Oh, if I had money for every time this has happened to me... The worst is when, embarrassed, you say, "I'm not pregnant." and then they ARGUE with you... "Oh, well I could have SWORN you were!" or "Well, you just LOOK... are you sure?" Or - "I didn't mean to be rude, I just didn't want to ask you if you were pregnant." (that one was after a lady acted really weird when I gave her a compliment on her scarf.)
It's awful.... And this is how I've decided to handle it: "When are you due?" "Oh, I'm not pregnant. I'm just fat. But thanks for making it your business."
And btw - Low-carbing got me pregnant twice... I miscarried the first time, but I have a perfect 10 year old son, and am TTC again... This is not an infertility sentence... You will be fine. Hugs, B
Thanks for joining the group... I am very sorry to hear that people have been so cruel to you, it's amazing the complete disregard people have for others, don't for one minute think that you can't have a baby because of PCOS. With hard work and dedication to becoming healthy (for yourself) anything is possible. I know that you will be able to get to where you want to be! If you need someone to talk to by all means contact anyone of the ladies on here or myself.
Take care, Brandy
" I had the blues because I had no shoes until upon the street, I met a man who had no feet." ~Ancient Persian Saying
Hey ladies. I didn't really introduce myself in the introduction forum, but I'm new to SparkPeople and glad to find a group of women just like me. :)
My name is Miranda, and I was diagnosed with PCOS about 4 years ago when I started gaining weight.
The hard part is that was my senior year in high school and when I started packing on the pounds, I also had to start wearing glasses, and my already low self esteem took a turn for the worse. (Not to mention this new black hair forming on my chin that I had to pluck to keep people from seeing. Ugh!)
Although, I was glad to have some answers, I didn't realize that this also meant my dreams of experiencing pregnancy and motherhood may have just come to a screeching halt.
So, highschoolers are so mean and while the rumors were forming that I was pregnant, I realized that this was going to be a lot harder than I thought.
Anyone out there been in any of these humiliating situations? -"Hey, how have you been?" (staring at your growing stomach, waiting on you to say, "I'm pregnant." and you're not.) ME: Pretty good.. my husband and I are trying to have kids but it hasn't worked for us yet. (Just to go ahead and get that out of the way, to avoid any further embarassment.) -"I heard you were having a baby!" ME: Umm, not yet. (face turns red... go home crying) -"When are you due?" ME: Huh?
I can't even begin to tell you how many times I've been talked about, approached, assumed to have been pregnant. And what these people will never understand is how humiliating and depressing it is to want to be pregnant and then they throw the double wammy in my face. 1) I "can't" have kids, in which I pray for the miracle everyday! 2) If I were pregnant, I wouldn't so much look fat. But you just reminded me that I'm not pregnant, and I look pregnant, but since I'm not.. I'm fat!
Anyone ever had these situations... how did you handle it?
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