Yesterday was beautiful! My FIL got to meet his great grandson my daughter's baby for the first time. My daughter and my grandson spent the whole day with me. My SIL had school and had to tutor kids after that so he could not make it,he was greatly missed. I met one of my great nephews and he is a doll. We all had a great visit and a wonderful dinner. Tomorrow afternoon everyone will be here. :)
I don't mind if close friends drop in unannounced for a short visit. My house is usually in good enough shape for friends (and they take us as they find us), and I can more often than not whip up a quick meal.
On the other hand, people don't stay overnight in my house without an explicit invitation. If friends or family are going to be in town and they want to stay with me, I need to know arrival AND departure dates, what they're planning to do while they're here -- whether they just need somewhere to sleep, or whether they need to be entertained.
I've found that "Oh, give me a call when you get in to town. We'll get together for dinner." works really well to deter people from assuming they can arrive and move in. BJL, I would also be irked. Hope you have fun with your FIL and family anyway, and hope it's not too much work.
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I agree with heartstopper. It doesn't bother me too much if it is someone that lives close and visits often. If it is someone that lives a long distance away and doesn't visit often I like to have a few days to clean what I can and hide what I can't, especially if they are going to be staying with us.
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I would be beside myself, in front of myself and tripping over myself trying to get everything in order if this happened and I would be more PO'd than I could ever explain in a text message. I feel for you!
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Shouldn't people who are going too come and visit from another state let you know so you can plan for their arrival? I am very happy my FIL is coming, my 16 year old is ecstatic and my 21 year old is anxious for him to meet her S.O. and their baby, and my husband he misses his dad so this will be great. We found out by FB that he is coming down for two weeks :(. I feel erked a bit because my house will be the main place to be. Surprises are nice but not people surprises, let me know you are coming, this women needs notice. Geez where is respect these days. It wasn't meant to really be a surprise or his daughter wouldn't have wrote it in on her FB and my niece wouldnt have contacted my daughter to see if she is still in good graces with us after choosing a boy over her three sons when she mentioned she was coming to visit to her but she never said when. Oh well, I found and and that is what is important. They will be here Wednesday. I will be the one doing all the work which is okay but let me prepare for it people, two days is still short. So today I am happy but erked. Your thoughts?
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