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11/1/08 10:45 A

It is probably hormones. I have the same problem most of the month and I am getting a full hormone work up with a herbalist/MD. I went on hormones for about a month and my libido came back but so did 10lbs so I stopped.

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10/8/08 4:39 P

I would recommend you talk to your Dr again and tell him how important it is to you and your husband/partner. If he still fails to come through for you FIND ANOTHER DR. A male Dr would never treat a man's lack of interest as if it were no big deal. Why should a woman be any different. If you have less interest than usual there has to be a cause....stress is a big one, some medicines can be the cause. Ask your Dr to help you find the answer because you shouldn't have to live without that good part of life! If you email me, please send it to my sparkmail. Thanks.

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5/28/08 7:22 P

Thanks Sandie. I have no idea how to appropriately deal with this.

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5/28/08 12:23 P

Karyn-my heart goes out to you. For a few years my hubby and I were in a similar place. It's not easy! I will pray for you!
Blessings! Sandie

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5/25/08 11:02 A

I totally agree with Scotty. A PRIEST friend, of all people, told me the same thing. Most of the sexual turn on begins in my head. I don't necessarily consider myself romantic, but I do need my husband to talk to me certain ways... other than "ya want to?" I need to feel sexy...even though I have a hard time feeling that way myself. I need to know he wants ME, not just that part of me.

I am the one with a STRONG labido. He could care less, which even if its true, it hurts more than he'll pay attention to. I prayed many times for that part of me to go away. I hated feeling rejected, even it wasn't intentional. Then, one of these medicines that my dr. put me on decreased my desire. It was like heaven...until now. All of a sudden OTHER men are flirting with me and looking at me as if I was nice looking. Not that I will step across that line, but something simple as that look and the small amount of flirting has brought back that part of me..... I started crying because I thought I'd never have to worry about it again....

I'm sorry for just venting, but this is a sensitive subject for me too. I believe with all my heart, that it's what's in my head along with some physical stuff. (I had a hysterectomy a year ago)

HUGS,
Karyn

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5/20/08 8:06 A

Hi Scotty! Good to hear from you!!! I hope that you are doing well!

Sandie

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5/19/08 2:13 P

I don't see where I can add any usefull info here. BUT.......... I have heard most of what makes up libido is between the ears, my 74 yr old father reminds me of that:) Just 2 cents, and with the devauled dollar it is most likely 1/10 of 1 penny's worth.

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5/7/08 8:56 P

Good for you!
Keep it up!

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5/1/08 2:26 P

Hey-it's worth the try! My hubby is very kind in helping me through these things. I use my mind too. This weekend when I really needed an escape and wanted to get myself in "the mood" I found a way to be alone long enough to watch "Dirty Dancing." It took two tries to watch it all the way through but it helped me. It's VERY hard in my house to find a moment alone, but I managed to do it this time. I also had to be extra careful because that is not a movie that I will let my 11 year old watch. That and thinking a whole lot about what I wanted to do to my hubby helped. I can't say that it will also work; sometimes I get too crabby for anything to work. I HATE THOSE TIMES!

Sorry if this is too much information!


Sandie

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5/1/08 2:22 P

That sounds good, but don't stop at the feet, go the full body massage.

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5/1/08 1:55 P

At this point in time I'll try just about anything. Maybe if I told my hubby he needs to rub my feet to turn me on I'll get more (better) foot massages. LOL

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5/1/08 9:28 A

I found more info in the book "One Touch Healing " by Mildred Carter. It is a reflexology book, and she has one chapter "Reflexology and the Sex Glands"

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5/1/08 8:58 A

Most of the time I'm not there yet Joanne, but I am extremely fearful of that time. I have had a talk with my precious hubby and asked him to PLEASE make me want to even when I don't think I do. In other works seduce me into it. I have some great mentor women in my life that continue to teach me SO much! If you'd like, feel free to email (sparkmail) me and I'd be more than happy to share some of what I'm learning.


Blessings! Sandie

Edited by: LARRYSGIRL78 at: 5/1/2008 (14:12)

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4/30/08 8:02 P

I watch a show on T.V. " You are what you eat". She talks a lot about low in zinc ( i think) She recommends eating zuc seeds, and strawberries, there were some others as well but I forgot the others.
She also said some of the people were low on Vitamin B's so they had little energy for anything including sex.

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4/29/08 7:18 P

I know this is kind of a weird subject for such a public forum but I'm desperate for some feedback. I'm very frustrated in my TOTAL lack of desire. I discussed it with my doctor (male) and he really was no help. (Maybe I didn't get across to him how important this was to me) Is anyone else having this problem since starting the "change"? and if so is there anything that can be done to help??

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