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8/6/12 7:13 A

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Hello again and thanks so much. Your last reply made me realize I AM doing those things; I do get up and go out for walks or into my room to exercise, sometimes I even eat alone in the living room (if they are having pizza or something I love, and I'm having salad and plain chicken), so perhaps I am subconsciously "snubbing" them to avoid the temptations. I never looked at it this way. I have been so caught up in the healthy changes I've needed that I've failed to see how those changes are affecting those around me. Thank you for your insight, I think I have a new prospective now on all of this, seeing it from their side and not just mine! And, though it makes me sad, I am realizing I CANNOT influence the bad habits they have, but maybe they'll come around more if I can tweak my way of communicating with them. Thanks again!

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8/4/12 2:21 P

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It's entirely possible that your roommates are trying to sabotage you. They may be jealous of the changes you've been able to make and scared that you're leaving them behind or looking down on them. That's actually a very common issue for married people when one spouse is making a real effort to eat right and exercise.

Put yourself in their shoes and try to see how the changes you have made may have affected them. To make time for exercise, did you have to trade in some sedentary leisure time you normally would have spent with them? Are you avoiding watching TV with your friends in order to avoid mindless snacking? After you cook a healthy meal, do you immediately go online to record what you ate or are you sitting around the table talking with your friends? I don't mean to say that it's your fault that they're acting the way that they are, but your actions might be incorrectly interpreted by them as a rejection of them, not just what they eat. Are there any ways that you can signal to them through your actions that you are still their friend? The idea of making healthy "junk" food to share with them would be one way. Or plan a movie night and go crazy with some healthy popcorn, etc. How can you make it clear that you value their friendship?

And then ask about the junk food again. Make sure what you say sounds less like "Keep that horrible junk you pigs eat out of the house" (obviously not what you would say, but how they might hear it) and more like "I have trouble eating the way that I want to when there are so many temptations around." Make it clear that you need their help as friends and see if they can help come up with a compromise to keep their snack foods in a less visible place like a drawer or a plastic tub on top of the fridge.

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8/4/12 11:15 A

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hi again, sorry that message was meant for KATEM who had told me I should just "suck it up" not for you! I am still working my way around the site, and as you can probably tell I am not exactly very computer savvy! lol.

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8/4/12 10:03 A

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Ok, that's cool. Just a suggestion, that's all.

Here's something else. Remind yourself that what you see lying there is NOT YOURS. IT DOES NOT BELONG TO YOU, therefore, you can not have. :)




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8/4/12 7:18 A

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Hi, I have been "sucking it up" and dealing with this for a year and a half, and just needed to vent to someone I guess, lol. I know it may have come across as whiny, but I just get frustrated because I've been working SO hard at this and sometimes (being very sensitive) I feel like they are actually sabotaging my efforts on purpose! (they are overweight too). I have no problem outside the house, in stores, etc. I always eat before I shop, so I won't make those "hungry choices" and as far as fast food, I can't afford it anyway and I just drive right on by. But when I'm sauteing fresh veggies, steaming fresh fish, broiling chicken, etc., and 10 inches from my hand there is stack of cookies, chips, pretzels, pork rinds, cheese doodles, snicker bars, raisinettes, jolly ranchers, and twizzlers, it's a huge temptation for me (a self-professed junk food junkie) ! I get your point, though I don't quite agree, but thanks for the tips.

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8/4/12 12:02 A

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I have an idea. Since you said you do most of the cooking, might I suggest you start making meals and snick snacks that you know are good for you but that they have no idea they are! I have listed below a couple of my favorite snick snacks and have also given you the link to should open up my area of favorite recipes through SP. A lot of these recipes could be MISTAKEN for "bad foods for watching your weight" when, in reality, they have ingredients in them that make them great for losing weight, if you catch my drift. Try it out, your roommates may not even know what's hitting them cuz they're so nicely disguised. Especially the cheesecakes and popsicles! :) You have got to tell me how it goes over. :)

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8/3/12 9:24 P

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thanks so much for understanding! While I am very aware people can't be expected to diet just because I am, I do think they could, in the spirit of friendship, at least put the "bad" food in a less conspicuous place. I have asked nicely, but I am very sensitive and I almost feel like they are purposely sabotaging me because they don't have the will to even TRY! I will take you advice, though, and get into that mindset, I am ready for that! Thanks again for your considerate reply!

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8/3/12 9:18 P

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thank you

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8/3/12 9:08 P

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My advice is to suck it up and deal with it. I know that sounds rude, but it's really not meant in that spirit. I agree that you need to work out some arrangement with them if your concern is financial (because they're eating the healthy food that you buy and cook, but you don't want the kind of junk food that they buy). However, you can't expect other people to make a lifestyle change just because you did. YOU need to deal with your cravings and bad habits.

The subject of your question says "dieting" so you need to ask yourself how serious you are. Do you just want to avoid junk food long enough to lose a few pounds? Or do you want to commit to living a healthy life? Because you are going to be tempted every time you walk into a store, every time someone brings a box of donuts into the office, and every time you drive past a fast food restaurant. You need to live the rest of your life in the real world, learn to ignore temptation most of the time, and enjoy treats in moderation.

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8/3/12 1:58 P

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Karen, I have the same problem with my husband. He did get good for awhile and didn't bring sodas into the house and hid his treats, though.

I seem to be either all or nothing in my dieting. It is a mind set that I have to get into, and sometimes I can't get into it and, I cheat on my diet. When I cheat on my diet, I can't lose any weight. When, however, I get into my good diet mindset, I do not cheat even when temptation is around me. But, I have to have all the right food, including good snacks, around me. Because I find it difficult at times to have the time to shop and prepare good meals, I went on one of those diets where all the food was sent to me and I could just pop it into the micro wave.

The only thing I can suggest, short of moving out or getting all your friends to hide their food in their cars or go on a diet with you, is to try to get into what I call the good diet mindset. You just have to get to the point where you want to lose the weight so much that you will ignore all other temptations to the point that you will take your diet food on business trips (I did that with my e-Diet meals) and even church suppers. I know it can be very hard but that's what we're stuck with.

Let me know how you do in your struggles.

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8/3/12 1:51 P

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Oh... that is a challenge.

This suggestion won't really help with the temptation but works more on your will power.

Get very serious about tracking your food. As someone wise once said on this site... Track every BLT (Bite, Lick, Taste). After you realize the calorie content you will think twice about grabbing one of those goodies.

~Heidi

"More people will die from hit or miss eating than from hit and run driving." ~Duncan Hines


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8/3/12 1:12 P

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Hi Heidi, and thanks for the reply. Unfortunately, the food cupboards here are the "open" variety, no doors! And there aren't many of them so what doesn't fit goes on a counter by the stove. Where, by the way, I do most of the household cooking for everyone. So...while I'm trying to cook healthy meals, I have a huge array of "goodies" right in my face! lol. I will keep trying though, because I know I'm worth the effort! Thanks again and have a great day.
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8/3/12 12:50 P

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Ask them if they can at least put their food in the cupboard. This will do a few things:
1. Makes the kitchen look cleaner
2. Hides the temptation away from you.
3. Clean counters give you more space to prepare food.

~Heidi

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8/3/12 12:40 P

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I have a problem I'm hoping to get some suggestions on. I live in a house with 3 other adult friends who I've known for years. 2 of them are overweight, but they refuse to take any part in even considering healthy eating. We usually shop together, compare lists so that we don't all buy the same things, etc. Most of my groceries tend toward the healthy side; fresh produce,lean meats, whole wheat breads, skim milk, etc. They,on the other hand, bring home several packages of each of the following: cookies, donuts, ice cream, chips, candy bars, processed meats and other foods, tons of cheese (full fat), etc. Well you get the idea! It's a constant struggle for me to try and ignore their food (we do share everything) and stick to my healthier choices, especially since they leave theirs out on counters and in full view. It's hard enough to diet without all those temptations so you can imagine how it is with them all around me! HELP!!

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