness Minutes: (78,410) Posts: 7,597 5/13/09 5:28 A
my prayers 4 u and support
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"Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure"
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Posts: 11 5/13/09 2:02 A
and prayers are coming to you... It's one day at a time!
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Posts: 172 5/13/09 12:23 A
That's funny you say that about the phone. It's been 5 months but I just can't take her number out of my phone memory. When I scroll through numbers it's always there.
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Posts: 237 5/13/09 12:15 A
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my grandma 5 years ago and even though it's been that long we were very close, she was my best friend. To this day it's still hard to believe she is gone, I still have a hard time with not picking up the phone just to give her a call to see how she is doing. I think GOTTARUN26 has a good idea about going for a morning run or walk and having some quiet time just to spend with our loved ones who have passed on. What a great idea, not only does it make you feel closer to them you get some exercise in as well.
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Posts: 949 5/13/09 12:13 A
My Dad passed away last august right after my mothers birthday, this month would have been his 93rd birthday. My Mother is now visiting my brother in Alabama she didn't want to be home alone on his birthday. I know what your going through. Just hang in there everyone says it gets eaiser. I'm going to try to take everyones advice to you, and do it for my Dad! he would want you to get healthy and live a long happy life.
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MOTTO TO LIVE BY Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, latte in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming "WOO HOO, What a ride!" ⊰⊹✿♥ ♡ MOdesTA ♡ ♥✿⊰⊹
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Posts: 88,361 5/13/09 12:12 A
I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Take care and keep in touch with the team. We are here for you.
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Fitness Minutes: (41,376) Posts: 775 5/13/09 12:10 A
Reaching out for support from those who are still around is important That is taking a big step don't keep it bottled in or fake being ok when your not! hugs
Posts: 172 5/13/09 12:04 A
LJ- I'm so sorry for your loss. Tomorrow is my grandmother's birthday. She passed Dec 7th and would have been 95 tomorrow. She was the one I was closest to and I miss her so much it feels like I can't breathe sometimes. Tomorrow morning I'm leaving for an early morning run and a quiet time to just say "hey" to her. We're all here for you!!! Hang in there and keep posting.
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Fitness Minutes: (41,376) Posts: 775 5/12/09 11:44 P
Although I have not lost a parent, I can sympathise because I went through a vicarious loss when my mother in law died. My husband was despondent for a while. I think it was almost a year before he seemed back to his old self. Just don't set your expectations of your day too high. Manage it in smaller doses, getting through this 5 minutes , this hour etc I will pray for you tonight steffi SP hugs
Posts: 74 5/12/09 11:36 P
You can do it!!! Be strong!!! I know how you are feeling. I lost my mom when I was 15 and we just passed the 20 year mark and I think of her EVERY day. I miss her so much but I turn the sadness into postive thoughts and energy and know that she is watching me. Know that your dad is watching you and would be proud of you!!! God Bless!!!
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Posts: 47 5/12/09 11:32 P
So sorry for your loss. I lost my mom and dad a few years back and I miss them very much so I understand what you r feeling. When I am blue and missing them that's when I think of the great times, the times that made me laugh or feel silly or even embarrassed because they were such goofs at times, and then instead of feeling sad I find myself laughing even out loud. Try walking while thinking as moving always makes me feel better even if it is just a slow mope around the block. Call on friends and other family members who may remember your loved one as well and you can share memories together. My thoughts and prayers r with you. Cheri
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Posts: 2,971 5/12/09 11:27 P
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I still think of dates ,like that. I've lost both of my parents, four years apart of each other. It is a hard thing to go through, but time does help. Later, you start thinking about all of the happy memories, and it makes you smile. I know that it's hard for you to believe this ,right now. It's too soon, but it finally does happen. It's good that you are on Spark ,and doing the exercise. This will help you to get through this rough time in your life. You can't bring Dad back, but you can take care of yourself. You didn't say if your Mom is still living. If she is, she really needs you right now ,too. Just try to do the bootcamp, the best you can. Don't worry if you have an off day, because we've all had those. This is something that I'm learning now ,too. I've missed exercise days for various reasons ,too. Take care, and Bless you sharon
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Posts: 28 5/12/09 11:26 P
Don't give up on yourself. You can do it! Your Dad would be so proud of you. He would want you to take care of yourself and not let anything get in your way. I will pray for you. Know that you are worth it and I'm sure your Dad thinks so too! Good Luck!
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Posts: 1,133 5/12/09 11:25 P
Hang in there! unfortunately words just cannot help. So consider this a virtual hug!. The first year is the worst. But you are doing great by reaching out!! HUGS!
Happiness comes with the achievement of little goals, With little tiny steps you take every day you will accomplishment that will teach you a different reality! Said by Jillian of Biggest Loser!!
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Hi, I am fairly new to sparkpeople. I started the bootcamp last week and did very good until Fri and Sat. I picked right back up Sunday. I really need some help today. My dad passed away on Feb 7 (my moms bday), today is his birthday. I am having a hard time making it thru the day.
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